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The most important conversation you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
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These words capture the essence of one of the most powerful truths about human psychology and personal development.
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Every day you speak to yourself thousands of times through thoughts, emotions, and inner dialogue.
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But have you ever stopped to consider the quality of this conversation?
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Have you ever wondered if you're being your own best friend or your worst enemy?
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What if I told you that mastering this inner dialogue is the key to unlocking extraordinary mental clarity, emotional freedom, and personal growth?
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Welcome to The Art of Self-Therapy, a revolutionary approach to understanding and healing your own mind, inspired by the insightful work of Nick Trenton.
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Today we're exploring how you can become your own therapist, not to replace professional help when needed,
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but to develop powerful daily practices that transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you.
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This isn't about quick fixes.
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This is about real, lasting change that begins within.
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Section 1.
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Understanding Your Inner Landscape The foundation of self-therapy begins with a simple yet profound truth.
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You cannot heal what you do not understand.
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Nick Trenton emphasizes that self-awareness is the cornerstone of mental and emotional well-being.
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It's about developing the capacity to observe your thoughts and emotions without immediately reacting to them.
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Most people live their entire lives reactive to their thoughts and feelings, never realizing they have the power to choose their response.
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Think about it.
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How often do you find yourself swept away by a wave of anxiety,
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anger, or sadness without understanding where it came from or why it's affecting you so deeply.
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Self-therapy begins by creating space between stimulus and response.
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It's about developing what psychologists call the observing self,
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the part of you that can step back and witness your inner experience with curiosity rather than judgment.
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This isn't easy in our hyper-connected, constantly stimulated world.
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We're surrounded by distractions specifically designed to keep us engaged with everything except our own inner state.
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As Trenton points out, in a world full of external noise, the ability to tune into your internal signals becomes not just helpful,
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but essential for psychological health.
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The first step in this journey is to practice mindful awareness, simply noticing your thoughts and feelings as they arise, not trying to change them,
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not judging them as good or bad, just observing with gentle attention.
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Try this right now wherever you are.
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Take a deep breath and notice what's happening in your mind.
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What thoughts are passing through?
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What emotions are present?
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Where do you feel them in your body?
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This simple practice, when done consistently, begins to transform your relationship with your inner world.
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You start to see patterns.
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You start to recognize triggers.
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You start to understand the stories you tell yourself, many of which were written long ago and may no longer serve you.
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As you develop this awareness, you'll begin to realize something profound.
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You are not your thoughts.
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You are the awareness behind them.
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This distinction is the doorway to freedom.
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Section 2.
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The Four Pillars of Self-Therapy
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Nick Trenton's approach to self-therapy revolves around four essential practices that anyone can implement in their daily life.
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Pillar 1.
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Cognitive Restructuring Your thoughts shape your reality, but not all thoughts are accurate reflections of the truth.
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The mind is a meaning-making machine, Trenton explains.
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It constantly interprets reality rather than simply perceiving it.
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These interpretations often come from cognitive distortions, habitual ways of thinking that skew our perception,
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Distortion, catastrophizing black and white thinking, personalization.
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These are just a few of the mental habits that can trap us in anxiety and despair.
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Self-therapy involves identifying these distortions and consciously replacing them with more balanced, realistic thoughts.
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For example, if you make a mistake at work and think, I'm a complete failure, I'll never succeed at anything, you can learn to catch this distortion and reframe it.
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I made a mistake, as all humans do.
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This is one event, not a reflection of my entire worth or future.
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This isn't about toxic positivity or denying reality.
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It's about seeing situations clearly without the amplification of distorted thinking.
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Pillar 2.
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Emotional Processing Many of us were never taught how to healthily experience and express emotions.
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Instead, we learned to suppress them, numb them, or be overwhelmed by them.
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Trenton emphasizes that emotions are information, valuable signals about what matters to us and what we need.
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Self-therapy involves learning to feel emotions fully while not being ruled by them.
