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hello my dears so i had the interesting topic brought up to me about the difference between
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slow love versus fast love let's look up the definition of slow love
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according to ai overview slow love is a romantic orientation
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that involves taking a gradual approach to relationships rather than rushing
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into commitment a overview's definition of fast love is a term
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that describes a culture of superficial expressions of affection
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and fleeting emotional connections it can also refer to the idea of falling in love quickly which is sometimes called hemophilia.
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I didn't know that.
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Known as emotional promiscuity.
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This is a term for people who tend to fall in love quickly and often.
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People with hemophilia may feel an all -encompassing passion for romantic interest in a short amount of time.
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Huh.
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I'm gonna start off with saying
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that there's nothing wrong with wanting to experience a fast love there's nothing wrong with wanting to be understood
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but there are the side effects of being understood too quickly it shows a level of curiosity
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that wow this person really wants to get to know me on such a deep level and curiosity is important.
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There is a difference between cramming for the exam versus fully understanding the subject.
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I'm going to use an example.
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There is a person that can get to know you within weeks.
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They ask all of the right questions.
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They start to really understand who you are, but who they are studying is the person that you are at
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that exact moment versus the person
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that has gotten to know you over a span of years
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and this person has witnessed seeing you change instead of the
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first example of where they asked all the right questions and they found out who exactly you are
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it's
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so much easier for them to kind of put you in
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this box of what they studied you to be versus is
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the second example of where they witness the box keep growing the first example
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that person may feel like whoa you're changing it up a little too much what happened to the person
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that i used to know you to be
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but the second example is able to understand you to such a fundamental level of throughout all the changes
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that i have witnessed you go through these are the points
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that have stayed the same
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and i know this is you to your core to be
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honest rushing love is actually very simple all you have to
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do is just lean into the crush of this person
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or lean into the few things that you do like about them
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and just exploit it and keep using that as a carrying vessel for the rest of the relationship.
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It's very easy to do.
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The common denominator between slow love and fast love is that there is the chemistry.
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I'm not going to take away from the fast love that there isn't a connection there.
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There definitely is.
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It's just what you do with the connection is extremely important.
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I'd say with maturing, you start to understand how to stop being as indulgent with
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love the same way how you would with sugar we love
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sugar it's delicious it's a nice treat love is like a nice sweet treat
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but we want to be able to learn how to pace ourselves
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because when you take
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so much of it all at once for an extended amount
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of time you're gonna feel sick we want to avoid feeling sick from our loves
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so with slow love we are practicing patience.
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Continue on your life as you would because you still want to put time
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and effort into the goals that you have outside of the relationship.
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I'd say that's what I notice a lot with the fast loves that I've experienced as well as observed.
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A fast love usually puts the rest of our life on hold, while the slow loves, they take such small chunks of time out of our days
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and we can still eat the rest of what's on our
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plate like they are the sweet treat at the end of the day but we still
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fulfilled the main course which were our responsibilities and our ambitions
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and i'd say that's a well -balanced meal we would love
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to have well -balanced meals as our well -balanced loves
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but with the fast loves it gave us no room left in our bodies to have that love for other things
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that actually correlates to one of the main reasons as to why i'm scared to fall in love again
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love is consuming it's not to say
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that i don't want to give this time and energy the problem is
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that i do from the first time
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that i fell in love i didn't know any part of
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how to keep a well -balanced meal i only knew how to keep indulging in what felt great
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and a couple heartbreaks later
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there's someone here
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i was just young and that was to keep leading into this love
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and forget everything else but to live a little too presently we love living presently
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but you know when you're eating a cake it's like oh this feels great
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but you're not thinking about how it's gonna make you feel bad later you're just completely indulging into the present
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and just wanting more of this until your satisfaction isn't actually
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satisfying it's sickening with a slow love sure it's not going to be it's not going to be overwhelmingly magical
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but i'd say it's the small bits of magic
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that continues to prove to me it is sustainable
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and it will be there through my thick and thin
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because it already has versus the fast loves it's like who are you and a lot of the answers to this problem.
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I wouldn't even call it a problem.
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It's just this rite of passage in life is learning how to be more patient.
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We all have different styles of being patient too.
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It's truly just further understanding yourself and what your well -balanced meal looks like.
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At least definitely with the times that I've experienced fast love, I was running away from something.
