跟读练习: Objectify him: texting - 通过视频学习英语口语

I'm Dr. Orion Tarraban, and this is Psych Hacks, Better Living Through Psychology.

And the topic of today's short talk is, objectify him.

This is going to be a fun one.

That's right, ladies, objectify the man that you've set your sights on.

Make him feel like a sentient piece of meat.

You'll thank me later.

To understand the reasoning behind this advice, I'll need to explain one of the biggest disjuncts in the modern courtship process.

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.

Basically, men are giving women what they wish women would give them, and women are giving men what they wish men would give to them.

And this doesn't work because what men and women want are different.

However, because of this failure, what happens?

Men get a lot of cutesy texts from their women about couples

and puppies and unfunny jokes that make men question their intelligence.

And women get dick pics.

And both sides are thinking to themselves, why the hell did this person send me this?

And the short answer is because they hope to get something like it in return.

The long answer is actually pretty deep.

Basically, after the initial blissful period in which the child can bask in unconditional love,

a new conditionality from its parents begins to enter the equation.

Children learn that they have to do certain things

and not do certain other things in order to stay in the parents' good graces.

Introduction of these standards of behavior are first met with tantrums, extinction bursts.

But when they don't work, children take a new tack.

They mimic the love

and affection they previously received from the parent in an attempt to get it reflected back at them in the present moment.

In essence, they identify with the parent

and try to shape the parent's behavior to be more in line with their own preferences.

They're basically saying, this is how I want you to treat me.

Turns out, people don't grow up that much.

And in many ways, the intensity and intimacy of sexual relationships returns us to this time in our past.

However, just like the parent and the child in my previous example, it's important to keep in mind that men and women want different things.

And instead of throwing a tantrum or taking what they want by force, adults in sexual relationships have hit on a more pro -social,

if somewhat boneheaded, strategy to get what they want from the other.

They give it themselves.

So that's our answer.

Men send dick pics and sexually explicit content to women because it would make their fucking day if women did the same.

In their ham -fisted way, they are saying, I'm giving this to you in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many women find these texts disgusting.

They think that it's disrespectful to be objectified.

It doesn't make her, the person inside the body, feel seen or valuable.

And her greatest fear could be that the man she is engaging with is primarily or exclusively interested in her for sex.

So what does she do?

She sends the guy memes and content that touch on anything except the sexual dimension of their relationship.

Her communication is emotional or personal or relational.

In her own ham -fisted way, she is saying, I'm giving this to you first in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many men find these texts inane.

They don't usually pertain to their own goals or interests, so they perceive it as just another emotional chore associated with dealing with women.

And the absence of adult content exacerbates their greatest fear that the women they are engaging with aren't sexually interested in them.

And somewhere, somehow, God is laughing.

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Fortunately, the way out of this conundrum is simple.

Instead of giving what we hope to receive in return, we appreciate that men and women want different things,

learn what those are, and give the other side what they want instead.

We'll start with the men because they're easier.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

I cannot make it any more straightforward than that.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.

It will make a man's month to be objectified.

Tell him you love his fucking arms.

Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

Tell him you got wet thinking about the last time you were together.

This is the easiest way you can start improving your relationship today.

This kind of communication is immensely attractive to the vast majority of men.

Why?

Because nobody gives men compliments.

And any compliments they do receive are based on their effort, success, or outcome.

You can differentiate yourself from all other women by unabashedly lusting after him.

Like, think of the most disgusting, inappropriate text you've ever received from a man.

Switch around the genders and send that instead.

Problem solved.

Now, for the women.

Women want to know that you're thinking about them when they're not around.

Why?

Because you can't fuck them when they're not around.

So they think that if you're still thinking about them when you can't fuck them, it must mean that you like them and not just their absent bodies.

And this liking is demonstrated through affection.

Affection is actually not that complicated.

What's more, it's completely free, and it's never been easier in the history of the world to give affection to women with our current technologies.