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Emotional intelligence begins with emotional literacy, the ability to identify and name what you're feeling with precision.
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Instead of saying, I feel bad, can you determine whether you're feeling disappointed, lonely, frustrated, or embarrassed?
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This specificity is the first step toward understanding what your emotions are trying to tell you.
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Once identified, emotions need to be expressed appropriately, whether through journaling, creative outlets,
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conversation, or simply allowing yourself to feel them without action.
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Unexpressed emotions don't disappear.
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They go underground, only to emerge later in destructive ways.
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Pillar 3.
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Boundary Setting Your personal boundaries are the instructions you give to the world about how to treat you.
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Many psychological struggles stem from poor boundaries, either being too rigid and keeping everyone at a distance,
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or being too porous and allowing others to drain your energy and violate your values.
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Self-therapy involves identifying where your boundaries need strengthening and practicing the sometimes uncomfortable art of communicating them clearly.
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This might mean saying no to additional responsibilities when you're already overwhelmed.
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It might mean removing yourself from relationships that consistently undermine your well-being.
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It might mean speaking up when someone's behavior impacts you negatively.
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As Trenton notes, setting boundaries isn't selfish.
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It's the prerequisite for genuine connection and generosity.
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You cannot truly give from an empty cup.
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Pillar 4.
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Values Clarification The final pillar of self-therapy is perhaps the most profound, identifying and living by your core values.
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Without clear values, we become like ships without rudders, moved by the currents of other people's expectations and society's pressures rather than our own internal compass.
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What matters most to you?
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Is it connection?
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Creativity?
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Growth?
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Contribution?
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Justice?
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Peace?
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When your actions align with your values, you experience a sense of integrity and purpose.
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When they don't, you feel internal conflict and dissatisfaction.
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Self-therapy involves regularly checking in.
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Are my choices reflecting what truly matters to me?
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If not, what adjustments need to be made?
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This isn't about perfection.
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It's about direction.
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Small, consistent steps toward value-aligned living create a life of meaning and fulfillment.
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Section 3.
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Practical Applications and Real-Life Examples Let's make these principles concrete with some real-world applications.
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Consider Sarah, a marketing executive who found herself increasingly anxious and irritable.
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Through self-therapy practices, she identified a pattern of people-pleasing that left her overcommitted and resentful.
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By examining her thoughts, Processing the underlying emotions,
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fear of rejection, setting healthier boundaries at work, and reconnecting with her value of balance, she transformed not only her mental health,
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but her effectiveness as a leader.
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Or take Michael, who struggled with persistent feelings of inadequacy despite objective success.
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His self-therapy journey led him to recognize how his inner critic had internalized his father's impossible standards.
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Through cognitive restructuring, he learned to speak to himself with the compassion he would offer a friend.
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Through emotional processing, he allowed himself to feel the grief of never receiving the approval he sought.
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And by clarifying his own values, different from those imposed on him, he began to measure success by a standard that actually mattered to him.
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Self-therapy doesn't always produce dramatic transformations overnight.
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More often, it creates subtle shifts that compound over time, like James, who simply began a daily five-minute practice of mindful breathing and nonjudgmental awareness.
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Six months later, he noticed he was no longer flying into rage during his commute.
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A year later, his relationships had improved dramatically because he could listen without immediately reacting.
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Small practice, profound impact.
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What these examples share is ordinary people using self-therapy not to reach some perfect state, but to develop a new relationship with their thoughts,
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emotions, and choices, one characterized by awareness, compassion, and intention rather than automaticity and judgment.
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As Trenton reminds us, the goal isn't to never feel negative emotions or have difficult thoughts.
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The goal is to develop the capacity to work with them skillfully rather than being controlled by them.
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Section 4.
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Implementing Self-Therapy in Your Daily Life So how do you begin this practice of self-therapy in your own life?
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Start small.
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Five minutes of mindful awareness each day will yield more benefit than an occasional hour-long session.
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Create ritual.
