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Hello.
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I am so excited for today's topic because it's been brewing in my mind for
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probably two months and I have a few videos
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that I've been brewing in my mind for about two months
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but I've been like waiting to get to the point where
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I feel like I have a conclusion on these topics
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and despite not having like a conclusion conclusion I know how to communicate the idea
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and the thing that I want to talk about is being yourself.
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It is such a broad concept and growing up people are just like a lot of people,
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celebrities are like what would you tell somebody who wants to
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pursue their dreams or wants to be where you are right now
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or what would you tell people who are struggling
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and a lot of the time people say be yourself right
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and I've always heard that I'm like okay like heard a million times before whatever
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but this year I finally started taking
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that personally like I started making it a personal mission to be myself
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and that has never been a mission before
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because I always was trying to be a version of myself that pleased whoever I'm with.
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So I would change myself at least slightly to be like tolerable to whatever person I'm with,
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whether that be friends or relationship or acquaintances or whatever I'm just trying to come off as
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not too much um tolerable and pleasant okay
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so these things were my priority not who does name
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I want to be in this moment what do I feel like doing right
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now it was always about other people and I recently decentered that and
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that came obviously after doing a lot of self -discovery the reason I'm making this video right now is
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because I just watched a Miley Cyrus oh you're kidding there's I really hope that's not here.
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The leaf blower.
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I'm just going to talk loud because this is important.
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I just watched a Miley Cyrus documentary about her bangers controversial era.
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I recently had the privilege of going to the Hannah Montana premiere.
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Okay.
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She was right in front of my face.
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She was directly in front of me and I have loved that woman since I was a wee kid.
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Okay.
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I used to wear her wigs and sing her songs
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and dance like crazy and tell people in elementary school
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that she was my cousin like I adore Hannah Montana
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and I recently saw her in the flesh
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and I saw something in her
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that I haven't seen probably since I was a kid like something
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that I admired about her a lot
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and it was her her shamelessness like she is
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so proud to be who she is
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and she said nobody taught her to be like
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that this is who just who she is and
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but who she is is herself right
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she doesn't let other people dictate how she acts what she says what she looks like what anything
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she has never let anyone dictate anything she has always prioritized fun
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and being herself and expressing herself and that is what has made her life
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so vibrant and in the premiere she talks about how lucky she is to be in the position
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that she's in and how grateful she is
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that she even has this spot and it's because she's lived
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so much of her life authentically like no matter how controversial something may have been she was proud of it
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and she owned it because it was what she felt like doing in the moment okay
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and that's something that inspired me a lot as a kid but obviously
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that sparkle dulled as I started caring about what people perceived
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about me obviously as we all do I feel like at a certain age we become conscious
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and we're like oh wait I shouldn't be myself
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because it causes this problem or I shouldn't be like this
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because it's weird and they will judge me or I shouldn't say
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that or I shouldn't talk about this we just learn how to mute ourselves until we are adults
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that literally can't even find what we like and who we are.
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So self -discovery is like very hard sometimes
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and like even like knowing who you are is very difficult
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but like I said I've recently made it my mission
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and I've discussed this before it's after seeing so many women be authentically themselves and be adored for it okay.
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So for example, Alyssa Liu,
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she just recently won the gold medal for figure skating in the Olympics.
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And she retired from skating before this to find out what she liked, to find out what her interests are,
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because her whole life was this thing that was controlled and dictated by other people.
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Like, her skating career beforehand was like she was told what
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to eat what to wear what music to dance to how how often to practice whatever
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so she retired she left figure skating behind
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and decided to pursue her interests and find out what she likes
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and who she is and whatever
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and then she ended up coming back to the sport fully owning every aspect of it
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and coming out on top but
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while having fun doing it like it happened with fun and
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if you haven't seen her performance please look it up I have watched it several times just
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because it's so beautiful to see her in her joy
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and fully do something that she loves
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and not for the sake of I hope everyone likes this or for even like the sake of the sport.
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She was just having fun putting on a performance for everyone to see.
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She was just having fun.
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Same thing with Miley Cyrus.
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Another thing, Amaya from Love Island.
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If these are concepts or things that you've never heard of, I'm sorry, but Amaya from Love Island,
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she was a very bubbly personality and was on the island considered too much,
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but to the rest of America that was watching, everyone adored her.
