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At the time of this recording, I'm a 44-year-old multi-millionaire.
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At the time of this recording, I'm a 44-year-old multi-millionaire.
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But if I could go back and give my 20-year-old self some advice on how to get rich a lot faster,
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here's what I would say.
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Rule number one, don't lean your ladder against the wrong wall.
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Most people don't plan for success.
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If you're climbing a ladder and you're successful,
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you might get to the top and realize it's leaning against the wrong wall.
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Then you got to climb all the way back down,
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grab the ladder, walk across the room to the right wall,
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and then lean the ladder back up and go through that whole process again if you don't plan to be successful,
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you'll live a life of default, not design.
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So don't get good at something you hate only to get there to realize it's not the life you want to live.
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Which brings us to rule number two.
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No one needs to change for you to win.
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If I want to win,
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I got to find the people that are going to support that.
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I don't care what my parents,
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my friends, my partner, my kids say to me.
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I've got to find the people that want to support my dream.
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If they don't, that's fine.
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That's their journey.
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I need to go create a scenario or find the people that are going to help make it happen.
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I don't ask anybody to change for me to win.
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I change.
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I do the work.
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I get good at dealing with the setbacks, the self-doubt.
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Everybody second guesses me.
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I learn how to overcome those things because that's a world where I control 100% of my outcomes.
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Which brings us to rule number three,
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play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
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So many people make this mistake.
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They do business with people they know are shitty.
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They get involved in selling crappy products.
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They raise money to build software that's essentially vaporware.
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Now, are there good companies in those?
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Maybe.
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But are you probably going to find the wrong one if you're just starting off?
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Yes.
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Trying to take shortcuts today is only going to have to teach you those lessons
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that you're going to learn down the road when you actually win.
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Which brings us to rule number four,
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avoid difficult conversations, create a difficult life.
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I believe that success in all areas of life is on the backside of hard conversations.
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Don't let the fear of hurting people hold you back from seeking the truth.
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Most people would be wildly successful if they only learned to have hard conversations.
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The idea of a clearing conversation,
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of just speaking your preferences or speaking your mind
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or sharing with other people your vision for life and being okay with them giving you that feedback,
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most people are scared to have those difficult conversations and if you don't do them,
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it'll just make pain in your life.
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Which brings us to rule number five,
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stop being so freaking serious.
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You're allowed to be successful and have a lot of fun.
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I went 15 years trying to be Mr. Serious Pants and realized that I wasn't having any fun the whole time.
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And it turns out the fun part of me is actually a lot more fun to be around.
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Turns out top performers enjoy getting done and also hanging out with somebody that makes them laugh.
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You're allowed to be incredibly disciplined and structured and also live an exciting life.
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The funny part is most people think that they're winning
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because of that seriousness i actually think they're winning in spite of
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that seriousness which brings us to rule number six
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which is success is not final
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and failure is not fatal here's the big idea success is not a destination it's a journey
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and that journey should be cherished you should understand
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that you have the privilege of dealing with all the challenges
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and setbacks and frustrations along the path of winning and in the same breath Failing is not fatal.
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It's not gonna hold you back.
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Failing is learning.
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Finding that seed of opportunity, that lesson learned.
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When I create something, it doesn't work out the way I want it to,
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I just ask myself the question, did I learn?
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Yes, perfect, move forward.
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That's what shapes you.
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That's what gets you ready to receive the thing you've been asking for.
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Instead of being upset by these setbacks, you should be grateful.
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I give it zero effort because I don't want that negative energy slowing me down for creating in the future.
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Which brings us to rule number seven,
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stop waiting for the right moment, make the moment right.
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Stop waiting for people to give you opportunities.
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Stop saying, well, I gotta do A,
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B, C so I can do G.
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It's so crazy.
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You're allowed to just start.
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I heard a guy the other day,
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he wanted to be a director.
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He asked his friend, how do I become a director?
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He said, just start telling people you're a director.
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You know how easy that is?
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Go create opportunities and just take ownership of what you want out of life.
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There's no person that you look up to that was handed the perfect moment.
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What they did is they took action and then created it.
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That is JFDI.
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If you don't know what that stands for, Google it.
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It's on my license plate, is my core motto.
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It is what I live by.
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But that attitude will get you the results.
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Which brings us to rule number eight.
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If you want to go fast, go alone.
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But if you wanna go far, go together.
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When you're alone, you can make precision decisions and move very quickly.
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Certain types of work need that because money loves speed.
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However, if you're trying to build something big,
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meaningful, durable, valuable to somebody else in the future,
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then you have to go with other people.
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You're never gonna get to your next level without other people around you.
