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I'm Dr. Orion Tarraban, and this is Psych Hacks, Better Living Through Psychology.

And the topic of today's short talk is, objectify him.

This is going to be a fun one.

That's right, ladies, objectify the man that you've set your sights on.

Make him feel like a sentient piece of meat.

You'll thank me later.

To understand the reasoning behind this advice, I'll need to explain one of the biggest disjuncts in the modern courtship process.

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.

Basically, men are giving women what they wish women would give them, and women are giving men what they wish men would give to them.

And this doesn't work because what men and women want are different.

However, because of this failure, what happens?

Men get a lot of cutesy texts from their women about couples

and puppies and unfunny jokes that make men question their intelligence.

And women get dick pics.

And both sides are thinking to themselves, why the hell did this person send me this?

And the short answer is because they hope to get something like it in return.

The long answer is actually pretty deep.

Basically, after the initial blissful period in which the child can bask in unconditional love,

a new conditionality from its parents begins to enter the equation.

Children learn that they have to do certain things

and not do certain other things in order to stay in the parents' good graces.

Introduction of these standards of behavior are first met with tantrums, extinction bursts.

But when they don't work, children take a new tack.

They mimic the love

and affection they previously received from the parent in an attempt to get it reflected back at them in the present moment.

In essence, they identify with the parent

and try to shape the parent's behavior to be more in line with their own preferences.

They're basically saying, this is how I want you to treat me.

Turns out, people don't grow up that much.

And in many ways, the intensity and intimacy of sexual relationships returns us to this time in our past.

However, just like the parent and the child in my previous example, it's important to keep in mind that men and women want different things.

And instead of throwing a tantrum or taking what they want by force, adults in sexual relationships have hit on a more pro -social,

if somewhat boneheaded, strategy to get what they want from the other.

They give it themselves.

So that's our answer.

Men send dick pics and sexually explicit content to women because it would make their fucking day if women did the same.

In their ham -fisted way, they are saying, I'm giving this to you in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many women find these texts disgusting.

They think that it's disrespectful to be objectified.

It doesn't make her, the person inside the body, feel seen or valuable.

And her greatest fear could be that the man she is engaging with is primarily or exclusively interested in her for sex.

So what does she do?

She sends the guy memes and content that touch on anything except the sexual dimension of their relationship.

Her communication is emotional or personal or relational.

In her own ham -fisted way, she is saying, I'm giving this to you first in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many men find these texts inane.

They don't usually pertain to their own goals or interests, so they perceive it as just another emotional chore associated with dealing with women.

And the absence of adult content exacerbates their greatest fear that the women they are engaging with aren't sexually interested in them.

And somewhere, somehow, God is laughing.

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Fortunately, the way out of this conundrum is simple.

Instead of giving what we hope to receive in return, we appreciate that men and women want different things,

learn what those are, and give the other side what they want instead.

We'll start with the men because they're easier.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

I cannot make it any more straightforward than that.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.

It will make a man's month to be objectified.

Tell him you love his fucking arms.

Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

Tell him you got wet thinking about the last time you were together.

This is the easiest way you can start improving your relationship today.

This kind of communication is immensely attractive to the vast majority of men.

Why?

Because nobody gives men compliments.

And any compliments they do receive are based on their effort, success, or outcome.

You can differentiate yourself from all other women by unabashedly lusting after him.

Like, think of the most disgusting, inappropriate text you've ever received from a man.

Switch around the genders and send that instead.

Problem solved.

Now, for the women.

Women want to know that you're thinking about them when they're not around.

Why?

Because you can't fuck them when they're not around.

So they think that if you're still thinking about them when you can't fuck them, it must mean that you like them and not just their absent bodies.

And this liking is demonstrated through affection.

Affection is actually not that complicated.

What's more, it's completely free, and it's never been easier in the history of the world to give affection to women with our current technologies.

Basically, affection is a token of remembrance.

It's a sign that you remember what she said last week, or where you went together last year, or what you've learned of her preferences.

So the communication needs to be accurately personal

and the more it's coded through references that only she

or you both will understand the better and the easiest way to do

that is through memes you're on social media anyway so now

when you're on social media and you see something that reminds you of her you click forward her account and send

yeah it literally takes two seconds And the more accurately the meme resonates with her humor and interests or preferences,

the more the communication gains in value.