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She ended up becoming America's favorite because of how authentic she was.
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And that is such a beautiful thing to possess.
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I fortunately am around a lot of people who are very unapologetically themselves.
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It takes a lot of bravery and authenticity to make it in an industry like this,
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but also to maintain maintain your position in an industry like this, like social media.
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And anybody who has ever blown up,
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okay, become a celebrity, or has ever been successful,
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has been unapologetically themselves in one way
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or another lady gaga beyonce like people they find out what they like
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and go full force and do it
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and it doesn't have to be entertainment obviously the point is
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that finding out who you are and doing what you like is the purpose
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that is what the point is is to be yourself more
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and more every day
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because then you live the most incredible life the most incredible like fulfilling successful life
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because you are being yourself and when you are yourself everything
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that aligns with who you are comes to you and
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so everything fits perfectly like it's a puzzle okay so how does one be themselves how does one
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how did I go about this mission of how can I be myself it was through trial
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and error and being willing to be afraid
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or embarrassed at the expense of being myself because not being myself hurts me more than being myself.
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If I'm myself and it hurts, at least I was myself.
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So I was at least a little bit more comfortable, you know, but if it hurts and I wasn't myself, it is like double bad.
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So I started practicing little by little, like if I don't, I always want to be polite, right?
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If I don't feel like smiling, I'm not smiling.
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Okay. If, if my body's telling me I need to sit down away from everyone
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i'm gonna go sit down away from everyone
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and i just cross my fingers and hopes that and hope
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that nobody takes it the wrong way and I keep testing it
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and testing it and testing it and testing it
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and um oh my god I hope that that's not too loud I'm
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so sorry um I keep testing it
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and seeing how much I can get away with and every time I am met with no danger
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I am met with no danger like it it always has not mattered
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that I end up doing the thing that was true to me
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and that comes with setting boundaries um having conversations with people
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that I otherwise would not have because I was too afraid of like losing them or whatever
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every time that I was myself every time I had an authentic conversation or communicated how I felt it made everything stronger.
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It has made everything stronger rather than letting everything live in my mind
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and having so much tension and like regret and embarrassment and insecurity and being myself.
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I started to be myself in my actions more bravely over
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and over and over and over again until I kind of became used to it
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and I am so me like I am I get
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so hyper I get so excited I get so happy um
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and I get loud and I make a lot I'm a very expressive person
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and I'm a very active listener and there are certain things I do
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that like other people don't do that I used to be embarrassed about
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but now I'm like very glad that they are my qualities
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because that's what makes me me okay like I'm gonna be
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me for the rest of my life what makes me me and obviously
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because I'm me the more I'm me honestly the more
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I like myself I think I didn't like myself the most
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when I didn't let myself be who I am Whenever I was clouded by what people said about me
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or what people would say to me or what people would do to me
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or my environment or toxicity or whatever it is, I would not allow myself to be who I am.
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And that caused a lot of negative thinking.
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It caused a lot of self -destruction and it caused a lot of insecurity and depression.
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And it was not a life I like to live.
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Okay.
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It was not, it was not pleasant for a very long time.
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And recently I went sober like over a year ago and I have come, I had to become comfortable in my own skin.
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I had to be comfortable being in social situations with no buffer.
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Okay.
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Going to parties, seeing hundreds of people with no buffer dancing all night with no embarrassment
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and just putting myself out there more often and more often more often
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and practice really does make perfect and the little things
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that I would do no matter how small the thing is okay
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it literally could be like I just feel like having like a resting face right
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now instead of smiling really hard because I want the other person not to think
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that I am mad at them or something like there's
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so many ridiculous things that I find myself doing
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because I want to make sure the other person is comfortable
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but more often than not they are very understanding like human beings are very understanding
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and also when a human being sees you be yourself they feel more comfortable being themselves
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and the walls feel like they drop the judgment is not there
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and I love I love being that person I love being a vessel for
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that I love that this is a journey that I started
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because I know it is one that inspires because it inspires me
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so much to see people be who they are and be who they are so proudly.
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And I have recently owned the things that I am.
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And it's very weird because I've done a lot of like self -love talk
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and manifestation talk on this channel and like how much I love myself and prioritize my well -being and blah blah blah.
