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I absolutely love this scene because it is basically a masterclass in how to deal with conflict.
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Colin Farrell's character, the coach, has almost no leverage.
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He's dealing with genuinely dangerous people and he still manages to apologize and take responsibility without becoming defensive, weak, or desperate for forgiveness.
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In under 60 seconds, the coach demonstrates five of these six charismatic mindsets that we teach on this channel.
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If you understand what he does here, you'll be able to walk into a tense situation,
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take responsibility, and still come out with more respect than you walked in with.
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So the situation is this.
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The coach is a boxing trainer whose students have just made an enormous mistake.
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Without him knowing it, they robbed a farm belonging to a criminal organization.
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And now the coach has walked directly into that organization to apologize for what his boys did.
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Feel free to talk.
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One of the hardest parts of making an apology is this first point of contact.
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It's awkward.
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You're anticipating the conflict that's about to come.
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And Raymond here isn't making it easy on the coach.
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He's not making eye contact.
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He's not inviting at all.
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Overall, just an extremely intimidating situation.
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And the mistake a lot of people make
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when they meet this kind of energy is they either lose the nerve to apologize and start dancing around the topic,
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or they start to make excuses for why they messed up.
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And I call this basically, how do I be safe thinking?
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But this is where the first mindset comes in.
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No matter what, I will be okay.
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This may sound like positive thinking, but it's more like flipping a switch in your brain
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it changes the situation from a threat to a challenge as a result
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you're able to approach the conflict instead of withdrawing and having
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that mindset is what allows the coach to get right to the point
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and say this i gather you're the conciliarity of the outfit
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that my boys were stupid enough to around with on
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that note i'd like to extend my apologies on their behalf
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what the coach says next gets dangerously close to something that ruins a lot of apologies.
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My boys, they're naive.
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They've had hard lives and they're just starting to come good.
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When people screw up, their first instinct is usually to make excuses in order to protect their image.
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And at first, it seems like this is what the coach is doing here.
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But there is a massive difference between an excuse and an explanation.
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An excuse gives a reason for what happened and then uses that reason to dodge responsibility.
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The coach is doing the opposite of that.
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They've had hard lives and they're just starting to come good, but they're my lads.
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my responsibility.
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This is the perfect example of the second mindset, which is I care more about my character than my reputation.
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A lot of people in this situation wouldn't have wanted to take the blame
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because it would make them look bad and they might be in trouble.
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But ironically, this has the opposite effect.
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If the coach had tried to blame his students or deflect, he'd have come across as weak and defensive.
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Taking action based on your character, what you value and what you think is right, is almost always inconvenient.
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That's why it's so valuable.
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And Ray can see that he's chosen not to take the easy way out.
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And it's not just about earning Ray's respect.
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When we violate our own ethics and then try to get away with it, we reduce our own self -respect.
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And that's why character matters so much.
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But the most important part of the apology is what the coach says next.
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Now I can return your goods, but I can't return the inconvenience, the time, the f*ing headache this is where apologies often go wrong in
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relationships imagine your partner isn't doing their share around the house
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and they're not doing the dishes it would be nice
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if you said thank you
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and helped me with the dishes the problem isn't just the extra work
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that you had to do it's
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that you spent a bunch of time wondering about why they weren't getting it done and it made you feel
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disrespected and so
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when they are apologizing for not doing the dishes
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it doesn't fully capture the scope of the problem that's why what the coach says here is so important.
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Now I can return your goods, but I can't return the inconvenience, the time, the f*ing headache.
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By acknowledging the full depth of the wrong that was done to Ray and his organization, he's making Ray feel understood,
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like they have a shared reality and therefore he can trust him.
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The reason most people don't do this though is because our instinct
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when we apologize is to shrink the problem down so it makes it seem like what we did wasn't so bad.
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I made no disrespect.
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But it's the opposite mindset that makes an apology feel complete, which is I have impeccable honesty and integrity.
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Having the courage to acknowledge what went wrong to its full
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extent is actually what makes an apology land rather than feeling like a dodge.
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Now, the coach is already in an intimidating situation.
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I've got some good news.
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What?
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I found out he's weed we took.
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That is not good news, Ernie.
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Mickey Pearson has terrible news in the face of a violent and expensive bet.
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So the last thing you'd want to do in a situation like this is to expose your vulnerabilities,
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but that is exactly what the coach does next.
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I'll make amends, but just leave me lads alone.
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What makes the coach such a charismatic person is that he has equal parts competence and warmth, which is what we see here.
