跟读练习: Harvard negotiator explains how to argue | Dan Shapiro - 通过YouTube学习英语口语
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- I personally feel uncomfortable around conflict.
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- I personally feel uncomfortable around conflict.
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- Now, we're here today to find out how to argue.
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- But conflict is useful.
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The question is, how do you deal with conflict the most effectively?
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Here we go.
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I am author of Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally-Charged Conflicts.
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Have you found yourself in an argument that felt so frustrating, so at a core aggravating?
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- That's the silliest opinion I've ever heard.
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- It felt just nonnegotiable?
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Well, congratulations, you're a human being.
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We all experience conflict in our lives, and seeing what's going on in our world today, my hunch is you were probably having at least one of these conflicts about politics.
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Our country has fallen into what I believe is a tribal trap.
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Anything that that other side says, I shall not believe, I shall not give any credibility to, and I'm gonna do everything I can to prove I'm right, you're wrong, and to stifle you down to raise me up.
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The problem is not with the what, what are we arguing about, the problem is with the how.
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- How should we argue?
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- How can we be more effective?
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And what I've found is that there are three big barriers that we can actually overcome to have more effective conversations.
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The big things, one, identity, two, appreciation, and three, affiliation.
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Let's start with identity.
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- Now, first of all, this is a hot issue.
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- Why do we get so emotional in these conflict situations?
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It often goes back to something deeper: identity.
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What are the core values, the core beliefs that are feeling threatened inside of you as you're having that conversation with the other side?
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The moment your identity gets hooked in these conflicts, all of a sudden your emotions become Boy, this is a wholly different conflict now.
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It's now your pride.
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Your sense of self is on the line.
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You need to know who you are and what you stand for.
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What are the values and beliefs that are driving me to fight for this stance on this issue?
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The more you understand who you are, the more you can try to get your purpose met and stay balanced, even when the other threatens those core values and beliefs.
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Each side wants to feel appreciated, and yet the last thing they wanna do is to appreciate the other side.
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That's a problem.
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- Listen and understand.
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- When you're in the midst of the conflict, don't talk.
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Take the first 10 minutes.
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Consciously listen to the other side.
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What's the value behind their perspective?
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What's the logic, the rationale?
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Why do they hold this perspective on immigration or healthcare?
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Once you truly understand and see the value in their perspective, let them know I hear where you're coming from, and you know what?
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That makes sense.
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There is nothing more in the world that we like than to feel appreciated.
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Recognize your power to appreciate them.
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Third, affiliation.
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What's the emotional connection like between you and the other side?
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We typically approach these conflict situations as me versus you.
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My opinion on healthcare versus yours, my party's perspectives on immigration versus yours.
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That's just gonna leave the two of you like rams butting heads.
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- Find common ground.
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- Turn that other person from an adversary into a partner, so it's no longer me versus you, but the two of us facing the same shared problem.
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Ask the other person, "Look, what's your advice "on how we can get as many of our interests met "at the same time?" Change the nature of your conversation.
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Now, you put these three things into practice, it can transform your relationships.
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Imagine what would happen if we started a revolution, but a positive revolution of greater understanding, greater appreciation, greater affiliation, how we could transform politics, how we could transform our country and ultimately our world.
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I believe it's possible, but it starts with each one of us.
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关于本课
在这一课中，您将学习如何有效地进行争论，从而改善您的英语沟通技巧。通过分析冲突的本质，您将理解如何在情感对立中保持冷静，并掌握争论的技巧。通过观看视频以及练习影子跟读，您可以增强自己的自信心和表达能力，从而在面对不同意见时更具说服力。在这堂课中，您还将通过对话与argumentation的练习，丰富自己的词汇量并提高英语口语的流利度。
关键词汇与短语
- 冲突 (Conflict) - 在讨论中出现的对立意见或情感。
- 身份 (Identity) - 在争论中构成个人价值观和自我认知的核心因素。
- 欣赏 (Appreciation) - 对对方观点的理解和认可，以促进更和谐的交流。
- 情感联系 (Emotional Connection) - 与对方之间的互动如何影响争辩的氛围。
- 共同基础 (Common Ground) - 寻找双方都认可的观点，以缓解紧张情绪。
- 有效沟通 (Effective Communication) - 建立在理解与认可基础上的讨论方式。
- 对话 (Dialogue) - 双方之间的交流过程，强调倾听与理解。
- 观点 (Perspective) - 每个人对于特定问题的看法和立场。
练习建议
为了充分利用这段视频进行英语口语练习，您可以采用影子跟读（shadow speak）的方法。在观看视频时，尽量模仿讲者的语气、语速和发音。在影子跟读的过程中，注意以下几点：
- 保持专注：视频的速度可能会较快，初次观看时可以调低播放速度，确保每个单词都听清楚。
- 重复多次：选择视频中的句子，并反复跟读，直到您对语调和节奏感到舒适。
- 录音反馈：录下自己的朗读，与原视频进行对比，发掘自己的发音和语调上的差异。
- 观看并学习：通过“看YouTube学英语”的方式，不仅提高口语，还能培养对英语的兴趣和理解。
- 情感表达：在练习时，不妨尝试用不同的情绪表达相同的句子，以便增强您的表达能力和适应性。
借助以上建议，您将能够在实际交流中更加自如地应对各种争论，进而提升您的英语口语能力。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。