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But there are a lot of things I didn't come to accept until very recently about myself
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and it has be it is literally
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because I made it my mission to be myself I'm not kidding okay so for example I never considered myself
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a pretty person before a few months ago i'm sorry
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if that's loud um or even a nice person and it was
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because i always felt bad saying these things to myself
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because it i feel like there's been like this thing of like it's stuck up for women to think
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that about themselves and it's better for people to be humble
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so i literally would not even entertain those kind of thoughts whenever they would arise
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or even embody that mindset of course i would say oh like of course i believe i'm beautiful
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and i believe i'm a good person but it wasn't something that i really
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acknowledged in my inner world that like i am a nice person
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and it's okay to think that i'm a nice person um i am pretty
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and it's okay to think
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that i am pretty like it doesn't make me vain it is just acknowledging that I love myself, that I like myself and I love myself.
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And so I started allowing myself to tell myself these things.
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Like I gave myself permission finally to like myself.
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And it is so crazy how quickly these little things can add up because it may sound so insane,
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but I used to not be able to like look at myself in the mirror
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and now I look in the mirror and I'm like oh my god I'm
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so gorgeous like oh woke up gorgeous again like it's crazy it sounds
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so crazy um but it is so it feels amazing it feels incredible to acknowledge
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like what I love about who I am and along with
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that obviously I've made it just in being nicer to myself
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I've made a lot of other discoveries about my personality I used to think my personality was really weird
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or off -putting or um I don't know like just just really weird like
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I don't want to be myself too much just
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so I don't make other people uncomfortable that was obviously something learned through trauma
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and stuff but now I am so proud of my mindset
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and my perspective on things and how I speak and like how I show up for people and like I feel like
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embarrassment is now something that I'm not super scared of
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and I would rather be embarrassed than and shrink myself and
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that is not a thing
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that I adopted before like there are there are several moments where now I speak up versus staying quiet
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or like join a conversation whenever I want to join a conversation
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or walk up to people that are already having conversation
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and like these are things
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that I used to avoid just for the sake of like oh I don't want to be embarrassed in case
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like I don't know they don't want to talk to me or what I say isn't acknowledged or whatever
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um
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and I let myself be the center of attention that's something
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I also would not allow myself to do is like I never I didn't have a quinceanera
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because I didn't want to be the center of attention I hated the idea of attention um
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because I was so insecure and I was judged
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so heavily in middle school that I was like in high school
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that I was like oh my god please no party with
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eyes on me please no like that's like my biggest nightmare I don't want that
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So I'm now learning, like, I actually want to be comfortable being perceived.
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That is something that I want to have on my belt as I grow older.
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Like, I want that to be in my toolbox is being comfortable being perceived.
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Because that always leads to a more beautiful life,
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more opportunities, richer friendships and connections and just everything, right?
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I saw recently a video of a woman talking about fame energy and famous people energy.
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And what she said is famous energy is comfort in being perceived.
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It's relentless presence without a fear of being perceived.
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It's being, being present in who you are with no restrictions while be being perceived.
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So that is the it factor for celebrities, right?
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And I'm like, I want to have that.
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I want to have that quality.
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I want to have the ability to, to be perceived and not be scared of it
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and not shrink away so the only way to get better at
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that is to practice
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and guys trust me i did i would fall flat on my face
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sometimes like i would like be like i really like your outfit and the person just looks at me like
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And I'm like, oh, okay.
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But it's better that I spoke up rather than say nothing because not being myself feels worse.
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And what was I going to say about failing, falling on my face?
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Now, when I do fall on my face, when I face a situation and it doesn't go the way
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that I anticipate it to go because I'm being myself and it's like a new thing.
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Like, for example, like walking up to people and then they suddenly disperse just because whatever.
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I go and find my thing.
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I now am learning to navigate situations like going wrong or going awry or situations just going naturally.
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Okay.
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Situations being unpredictable is now okay with me because I am practicing putting myself in there.
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And then when the unpredictable happens, I'm like, okay, now I can figure out what to do.
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And then I figure out what to do and everything ends up being okay.
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Because all I have to do is ask myself, what do I want to do?
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Do I want to go get a glass of water?
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Do I want to go draw in my journal?
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Do I want to go back home?
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I don't know.
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There's like, I'm being very broad with this and I hope that it's like making sense,
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but what I want to do is most important all the time.
