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Let's imagine you're out to dinner with a group of friends.

You've been looking forward to this all week.

The waiter finally brings your meal and it's not what you ordered.

There are two ways you can respond in this situation.

Option one, excuse me.

I wonder if maybe there's been a mistake with this order.

If not, don't worry about it.

And option two, excuse me.

I believe there's been a mistake with this order.

I ordered the pasta with mushrooms, not the mushroom pizza.

Do you notice that one response is more direct and confident than the other?

The passive example places someone else's comfort above your own needs

while the assertive response calmly and confidently states what you need or what you want without any negative emotion.

So how can you confidently be assertive in English when you need to be direct,

clear, and polite, it, whether you're sharing your needs, wants, or ideas.

I have five specific strategies plus the language and sentence structures you need to help you do just that.

But quickly, if this is your first time here, welcome.

Welcome.

I am Anne Marie, an English confidence and fluency coach.

Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your life and work in English.

If you'd love to discover hundreds of my English lessons, just like this one, you can find all of that and more over at my Speak Confident English website.

In fact, while you're there, you can also download my free in -depth fluency training called

how to get the confidence to say what you want in English.

Now, Now, before we dive into these five strategies on how to be assertive in your English, I want to take a step back and make sure

that we're crystal clear about the difference between passive and assertive communication and how both can be useful.

Moreover, I want to distinguish the difference between assertive and aggressive communication

so that you can be confident knowing that when you communicate assertively, it's still perfectly polite and appropriate.

So first let's talk about what exactly is passive communication.

We use this form of communication when a situation demands extremely polite and diplomatic communication,

or when it's vital to maintain a harmonious atmosphere.

However, passive communication can also lead to prioritizing others' needs, wants, and opinions above your own.

Moreover, it can sound submissive or overly polite, avoiding confrontation, even at the cost of your own needs.

In contrast to that, assertive communication means calmly and confidently stating your needs,

wants, and opinions, even in difficult situations.

It allows you to stand up for yourself while still respecting others, and it enables you to say no without feeling guilty.

Assertiveness is all about finding balance between being respectful and ensuring that your voice is heard.

To bring this all into focus, let's take a look at two example sentences.

Let's say, for example, that you're in the process of asking for a pay raise.

Again, you have two ways to do this.

Option one, I don't know if it's okay to ask, but I was wondering if I could get a pay raise.

And option two, I would like to discuss a possible pay raise.

I believe my contributions and skills warrant a raise at this time.

Do you notice that that passive response indicates hesitation and a lack of confidence?

It also avoids stating what your needs or wants are.

The assertive response, however, is clear, direct, and respectful.

It communicates your needs confidently while maintaining professionalism.

Now, all of that may be easier said than done.

I know assertive communication can be uncomfortable.

In fact, to be honest, it's occasionally difficult for me as well.

Like me, you might worry that assertive communication is rude or impolite, but let me assure you it is not.

To help, I want to clarify the difference between assertive and aggressive communication.

Assertive communication says I matter, And so do you.

It's about communicating your thoughts and your needs clearly and respectfully.

When communicating assertively, you keep your tone and volume calm.

And you make sure the focus is on ensuring that both parties or all parties involved in the conversation are heard.

On top of all of that, maintaining eye contact with your steady tone enhances your assertiveness,

indicating confidence without intimidation.

Aggressive communication on the other hand says I matter and you don't.

It involves expressing your needs and wants in a way that dismisses others.

This might include speaking loudly, rudely, or insensitively leading to confrontation as opposed to resolution.

With all of that in mind, here are three distinct situations in which assertive communication is most appropriate.

Number one, protecting your rights.

This could include standing up to discrimination, rude comments, or saying no to things that take up your time and energy.

Situation two is communicating effectively.

For example, if you want to share a different opinion or express concern in a discussion.

And the third situation is maintaining self -confidence.

In other words, when you want to advocate for your needs or set boundaries to maintain your well -being.

To do that, here are five strategies for effective assertive communication.

Strategy number one, use I language.

Using I language puts the focus on your needs and wants rather than what someone else might be doing wrong.

This avoids placing blame and reduces the potential for conflict.

For example, instead of saying, it would be helpful.

If you took on this task, you could make a small change and say, I would appreciate it.

If you took on this task, these two sentences might sound very similar and in truth they are, but there is a little distinction between them.

