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I'm Dr. Orion Tarraban, and this is Psych Hacks, Better Living Through Psychology.

And the topic of today's short talk is, objectify him.

This is going to be a fun one.

That's right, ladies, objectify the man that you've set your sights on.

Make him feel like a sentient piece of meat.

You'll thank me later.

To understand the reasoning behind this advice, I'll need to explain one of the biggest disjuncts in the modern courtship process.

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.

Basically, men are giving women what they wish women would give them, and women are giving men what they wish men would give to them.

And this doesn't work because what men and women want are different.

However, because of this failure, what happens?

Men get a lot of cutesy texts from their women about couples

and puppies and unfunny jokes that make men question their intelligence.

And women get dick pics.

And both sides are thinking to themselves, why the hell did this person send me this?

And the short answer is because they hope to get something like it in return.

The long answer is actually pretty deep.

Basically, after the initial blissful period in which the child can bask in unconditional love,

a new conditionality from its parents begins to enter the equation.

Children learn that they have to do certain things

and not do certain other things in order to stay in the parents' good graces.

Introduction of these standards of behavior are first met with tantrums, extinction bursts.

But when they don't work, children take a new tack.

They mimic the love

and affection they previously received from the parent in an attempt to get it reflected back at them in the present moment.

In essence, they identify with the parent

and try to shape the parent's behavior to be more in line with their own preferences.

They're basically saying, this is how I want you to treat me.

Turns out, people don't grow up that much.

And in many ways, the intensity and intimacy of sexual relationships returns us to this time in our past.

However, just like the parent and the child in my previous example, it's important to keep in mind that men and women want different things.

And instead of throwing a tantrum or taking what they want by force, adults in sexual relationships have hit on a more pro -social,

if somewhat boneheaded, strategy to get what they want from the other.

They give it themselves.

So that's our answer.

Men send dick pics and sexually explicit content to women because it would make their fucking day if women did the same.

In their ham -fisted way, they are saying, I'm giving this to you in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many women find these texts disgusting.

They think that it's disrespectful to be objectified.

It doesn't make her, the person inside the body, feel seen or valuable.

And her greatest fear could be that the man she is engaging with is primarily or exclusively interested in her for sex.

So what does she do?

She sends the guy memes and content that touch on anything except the sexual dimension of their relationship.

Her communication is emotional or personal or relational.

In her own ham -fisted way, she is saying, I'm giving this to you first in the hope that you'll give it back to me.

Unfortunately, many men find these texts inane.

They don't usually pertain to their own goals or interests, so they perceive it as just another emotional chore associated with dealing with women.

And the absence of adult content exacerbates their greatest fear that the women they are engaging with aren't sexually interested in them.

And somewhere, somehow, God is laughing.

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Fortunately, the way out of this conundrum is simple.

Instead of giving what we hope to receive in return, we appreciate that men and women want different things,

learn what those are, and give the other side what they want instead.

We'll start with the men because they're easier.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

I cannot make it any more straightforward than that.

Men want to know that you're excited to fuck them.

Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.

It will make a man's month to be objectified.

Tell him you love his fucking arms.

Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

Tell him you got wet thinking about the last time you were together.

This is the easiest way you can start improving your relationship today.

This kind of communication is immensely attractive to the vast majority of men.

Why?

Because nobody gives men compliments.

And any compliments they do receive are based on their effort, success, or outcome.

You can differentiate yourself from all other women by unabashedly lusting after him.

Like, think of the most disgusting, inappropriate text you've ever received from a man.

Switch around the genders and send that instead.

Problem solved.

Now, for the women.

Women want to know that you're thinking about them when they're not around.

Why?

Because you can't fuck them when they're not around.

So they think that if you're still thinking about them when you can't fuck them, it must mean that you like them and not just their absent bodies.

And this liking is demonstrated through affection.

Affection is actually not that complicated.

What's more, it's completely free, and it's never been easier in the history of the world to give affection to women with our current technologies.

Basically, affection is a token of remembrance.

It's a sign that you remember what she said last week, or where you went together last year, or what you've learned of her preferences.

So the communication needs to be accurately personal

and the more it's coded through references that only she

or you both will understand the better and the easiest way to do

that is through memes you're on social media anyway so now

when you're on social media and you see something that reminds you of her you click forward her account and send

yeah it literally takes two seconds And the more accurately the meme resonates with her humor and interests or preferences,

the more the communication gains in value.