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Other people are gonna shape your thoughts,
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are gonna shape your activities.
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They're going to support you in creating that vision.
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Learn to recruit, to involve,
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to collaborate with other people.
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Collaboration is the key.
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Co-creation is the path learn to do that like your life depends on it because it does.
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Being rich by yourself in a mega mansion is the saddest expression of wealth.
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Which brings us to rule number nine,
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the best revenge is massive success.
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I remember when I was starting off 15 years ago,
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I had somebody that literally said to me, you'll never make it.
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You're not as good as you think you are.
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And I don't even know why you try to my face.
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And I took it.
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And instead of allowing it to beat me up,
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Anytime I made a decision that day forward
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and it didn't go the way I want I just kept saying watch
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And I knew if I got up every day and I pushed
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and I grinded and I showed up and I did the thing
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And I started keeping the commitments I made to myself in private
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Every day I did that was watch me
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If somebody doesn't believe in you the best thing you can
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do is just win Here's how you know you got there
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That person in the future apologizes and asks you for help
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And if you've developed yourself to the point at that level where you have grace and compassion,
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you'll give them that help.
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It'll be tough, but it'll be worth it.
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Which brings us to rule number 10.
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The results you're looking for are found in the work you've been avoiding.
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I remember I did this 12-hour hike and it was one of the hardest things I'd ever done.
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Sounds easy, not easy.
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And one of the questions I brought to ponder was this Joseph Campbell quote,
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which says, the cave you fear to enter most holds a treasure that you seek.
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That concept is life.
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Most people avoid their demons when what they really should be learning how to do is how to slay them.
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Stop avoiding them.
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The work instills the worth.
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Doing the work is what creates you.
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Focusing on the thing
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that is hard is what's going to shape you to become
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ready to receive the thing you've been asking for your whole freaking life.
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And instead of being scared about it,
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I'm encouraging you move forward, lean into it.
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Working hard isn't about long hours either.
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It's not about hustling.
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Working hard is doing the thing that scares you most.
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Do that.
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Which brings us to rule number 11.
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Don't shrink yourself to make other people feel comfortable.
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I can't tell you how many years I spent allowing myself to pull back,
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to play small, to communicate small because I didn't want to scare people away.
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I didn't want people to feel uncomfortable or less than
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because I had I had big visions for my life and I knew that they didn't think that way.
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Don't do that.
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You have to be so okay being misunderstood for long periods of time by shining your light,
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by being so great or having a vision that makes other people feel less than or uncomfortable.
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It's their story, not yours.
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If you wanna live an extraordinary life,
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then you gotta learn to be extra.
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You gotta learn to be comfortable being extra and you should never dim your light because it blinds other people.
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Which brings us to rule number 12,
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fear will always give bad advice.
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Write this down.
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False evidence appearing real.
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I see this all the time with people around me.
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They're like, well, you know,
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I want to do this,
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but you know, there's always this risk.
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Says who?
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Who told you that?
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The probability of that thing being true is as likely as the opposite.
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You have the power to create your future because you have the power to create the energy that you create from.
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And if you decide that fear is something you've made up,
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then you can decide the opposite is also true.
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You could ask yourself a simple question.
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What needs to be true for me not to be scared to make this decision?
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What needs to be true for me to move forward without the fear?
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Because it's giving you bad advice.
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You need to create from a place of abundance.
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Abundance?
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That source?
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That energy?
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That gives great advice.
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Which brings us to rule number 13.
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Exhaust the body, tame the mind.
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If you follow me on Instagram,
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you will see me post almost daily.
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A picture of me working out with that quote.
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Why?
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Because I learned that the more I put my body through struggle,
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through stress, I decided to go in the pain cave.
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When I do that, my mind gets clear.
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My mind gets sharp.
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All the problems I thought were problems just magically dissolve
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because I've decided to go all in on the physicality strategically throughout my day to reset my energy all the time,
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especially if you're 20 years old and you're just starting off.
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If you can get your fitness in check,
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if you can learn delayed gratification,
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if you can learn how good it feels to go into the pain cave and rip those muscles,
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if you can build that consistency and build your confidence by keeping those commitments you make to yourself at 20, wow.
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Bank accounts fill up.
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Which brings us to rule number 14.
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Not everyone will be happy for your success and that's okay.
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As you start being more successful,
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the people that you thought had your back are gonna probably talk.
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And the reason why is that in your winning,
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you've shown them where they've decided to pull back.
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Like in Australia, they call it crabs in a bucket.
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It's a metaphor for people trying to get out and do better
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and everybody pulling the crab back down in the bucket when if the crabs just got together and worked as a team,
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they could all pull themselves out of the bucket.