The first one has this feeling that there is an insinuation,

an assumption that this particular individual hasn't been helpful and and doesn't want to be helpful.

Whereas the second sentence simply states what you would like to see happen.

No judgment, no blame, no assumptions.

Strategy number two is to use empowering language.

This means to avoid words that weaken your message such as just I'm sorry.

And I guess using these words can undermine your confidence and make you seem uncertain.

For example, instead of saying, sorry for bothering you, but could I have my ladder back?

You can say this instead.

I need to get my ladder back to finish painting my home.

When would be a good time for me to pick it up?

Strategy number three, to communicate in an assertive way is to be direct.

Now to be direct, you can avoid using words such as could and might.

These modals can make a request sound tentative.

Now, Now, to be clear, there is absolutely a time and place to use modals.

English speakers use them often for polite requests.

However, if you need to make a request and indicate that there is no wiggle room about it, that it is a direct need,

here's how you can do that.

Instead of saying, I was wondering if you could send me an update by the end of the day, you can say this instead.

Will you send me an update by the end of the day?

Strategy number four is to set clear boundaries.

This means to be clear about what you will and will not do without over explaining or apologizing.

This is particularly important when communicating with others who tend to be pushy or overstep your boundaries.

For example, instead of saying, I'm so sorry, but I don't think I can meet you on Friday.

You can say this instead.

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Instead, I can meet you on Saturday, but Friday won't work for me this week.

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Now, in that example, you may have noticed that my alternative included a proposed solution.

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And this is really helpful when setting those boundaries.

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For example, if you need to decline an invitation, providing that alternative sends the message that you're interested in maintaining the relationship,

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but also puts in place some clear limits.

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And now strategy number five, use scripts and rehearse.

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If you find it challenging to be assertive, writing a script and practicing it out loud in advance can be a powerful tool.

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Not only can scripts help you prepare for real life situations, making it easier to be assertive in the moment when you need to be.

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It also gets you more comfortable with this language.

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For this, let's take a look at an example script together.

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I want you to imagine that you are overwhelmed at work and you need to ask a colleague for assistance,

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but you're struggling with how to word that before you approach the conversation.

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You could try a script like this.

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Thank you so much for your support.

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I'm currently managing several other tasks that require my full attention, and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with my workload right now.

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Unfortunately, I won't be able to complete this project on time without some help.

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I would really appreciate your assistance with and then name the specific task.

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Now, something about rehearsing scripts.

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I don't want you to memorize it word for word.

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Memorizing leads to sounding like it is memorized in the moment, not like a real conversation.

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Instead, Instead, here's how you can approach using a script

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and rehearsing so that you feel comfortable saying what you need to say in the moment.

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First, go ahead and write out a script, just like the example I've shared with you.

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And then rather than reading it out loud, I want you to have those notes in front of you, but practice looking in the mirror,

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practice, maintaining eye contact, practice, keeping a very calm, relaxed tone of voice and volume and say what you need to say out loud.

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It's okay if it doesn't perfectly match what you wrote down.

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You're just using your notes, your script as a guide, and you can stop at any point, go back, look at those notes and do it again.

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The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll get with that language.

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And you'll also find a variety of ways to say what you need to say with assertive language while doing so.

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You now have five proven strategies to be assertive in English, ensuring that your needs, your wants,

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and your opinions are heard while also respecting others.

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So now I want to hear from you, which one of these strategies are you going to try first?

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I would love to hear from you and you can always share your comments

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and your questions with me down in the comments below.

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If you found this lesson helpful to you, I would love to know, And you can tell me in two very simple ways.

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Number one, give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube.

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And while you're at it, make sure you subscribe so you never miss one of my Confident English lessons.

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And number two, you can share a comment with me down below

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or go on over to my Speak Confident English website where you'll find this lesson and many resources for me,

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including my in -depth fluency training called how to get the confidence to say what you want.

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Thank you so much for joining me.

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And I look forward to seeing you next time.

