跟讀練習: The Science Behind An "Attractive Personality" - 通過影片學習英語口語
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Studies show that an attractive personality usually correlates with how good you look.
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But you can make your personality attractive, even as an average guy.
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To find out how, I followed the what, how, and why problem-solving framework.
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Number 1.
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What makes an attractive personality?
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Apparently that's the same question David Buss, an evolutionary psychologist, asked himself 22 years ago.
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So he gathered 10,000 people from 37 cultures and asked them, What are the most desirable traits in a partner?
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These were the answers.
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But then something clicked into my mind.
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From Machiavelli saying that a good leader must be both feared and loved, all the way to modern science,
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it was historically proven that competence and warmth are the universal signs of an attractive personality.
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So if we go back to our study, we can see that these traits show competence, while these traits show warmth.
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But showing competence is a tricky thing.
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In 2011, two researchers took 100 women and showed them two descriptions of the same person.
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Which do you think was perceived as more attractive?
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It's this one.
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It was rated more attractive because it showed prestige without brutal dominance.
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You see, dominance is correlated with anti-social behavior.
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Along the way, you upset people and make enemies.
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Prestige feels like you earned that status through hard work and diplomacy.
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But what about warmth?
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Well in 2020, it was proven that kindness is the most wanted quality in a romantic partner.
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Which makes sense because more kindness equals less long term fights.
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Yet a personality is not just about how competent and warm you are, it's also influenced by other stuff like your everyday occupation,
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hobbies, and personal values.
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I found studies for all of them.
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Apparently, the most attractive careers include firefighters, military personnel, and legal attorneys.
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On the other hand, the less attractive jobs are labor and hospitality.
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Apparently, even less attractive than being unemployed.
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But now let's talk about hobbies.
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In a huge survey made by Date Psychology, it was proven that these are the most attractive hobbies rated by women,
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while these are the most unattractive ones.
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Number 2.
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How do you make your personality attractive?
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The first way is to rephrase your own identity.
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What do you think is this guy's name?
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Well, 40% of people will choose Dan, which is his actual name.
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According to the Dorian Gray effect, when you hear a name, you'll automatically visualize a face and a set of traits.
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And when you meet a person with that name, you'll treat them according to your stereotype.
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But what's even crazier is that over time,
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it's likely that the person will change their personality and appearance based on how you and others treat them.
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Dan is a name for a simple average man.
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Others will treat him as such, so he will start to act as a simple, average man.
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Now you can't change your name, but you can change the other aspects, like the description of your job, to ensure you won't fit the negative stereotypes.
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Instead of saying that you're a fitness trainer, which can be associated with being dumb, shallow, and narcissistic, you can say something like,
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I help people become stronger and more confident in their bodies.
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Boom!
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You're associated with discipline, empathy, and leadership qualities.
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Instead of, I'm a video editor, which can be related to being nerdy and antisocial, you can say, I explain difficult topics using movie scenes and memes.
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Now, if you don't have a job or any hobby that you can rephrase, you can still become interesting.
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What are the three first things that come into your head when you see Cristiano Ronaldo.
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Soccer player, charismatic, and hardworking.
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What about Elon Musk?
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Likes rockets, richest person in the world, and very controversial.
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Almost any interesting personality can be described using two to three iconic traits.
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So yours can be the same.
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How?
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Choose a unique niche, master it, and bring it naturally into the conversation.
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If you master chess, everyone will know you as the chess guy.
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But don't brag about your knowledge using complicated terms and words.
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Teach others using lots of analogies.
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Here's an example from my favorite paragraph of all time by Robert Kersen.
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But the simplest way to improve is to just become more confident.
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In 2020, a bunch of researchers took some men, showed them two videos on how to be more confident, and then threw them into speed dates.
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Now those videos contained advice on how to get the other person to talk more, how to keep the conversation going, how to move towards personal subjects, how to make the conversation funnier,
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and a strange technique called screen and qualify.
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You casually mention a quality you value in others, which then encourages the other person to indicate that they have it.
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Then, you express that you like their response.
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Now, the men who watched the videos were seen as more confident and more romantically desirable than men who didn't.
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Number 3.
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Why should you have an attractive personality to be more likable, right?
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Not really.
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You see, history remembers John Newton as a minister, slavery abolitionist, and the man who wrote Amazing Grace.
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Yet that's far from where he started.
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In his youth, John was trapped in the life of a drunk, miserable slave trader.
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So his entire Their personality reflected that.
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His big mouth and complete lack of refinement made him
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so insufferable that his crew even left him stranded on a desert island.
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And mind you, he was the captain.
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But then something, or better said, someone changed him.
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Mary Catlett, a clever, pure-hearted girl and the love of his life.
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He knew that her parents would never let her marry a man like him.
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So he began to study Latin and mathematics to prove he had the discipline of a gentleman.
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He left the slave trading business and became a soft-spoken cleric, then a refined minister, and then one of the most important slave abolitionist figures.
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He changed who he was, and that changed his entire life.
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And yes, Mary became his wife.
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After a life of accomplishments, the two of them retired and spent their last peaceful years in a rural town named Olney.
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Now, some of you might say this type of love is long gone in our times, but is it though?
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Well, you can only know for sure if you understand the science behind modern relationships.
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為什麼要通過這個影片練習口語？
通過觀看此影片，你可以深入瞭解什麼構成一個有吸引力的個性，這對於提高你的英語口語實踐非常重要。口語練習不僅限於單詞的發音，更重要的是理解和表達情感，這正是吸引力個性的核心。通過 看YouTube學英語，你可以模仿影片中的表達方式，提高自己的口語流利度和自信心。學習時可以嘗試 英語影子跟讀，跟隨影片中的講話節奏和語調，以增強你的語音和語調感知。
語法與表達在上下文中的應用
影片中使用了多種語法結構與表達方式，使其更加生動而易於理解。以下是幾個關鍵結構：
- What makes an attractive personality? - 用於引入話題，提問的方式吸引聽眾注意。
- It was proven that... - 這個結構常用於表述經過研究驗證的事實，使說法更具權威性。
- Instead of... you can say... - 這種對比結構非常適合在表達中展示替代選擇，讓資訊傳達更為清晰。
- Apparently, the most attractive careers include... - 使用此類詞語，可以有效引導觀眾思考並形成他們自己的觀點。
將這些表達納入到你的 英語口語練習 中，有助於建立更豐富的語言表達能力。
常見發音陷阱
在影片中，有幾個詞彙和短語可能會對學習者構成挑戰：
- Attractive - 發音時注意重音位置，可以嘗試重複以確保準確掌握。
- Personality - 重點是中間的音節，練習時可多做 英語影子跟讀，幫助捕捉正確的發音。
- Competent - 對於這個詞，發音的流暢度很關鍵，多合作練習會有幫助。
學習過程中，遇到困難時請不要氣餒，利用 shadowspeak 的方法，將重點單詞和句子反覆練習，幫助你克服發音障礙，儘快提高語言能力。
影片中的語法
說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：
| 結構 | 影片中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的 | was perceived · was rated · is correlated |
| 定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物 | Dan, which is · trainer, which can · editor, which can |
什麼是跟讀法？
跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。