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And I was just taking notes on the Miley Cyrus documentary.
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Let me actually, um, read you some of the things that I took notes on because I believe they would be helpful.
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Um, she said, don't be afraid to make anything because it could turn out to be a gem.
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What's important is you loving it.
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Um, continue to do what you want, how you want.
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That's what Pharrell told
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Miley in her process of finding out who she is.
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Her like, her short hair era where it was dyed blonde he said yes to everything she wanted to do
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because he wanted her to really find out what her interests are
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and what her likes are and only
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that way are you really able to find your sound
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and like how you want to navigate things so he gave her permission
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and actually encouraged like do what you want how you want to do it period
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and now you are the boss of your life
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you can tell yourself to do what you want how you want to do it
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and everything else will fall into place um
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she she is like i just want to have fun i don't want to have fun
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and she said
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if you're about to drown you're gonna swim you're gonna learn
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you're gonna start kicking your feet you're gonna learn she said this regarding
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when things go wrong or when negative negativity happens or hate happens or whatever if really just goes to shit.
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She's like, if you're drowning, you're going to swim, you're going to kick your feet, you're going to learn.
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So no matter what, she knows it's going to be okay.
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Even at the worst case scenario, we naturally innately within ourselves will, will get ourselves out of that scenario,
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help ourselves out of that scenario because we have survival instincts.
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So it is very comforting to hear such like a hear a perspective like
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that on negative situations because I feel like we avoid them at all costs
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but we don't really acknowledge how often we've gotten out of like rock bottom
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we've gotten out of rock bottom plenty of times
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and have come out better people and
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so it's okay to go toward the thing that's scary
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because you're gonna learn how to navigate it
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and you might as well do that
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if it's authentic to what you want to do um she said i'm not scared
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or insecure about anything i'm used to people judging me
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and knocking me down so i'm used to getting back up
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and her saying that she's used to it personally hit for me
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because i am also like i have never used it in
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that way i've never i've never thought about negativity in
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that way like people being negative towards me or treating me bad or whatever.
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I've never considered myself used to it or getting used to knocking down, getting knocked down.
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But the truth is like, my life has been so turbulent that I am like,
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I know what falling down looks like and feels like I know what negativity looks like and feels like.
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And I have survived every single punch
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and I have gotten up every single time so her saying
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so I'm used to getting back up is like I like putting it in like
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or being able to relate to that is really good for this particular journey because it's like, it's true.
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We get back up every time.
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Um, I'm just smiling, having fun, living life.
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Like literally her having fun is the most important thing to her.
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And that is also the attitude
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that I've been applying towards
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this entire journey too is like how can I have more
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fun how can I be more me like what am I going to do
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that makes me happy right now even if it makes everyone around me upset
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if it doesn't make them happy if it makes them disappointed
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because truly this is my life
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and everyone will get a better version of me whenever
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I do what I want to do what I love to do
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and how I want to do it because the more I restrict myself
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or bend myself backwards to make other people happy I am not the best version of myself
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and the more that I've been prioritizing myself
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and my energy I am like ecstatic to be around my friends
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and love my friends and call my friends
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and hang out with my friends and show them love
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and support and it's not for no reason it's
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because I am letting myself do that I'm copying what I do with myself with everyone around me,
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you know, like I it is so in my nature to do it that when I'm around others,
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all I want to do is uplift and show them the beauty
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that they possess and how wonderful they are and how wonderful who they are is.
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And that is all I want to encourage.
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It's not all I want to encourage, but it's something I really want to encourage in this lifetime is like,
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I hope I get to meet as many people as I can
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and tell every single one of them how much their existence means like how incredible
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this person is how incredible what this person does is
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and I am very fortunate to to like I I live in a house full of loving adoring incredible people
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that are just as uplifting and encouraging and we list our gratitudes every day
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and we call each other like beautiful names
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and are always hyping each other up
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and telling each other what's wonderful about each other and
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because of that I'm able to spread it even further and wider
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and I'm getting to practice who I really am like who
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I am is I want to I don't want people to hide their flaws
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I want people to know that their flaws are perfect and that you being who you are is perfect.
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You being who you are is perfect because, because I wish I had that.
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Um, but it wasn't even when people tried to tell me that I didn't believe it.
