शैडोइंग अभ्यास: Be Direct and Polite in English with Assertive Communication | 5 Tips - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

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Let's imagine you're out to dinner with a group of friends.

You've been looking forward to this all week.

The waiter finally brings your meal and it's not what you ordered.

There are two ways you can respond in this situation.

Option one, excuse me.

I wonder if maybe there's been a mistake with this order.

If not, don't worry about it.

And option two, excuse me.

I believe there's been a mistake with this order.

I ordered the pasta with mushrooms, not the mushroom pizza.

Do you notice that one response is more direct and confident than the other?

The passive example places someone else's comfort above your own needs

while the assertive response calmly and confidently states what you need or what you want without any negative emotion.

So how can you confidently be assertive in English when you need to be direct,

clear, and polite, it, whether you're sharing your needs, wants, or ideas.

I have five specific strategies plus the language and sentence structures you need to help you do just that.

But quickly, if this is your first time here, welcome.

Welcome.

I am Anne Marie, an English confidence and fluency coach.

Everything I do is designed to help you get the confidence you want for your life and work in English.

If you'd love to discover hundreds of my English lessons, just like this one, you can find all of that and more over at my Speak Confident English website.

In fact, while you're there, you can also download my free in -depth fluency training called

how to get the confidence to say what you want in English.

Now, Now, before we dive into these five strategies on how to be assertive in your English, I want to take a step back and make sure

that we're crystal clear about the difference between passive and assertive communication and how both can be useful.

Moreover, I want to distinguish the difference between assertive and aggressive communication

so that you can be confident knowing that when you communicate assertively, it's still perfectly polite and appropriate.

So first let's talk about what exactly is passive communication.

We use this form of communication when a situation demands extremely polite and diplomatic communication,

or when it's vital to maintain a harmonious atmosphere.

However, passive communication can also lead to prioritizing others' needs, wants, and opinions above your own.

Moreover, it can sound submissive or overly polite, avoiding confrontation, even at the cost of your own needs.

In contrast to that, assertive communication means calmly and confidently stating your needs,

wants, and opinions, even in difficult situations.

It allows you to stand up for yourself while still respecting others, and it enables you to say no without feeling guilty.

Assertiveness is all about finding balance between being respectful and ensuring that your voice is heard.

To bring this all into focus, let's take a look at two example sentences.

Let's say, for example, that you're in the process of asking for a pay raise.

Again, you have two ways to do this.

Option one, I don't know if it's okay to ask, but I was wondering if I could get a pay raise.

And option two, I would like to discuss a possible pay raise.

I believe my contributions and skills warrant a raise at this time.

Do you notice that that passive response indicates hesitation and a lack of confidence?

It also avoids stating what your needs or wants are.

The assertive response, however, is clear, direct, and respectful.

It communicates your needs confidently while maintaining professionalism.

Now, all of that may be easier said than done.

I know assertive communication can be uncomfortable.

In fact, to be honest, it's occasionally difficult for me as well.

Like me, you might worry that assertive communication is rude or impolite, but let me assure you it is not.

To help, I want to clarify the difference between assertive and aggressive communication.

Assertive communication says I matter, And so do you.

It's about communicating your thoughts and your needs clearly and respectfully.

When communicating assertively, you keep your tone and volume calm.

And you make sure the focus is on ensuring that both parties or all parties involved in the conversation are heard.

On top of all of that, maintaining eye contact with your steady tone enhances your assertiveness,

indicating confidence without intimidation.

Aggressive communication on the other hand says I matter and you don't.

It involves expressing your needs and wants in a way that dismisses others.

This might include speaking loudly, rudely, or insensitively leading to confrontation as opposed to resolution.

With all of that in mind, here are three distinct situations in which assertive communication is most appropriate.

Number one, protecting your rights.

This could include standing up to discrimination, rude comments, or saying no to things that take up your time and energy.

Situation two is communicating effectively.

For example, if you want to share a different opinion or express concern in a discussion.

