Pratique du Shadowing: The Science Behind An "Attractive Personality" - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo
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Studies show that an attractive personality usually correlates with how good you look.
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But you can make your personality attractive, even as an average guy.
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To find out how, I followed the what, how, and why problem-solving framework.
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Number 1.
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What makes an attractive personality?
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Apparently that's the same question David Buss, an evolutionary psychologist, asked himself 22 years ago.
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So he gathered 10,000 people from 37 cultures and asked them, What are the most desirable traits in a partner?
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These were the answers.
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But then something clicked into my mind.
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From Machiavelli saying that a good leader must be both feared and loved, all the way to modern science,
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it was historically proven that competence and warmth are the universal signs of an attractive personality.
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So if we go back to our study, we can see that these traits show competence, while these traits show warmth.
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But showing competence is a tricky thing.
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In 2011, two researchers took 100 women and showed them two descriptions of the same person.
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Which do you think was perceived as more attractive?
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It's this one.
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It was rated more attractive because it showed prestige without brutal dominance.
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You see, dominance is correlated with anti-social behavior.
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Along the way, you upset people and make enemies.
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Prestige feels like you earned that status through hard work and diplomacy.
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But what about warmth?
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Well in 2020, it was proven that kindness is the most wanted quality in a romantic partner.
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Which makes sense because more kindness equals less long term fights.
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Yet a personality is not just about how competent and warm you are, it's also influenced by other stuff like your everyday occupation,
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hobbies, and personal values.
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I found studies for all of them.
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Apparently, the most attractive careers include firefighters, military personnel, and legal attorneys.
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On the other hand, the less attractive jobs are labor and hospitality.
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Apparently, even less attractive than being unemployed.
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But now let's talk about hobbies.
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In a huge survey made by Date Psychology, it was proven that these are the most attractive hobbies rated by women,
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while these are the most unattractive ones.
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Number 2.
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How do you make your personality attractive?
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The first way is to rephrase your own identity.
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What do you think is this guy's name?
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Well, 40% of people will choose Dan, which is his actual name.
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According to the Dorian Gray effect, when you hear a name, you'll automatically visualize a face and a set of traits.
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And when you meet a person with that name, you'll treat them according to your stereotype.
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But what's even crazier is that over time,
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it's likely that the person will change their personality and appearance based on how you and others treat them.
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Dan is a name for a simple average man.
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Others will treat him as such, so he will start to act as a simple, average man.
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Now you can't change your name, but you can change the other aspects, like the description of your job, to ensure you won't fit the negative stereotypes.
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Instead of saying that you're a fitness trainer, which can be associated with being dumb, shallow, and narcissistic, you can say something like,
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I help people become stronger and more confident in their bodies.
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Boom!
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You're associated with discipline, empathy, and leadership qualities.
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Instead of, I'm a video editor, which can be related to being nerdy and antisocial, you can say, I explain difficult topics using movie scenes and memes.
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Now, if you don't have a job or any hobby that you can rephrase, you can still become interesting.
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What are the three first things that come into your head when you see Cristiano Ronaldo.
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Soccer player, charismatic, and hardworking.
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What about Elon Musk?
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Likes rockets, richest person in the world, and very controversial.
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Almost any interesting personality can be described using two to three iconic traits.
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So yours can be the same.
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How?
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Choose a unique niche, master it, and bring it naturally into the conversation.
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If you master chess, everyone will know you as the chess guy.
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But don't brag about your knowledge using complicated terms and words.
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Teach others using lots of analogies.
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Here's an example from my favorite paragraph of all time by Robert Kersen.
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But the simplest way to improve is to just become more confident.
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In 2020, a bunch of researchers took some men, showed them two videos on how to be more confident, and then threw them into speed dates.
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Now those videos contained advice on how to get the other person to talk more, how to keep the conversation going, how to move towards personal subjects, how to make the conversation funnier,
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and a strange technique called screen and qualify.
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You casually mention a quality you value in others, which then encourages the other person to indicate that they have it.
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Then, you express that you like their response.
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Now, the men who watched the videos were seen as more confident and more romantically desirable than men who didn't.
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Number 3.
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Why should you have an attractive personality to be more likable, right?
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Not really.
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You see, history remembers John Newton as a minister, slavery abolitionist, and the man who wrote Amazing Grace.
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Yet that's far from where he started.
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In his youth, John was trapped in the life of a drunk, miserable slave trader.
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So his entire Their personality reflected that.