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So it's like something I hope to share energetically.
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It's something that I hope to, I just hope that I can love well enough that that just naturally comes out of my existence,
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that people want to be themselves or people want to love themselves more or people have a better day um
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sorry I'm getting a little emotional um like it really is a dream come true to make
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people happy and that's something that I can also acknowledge without shame
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which like beforehand I feel like it sounds like very cocky
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but truly like it is like it's like my favorite thing like
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Maya Cyrus for example she's like I love making people laugh
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like I always want to be the goofy silly one
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I want to get as many laughs as possible around the room
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so she has just been funny since she was a kid gaggy since she was a kid
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and it's still her goal because she loves to entertain
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and for me it's just that I love spreading joy
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and love I love making people smile I love um elevating someone's mood I love um making people feel better
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or good about themselves
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or just like good about their existence I love giving people different perspectives on how incredible they are
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because I don't know like that's just that's just what makes me really really really happy
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and I almost like challenge myself
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to do it even better every day
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because there truly aren't words to express how wonderful i think everyone around me is
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and i can try my best to express it with my words
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and my actions and like encouragement and whatever
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but it really will never no matter what i do it will never be enough
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because an existence cannot be boiled down to words.
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It cannot be described.
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Like how incredible a person is, how incredible you are, cannot be described.
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It is otherworldly and let alone several people around me.
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Like trying to do it for one person, trying to do it for everyone so I can only do my best every single day.
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And I try to get better
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and better just by practicing at like trying to really lay out how incredible every life is
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and how incredible everyone is doing and how you trying your best is amazing
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and perfect and who you are is amazing and perfect and
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that really all that matters
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and what will bring
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you joy is being yourself shamelessly being every version of you the bad the ugly the hard
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and difficult the beautiful happy every single part of yourself deserves equal love
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and only after embracing my dark bad ugly side
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and considering it beautiful as part of the beautiful even
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if it feels bad or goes wrong
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or whatever all of it is beautiful I have learned
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that it's all beautiful and every bad has made me every bad has turned into good
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so it is part of the beautiful there is no good life without bad life
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so considering like the bad parts of me as just who I am
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and it's fine and I love it I love who I am I love
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that I'm like like a little like mentally unstable sometimes like whatever who cares it's who I am
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and I'm just trying my best out here and it's okay that I'm trying my best out here.
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Like, I'm not perfect and I actually love that I'm not perfect.
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I love that I can be relatable in any sense.
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Like, I love that I almost want people to...
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How do I describe this?
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I want to be so shameless that other people feel more comfortable being all of themselves.
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I don't know how to explain this.
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Like me giving myself permission to be embarrassed and look goofy might inspire somebody else to be like,
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oh wait, like that's okay when she does it.
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So maybe it's okay if I do it.
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Hold on.
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Oh my god, the noises.
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It is so crazy how many times I've done that.
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Like, I will look at somebody being themselves, love it about them, and be like, okay, so it's okay when they do it.
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Maybe it's okay if I do it.
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Maybe it's more than okay if I do it.
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and it is very amazing having these examples around me
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I know not everyone is as lucky to to have such authentic examples around them
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but a huge thing I mean I'm looking at celebrities who are themselves I'm watching
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Lady Gaga interviews I'm watching
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Miley Cyrus content I'm watching Alyssa Liu's performance and interviews
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and whatever and I'm like these people are living their happiest most successful life
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because they are just listening to their heart they're just listening to who they are
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and they're following that i don't i don't even like
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i'm studying this of course i study my friends as well like subconsciously
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but like you can look at people who who you admire
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and see that authenticity has something to do with it you know like in any sense like
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making any dream come true or living a happy life period
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if anyone is doing that that is a sign of authenticity
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because they are listening to their heart
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and all you have to do is look at somebody who is living their life or has
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or keeps going after their dreams or keeps falling
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and keeps trying anyway like there are so many
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so many examples around the world on the internet around you of this
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and I want you to start also taking note of how many times you see someone out in public
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that is being themselves and how often you admire that
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because it really is like it really is okay to be yourself
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and it takes a lot of at least for me it takes a lot of consuming the idea
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that it's okay and that it like actually makes life work out
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and it makes people happy it took a lot of studying
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that and um noting that for me to feel okay to start doing it uh
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because I learned that it wasn't okay to be myself growing up I learned
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that um that I was too much
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or I would get like I would get whooped for being who I am literally
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so it's like okay I had to I was literally trained to be as little of myself as possible
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and then not just whooped at home like in school bullied for just existing
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and being who I am
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so I'm like okay I can't be too loud I can't be too much I can't be perceived none of
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that and it takes a lot of work to unlearn that
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but anyone can get to the point of feeling comfortable being yourself and I highly recommend starting the journey.