And the third situation is maintaining self -confidence.

In other words, when you want to advocate for your needs or set boundaries to maintain your well -being.

To do that, here are five strategies for effective assertive communication.

Strategy number one, use I language.

Using I language puts the focus on your needs and wants rather than what someone else might be doing wrong.

This avoids placing blame and reduces the potential for conflict.

For example, instead of saying, it would be helpful.

If you took on this task, you could make a small change and say, I would appreciate it.

If you took on this task, these two sentences might sound very similar and in truth they are, but there is a little distinction between them.

The first one has this feeling that there is an insinuation,

an assumption that this particular individual hasn't been helpful and and doesn't want to be helpful.

Whereas the second sentence simply states what you would like to see happen.

No judgment, no blame, no assumptions.

Strategy number two is to use empowering language.

This means to avoid words that weaken your message such as just I'm sorry.

And I guess using these words can undermine your confidence and make you seem uncertain.

For example, instead of saying, sorry for bothering you, but could I have my ladder back?

You can say this instead.

I need to get my ladder back to finish painting my home.

When would be a good time for me to pick it up?

Strategy number three, to communicate in an assertive way is to be direct.

Now to be direct, you can avoid using words such as could and might.

These modals can make a request sound tentative.

Now, Now, to be clear, there is absolutely a time and place to use modals.

English speakers use them often for polite requests.

However, if you need to make a request and indicate that there is no wiggle room about it, that it is a direct need,

here's how you can do that.

Instead of saying, I was wondering if you could send me an update by the end of the day, you can say this instead.

Will you send me an update by the end of the day?

Strategy number four is to set clear boundaries.

This means to be clear about what you will and will not do without over explaining or apologizing.

This is particularly important when communicating with others who tend to be pushy or overstep your boundaries.

For example, instead of saying, I'm so sorry, but I don't think I can meet you on Friday.

You can say this instead.

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Instead, I can meet you on Saturday, but Friday won't work for me this week.

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Now, in that example, you may have noticed that my alternative included a proposed solution.

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And this is really helpful when setting those boundaries.

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For example, if you need to decline an invitation, providing that alternative sends the message that you're interested in maintaining the relationship,

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but also puts in place some clear limits.

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And now strategy number five, use scripts and rehearse.

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If you find it challenging to be assertive, writing a script and practicing it out loud in advance can be a powerful tool.

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Not only can scripts help you prepare for real life situations, making it easier to be assertive in the moment when you need to be.

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It also gets you more comfortable with this language.

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For this, let's take a look at an example script together.

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I want you to imagine that you are overwhelmed at work and you need to ask a colleague for assistance,

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but you're struggling with how to word that before you approach the conversation.

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You could try a script like this.

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Thank you so much for your support.

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I'm currently managing several other tasks that require my full attention, and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed with my workload right now.

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Unfortunately, I won't be able to complete this project on time without some help.

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I would really appreciate your assistance with and then name the specific task.

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Now, something about rehearsing scripts.

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I don't want you to memorize it word for word.

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Memorizing leads to sounding like it is memorized in the moment, not like a real conversation.

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Instead, Instead, here's how you can approach using a script

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and rehearsing so that you feel comfortable saying what you need to say in the moment.

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First, go ahead and write out a script, just like the example I've shared with you.

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And then rather than reading it out loud, I want you to have those notes in front of you, but practice looking in the mirror,

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practice, maintaining eye contact, practice, keeping a very calm, relaxed tone of voice and volume and say what you need to say out loud.

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It's okay if it doesn't perfectly match what you wrote down.

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You're just using your notes, your script as a guide, and you can stop at any point, go back, look at those notes and do it again.

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The more you practice, the more comfortable you'll get with that language.

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And you'll also find a variety of ways to say what you need to say with assertive language while doing so.

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You now have five proven strategies to be assertive in English, ensuring that your needs, your wants,

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and your opinions are heard while also respecting others.

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So now I want to hear from you, which one of these strategies are you going to try first?