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You can tell by the emotional tone of his voice he genuinely cares about his students
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and he's communicating
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that he's concerned about their well -being
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now up to this point ray could interpret everything the coach
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is doing as a strategy just a guy trying to protect himself settle a debt
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and get out of a bad situation alive when the coach says
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but just leave me lads alone he's demonstrating the fourth mindset
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which is i go first in humanizing the interaction
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when you are willing to show what you genuinely care about your motives become easier to understand
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and as a result you make yourself more trustworthy but the hardest part of this apology is how
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Ray reacts to it.
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First of all, I'm going to need to know how your lads got the information about where our farm was cited, because that's not common knowledge.
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The coach has just humbled himself before
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Ray, and he gets nothing back from him.
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I think most people would feel pretty devastated by this reaction, especially since a major reason that people do apologize is to get forgiveness,
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to be absolved of the guilt that they're feeling.
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But the coach does two things here that I think are really impressive.
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The natural thing to do here would be to double down on trying to convince
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Ray that he's truly sorry.
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But instead, the coach does nothing.
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Children usually apologize because they're trying to get something.
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They want the forgiveness.
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They want their privileges back.
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They want the other person to stop being mad at them.
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And of course, the coach hopes that
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Ray will accept this apology, but he doesn't beg him to receive it in any particular way.
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Joe Hudson calls this an upright apology.
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You're neither begging for forgiveness nor trying to escape blame.
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You're just standing in it because you behaved in a way that you want to change.
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When we're interacting with someone, there's a lot of times where we're thinking, I need to get this person to like me.
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I need to make this sale.
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Or in the coach's case, I need this person to forgive me.
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But regardless of the relationship, you do not want to drop into this convincing mode.
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This is especially important during an apology because then instead of offering up something to them, you're putting pressure on them.
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And that's actually the fifth charismatic mindset, which is I don't need to convince anyone of anything.
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But part of why the coach is able to take this in stride is because he has an ace up his sleeve.
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I'm going to need to know how your lads got the information about where our farm was sited, because that's not common knowledge.
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Well, I can do better than that.
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One of the strongest positions you can apologize from is when you've already started to make reparations.
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The coach's case, he actually tracked down the man that leaked the location of the farm, but let's just take the dishes problem.
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Instead of apologizing and then changing your behavior, just start washing the dishes.
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Then when you do go to apologize, you've already started fixing that problem.
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Actions obviously speak louder than words.
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What I love about the coach's character is that he displays all of the same qualities when the power dynamics are flipped, like in this scene.
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You could see all five of the charisma mindsets we discussed earlier in the scene, but he's also demonstrating the sixth mindset.
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You're embarrassing yourself here, lads.
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Kids, stab.
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Girls, shoot.
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Boys, punch.
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Grownups, fight with their heads.
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That's where the real battle is.
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Up here, in the grave.
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Now wake up, lads.
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Come on down to the gym.
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We'll see what we can do with you.
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When you openly share what you genuinely care about, what you're trying to do, you give people a chance to connect with you,
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even in a moment of conflict like this one.
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And that is the final charisma mindset, which is I proactively share my purpose.
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These mindsets form the deepest layer of confidence in conflict and everywhere else.
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It's not about always having the perfect response,
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never looking weak, or even getting the other person to respond to you the way that you wish they would.
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It's being okay, even if someone is angry with you, even if you have to admit you were wrong,
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and even if the conversation doesn't end the way you hoped.
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Because when you believe that you'll be okay, no matter how they respond, you stop scrambling to defend yourself.
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Stop trying to explain everything away or convince the other person to see you differently.
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Instead, you can stay calm.
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You can tell the truth and take responsibility.
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When you have the internal confidence and the ability to communicate confidently, conflict becomes a lot easier to handle.
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Now, if you're interested in the fastest way
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that I know to build both that internal confidence and the ability to actually show it when you're feeling pressure,
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that's exactly what we work on inside of Charisma University.
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Over 30 days, you'll get a clear action to take every day
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so that you can practice these skills until they start becoming your default response instead of something
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that you have to consciously remember in the middle of a stressful conversation.
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The program works on both the internal side of confidence and the external skills of how you communicate,
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which takes a lot of the guesswork out of it.
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Just follow the exercises and practice them in your real life.
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So if you want to feel calmer, more confident, more grounded in difficult conversations, you can learn more about Charisma University with the link below.
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Either way, I hope you enjoy this video.
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I'll see you in the next one.