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I know it's such a broad one,
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but it really is so important because it leads to everything.
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Being authentic to myself and my desires and what I want to do, who I want to be,
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learning what I like, learning what I don't like, saying no when I don't feel like it, saying yes when I do,
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and just being true really to who I am, it has opened so many doors and has granted so many blessings.
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I feel so blessed in life right now and I feel
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so ecstatic and so happy and content with myself
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and I am confident and I months ago would have considered myself insecure
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but now I say I'm confident which is very wild.
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I have had a complete change in my mindset and how I view things just with adopting this process alone.
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So really like it leads to the best life ever
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and I don't know if what I said makes sense
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but you know what I'm being myself
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and the way I say things gets through to some people
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so so hopefully um it was helpful in some sort of way
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because I know I also get comments of like like how to I'm gonna make I already said
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Like I'm going to make this friendship video with my friend soon.
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Um, like how to express yourself, like when you're really shy.
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And I know that when I was shy, it was just because I was afraid of being perceived.
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I was afraid of being myself because I learned that it was bad.
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So if there's any way that you can start the process of learning the opposite, unlearning is just learning something new
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you can unlearn to hide yourself by learning to show yourself
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by learning to reveal a little bit of yourself little by little over time
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it doesn't have to be every single day but just practice
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and do not get discouraged when you get knocked down
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or something doesn't go the way that you expected
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or you're like oh I was right it was embarrassing
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or whatever don't get discouraged feel fucking awesome
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because you tried it feel awesome because you're brave enough to try it
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and you did it and it like every single time
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that I have chosen to be myself and like send
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that text or say that thing or do that thing
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or whatever um I've always been like okay I'm I'm a beast
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I'm a beast I did it no matter how it goes
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I'm a beast I'm a beast like this is good like I feel so proud that like even though,
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even though it's scary, I did it.
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And it like showing yourself that you're brave every single day or just like more often is like,
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it feels really good.
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Okay.
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So I highly recommend, um, yeah, starting.
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starting the journey or
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continuing the journey or amplifying the journey of being your self being your full
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beautiful incredible self because you are more amazing than words could ever
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Capture and you will find that out
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The more you be yourself the more you be yourself
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and allow yourself to do what you want to do be who you want to be the more you do
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that the more you will learn like wow I am life
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I am a life itself I am not just insert name
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and look at this body you are life itself and that is beyond words okay that is incredible.
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You are life.
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You are energy.
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You are light.
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You are so important and you are so worthy.
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It's not a question.
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You are incredible just as you are.
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Have some fun with it. Have fun.
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Like Miley Cyrus says and how I've been practicing, it's been so amazing obviously
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because it's fun follow your fun follow your happiness follow your heart
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and do not shrink yourself okay i did not touch on shrinking yourself too much
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because that's not the focus here the focus is being who you are okay
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and the more you do it little by little the easier it'll become
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and it is so hard at first trust me
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but you are not feeling
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if you are trying everything
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you try at first feels very difficult until it becomes second nature until you are finally trained to do
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so and it was very difficult on the other side of this
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but now that I've like been doing it so consecutively and
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so continuously like consistently now it's second nature to me to be myself
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and that is it feels like it happened out of nowhere
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if you like it feels like it happened with no work because I practiced it so much, if that makes sense.
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Like, I feel so ready to be me.
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I feel so comfortable.
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I feel so confident.
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Like, I am just, it feels really good, okay?
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Like, I know I talked about myself a lot this video, but ooh, okay.
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Something I'm gonna say, and this might be helpful for you.
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I downloaded this app called Align, and it talks about your body's design.
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You put your birth date in there.
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It's kind of like a Zodiac thing, but it's about your energy and your gifts.
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And on my line, it said that by talking about my own experiences, others are inspired.
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Okay.