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I would love to hear from you and you can always share your comments

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and your questions with me down in the comments below.

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If you found this lesson helpful to you, I would love to know, And you can tell me in two very simple ways.

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Number one, give this lesson a thumbs up here on YouTube.

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And while you're at it, make sure you subscribe so you never miss one of my Confident English lessons.

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And number two, you can share a comment with me down below

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or go on over to my Speak Confident English website where you'll find this lesson and many resources for me,

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including my in -depth fluency training called how to get the confidence to say what you want.

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Thank you so much for joining me.

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And I look forward to seeing you next time.

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यह स्पीकिंग पाठ वीडियो “Be Direct and Polite in English with Assertive Communication” पर आधारित है। सबसे ज़्यादा दोहराए गए शब्द ये हैं: assertive, communication, English, example, script। इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 66 वाक्य और 1895 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 12:45 लंबा है। वक्ता लगभग 149 शब्द प्रति मिनट की स्थिर गति से बोलता है, जो शैडोइंग के लिए आरामदायक है। 84% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं; बाकी शब्द अभ्यास से पहले देख लेना अच्छा रहेगा।

इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली

वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
script संज्ञा	/skɹɪpt/	लिपि, लेखन
lesson संज्ञा	/ˈlɛs.ən/	पाठ, सबक़
helpful विशेषण	/ˈhɛlp.fl̩/	मददगार
passive विशेषण	/ˈpæs.ɪv/	निष्क्रिय
polite विशेषण	/pəˈlaɪt/	सभ्य, विनम्र
boundary संज्ञा	/ˈbaʊndɹi/	सीमा
indicate क्रिया	/ˈɪndɪˌkeɪt/	सूचित करना, संकेत करना
aggressive विशेषण	/əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/	आक्रमणकारक, जंगी
rude विशेषण	/ɹuːd/	उद्दंड, बदतमीज़
ladder संज्ञा	/ˈlæd.ɚ/	सीढ़ी
confrontation संज्ञा	/ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/	मुक़ाबला, आमना-सामना
respectful विशेषण	/ɹɪˈspɛkt.fl̩/	सम्मानपूर्वक
meal संज्ञा	/ˈmiːl/	भोजन, जेमन
mirror संज्ञा	/ˈmiɹɚ/	दर्पण, शीशा
atmosphere संज्ञा	/ˈætməsˌfɪɹ/	वायुमण्डल, वायुमंडल

वीडियो में आने वाली फ़्रेज़ल वर्ब

शब्द	उच्चारण	अर्थ
go ahead क्रिया	/ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/	आगे बढ़ना

इस वीडियो का व्याकरण

वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:

संरचना	वीडियो में
Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है	is designed · is heard · are heard
Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है	there's been · hasn't been · I've shared

ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण

वक्ता 29 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे you're, don't, I'm। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।

“th” की ध्वनियाँ: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
“sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: assumption /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, mushroom /ˈmʌʃˌɹuːm/, contrast /kənˈt(ʃ)ɹæst/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/
लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/, contribution /ˌkɑntɹɪˈbjuʃən/, discrimination /dɪskɹɪmɪˈneɪʃən/

हिंदी भाषियों के लिए मुश्किल ध्वनियाँ:

/v/ और /w/ का फ़र्क़ — /v/ में ऊपर के दाँत निचले होंठ को छूते हैं, /w/ में होंठ गोल होते हैं: passive /ˈpæs.ɪv/, aggressive /əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/, whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, discover /dɪˈskʌvə/, vital /ˈvaɪtəl/
/z/ — इसे “ज” (/dʒ/) न बनाएँ: whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, oppose /əˈpoʊz/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, memorize /ˈmɛm.əˌɹaɪ̯z/
शब्द की शुरुआत में s + व्यंजन — पहले “इ” न जोड़ें: script /skɹɪpt/, steady /ˈstɪdi/

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अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर script, lesson, helpful जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।

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