Shadowing Practice: How to Create a Life You Love (one week at a time) - Learn English Speaking with Video
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You can't create a life you love by shaming yourself into becoming someone else.
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I used to live that way in the past and let me tell you, it didn't feel great.
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The thing is, most of us weren't really taught how to build a life we love.
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We were taught how to be productive, how to be impressive, how to be busy.
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But not how to feel grounded, aligned and connected to the life we're actually living.
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So today, I'm going to show you what actually creates a life you love.
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Alright, so the first component of creating a life you love is realizing
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that you can approach goal -setting and change in from two different places.
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Carrot vs. Stick.
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The first place is what we call the stick approach, trying to improve your life by beating yourself up.
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You don't like something about yourself, you shame yourself into changing it.
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You push harder and harder because you feel like you're constantly not enough.
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And honestly, this is the approach most of us grew up with.
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This is how I used to view self -improvement for myself.
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And yes, you can build habits and achieve goals this way.
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rely on your willpower and then burn yourself out and do this all over again and you can still get results.
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That's why a lot of us do it.
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But the thing is with this approach nothing ever feels good enough
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and often you end up achieving goals that lead you somewhere you never really wanted to go.
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And now let's look at the second approach, something that is extremely foreign to most of us
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look at it is it's when you love yourself enough
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to change when you build goals from compassion not shame
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when you show up for your habits
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because they support what you like doing right now
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and who you want to become this is the approach
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that i want you to keep in mind
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while creating a life you love showing up not
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because i hate who i am but
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because i love myself enough to commit to the life i want to build because real lasting change constantly,
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when you stop nitpicking yourself and start supporting yourself no matter what.
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And this is what I want you to think about more.
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How can you approach designing your life from this carrot perspective, not this stick approach?
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And for me, a big part of all of that is learning on purpose and protecting my energy.
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Here's how I've been using it recently.
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So it's not passive, it's active learning that sticks.
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I use Cognify's projects and notes so everything is in one place.
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Ideas, research, scripts, to -dos.
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They have a focus mode that breaks your day into manageable chunks
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so you're not trying to be on for 10 hours straight.
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It helps you get into deep work without burning out.
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And what I like most is that Cognify is not about outsourcing your entire brain to AI.
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actually want to think.
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It challenges you, it helps you, without making you outsource absolutely everything.
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I honestly think having a tool like this makes the whole process of learning new things feel
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so much more intentional and less chaotic.
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That gives you two months of Cognify Pro to really test it out and see if it fits into your routine.
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Alrighty, so the next part of more play into your life.
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For a very long time in my self -improvement and productivity journey, I treated myself as a robot.
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I have to do this, I It has to be done, no questions asked.
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And if something wasn't contributing to my productivity, I deemed it as useless.
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Like, why should I spend my time on it if it's not connected to my productivity journey?
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But the thing is, play, while being non -productive, is actually extremely important for us.
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It's not just optional, it's a biological need.
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Our brains are literally wired guide to finding the right habits or the right goals for you.
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And here I really like asking myself this question.
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If no one was watching, what would I actually want?
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I put two things on my 2025 vision board that were connected to doing something that I deeply loved.
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The first one is my handstand journey.
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So learning a handstand.
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That has been a very big goal for me in 2025 and I'm few seconds,
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the goal was to just have fun and obviously learn proper alignment because I didn't want to hurt myself.
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I thought setting a goal like learning handstands was a little bit silly.
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Like, I'm not a kid anymore.
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Like, why do I even want to do it?
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But again, does it even matter to have a logical reason why you want to do something
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if it makes you reconnect with your inner child,
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after you allow yourself to try things that seem silly at first.
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And so the second thing on my vision board
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that has been connected to me doing something for me was doing a yoga teacher training.
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Without looking at everyone else and thinking what do they want to do or maybe I'm gonna be like them, can I do it?
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What do I want to do?
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It doesn't matter what all of those other people are doing
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training and getting my certificate has been one of the biggest decisions in 2025
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and also like one of the most me decisions ever.
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During that training, I was able to tap more into my nerd energy.
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Something that I honestly really missed.
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I really missed being a student, a person who's learning something new, taking tests and taking exams.
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Now let's talk about this one exercise, has been extremely helpful when it comes to creating a life I love.
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So one of the biggest misconceptions I see online right now is that you're constantly becoming.
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You're always focused on building this best or better version of yourself.
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Like you're never being yourself in the moment.
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You're never enough as you are right now.
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You're always upgrading.
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You're always four.
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This is why we get stuck living in the future, because we realize that our present lives are imperfect, but they aren't supposed to be.
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So I read this book recently, it's called Designing Your Life.
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I did like it, even though some of the parts felt a little bit dry to me.
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That is why I would highly recommend the workbook from this book.