When in doubt, find a pic of two little animals holding hands, comment us, and forward it along.

It's really not that hard.

And this is how we solve the problem of intersexual understanding.

In a perfect world, men and women's textual exchanges with each other would be exactly reversed.

Women would send the naughty, filthy messages, and men would send the sweet, affectionate messages, and both sides would get more of what they want.

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But to do that, people have to grow up a bit and stop living like little children, trying to model the love they want out of their parents.

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Identification with the loved object is dangerous when people actually have different needs

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and wants just consider how ridiculous it would be to put food in your car's gas tank but

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that is effectively what billions of people do every day in

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their sexual relationships it can stop with us what do you

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think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below

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including opportunities to engage with me directly through my private community and individual consultations.

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Trust me, there's a lot there for you.

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As always, thank you for listening, and I appreciate your support.

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Let's go.

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本課的詞彙與口語要點

這節口語課以影片“Objectify him: texting”為素材。影片中反覆出現的詞有：send, relationship, parent。這段影片共有 116 個句子、1445 個單詞可供跟讀。講話部分時長為 9:38。說話人語速自然，每分鐘約 150 個詞，接近日常對話。 88% 的單詞屬於英語最常用的 3,000 詞，詞彙容易理解。

影片中的重點詞彙

影片中 15 個值得學習的單詞，附發音和釋義：

單詞	發音	釋義
preference 名詞	/ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/	優選 /優選, 選擇 /選擇
meme 名詞	/miːm/	模因, 迷迷
solve 動詞	/sɒlv/	解決 /解決
disgusting 形容詞	/dɪsˈɡʌstɪŋ/	憎惡 /憎惡, 可惡 /可惡
compliment 名詞	/ˈkɑmpləmənt/	稱讚 /稱讚, 道賀 /道賀
fist 名詞	/fɪst/	拳頭 /拳頭
topic 名詞	/ˈtɑpɪk/	主題 /主題, 話題 /話題
vast 形容詞	/væst/	浩大
complicated 形容詞	/ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/	複雜 /複雜
format 名詞	/ˈfɔːɹ.mæt/	格式, 開本 /開本
ridiculous 形容詞	/ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/	可笑, 荒謬 /荒謬
associate 名詞	/əˈsoʊʃi.ət/	同行, 同事
reflect 動詞	/ɹɪˈflɛkt/	反映, 反射
remind 動詞	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	提醒
absence 名詞	/ˈæb.s(ə)n̩s/	缺席, 不在

影片中出現的短語動詞

單詞	釋義
grow up 動詞	長大 /長大
turn out 動詞	原來 /原來

值得反覆跟讀的句子

影片中簡短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常對話裡：

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.
Are you finally ready to understand how relationships really work?
We'll start with the men because they're easier.
Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.
Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

影片中的語法

說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：

結構	影片中的用法
現在完成時 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去發生但與現在仍有關聯的事	you've set · have hit · you've ever received
被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的	be objectified · are based · is demonstrated
定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物	someone who you · somebody who needs

需要注意的發音

說話人用了 33 次縮略和弱讀形式，例如 you're, can't, they're。請按聽到的簡短形式來說。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, associate /əˈsoʊʃi.ət/, identification /aɪˌdɛn(t)ɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, consultation /ˌkɑnsəlˈteɪʃən/, dimension /daɪˈmɛn.ʃən/
長單詞——注意重音位置: accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, associate /əˈsoʊʃi.ət/

中文母語者容易讀錯的音：

/v/ — 不要讀成 /w/，上齒輕觸下唇: solve /sɒlv/, vast /væst/, reverse /ɹɪˈvɝs/, exclusively /ɪkˈskluːsɪvli/, perceive /pɚˈsiv/
詞尾子音 — 要讀清楚，後面不要加母音: engage /ɪnˈɡeɪd͡ʒ/, preference /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/, solve /sɒlv/, pic /pɪk/, compliment /ˈkɑmpləmənt/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的區別: accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, elsewhere /ˈɛlsˌʍɛɹ/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, reflect /ɹɪˈflɛkt/

如何用這段影片練習

先完整聽一遍影片，不要開口，記下不認識的單詞。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟讀，熟練之後再回到正常速度。
錄下自己的聲音並與原聲對比，特別注意 preference, meme, solve 這類單詞。

什麼是跟讀法？

跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。

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