Shadowing Practice: why we should fall in love slowly... - Learn English Speaking with Video
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hello my dears so i had the interesting topic brought up to me about the difference between
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slow love versus fast love let's look up the definition of slow love
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according to ai overview slow love is a romantic orientation
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that involves taking a gradual approach to relationships rather than rushing
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into commitment a overview's definition of fast love is a term
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that describes a culture of superficial expressions of affection
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and fleeting emotional connections it can also refer to the idea of falling in love quickly which is sometimes called hemophilia.
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I didn't know that.
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Known as emotional promiscuity.
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This is a term for people who tend to fall in love quickly and often.
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People with hemophilia may feel an all -encompassing passion for romantic interest in a short amount of time.
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Huh.
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I'm gonna start off with saying
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that there's nothing wrong with wanting to experience a fast love there's nothing wrong with wanting to be understood
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but there are the side effects of being understood too quickly it shows a level of curiosity
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that wow this person really wants to get to know me on such a deep level and curiosity is important.
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There is a difference between cramming for the exam versus fully understanding the subject.
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I'm going to use an example.
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There is a person that can get to know you within weeks.
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They ask all of the right questions.
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They start to really understand who you are, but who they are studying is the person that you are at
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that exact moment versus the person
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that has gotten to know you over a span of years
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and this person has witnessed seeing you change instead of the
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first example of where they asked all the right questions and they found out who exactly you are
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it's
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so much easier for them to kind of put you in
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this box of what they studied you to be versus is
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the second example of where they witness the box keep growing the first example
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that person may feel like whoa you're changing it up a little too much what happened to the person
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that i used to know you to be
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but the second example is able to understand you to such a fundamental level of throughout all the changes
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that i have witnessed you go through these are the points
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that have stayed the same
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and i know this is you to your core to be
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honest rushing love is actually very simple all you have to
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do is just lean into the crush of this person
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or lean into the few things that you do like about them
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and just exploit it and keep using that as a carrying vessel for the rest of the relationship.
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It's very easy to do.
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The common denominator between slow love and fast love is that there is the chemistry.
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I'm not going to take away from the fast love that there isn't a connection there.
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There definitely is.
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It's just what you do with the connection is extremely important.
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I'd say with maturing, you start to understand how to stop being as indulgent with
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love the same way how you would with sugar we love
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sugar it's delicious it's a nice treat love is like a nice sweet treat
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but we want to be able to learn how to pace ourselves
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because when you take
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so much of it all at once for an extended amount
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of time you're gonna feel sick we want to avoid feeling sick from our loves
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so with slow love we are practicing patience.
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Continue on your life as you would because you still want to put time
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and effort into the goals that you have outside of the relationship.
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I'd say that's what I notice a lot with the fast loves that I've experienced as well as observed.
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A fast love usually puts the rest of our life on hold, while the slow loves, they take such small chunks of time out of our days
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and we can still eat the rest of what's on our
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plate like they are the sweet treat at the end of the day but we still
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fulfilled the main course which were our responsibilities and our ambitions
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and i'd say that's a well -balanced meal we would love
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to have well -balanced meals as our well -balanced loves
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but with the fast loves it gave us no room left in our bodies to have that love for other things
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that actually correlates to one of the main reasons as to why i'm scared to fall in love again
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love is consuming it's not to say
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that i don't want to give this time and energy the problem is
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that i do from the first time
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that i fell in love i didn't know any part of
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how to keep a well -balanced meal i only knew how to keep indulging in what felt great
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and a couple heartbreaks later
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there's someone here
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i was just young and that was to keep leading into this love
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and forget everything else but to live a little too presently we love living presently
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but you know when you're eating a cake it's like oh this feels great
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but you're not thinking about how it's gonna make you feel bad later you're just completely indulging into the present
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and just wanting more of this until your satisfaction isn't actually
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satisfying it's sickening with a slow love sure it's not going to be it's not going to be overwhelmingly magical
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but i'd say it's the small bits of magic
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that continues to prove to me it is sustainable
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and it will be there through my thick and thin
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because it already has versus the fast loves it's like who are you and a lot of the answers to this problem.
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I wouldn't even call it a problem.
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It's just this rite of passage in life is learning how to be more patient.
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We all have different styles of being patient too.
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It's truly just further understanding yourself and what your well -balanced meal looks like.
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At least definitely with the times that I've experienced fast love, I was running away from something.