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His big mouth and complete lack of refinement made him
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so insufferable that his crew even left him stranded on a desert island.
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And mind you, he was the captain.
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But then something, or better said, someone changed him.
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Mary Catlett, a clever, pure-hearted girl and the love of his life.
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He knew that her parents would never let her marry a man like him.
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So he began to study Latin and mathematics to prove he had the discipline of a gentleman.
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He left the slave trading business and became a soft-spoken cleric, then a refined minister, and then one of the most important slave abolitionist figures.
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He changed who he was, and that changed his entire life.
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And yes, Mary became his wife.
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After a life of accomplishments, the two of them retired and spent their last peaceful years in a rural town named Olney.
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Now, some of you might say this type of love is long gone in our times, but is it though?
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Well, you can only know for sure if you understand the science behind modern relationships.
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Vocabulaire et conseils d’expression pour cette leçon
Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau B2 s’appuie sur la vidéo « The Science Behind An "Attractive Personality" ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : attractive, personality, traits, confident. Cette vidéo contient 89 phrases et 1073 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 6:19. Le locuteur parle à un rythme naturel d’environ 170 mots par minute, proche d’une conversation courante. 83 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer.
Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo
Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :
| Mot | Prononciation | Sens |
|---|---|---|
| trait nom | /tɹeɪt/ | trait |
| hobby nom | /ˈhɑ.bi/ | passe-temps, hobby |
| competence nom | /ˈkɑm.pə.təns/ | compétence |
| warmth nom | /wɔɹmθ/ | chaleur |
| abolitionist nom | /ˌæ.bəˈlɪʃ.n̩.ɪst/ | abolitionniste |
| correlate verbe | /ˈkɔɹəleɪt/ | corréler |
| rephrase verbe | reformuler | |
| stereotype nom | /ˈstɛ.ɹi.əˌtaɪp/ | stéréotype |
| prestige nom | /pɹɛsˈtiːd͡ʒ/ | prestige |
| dominance nom | /ˈdɑmɪnəns/ | domination |
| desirable adjectif | /dɪˈzaɪəɹəbəl/ | souhaitable, désirable |
| researcher nom | /ˈɹiˌsɝ.t͡ʃɚ/ | chercheur, chercheuse |
| chess nom | /t͡ʃɛs/ | échecs |
| kindness nom | /ˈkaɪnd.nəs/ | bonté |
| rat nom | /ɹæt/ | rat, souris |
Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez
| Mot | Sens |
|---|---|
| find out verbe | découvrir, savoir |
Des phrases à répéter
Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :
- Which do you think was perceived as more attractive?
- How do you make your personality attractive?
- What do you think is this guy's name?
La grammaire de cette vidéo
Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :
| Structure | Dans la vidéo |
|---|---|
| Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le fait | was historically proven · was perceived · was rated |
| Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chose | Dan, which is · trainer, which can · editor, which can |
Prononciation à surveiller
Le locuteur utilise 10 contractions et formes réduites, comme don't, you'll, you're. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.
- Les sons « th »: warmth /wɔɹmθ/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, mathematics /mæθ(.ə)ˈmæt.ɪks/
- Les sons « sh » et « zh »: abolitionist /ˌæ.bəˈlɪʃ.n̩.ɪst/, antisocial /ˌæntiˈsəʊʃəl/, visualize /ˈvɪʒuəˌlaɪz/, casually /ˈkæʒuəli/, accomplishment /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ.mənt/
- Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: abolitionist /ˌæ.bəˈlɪʃ.n̩.ɪst/, stereotype /ˈstɛ.ɹi.əˌtaɪp/, desirable /dɪˈzaɪəɹəbəl/, antisocial /ˌæntiˈsəʊʃəl/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/
Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :
- /h/ — il se souffle, il n’est pas muet: hobby /ˈhɑ.bi/, hardworking /ˈhɑːɹdˌwɜːɹ.kɪŋ/, hospitality /ˌhɑ.spɪˈtæl.ə.ti/, historically /hɪˈstɔɹɪkli/
- /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: prestige /pɹɛsˈtiːd͡ʒ/, researcher /ˈɹiˌsɝ.t͡ʃɚ/, chess /t͡ʃɛs/, analogy /əˈnæləd͡ʒi/, psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/
- /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: trait /tɹeɪt/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/, correlate /ˈkɔɹəleɪt/, stereotype /ˈstɛ.ɹi.əˌtaɪp/, prestige /pɹɛsˈtiːd͡ʒ/
Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo
- Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
- Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
- Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme trait, hobby, competence.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.