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We all know that to be loved is to be known.

But how do you become known enough to be loved?

How known do you have to be to be deserving of love?

No one ever tells you how to get there.

Are you someone who's still figuring out how to get there?

So I'm going to tell you two stories today.

I'm going to tell you the story of how I became known and the story of how I became loved.

So I'm not sure if a lot of you know this, but five years ago, I was on Brat TV.

Brat TV is a production company that makes original shows on YouTube geared toward Gen Z audiences, as well as the following amazing meme.

So much you don't know about me.

Like what are you like, axe murderer?

Worse What?

I'm a gamer.

If you know chicken girls that was brat TV, so I was on chicken girls is lesser-known cousin Charmers, it was a show about 14 witches one of

which was me at a summer camp who use magic to fight off Really terrifying demons

and protect their camp while still managing to have time for crushes and things like that I had my first film kiss.

I hope you do It was on the cheek, but you know, it still counts.

One unique thing about Brat TV

that you wouldn't know unless you watched a single one of their shows is that they primarily hire influencers as the actors.

Many A-list influencers made their acting debut on Brat TV.

Dixie D'Amelio, Nia from Dance Moms, and all of the ex-members of Piper Raquel's The Squad.

Those were the girls on my show.

Collectively, on all of their platforms combined, they had 20 million followers.

And they were all younger than me.

I, on the other hand, entered into the Brat TV multiverse the old-fashioned way, where I submitted a self-tape, somehow got a callback, did the callback, got the role.

Before the show, I didn't know anything about influencing.

I didn't even have TikTok.

That sounds so crazy saying it now, but the point is, I was a complete culture shock to the girls, as they were to me.

So naturally, we just didn't really get along at first, because we just didn't speak the same language.

I felt such imposter syndrome.

I was intimidated as fuck by these girls who were two, three years younger than me.

Some of whom are now close friends.

But at the same time, I was so deeply inspired by what they did.

These girls built their platforms from the ground up.

They were paying adult bills by making 15 second dance videos in between camera setup.

I remember the first time I appeared on one of their stories.

I gained like 3,000 followers on Instagram overnight.

And then I hit 10k in like a month.

Growing up, my dream was always to be an actress.

I had this dream in part maybe because I was in it for the craft and I wanted to act really good.

But I think most of all, I just wanted to be famous.

I want it to be known.

I followed this acting dream all the way to Los Angeles to Arts High School where I studied acting

and I'm still following it at Yale.

But it isn't lost on me that regardless of what you say your motivation is, your end goal, your definition of success is defined by recognition.

You know you've made it

when people know who you are thus traumers made me realize something important

that there was a Shortcut to help me get known

and I downloaded that damning clock app and opened up a YouTube account

and began recording My life as much as possible and posting vlogs

which most of you are here for not this bullshit Whatever it is and I did all this telling everyone.

Oh, yeah I just want to document my life record my favorite memories with my favorite people Remember

and cherish the small moments of life blah blah blah

But ultimately it was to further this dream of being known

and I say

that I wanted to be known like it's a confession Like it's something that's slightly shameful maybe telling you guys

that I wanted so badly to be known is a bad idea

But I actually think

that it isn't at all the desire to be known is

ancient it predates tick-tock it predates Hollywood It predates the printing

press the first two cavemen to ever exist had to want

to be known by each other It's in every piece of art that has ever been made.

This need to reach across whatever distance exists between you and another person and say, I was here.

I was real.

Did you feel that?

The desire to be known is natural and human.

There's a philosopher, Axel Honneth, who spent his entire career studying the human need to be known.

And his argument is that it's not about vanity or weakness.

It is a fundamental psychological need, as basic as food or shelter.

You can't develop a stable sense of self without it.

Children who are not seen and acknowledged do not develop basic social communication skills.

We are wired for recognition.

So the problem isn't the desire itself.

It's the fact that we can now measure it.

I propose that being known is particularly powerful to our generation

because we are the first people in history who grew up being able to put our knownness on a scale

and get a literal numeric answer.

Follower count, friend count, how many people came to your last birthday party.

We were the first generation who could quantify belonging.

In a world where everything else is constantly unstable and changing, we are bound to opt for the easily accessible and understandable metrics that spell out an easy answer of who we are,

that claim to know us.