Basically, affection is a token of remembrance.

It's a sign that you remember what she said last week, or where you went together last year, or what you've learned of her preferences.

So the communication needs to be accurately personal

and the more it's coded through references that only she

or you both will understand the better and the easiest way to do

that is through memes you're on social media anyway so now

when you're on social media and you see something that reminds you of her you click forward her account and send

yeah it literally takes two seconds And the more accurately the meme resonates with her humor and interests or preferences,

the more the communication gains in value.

When in doubt, find a pic of two little animals holding hands, comment us, and forward it along.

It's really not that hard.

And this is how we solve the problem of intersexual understanding.

In a perfect world, men and women's textual exchanges with each other would be exactly reversed.

Women would send the naughty, filthy messages, and men would send the sweet, affectionate messages, and both sides would get more of what they want.

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But to do that, people have to grow up a bit and stop living like little children, trying to model the love they want out of their parents.

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Identification with the loved object is dangerous when people actually have different needs

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and wants just consider how ridiculous it would be to put food in your car's gas tank but

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that is effectively what billions of people do every day in

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their sexual relationships it can stop with us what do you

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think does this fit with your own experience let me know in the comments below

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As always, thank you for listening, and I appreciate your support.

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节口语课以视频“Objectify him: texting”为素材。视频中反复出现的词有：send, relationship, parent。这段视频共有 116 个句子、1445 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 9:38。说话人语速自然，每分钟约 150 个词，接近日常对话。 88% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇容易理解。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中 15 个值得学习的单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
preference 名词	/ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/	優選 /优选, 選擇 /选择
meme 名词	/miːm/	模因, 迷迷
solve 动词	/sɒlv/	解決 /解决
disgusting 形容词	/dɪsˈɡʌstɪŋ/	憎惡 /憎恶, 可惡 /可恶
compliment 名词	/ˈkɑmpləmənt/	稱讚 /称赞, 道賀 /道贺
fist 名词	/fɪst/	拳頭 /拳头
topic 名词	/ˈtɑpɪk/	主題 /主题, 話題 /话题
vast 形容词	/væst/	浩大
complicated 形容词	/ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/	複雜 /复杂
format 名词	/ˈfɔːɹ.mæt/	格式, 開本 /开本
ridiculous 形容词	/ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/	可笑, 荒謬 /荒谬
associate 名词	/əˈsoʊʃi.ət/	同行, 同事
reflect 动词	/ɹɪˈflɛkt/	反映, 反射
remind 动词	/ɹəˈmaɪnd/	提醒
absence 名词	/ˈæb.s(ə)n̩s/	缺席, 不在

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	释义
grow up 动词	長大 /长大
turn out 动词	原來 /原来

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.
Are you finally ready to understand how relationships really work?
We'll start with the men because they're easier.
Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.
Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	you've set · have hit · you've ever received
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的	be objectified · are based · is demonstrated
定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物	someone who you · somebody who needs

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 33 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 you're, can't, they're。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“sh” 和 “zh” 音: affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, associate /əˈsoʊʃi.ət/, identification /aɪˌdɛn(t)ɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, consultation /ˌkɑnsəlˈteɪʃən/, dimension /daɪˈmɛn.ʃən/
长单词——注意重音位置: accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, complicated /ˈkɑm.plɪˌkeɪ.tɪd/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, associate /əˈsoʊʃi.ət/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: solve /sɒlv/, vast /væst/, reverse /ɹɪˈvɝs/, exclusively /ɪkˈskluːsɪvli/, perceive /pɚˈsiv/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: engage /ɪnˈɡeɪd͡ʒ/, preference /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/, solve /sɒlv/, pic /pɪk/, compliment /ˈkɑmpləmənt/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, elsewhere /ˈɛlsˌʍɛɹ/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, reflect /ɹɪˈflɛkt/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 preference, meme, solve 这类单词。

什么是跟读法？

跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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