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One of the simplest and most useful exercises that psychotherapy has gifted to us is known as the empty chair technique.
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A client who has been wrestling with their feelings towards someone
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is gently requested to stop discussing them in the third person and is instead invited to face a chair
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and start talking to this bit of furniture as if it were, to all intents, the specific troubling person in their life, perhaps a long-dead absent father,
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a neglectful mother, or a traitorous so-called friend.
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Many of us spend a good deal of time ruminating on difficult people in the recesses of our minds.
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We say that so-and-so really deserves a comeuppance, or that we'd love to give X or Y a taste of what we actually think.
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We find ourselves returning to them again and again late at night and on the journey to work, their offences interrupting our sleep and spoiling our digestion.
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And yet we rarely speak with any degree of clarity or sincerity, out of a fear of retribution,
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a dread of vulnerability, a pessimism as to the chances of being understood, or perhaps stubbornly ingrained good manners.
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The feelings remain in us in a latent form,
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contributing to a layer of static frustration that damages our health and lends a compulsive quality to our moods.
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Now, under the aegis of a therapist, we can give form to our cloudy annoyance.
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Once we move past the hesitation at the particular strangeness of discoursing with a seat, we may find that we are a great deal more eloquent than we supposed,
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far more sure of what we needed to say, far more at home with letting the world energetically know how things look through our eyes.
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Dad, why did you have children if you couldn't even be bothered to get to know them?
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Why did you think that your responsibility stopped at providing for them materially?
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Chris, why do you pretend that you don't want to be intrusive
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when in fact you just never take an interest in me, despite the hours that I've listened to your troubles?
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All this might not seem so different from previous remarks like, I'm pretty angry with X or Y,
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but the impact of a concrete articulation and a public audition is of a different order.
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Anger is a poison and to speak it is to drain it of its malevolent force.
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We falsely imagine that the only speeches we can ever usefully make are to flesh and blood attentive listeners.
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In truth, it may matter far less that we are heard than that we have a chance to speak.
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The empty chair technique is liable to be especially helpful to
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those of us who had to grow up to be extremely good boys and girls.
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There may be few opportunities to be anything but when dad is an alcoholic or has a violent temper, temper, mum is neglectful, or a sibling is very ill.
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We may lack any knowledge of how to complain because, in our formative period, we sensed correctly that our survival depended upon meekness and good humour.
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We learned to smile and appease when we would have needed a long wail at the unfairness and cruelty of it all.
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Our silence may have won us a safe enough passage into adulthood.
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Its ongoing nature threatens to ruin the remaining years.
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We may fear that we won't be able to get too far into a speech
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without either collapsing into humiliating tears or escalating into unmanageable fury.
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The empty chair technique can reassure us on both fronts.
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There can be ways of speaking without shouting, of saying no without being alarming, of standing up for ourselves without coming across as entitled or unworthy.
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We can assert our needs without bringing about the catastrophe we fear.
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And we can start right now, without even waiting for a psychotherapist, by looking across the room to the nearest available chair
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and asking who should be sitting there and what if I needed to tell them for the longest time.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “Empty Chair Therapy: Heal Your Past, Improve Your Future”. Deze woorden komen het vaakst terug: chair, technique, empty, fear, speak. Deze video bevat 38 zinnen en 683 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 3:57. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 173 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. Slechts 78% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is pittig.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| temper zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈtɛmpɚ/ | karakter, gemoed |
| annoyance zelfstandig naamwoord | /əˈnɔɪ.əns/ | ergernis |
| appease werkwoord | /əˈpiːz/ | kalmeren |
| attentive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /əˈtɛntɪv/ | aandachtig, oplettend |
| compulsive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/ | dwangmatig |
| digestion zelfstandig naamwoord | /daɪˈd͡ʒɛst͡ʃən/ | spijsvertering, vertering |
| eloquent bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈɛl.əˌkwənt/ | welsprekend, eloquent |
| escalate werkwoord | /ˈɛs.kə.leɪt/ | escaleren |
| humiliate werkwoord | /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/ | vernederen, verootmoedigen |
| intrusive bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/ | intrusief |
| latent bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈleɪ.tənt/ | latent |
| malevolent bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /məˈlɛvələnt/ | kwaadwillend |
| pessimism zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈpɛsɪmɪzəm/ | pessimisme |
| psychotherapist zelfstandig naamwoord | psychotherapeut, psychotherapeute | |
| psychotherapy zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/ | psychotherapie |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| come across werkwoord | overkomen |
| stand up for werkwoord | opkomen voor |
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | is known · being understood · be bothered |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | has gifted · I've listened |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 6 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals couldn't, don't, I'm. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/, unworthy /ʌnˈwɝði/, threaten /ˈθɹɛt.n̩/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: articulation /ɑɹˌtɪk.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/, reassure /ˌɹi.əˈʃʊɹ/, retribution /ˌɹɛt.ɹɪˈbju.ʃən/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, audition /ɑˈdɪʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: articulation /ɑɹˌtɪk.jəˈleɪ.ʃən/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, malevolent /məˈlɛvələnt/, pessimism /ˈpɛsɪmɪzəm/, psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: appease /əˈpiːz/, attentive /əˈtɛntɪv/, compulsive /kəmˈpʌlsɪv/, formative /ˈfɔːmətɪv/, intrusive /ɪnˈtɹuːsɪv/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: catastrophe /kəˈtæstɹəfi/, clarity /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.ti/, alcoholic /ˌæl.kəˈhɔ.lɪk/, absent /ˈæb.sn̩t/, static /ˈstæt.ɪk/
- /w/ — met ronde lippen: eloquent /ˈɛl.əˌkwənt/, unworthy /ʌnˈwɝði/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als temper, annoyance, appease.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.