The sociologist Zygmunt Bauman wrote about this, a concept he called liquid modernity.

Essentially, it claims that in the past, the world used to be solid, meaning that your identity was mainly just handed to you.

Your class, your religion, your socioeconomic status, your community, your role within that community.

You knew exactly who you were because the structure told you.

That sounds limiting, right?

And it was.

But it also meant that you were solid.

That you didn't have to constantly construct yourself.

You knew who you were.

And who you would likely be for the rest of your life.

What happened between then and now, Bauman says, is that civilization developed and these structures slowly dissolved.

The old certainties melted and in their place was unlimited freedom.

Which sounds exciting, right?

But with this freedom comes a price.

A specific kind of anxiety.

As they say, the anxious generation.

Because now, identity isn't something that you have.

In fact, it is pointedly something that you don't have.

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It's something that you have to build and rebuild every single day.

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In liquid modernity, identity becomes a site of constant tension and struggle, a forced globe, a taste profile update.

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Also in this liquid world, the original old-fashioned foundation, yeah, remember her?

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She hasn't fully dissolved.

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In fact, it's probably the only thing left of the solid world.

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The supposed free-for-all exploration of identity goes hand-in-hand with the strict rules of consumer society.

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You can only choose an identity that you can afford.

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You don't discover yourself, you purchase yourself.

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You curate yourself.

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And no one's gonna give you the money to just discover who you are.

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You had to bring it from home.

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That doesn't sound very fair, does it?

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So what we can say is that the desire to be known is valid.

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It's not the problem.

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It's just that the knownness measurement method that we're using right now just isn't the real thing.

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And here's how we know that it's not the real thing.

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We have a literal loneliness epidemic.

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Our generation is statistically the loneliest generation recorded in history.

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Holy shit.

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Yet at the same time, we are the most connected generation in recorded history.

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We have more access to each other, more tools to contact each other than any human beings who have ever lived.

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The most connected and the loneliest at the same time.

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All of this is not a coincidence.

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We're mistaking knownness for something that it isn't.

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We have collective fake knownness syndrome.

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So what is the real thing?

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Lucky for us, Harvard has been running a study on this since 1938.

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The longest happiness study ever done.

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85 years and counting tracking thousands of people through their entire lives.

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And after all of that data, all those decades, the conclusion is almost embarrassingly simple.

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The single best predictor of our long-term happiness and health is the quality of our relationships, our close relationships.

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They act as a literal health supplement, helping to delay physical and mental decline.

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They are better predictors of longevity than even social class, IQ, or genes.

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There was this nurse, Bronnie Ware, who in the mid-2000s spent years sitting with people in the last week of their lives.

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And she would write down what they said, what they regretted, what they wish they'd done differently.

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She eventually published the five most common ones.

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And I want to read them to you guys.

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The number one regret was I wish I had had the courage to live a life true to myself.

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Number two was I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

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Number three was I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

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Number four was I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

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And number five was I wish I had let myself be happier.

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The things that we spend so much energy on, our social standing, our image, They didn't show up not even once.

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Okay pause.

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I will say this being known is at times about your social standing

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and that's okay It's okay to care about being well liked as I said before that's natural

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and that's human But that can't be all

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that we care about It can't even be the first thing

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or the most important thing

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that we care about there needs to be a shifting of

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priorities Let's go back to Hanath for a second here

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because according to him recognition isn't just one thing It actually comes in different forms There's the recognition that comes from love, from people who know you intimately.

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Then there's recognition as general respect, like being seen as a human being.

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And then there's social esteem.

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Your reputation, status, what people say about you when you leave the room.

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Hanath found that social esteem is the most hollow form of recognition.

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When it's decoupled from the other two forms, it loses any value of its own.

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In other words, if you don't have the other two, it doesn't do you any good by itself.

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So let's get back on track.

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What is the right way of becoming known?

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There is this new internet word bot, which is used to describe a person who is going through life on auto mode, like an MPC.

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I can't lie, I've used it many times to describe an op, or a co-worker, or a friend's ex-boyfriend, or a friend's current boyfriend, and I've used it many times to describe myself,

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in moments when my anxiety kicks in and I don't perform my best in a social setting, botting out, as we would say.

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I've been struggling a lot with the hollowness of feeling recognized, yet not known.

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I still struggle with feeling that I'm someone that matters when I'm just being my plain old self.