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Whether I knew it or not.
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I was running away from something.
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One of my fast loves, I was running away from what my purpose was in life.
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I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up
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and the fact that I had already been at the age of grown up
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and I wasn't in the career that I wanted to be in yet, it was agonizing to admit I was lost.
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So then I fell into a really fast love.
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There goes the well -balanced meal.
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I avoided the vegetables and I just went straight for the sugar.
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I didn't want to confront that I hadn't had eaten any vegetables.
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So yes, the slow loves that I have been experiencing as of late,
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I am just truly ever so in love with the fact that you exist.
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I didn't know
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that slow love existed until i found my best friends i think my abandonment issues really really subsided
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when i found love within these people they have been there through the thick and thin
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i believe that my soul is tied to them
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and it truly took time in order for
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that tie to be created with a knot so strong over time and weather
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and erosion the knot will still be there versus with the fast loves a knot is still tied
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but it can become so undone
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so quickly with extreme ease it is upsetting it's very upsetting
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that oh my gosh i thought
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that i tied such a beautiful bow with this person
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and you probably did but the bow is made of silk
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and although it had the most beautiful presentation is slipped right from underneath itself versus the shipping rope
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that I have with my slow loves.
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I have no fear and only trust for the slow loves that I have accumulated.
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In terms of how to get slow love, I would say it is paying attention to the other aspects of your life
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and that is how you can start practicing a slower love you want to divide
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and experience life in moderation especially the good
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and the bad parts it's the balance it's it's the well balanced meal i have to go now
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but i hope you enjoyed this video and i love you
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so much my romantics i wish you to find all the pairs of your socks
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and all the quarters in your pockets thank you so much romantics i have to go now bye guys
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and a couple heartbreaks later i started to understand and a lot of the answers to please let me know guys
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “why we should fall in love slowly..”. Deze woorden komen het vaakst terug: fast, slow, balanced, versus, meal. Deze video bevat 120 zinnen en 1482 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 10:05. De spreker praat in een gelijkmatig tempo van ongeveer 147 woorden per minuut, prettig om te shadowen. 83% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| knot zelfstandig naamwoord | /nɑt/ | knoop, knot |
| haemophilia zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə | hemofilie, bloederziekte |
| heartbreak zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈhɑɹt.bɹeɪk/ | hartzeer |
| indulge werkwoord | /ɪnˈdʌld͡ʒ/ | toegeven, zwichten (voor de verleiding) |
| presently bijwoord | /ˈpɹɛzəntli/ | aldra |
| vegetable zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈvɛd͡ʒ.tə.bəl/ | groente, gewas |
| curiosity zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/ | nieuwsgierigheid |
| abandonment zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/ | achterlating, verlating |
| accumulate werkwoord | /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/ | opstapelen, vermeerderen |
| correlate werkwoord | /ˈkɔɹəleɪt/ | correleren, in wederkerige betrekking staan |
| denominator zelfstandig naamwoord | /dɪˈnɒmɪneɪtə(ɹ)/ | noemer |
| encompass werkwoord | /ɪnˈkʌmpəs/ | omvatten, bevatten |
| indulgent bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnˈdʌld͡ʒənt/ | toegeeflijk |
| promiscuity zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌpɹɑm.ɪˈskju.ɪ.ti/ | promiscuïteit |
| sickening bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈsɪk(ə)nɪŋ/ | ziekmakend, misselijkmakend |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| grow up werkwoord | opgroeien | |
| find out werkwoord | ontdekken, onderzoeken | |
| look up werkwoord | /ˌlʊk ˈʌp/ | opkijken |
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | has gotten · has witnessed · have witnessed |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | is sometimes called · be understood · being understood |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | quickly which is · people who tend · course which were |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 29 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals didn't, you're, I'd. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: moderation /ˌmɑdəˈɹeɪʃən/, superficial /ˌsupɚˈfɪʃəl/, erosion /ɪˈɹəʊʒən/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: haemophilia /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, accumulate /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: indulge /ɪnˈdʌld͡ʒ/, subside /sʌbˈsaɪd/, observe /əbˈzɜːv/, divide /dɪˈvaɪd/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/, gradual /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/, satisfy /ˈsætɪsfaɪ/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/, gradual /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Spreek zin voor zin na op normale snelheid en herhaal elke zin tot je ritme gelijk is aan dat van de spreker.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als knot, haemophilia, heartbreak.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.