When in doubt, find a pic of two little animals holding hands, comment us, and forward it along.

It's really not that hard.

And this is how we solve the problem of intersexual understanding.

In a perfect world, men and women's textual exchanges with each other would be exactly reversed.

Women would send the naughty, filthy messages, and men would send the sweet, affectionate messages, and both sides would get more of what they want.

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But to do that, people have to grow up a bit and stop living like little children, trying to model the love they want out of their parents.

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Identification with the loved object is dangerous when people actually have different needs

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and wants just consider how ridiculous it would be to put food in your car's gas tank but

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that is effectively what billions of people do every day in

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their sexual relationships it can stop with us what do you

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Trust me, there's a lot there for you.

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As always, thank you for listening, and I appreciate your support.

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Let's go.

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שיעור הדיבור הזה ברמה C1 מבוסס על הסרטון “Objectify him: texting”. המילים שחוזרות הכי הרבה: send, relationship, parent. בסרטון הזה יש 116 משפטים ו-1445 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 9:38. הדובר מדבר בקצב טבעי של כ-150 מילים בדקה, קרוב לשיחה יומיומית. 88% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית; כדאי ללמוד את השאר לפני שמתחילים.

אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה

15 המילים המתקדמות ביותר בסרטון, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:

מילה	הגייה	משמעות
meme שם עצם	/miːm/	מֵם
tantrum שם עצם	/ˈtæn.tɹʌm/	התקף זעם
fist שם עצם	/fɪst/	אֶגרוֹף
compliment שם עצם	/ˈkɑmpləmənt/	מחמאה
audiobook שם עצם	/ˈɔdi.oʊbʊk/	ספר מוקלט
daydream פועל	/ˈdeɪdɹiːm/	חלם בהקיץ
remembrance שם עצם	/ɹɪˈmɛm.bɹəns/	זֵכֶר
extinction שם עצם	/ɪkˈstɪŋkʃən/	הכחדה
token שם עצם	/ˈtoʊkən/	אֲסִימוֹן, זִ׳יטוֹן
naughty שם תואר	/ˈnɔːti/	שׁוֹבָב
humour שם עצם	/ˈhjuːmɚ/	הוּמוֹר
explicit שם תואר	/ɪkˈsplɪs.ɪt/	בּוֹטֶה
needle שם עצם	/ˈniː.dəl/	מַחַט
puppy שם עצם	/ˈpʌpi/	כלבלב, גּוּר
equation שם עצם	/ɪˈkweɪ.ʒən/	משוואה \ מִשְׁוָאָה

Phrasal verbs שתשמעו

מילה	משמעות
grow up פועל	גָּדַל

משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם

משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:

Let's call it a failure in intersexual understanding.
Are you finally ready to understand how relationships really work?
We'll start with the men because they're easier.
Trust me, ladies, it will make a man's day.
Tell him that you're daydreaming about his big cock.

דקדוק בסרטון הזה

המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:

מבנה	בסרטון
הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו	you've set · have hit · you've ever received
סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה	be objectified · are based · is demonstrated
משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר	someone who you · somebody who needs

הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה

הדובר משתמש ב-33 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, can't, they're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.

הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, affectionate /əˈfɛkʃənət/, courtship /ˈkɔɹt.ʃɪp/, sentient /ˈsɛn.ʃi.ənt/, unabashedly /ˌʌnəˈbæʃɪdli/
מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: objectify /əbˈd͡ʒɛktɪˌfaɪ/, accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, affectionate /əˈfɛkʃənət/, audiobook /ˈɔdi.oʊbʊk/, exacerbate /ɪɡˈzæsɚˌbeɪt/

צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:

/w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: straightforward /ˌstɹeɪtˈfɔː(ɹ)wə(ɹ)d/, equation /ɪˈkweɪ.ʒən/
/æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: tantrum /ˈtæn.tɹʌm/, accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, exacerbate /ɪɡˈzæsɚˌbeɪt/, unabashedly /ˌʌnəˈbæʃɪdli/, paperback /ˈpeɪ.pɚˌbæk/
/r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: tantrum /ˈtæn.tɹʌm/, accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/, conundrum /kəˈnʌn.dɹəm/, courtship /ˈkɔɹt.ʃɪp/, daydream /ˈdeɪdɹiːm/

איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה

הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו meme, tantrum, fist.

מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?

שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.

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