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Perhaps you journal first thing in the morning, practice mindful breathing before lunch or review your values before making important decisions. Be patient.
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The mind's patterns weren't created overnight, and they won't transform overnight either.
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Progress in self-therapy often follows a two-steps-forward, one-step-back pattern.
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Seek support.
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While much can be accomplished through self-therapy, there's immense value in sharing the journey.
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This might mean working with a professional therapist for certain issues, joining a mindfulness group, or simply having friends who understand and support your growth.
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Remember that self-therapy isn't about fixing yourself because you're not broken.
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It's about understanding yourself, accepting yourself, and skillfully guiding yourself toward a life of greater freedom, connection, and meaning.
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In the words Nick Trenton often emphasizes, the relationship you have with yourself sets the foundation for every other relationship in your life.
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Invest in it accordingly.
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Today, I invite you to take one small step toward becoming your own compassionate therapist.
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Perhaps it's simply setting a reminder to pause and breathe deeply three times today.
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Perhaps it's journaling about a recurring thought pattern you've noticed.
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Perhaps it's clarifying one core value that will guide your decisions this week.
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Whatever form it takes, remember that this journey of self-understanding is perhaps the most important work you'll ever do.
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In a world that constantly pulls your attention outward, the radical act is to turn inward, with curiosity, with kindness, and with a commitment to growth.
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If this message resonated with you, please take a moment to like this video, subscribe to our channel, and share it with someone who might benefit from these practices.
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Remember, you already have everything you need to begin this journey.
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The art of self-therapy isn't about acquiring something new.
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It's about uncovering the wisdom that already exists within you.
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Until next time, be kind to your mind.
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Your inner world creates your outer reality.
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Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan daha az kullanılan 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
- emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ (isim) — duygu, his. A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data.
- awareness /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/ (isim) — bilinç, bilinçlenme. The state or level of consciousness where sense data can be confirmed by an observer.
- pillar /ˈpɪlɚ/ (isim) — sütun, direk. A large post, often used as supporting architecture.
- profound /pɹəˈfaʊnd/ (sıfat) — derin. Descending far below the surface; opening or reaching to great depth; deep.
- breathe /bɹiːð/ (fiil) — nefes alıp vermek, solumak. To draw air into (inhale), and expel air from (exhale), the lungs in order to extract oxygen and excrete waste gases.
- overnight /əʊvə(ɹ)ˈnaɪt/ (zarf) — geceleyin, o gece. During or throughout the night, especially during the evening or night just past.
- therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/ (isim) — terapist. Someone who provides therapy, usually professionally.
- emphasize /ˈɛm.fə.saɪz/ (fiil) — vurgulamak. To stress, give emphasis or extra weight to (something).
- anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ (isim) — kaygı, endişe. An unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and obsession or concern about some uncertain event.
- dialogue /ˈdaɪəˌlɑɡ/ (isim) — diyalog, sohbet. A conversation or other form of discourse between two or more individuals.
- judgment /ˈd͡ʒʌd͡ʒ.mənt/ (isim) — yargı, hüküm. The act of judging.
- psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/ (sıfat) — psikolojik. Of or pertaining to psychology.
- consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/ (zarf) — devamlı, aralıksız. In a consistent manner.
- implement /ˈɪmpləmənt/ (fiil) — tatbik etmek, uygulamak. To bring about; to put into practice; to carry out.
- reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/ (isim) — yansıma. The act of reflecting or the state of being reflected.
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
- check in (fiil) — check-in yapmak. To announce or record one's own arrival at a hotel, airport etc.
- step in (fiil) — araya girmek, müdahale etmek. To act as a replacement or substitute.
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı isn't, you're, you'll gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 26 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “th” sesleri: breathe /bɹiːð/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, strengthen /ˈstɹɛŋ(k)θən/
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, distortion /dɪsˈtɔːʃən/, reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/, compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; emotion, awareness, pillar gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | were written · were never taught · be overwhelmed |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | friends who understand · someone who might |
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