Shadowing Practice: why we should fall in love slowly... - Learn English Speaking with Video

hello my dears so i had the interesting topic brought up to me about the difference between

slow love versus fast love let's look up the definition of slow love

according to ai overview slow love is a romantic orientation

that involves taking a gradual approach to relationships rather than rushing

into commitment a overview's definition of fast love is a term

that describes a culture of superficial expressions of affection

and fleeting emotional connections it can also refer to the idea of falling in love quickly which is sometimes called hemophilia.

I didn't know that.

Known as emotional promiscuity.

This is a term for people who tend to fall in love quickly and often.

People with hemophilia may feel an all -encompassing passion for romantic interest in a short amount of time.

Huh.

I'm gonna start off with saying

that there's nothing wrong with wanting to experience a fast love there's nothing wrong with wanting to be understood

but there are the side effects of being understood too quickly it shows a level of curiosity

that wow this person really wants to get to know me on such a deep level and curiosity is important.

There is a difference between cramming for the exam versus fully understanding the subject.

I'm going to use an example.

There is a person that can get to know you within weeks.

They ask all of the right questions.

They start to really understand who you are, but who they are studying is the person that you are at

that exact moment versus the person

that has gotten to know you over a span of years

and this person has witnessed seeing you change instead of the

first example of where they asked all the right questions and they found out who exactly you are

it's

so much easier for them to kind of put you in

this box of what they studied you to be versus is

the second example of where they witness the box keep growing the first example

that person may feel like whoa you're changing it up a little too much what happened to the person

that i used to know you to be

but the second example is able to understand you to such a fundamental level of throughout all the changes

that i have witnessed you go through these are the points

that have stayed the same

and i know this is you to your core to be

honest rushing love is actually very simple all you have to

do is just lean into the crush of this person

or lean into the few things that you do like about them

and just exploit it and keep using that as a carrying vessel for the rest of the relationship.

It's very easy to do.

The common denominator between slow love and fast love is that there is the chemistry.

I'm not going to take away from the fast love that there isn't a connection there.

There definitely is.

It's just what you do with the connection is extremely important.

I'd say with maturing, you start to understand how to stop being as indulgent with

love the same way how you would with sugar we love

sugar it's delicious it's a nice treat love is like a nice sweet treat

but we want to be able to learn how to pace ourselves

because when you take

so much of it all at once for an extended amount

of time you're gonna feel sick we want to avoid feeling sick from our loves

so with slow love we are practicing patience.

Continue on your life as you would because you still want to put time

and effort into the goals that you have outside of the relationship.

I'd say that's what I notice a lot with the fast loves that I've experienced as well as observed.

A fast love usually puts the rest of our life on hold, while the slow loves, they take such small chunks of time out of our days

and we can still eat the rest of what's on our

plate like they are the sweet treat at the end of the day but we still

fulfilled the main course which were our responsibilities and our ambitions

and i'd say that's a well -balanced meal we would love

to have well -balanced meals as our well -balanced loves

but with the fast loves it gave us no room left in our bodies to have that love for other things

that actually correlates to one of the main reasons as to why i'm scared to fall in love again

love is consuming it's not to say

that i don't want to give this time and energy the problem is

that i do from the first time

that i fell in love i didn't know any part of

how to keep a well -balanced meal i only knew how to keep indulging in what felt great

and a couple heartbreaks later

there's someone here

i was just young and that was to keep leading into this love

and forget everything else but to live a little too presently we love living presently

but you know when you're eating a cake it's like oh this feels great

but you're not thinking about how it's gonna make you feel bad later you're just completely indulging into the present

and just wanting more of this until your satisfaction isn't actually

satisfying it's sickening with a slow love sure it's not going to be it's not going to be overwhelmingly magical

but i'd say it's the small bits of magic

that continues to prove to me it is sustainable

and it will be there through my thick and thin

because it already has versus the fast loves it's like who are you and a lot of the answers to this problem.

I wouldn't even call it a problem.

It's just this rite of passage in life is learning how to be more patient.

We all have different styles of being patient too.

It's truly just further understanding yourself and what your well -balanced meal looks like.

At least definitely with the times that I've experienced fast love, I was running away from something.

Whether I knew it or not.

I was running away from something.

One of my fast loves, I was running away from what my purpose was in life.