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But there are certain people who make me feel like I can just bot out around them.

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Like I can be as NPC, as cringy, as stupid as I want and they won't judge me.

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They'll still see me for who I am.

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In fact, it's not even that I can bot out around them.

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It's that I'll never bot out around them because they've already accepted me for who I am.

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I don't need to put on any performance because I know I'm already not a bot to them.

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To them, I have the innate characteristic of being a real person.

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For example, I remarked to my boyfriend after a particularly wonderful and deep conversation that we had, Oh my god, I'm so glad that we're not bots.

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We are people who think and feel deeply and have meaningful things to say about the world to each other.

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But then it dawned on me that this is not at all specific to me and my boyfriend, nor is it specific to me and my best friend, or my mom, or my brother.

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No one is a bot to their person.

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We all have that person.

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That set of people that make us feel awesomely, beautifully real.

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And we need, need, need to lean into that.

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To pour your heart and soul and energy and love into those relationships because that is what makes you real.

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There is a hunger right now for realness.

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And I think that's actually a good sign because you can't be hungry for something that you've never tasted before.

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The fact that we feel this absence, this loneliness so deeply, means that we know what the real thing feels like.

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The relief of being with someone who makes you real.

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Who knows you better than you know yourself.

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Who needs you to be nothing more than what you already are.

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We know what we're looking for.

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We just have to remember to keep reaching for the right thing.

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I hope you enjoyed and don't forget to give it a like and subscribe.

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I'll see you guys in the next one.

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Bye!

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We'll praise you.

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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları

Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “for those who are constantly lonely” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 191 cümle ve 2345 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 11:03 sürüyor. Konuşmacı hızlı konuşuyor, dakikada yaklaşık 212 kelime; bu yüzden birbirine bağlanan ve zayıflayan sesler duyacaksınız. Kelimelerin %83’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.

Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler

Videodaki en ileri düzey 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:

Kelime	Telaffuz	Anlam
follower isim	/ˈfɒləʊə(ɹ)/	takipçi
callback isim		geri çağırma
influencer isim	/ˈɪnflu.ənsə(ɹ)/	influencer
loneliness isim	/ˈloʊnlinəs/	yalnızlık
bot isim	/bɑt/	bot
innate sıfat	/ɪˈneɪt/	doğuştan, yaratılıştan
intimidate fiil	/ɪnˈtɪmɪdeɪt/	sindirmek, yıldırmak
multiverse isim	/ˈmʌltəˌvɝs/	multiverse
sociologist isim		sosyolog
terrify fiil	/ˈtɛɹɪfaɪ/	dehşete düşürmek
longevity isim	/lɒnˈd͡ʒɛv.ɪ.ti/	uzun ömürlülük
philosopher isim	/fəˈlɑsəfɚ/	felsefeci, filozof
vanity isim	/ˈvænəti/	gurur
understandable sıfat		anlaşılabilir, kavranabilir
tick isim	/tɪk/	kene, sakırga

Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller

Kelime	Anlam
grow up fiil	büyümek, yetişmek
figure out fiil	açığa çıkarmak
show up fiil	ortaya çıkmak

Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler

Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:

How known do you have to be to be deserving of love?
Are you someone who's still figuring out how to get there?
Before the show, I didn't know anything about influencing.
Did you feel that?
It's the fact that we can now measure it.

Bu videodaki dil bilgisi

Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:

Yapı	Videoda
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem	has been running · I've been struggling
Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli	be loved · was intimidated · be known
İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi	Children who are · people who know · bot, which is
Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem	you've made · has ever been made · have ever lived

Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar

Konuşmacı I'm, don't, isn't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 57 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.

“sh” ve “zh” sesleri: cherish /ˈt͡ʃɛɹɪʃ/, shameful /ˈʃeɪmfəl/, confession /kənˈfɛʃən/, civilization /ˌsɪv.ɪ.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/, measurement /ˈmɛʒ.ə.mənt/
Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: influencer /ˈɪnflu.ənsə(ɹ)/, modernity /məˈdɝnɪti/, embarrassingly /əmˈbɛɹəsɪŋli/, intimately /ˈɪntɪmətli/, intimidate /ɪnˈtɪmɪdeɪt/

Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır

Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; follower, callback, influencer gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.

Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?

Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.

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