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But that's not human nature.
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Mentors turn into critics and that's okay.
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You need to just understand it's coming.
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Stay close to the people who want more for you than more from you.
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People that are closer to your goals not far from your goals.
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Those people are gonna make the transition easy.
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Which brings us to rule number 15,
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consistency can fix 90% of your problems.
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As I've already mentioned, consistency is the foundation of winning.
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That foundation is what you install everything else on top of.
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If you can't get consistent,
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how are you supposed to do big things?
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You're 20 with a big vision and you wanna create,
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but it's like shooting a cannon from a canoe.
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Your foundation isn't there.
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I don't care how rich you wanna be.
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If you can be consistent doing the thing that you know will support your dreams,
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then it's not going to work.
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So my challenge to you is this.
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Are you willing to do the boring work for a thousand days?
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Never missing.
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If you can commit to that,
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you will come out that other side a completely different person.
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Which brings us to rule number 16.
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Nobody cares about your story until you win.
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Some of you want your parents to care about how hard you work.
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Some of you want your friends to acknowledge that you're now successful.
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But you don't realize that you've only been doing this for a few years.
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And they've seen you be a complete twerp for a decade plus.
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You got to understand, you have not proven to them that you are that person yet.
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And guess what?
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No one cares how hard you work.
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Nobody cares how long you work.
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So just go win.
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Don't worry about the praises, the victory.
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If you need praise to move forward,
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you've already lost the race.
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You have to learn to be okay making decisions with nobody praising you for you to win.
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So just go out there and do it.
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And trust me, all the setbacks,
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all the failures, they will forget the moment you win.
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Which brings us to rule number 17,
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the pain you feel today creates the strength you feel tomorrow.
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Most people can't deal with problems.
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And here's a crazy idea.
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You've never learned anything when things went right.
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Period, full stop.
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What I've learned is over the years,
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every setback, every frustration, every failed company was teaching me how to deal with higher level problems.
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And as I look back,
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the size of my problems dictates the size of my life.
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If I don't go through those challenges,
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I'm not going to develop the armor that I'm going to need for the next devil.
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At every level, you will find a new devil that has to be overcome.
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And the only way you learn how to do that is if you deal with the first one.
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Which brings us to rule number 18.
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Peace begins when expectations end.
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Some of you think you're winning because of your perfectionism.
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And I'm telling you, the thing stopping you is your decision to be perfect at every step.
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Stop demanding perfection and start embracing progress.
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Evaluate where you've gotten to so far and celebrate that.
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Don't beat yourself up.
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You know, my coach Ed Milet says this all the time.
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He's like, you can desire for more and in that same breath,
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be blissfully dissatisfied for what you've achieved.
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So acknowledge the journey and the person you've developed into today.
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Let go of what you think life should be and just start focusing on what it could be.
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Which brings us to rule number 19,
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you receive what you desire for others.
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The moment I stopped making it about me and started making it about other people,
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my whole life changed.
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When I realized it wasn't about me getting rich,
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it was helping other people get rich, I got richer.
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It's so crazy because you see this with artists.
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Oliver Anthony, he wrote an incredible song, Richmond, North of Richmond.
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He was interviewed by Joe Rogan and asked him,
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why do you think that out of all the songs you've ever written your whole life
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and being somebody that was a drunk living in a trailer, why you?
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And he said two things.
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I started reading the Bible and two,
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I stopped making about myself and I started making about other people.
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The more you desire other people around you to achieve,
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I'm telling you, it comes back tenfold.
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Which brings us to rule number 20.
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The world will show you where you're not free.
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It is the one of the most powerful reframes I use on a daily basis.
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Anytime I'm facing a challenge or I'm frustrated with a situation, I get curious.
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I go, interesting.
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I'm not free right now.
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What is it about this situation that's causing me to be triggered?
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Because I believe it's in the discomfort of life that we are given our assignments to go do the work.
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And if I could have figured that out in my 20s,
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holy crap, I would have been even more of a weapon.
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Every obstacle is literally an invitation to break free from your old patterns.
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If you do that right,
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you will grow so fast.
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You will have so much abundance in your life.
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People won't understand how you've been able to do it so quickly.
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There's this book that's been written called Trauma.
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Most people like get this book and put it on the bookshelf,
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never to be open.
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And I'm gonna encourage you to actually open it up and read it because as you do that work,
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you're actually doing it for yourself,
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but more importantly, you're doing it for the future family you're gonna build.
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If you wanna learn how to get your shit together,
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click here and I'll see you on the other side.
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