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So I'm like, I just have to talk about
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my life and no matter how selfish it may seem people talking about their own life
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and their own experiences and how they got through their own things has always inspired me
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so I have no reason to um
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belittle this part of myself
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or shame this part of myself like I'm I just have to do what's natural to me and
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that is the right thing to do I highly recommend downloading the app
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I think it is paid to listen to it um you don't have to don't do it
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if you don't want to but it's like it I listened to it
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and it was insane it was
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so comforting I felt seen to my core I felt
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so comfortable about my journey and it just felt like everything was um affirmed like comforted
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every worry was like squashed everything was oh fuck what is that word everything was um
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what is that word that i'm thinking of
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validated everything within me felt like it was validated like every
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single aspect of who i am how i talk who how i am did i already say
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that yes every single aspect of myself felt so validated and I was like, okay, like I can be myself and it's fine.
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So it has only helped on this journey.
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So I might as well mention the app because it really has helped this, um, process so much because I took notes on it too.
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And I've been practicing everything it's been saying.
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So, um, yeah.
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Um, I love you so much.
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Thanks for listening to me and thanks for listening to yourself and doing what is authentic to you.
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I have to end this video because the lawnmower is getting closer, leaf blower, but I love you.
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I adore you.
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And let me know what you think down below.
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Okay.
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Let me, let me know if anything hit and if so, what did.
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Okay.
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Bye.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu konuşma dersi “learning to be yourself will change your LIFE” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 546 cümle ve 6546 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 45:11 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 145 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %85’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| perceive fiil | /pɚˈsiv/ | algılamak |
| authentic sıfat | /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/ | gerçek, hakiki |
| encourage fiil | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | teşvik etmek, cesaretlendirmek |
| knock fiil | /nɑk/ | çalmak, tıklatmak |
| beast isim | /biːst/ | canavar, hayvan |
| celebrity isim | /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/ | ünlü |
| skate isim | /skeɪt/ | paten |
| adore fiil | /əˈdoɹ/ | tapmak, tapınmak |
| discovery isim | /dɪˈskʌv.ɹi/ | keşif |
| comfort isim | /ˈkʌm.fət/ | konfor |
| conclusion isim | /kənˈkluːʒən/ | son |
| sake isim | /ˈseɪ̯k/ | gaye, kast |
| scenario isim | /sɪˈnɛəɹioʊ/ | senaryo |
| inspire fiil | /ɪnˈspaɪə(ɹ)/ | esinlemek, ilham vermek |
| admire fiil | /ədˈmaɪɹ/ | hayran olmak, bayılmak |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| find out fiil | anlamak, ortaya çıkarmak | |
| figure out fiil | açığa çıkarmak | |
| grow up fiil | büyümek, yetişmek | |
| sit down fiil | oturmak | |
| add up fiil | birikmek | |
| blow up fiil | havaya uçurmak, havaya uçmak | |
| come out fiil | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | çıkmak |
| get up fiil | kalkmak |
Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler
Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:
- If I don't feel like smiling, I'm not smiling.
- Do I want to go get a glass of water?
- Do I want to go draw in my journal?
- Do I want to go back home?
- How do I describe this?
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem | it's been brewing · I've been brewing · I've been applying |
| “Used to” used to + fiil — artık geçerli olmayan eski bir alışkanlık ya da durum | used to wear · used to be · used to not |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | I've been · I've always heard · has never been |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | be adored · was controlled · was told |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı I'm, don't, I've gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 170 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/, authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: conclusion /kənˈkluːʒən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/, capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/, destruction /dɪsˈtɹʌkʃən/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: celebrity /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, embarrassment /ɪmˈbæɹ.əs.mənt/, authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, documentary /ˌdɒk.jʊˈmɛn.tɹi/
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: swim /swɪm/, nowhere /ˈnoʊ.(h)wɛɹ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/, whoop /wuːp/
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: skate /skeɪt/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, scary /ˈskɛə.ɹi/, brave /bɹeɪv/, pleasant /ˈplɛz.ənt/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: embarrassed /ɪmˈbæɹ.əst/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, aspect /ˈæspɛkt/, embarrassment /ɪmˈbæɹ.əs.mənt/, navigate /ˈnæv.ɪ.ɡeɪt/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; perceive, authentic, encourage gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.