I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up

and the fact that I had already been at the age of grown up

and I wasn't in the career that I wanted to be in yet, it was agonizing to admit I was lost.

So then I fell into a really fast love.

There goes the well -balanced meal.

I avoided the vegetables and I just went straight for the sugar.

I didn't want to confront that I hadn't had eaten any vegetables.

So yes, the slow loves that I have been experiencing as of late,

I am just truly ever so in love with the fact that you exist.

I didn't know

that slow love existed until i found my best friends i think my abandonment issues really really subsided

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when i found love within these people they have been there through the thick and thin

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i believe that my soul is tied to them

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and it truly took time in order for

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that tie to be created with a knot so strong over time and weather

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and erosion the knot will still be there versus with the fast loves a knot is still tied

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but it can become so undone

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so quickly with extreme ease it is upsetting it's very upsetting

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that oh my gosh i thought

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that i tied such a beautiful bow with this person

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and you probably did but the bow is made of silk

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and although it had the most beautiful presentation is slipped right from underneath itself versus the shipping rope

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that I have with my slow loves.

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I have no fear and only trust for the slow loves that I have accumulated.

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In terms of how to get slow love, I would say it is paying attention to the other aspects of your life

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and that is how you can start practicing a slower love you want to divide

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and experience life in moderation especially the good

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and the bad parts it's the balance it's it's the well balanced meal i have to go now

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but i hope you enjoyed this video and i love you

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so much my romantics i wish you to find all the pairs of your socks

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and all the quarters in your pockets thank you so much romantics i have to go now bye guys

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and a couple heartbreaks later i started to understand and a lot of the answers to please let me know guys

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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları

Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “why we should fall in love slowly..” videosuna dayanıyor. En çok tekrarlanan kelimeler: fast, slow, balanced, versus, meal. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 120 cümle ve 1482 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 10:05 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 147 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %83’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
knot isim	/nɑt/	düğüm
haemophilia isim	/ˌhiːməˈfɪliə	hemofili
indulge fiil	/ɪnˈdʌld͡ʒ/	meyletmek
vegetable isim	/ˈvɛd͡ʒ.tə.bəl/	sebze, zerzevat
curiosity isim	/ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/	merak, meraklılık
denominator isim	/dɪˈnɒmɪneɪtə(ɹ)/	payda
indulgent sıfat	/ɪnˈdʌld͡ʒənt/	uysal
moderation isim	/ˌmɑdəˈɹeɪʃən/	itidal
superficial sıfat	/ˌsupɚˈfɪʃəl/	yüzeysel
undo fiil	/ʌnˈduː/	geri almak
sock isim	/sɑk/	çorap
chunk isim	/t͡ʃʌŋk/	parça
confront fiil	/kənˈfɹʌnt/	yüzleşmek, göğüs germek
whoa	/woʊ/	oha
consume fiil	/kənˈsum/	kullanmak, harcamak

Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
grow up fiil		büyümek, yetişmek
find out fiil		anlamak, ortaya çıkarmak
look up fiil	/ˌlʊk ˈʌp/	yukarı bakmak

Bu videodaki dil bilgisi

Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

Yapı	Videoda
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem	has gotten · has witnessed · have witnessed
Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli	is sometimes called · be understood · being understood
İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi	quickly which is · people who tend · course which were

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı didn't, you're, I'd gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 29 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

“sh” ve “zh” sesleri: moderation /ˌmɑdəˈɹeɪʃən/, superficial /ˌsupɚˈfɪʃəl/, erosion /ɪˈɹəʊʒən/, gosh /ɡɑːʃ/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/
Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: haemophilia /ˌhiːməˈfɪliə, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, accumulate /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/

Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:

/w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: overwhelmingly /ˌəʊ.vəˈwɛl.mɪŋ.lɪ/, whoa /woʊ/
Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: presently /ˈpɹɛzəntli/, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, promiscuity /ˌpɹɑm.ɪˈskju.ɪ.ti/, gradual /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/, scare /skɛɚ/
/æ/ — “e”den daha açık: abandonment /əˈbæn.d(ə)n.m(ə)nt/, agonizing /ˈæɡ.ə.naɪ.zɪŋ/, gradual /ˈɡɹæd͡ʒuəl/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/, satisfy /ˈsætɪsfaɪ/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; knot, haemophilia, indulge gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?

Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.

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