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บทเรียนฝึกพูดนี้ใช้วิดีโอ “Be Direct and Polite in English with Assertive Communication” เป็นสื่อ คำที่ถูกพูดซ้ำบ่อยที่สุด: assertive, communication, English, example, script วิดีโอนี้มี 66 ประโยค และ 1895 คำ สำหรับฝึกพูดตาม ช่วงที่มีเสียงพูดยาว 12:45 ผู้พูดพูดด้วยความเร็วสม่ำเสมอ ประมาณ 149 คำต่อนาที เหมาะกับการฝึกพูดตาม 84% ของคำอยู่ใน 3,000 คำที่ใช้บ่อยที่สุดในภาษาอังกฤษ ส่วนที่เหลือควรดูไว้ก่อนเริ่มฝึก

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คำที่ควรเรียนรู้ 15 คำจากวิดีโอ พร้อมคำอ่านและความหมาย:

คำศัพท์	คำอ่าน	ความหมาย
lesson คำนาม	/ˈlɛs.ən/	บทเรียน
polite คำคุณศัพท์	/pəˈlaɪt/	สุภาพ
indicate คำกริยา	/ˈɪndɪˌkeɪt/	บ่งบอก
aggressive คำคุณศัพท์	/əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/	ก้าวร้าว, ออกตัวแรง
ladder คำนาม	/ˈlæd.ɚ/	กระได
mushroom คำนาม	/ˈmʌʃˌɹuːm/	เห็ด
meal คำนาม	/ˈmiːl/	อาหาร, มื้อ
mirror คำนาม	/ˈmiɹɚ/	กระจก, กระจกเงา
atmosphere คำนาม	/ˈætməsˌfɪɹ/	บรรยากาศ
pizza คำนาม	/ˈpi.tsə/	พิซซ่า
crystal คำนาม	/ˈkɹɪstəl/	ผลึก
bother คำกริยา	/ˈbɑðɚ/	รบกวน, กวน
discover คำกริยา	/dɪˈskʌvə/	ค้นพบ
discrimination คำนาม	/dɪskɹɪmɪˈneɪʃən/	การเลือกปฏิบัติ, การกีดกัน
steady คำคุณศัพท์	/ˈstɪdi/	มั่นคง

กริยาวลีที่คุณจะได้ยิน

คำศัพท์	ความหมาย
go back คำกริยา	กลับไป

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โครงสร้างที่ผู้พูดใช้บ่อยที่สุด พร้อมคำพูดจริงจากวิดีโอ:

โครงสร้าง	ในวิดีโอ
Passive voice be + กริยาช่อง 3 — เน้นสิ่งที่เกิดขึ้น ไม่ใช่ผู้กระทำ	is designed · is heard · are heard
Present perfect have/has + กริยาช่อง 3 — เหตุการณ์ในอดีตที่ยังเกี่ยวข้องกับปัจจุบัน	there's been · hasn't been · I've shared

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ผู้พูดใช้รูปย่อและรูปลดเสียง 29 ครั้ง เช่น you're, don't, I'm ให้พูดแบบสั้นตามที่ได้ยิน

เสียง “th”: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
เสียง “sh” และ “zh”: assumption /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, mushroom /ˈmʌʃˌɹuːm/, contrast /kənˈt(ʃ)ɹæst/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/
คำยาว — ลงเสียงหนักให้ถูกพยางค์: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/, contribution /ˌkɑntɹɪˈbjuʃən/, discrimination /dɪskɹɪmɪˈneɪʃən/

เสียงที่คนไทยมักออกเสียงยาก:

เสียงท้ายคำ — ออกเสียงให้ครบ ไม่เปลี่ยนเป็นตัวสะกดแบบไทย: passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, aggressive /əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/, meal /ˈmiːl/, whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, crystal /ˈkɹɪstəl/
/v/ — ไม่ใช่ /w/ ให้ฟันบนแตะริมฝีปากล่าง: passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, aggressive /əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/, discover /dɪˈskʌvə/, vital /ˈvaɪtəl/, involve /ɪnˈvɑlv/
/z/ — เสียงก้อง ไม่ใช่ /s/: whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, oppose /əˈpoʊz/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, memorize /ˈmɛm.əˌɹaɪ̯z/

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พูดตามทีละประโยคด้วยความเร็วปกติ ทำซ้ำแต่ละประโยคจนจังหวะของคุณตรงกับผู้พูด
อัดเสียงตัวเองแล้วเทียบกับต้นฉบับ โดยสังเกตคำอย่าง lesson, polite, indicate เป็นพิเศษ

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Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ

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