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Whether I knew it or not.
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I was running away from something.
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One of my fast loves, I was running away from what my purpose was in life.
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I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up
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and the fact that I had already been at the age of grown up
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and I wasn't in the career that I wanted to be in yet, it was agonizing to admit I was lost.
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So then I fell into a really fast love.
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There goes the well -balanced meal.
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I avoided the vegetables and I just went straight for the sugar.
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I didn't want to confront that I hadn't had eaten any vegetables.
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So yes, the slow loves that I have been experiencing as of late,
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I am just truly ever so in love with the fact that you exist.
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I didn't know
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that slow love existed until i found my best friends i think my abandonment issues really really subsided
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when i found love within these people they have been there through the thick and thin
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i believe that my soul is tied to them
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and it truly took time in order for
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that tie to be created with a knot so strong over time and weather
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and erosion the knot will still be there versus with the fast loves a knot is still tied
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but it can become so undone
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so quickly with extreme ease it is upsetting it's very upsetting
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that oh my gosh i thought
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that i tied such a beautiful bow with this person
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and you probably did but the bow is made of silk
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and although it had the most beautiful presentation is slipped right from underneath itself versus the shipping rope
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that I have with my slow loves.
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I have no fear and only trust for the slow loves that I have accumulated.
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In terms of how to get slow love, I would say it is paying attention to the other aspects of your life
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and that is how you can start practicing a slower love you want to divide
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and experience life in moderation especially the good
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and the bad parts it's the balance it's it's the well balanced meal i have to go now
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but i hope you enjoyed this video and i love you
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so much my romantics i wish you to find all the pairs of your socks
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and all the quarters in your pockets thank you so much romantics i have to go now bye guys
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and a couple heartbreaks later i started to understand and a lot of the answers to please let me know guys
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “why we should fall in love slowly..”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: fast, slow, balanced, versus, meal. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 120개와 단어 1482개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 10:05입니다. 화자는 분당 약 147단어의 일정한 속도로 말해서 섀도잉하기에 편한 속도입니다. 단어의 83%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속합니다. 나머지는 연습 전에 미리 확인해 두세요.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| knot 명사 | /nɑt/ | 매듭, 코 |
| haemophilia 명사 | /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə | 혈우병(血友病)) |
| vegetable 명사 | /ˈvɛd͡ʒ.tə.bəl/ | 채소, 야채 |
| curiosity 명사 | /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/ | 호기심 |
| lean 동사 | /ˈliːn/ | 기울다 |
| abandonment 명사 | /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/ | 포기 |
| accumulate 동사 | /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/ | 모으다, 축적하다 |
| denominator 명사 | /dɪˈnɒmɪneɪtə(ɹ)/ | 분모 |
| moderation 명사 | /ˌmɑdəˈɹeɪʃən/ | 절제 |
| subside 동사 | /sʌbˈsaɪd/ | 가라앉다 |
| sock 명사 | /sɑk/ | 양말 |
| erosion 명사 | /ɪˈɹəʊʒən/ | 부식 |
| chunk 명사 | /t͡ʃʌŋk/ | 조각 |
| exploit 명사 | /ˈɛksplɔɪt/ | 위업, 공훈 |
| fulfill 동사 | /fʊlˈfɪl/ | 수행하다 |
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | has gotten · has witnessed · have witnessed |
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | is sometimes called · be understood · being understood |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | quickly which is · people who tend · course which were |
주의할 발음
화자는 didn't, you're, I'd 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 29번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: moderation /ˌmɑdəˈɹeɪʃən/, superficial /ˌsupɚˈfɪʃəl/, erosion /ɪˈɹəʊʒən/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: haemophilia /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, accumulate /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: haemophilia /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə, superficial /ˌsupɚˈfɪʃəl/, confront /kənˈfɹʌnt/, fulfill /fʊlˈfɪl/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/
- /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: vegetable /ˈvɛd͡ʒ.tə.bəl/, overwhelmingly /ˌəʊ.vəˈwɛl.mɪŋ.lɪ/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/, overview /ˈoʊ.vɚˌvjuː/, divide /dɪˈvaɪd/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: presently /ˈpɹɛzəntli/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 보통 속도로 한 문장씩 섀도잉하고, 화자의 리듬과 맞을 때까지 반복합니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, knot, haemophilia, vegetable 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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