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This workbook is truly, truly your life, there is an amazing quote that I really like
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and I literally want to save it and like print it out and have it everywhere in my room.
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It's rare that people sail beautifully straight through their beautiful lives, always looking beautiful.
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I honestly love this quote because usually that's not what we see, right?
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On the surface, on social media,
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we think that everything and if it's not perfect, then you're failing.
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Something is wrong with you.
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If I were to choose one specific exercise from this workbook, I think it would be the good time journal.
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Because it helps you focus on your life right now.
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It helps you understand your energy and how to protect it best.
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Here it gives you a lot of examples of how to do it and what all of these little meters mean.
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Yes, you have to do it for around a month.
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This is very, very important.
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You have to log in all of your activities, everything that you do, all of the things that you spend your time on.
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So basically, you have your engagement meter, if your engagement was low or high, maybe you were in the state of flow,
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and also your energy, like whether you felt energized or drained.
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And I promise you, if you do this exercise consistently for three weeks, you will know
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have before because you can only manage your energy in effective ways
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when you look for patterns and this exercise helps you look for patterns one thing
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that wasn't obvious for me at all at the very beginning
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when i just started doing this exercise is that when i work
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if i can see my phone somewhere next to you know
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my space my computer like even like you know my side vision if i can Like any little work task I do,
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I'm always tempted to check my phone.
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And so now all I do is I just leave my phone in another room
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or I hide it somewhere so that I can't see it.
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So that visually it's not somewhere around me.
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Because a life you love is built on awareness.
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And awareness comes when you pay attention to yourself.
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So now finally let's look at these top three areas.
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a life I love or not quite and I need to change something about them.
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The first area is my relationship to myself.
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We've already mentioned the treating yourself with a carrot or a stick and I have to mention here, carrots do include boundaries too.
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Sometimes we all need to set some boundaries to protect ourselves and it doesn't always feel great in the moment.
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Setting boundaries
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area is my relationship with people around me my communication skills
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again my boundaries am I able to express myself in a
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kind way am I surrounding myself with people who uplift me who share my values
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and the final big area is how I approach goal setting
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because honestly your goals can be small they can be silly
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but they are still enough you should still set those goals if they feel like they're deeply truly yours
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They don't need to look impressive to everyone else it feels
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so much better to achieve goals
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that actually mean something to me than to spend months
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or years chasing goals that were never mine to begin with
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because you don't create a life you love by becoming someone
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new every single month you create a life you love by finally falling in love with who you already are
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so guys i think it's going to be it for today's video if you liked it Your likes,
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your comments, all of that means so, so much to me.
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One important thing that I always talk about in my YouTube videos is therapy
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and how much it has helped me become more connected to myself.
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So if you want to see my four biggest lessons, what 150 hours of therapy have taught me so far, make sure to check out this video right here.
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Just click right here and I'll see you there.
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About This Lesson
Ready to boost your English speaking skills while learning how to build a life you love? This lesson uses a heartfelt video to practice listening, vocabulary, and conversational flow—perfect for IELTS speaking practice and everyday fluency. You’ll learn to follow natural speech patterns, pick up common phrases, and even try shadow speak (repeating sentences aloud as you hear them) to mimic tone and rhythm. Let’s dive in!
Key Vocabulary & Phrases
- Grounded: Feeling stable and connected to the present (e.g., "She stays grounded by meditating daily").
- Aligned: In harmony with your values or goals (e.g., "His new job feels aligned with his passions").
- Nitpicking: Criticizing small, unimportant details (e.g., "Stop nitpicking—your work is great!").
- Willpower: Self-control to do something difficult (e.g., "She used willpower to quit sugar").
- Compassion: Kindness toward oneself or others (e.g., "Approach mistakes with compassion, not shame").
- Overwhelmed: Feeling stressed by too much to do (e.g., "I’m overwhelmed with tasks this week").
Practice Tips
The video’s tone is warm and conversational, with a moderate speed—ideal for shadow speech practice. Here’s how to make the most of it:
- Pause and repeat: Stop the video after 2-3 sentences, then say them aloud. Focus on matching the speaker’s calm rhythm and emphasis (e.g., "because real lasting change happens...").
- Emphasize key words: Notice how the speaker stresses words like "love," "compassion," and "energy." Copying this will make your speech more natural and engaging—great for English speaking practice.
- Learn in chunks: The video uses phrases like "shaming yourself into becoming" and "design your life from a place of." Repeat these as whole units to build fluency, not just single words.
Remember, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s progress. Use this video to connect language learning with self-growth, and you’ll build skills that last. Happy practicing!
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going on | I've been working · I've been using |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | I've just launched · has been · has been connected |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | weren't really taught · were taught · be linked |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | someone who always · people who uplift |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.