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Wortschatz und Sprechhinweise zu dieser Lektion
Diese Sprechübung basiert auf dem Video „6 Mindsets That Make People Respect You During Conflict“. Diese Wörter kommen am häufigsten vor: coach, mindset, apology, apologize, ray. Dieses Video enthält 162 Sätze und 1957 Wörter zum Nachsprechen. Der gesprochene Teil dauert 9:26. Der Sprecher spricht schnell, etwa 207 Wörter pro Minute – rechne mit verbundenen und verkürzten Lauten. 85 % der Wörter gehören zu den 3.000 häufigsten im Englischen; den Rest solltest du dir vor dem Üben ansehen.
Wichtiger Wortschatz in diesem Video
15 lernenswerte Wörter aus dem Video, mit Aussprache und Bedeutung:
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| apology Substantiv | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | Entschuldigung, Entschülligunge |
| mindset Substantiv | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | Mindset, Denkweise |
| apologize Verb | /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/ | sich entschuldigen |
| dish Substantiv | /dɪʃ/ | Teller, Schüssel |
| convince Verb | /kənˈvɪns/ | überzeugen |
| genuinely Adverb | /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/ | wirklich, echt |
| forgiveness Substantiv | /fɚˈɡɪvnəs/ | Verzeihung, Vergebung |
| communicate Verb | /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/ | mitteilen, übermitteln |
| demonstrate Verb | /ˈdɛm.ənˌstɹeɪt/ | demonstrieren |
| skill Substantiv | /skɪl/ | Fähigkeit, Fertigkeit |
| defensive Adjektiv | /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/ | Verteidigungs-, Abwehr- |
| flip Verb | /flɪp/ | umdrehen, wenden |
| acknowledge Verb | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/ | zur Kenntnis nehmen, erkennen |
| headache Substantiv | /ˈhɛdeɪk/ | Kopfschmerzen, Kopfweh |
| dodge Verb | /dɑd͡ʒ/ | ausweichen, beiseite springen |
Phrasal Verbs, die du hören wirst
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| come across Verb | wirken, vorkommen | |
| find out Verb | herausfinden, erfahren | |
| get away with Verb | mit etwas davonkommen, mit etwas durchkommen | |
| mess up Verb | durcheinanderbringen | |
| track down Verb | aufstöbern, ausfindig machen | |
| wake up Verb | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | aufwachen, erwachen |
Sätze zum Wiederholen
Kurze, vollständige Sätze aus dem Video, die du im Alltag wiederverwenden kannst:
- You're anticipating the conflict that's about to come.
- I've got some good news.
- I found out he's weed we took.
- I'll make amends, but just leave me lads alone.
- You're embarrassing yourself here, lads.
Grammatik in diesem Video
Die Strukturen, die der Sprecher am häufigsten verwendet, mit den genauen Worten aus dem Video:
| Struktur | Im Video |
|---|---|
| Present Perfect have/has + Partizip Perfekt – eine vergangene Handlung, die jetzt noch wichtig ist | have just made · has walked · They've had |
| Relativsätze who / which + Satz – eine Zusatzinformation über eine Person oder Sache | mindset, which is · complete, which is · warmth, which is |
| Passiv be + Partizip Perfekt – wichtig ist, was geschieht, nicht wer es tut | was cited · be absolved · was sited |
Aussprache, auf die du achten solltest
Der Sprecher verwendet 48 Kurzformen und abgeschwächte Formen, zum Beispiel you're, they're, doesn't. Sprich sie in der kurzen Form, so wie du sie hörst.
- Die „th“-Laute: sixth /sɪksθ/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, ethics /ˈɛθ.ɪks/, withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
- Die Laute „sh“ und „zh“: dish /dɪʃ/, reputation /ˌɹɛpjʊˈteɪʃən/, wash /wɑʃ/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/
- Lange Wörter – auf die Betonung achten: apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, inconvenience /ɪnkənˈvinjəns/
Laute, die Deutschsprachigen schwerfallen:
- /w/ — mit runden Lippen, nicht wie das deutsche „w“ (/v/): wash /wɑʃ/, awkward /ˈɔk.wɚd/, weed /wiːd/, withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
- Stimmhafter Auslaut — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ am Wortende nicht verhärten: apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, lads /lædz/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, acknowledge /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/, dodge /dɑd͡ʒ/
- /æ/ — offener als „ä“: lads /lædz/, behalf /bɪˈhæf/, capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/, establishment /ɪˈstæb.lɪʃ.mənt/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
So übst du mit diesem Video
- Höre dir das ganze Video einmal an, ohne zu sprechen, und notiere die Wörter, die du nicht kennst.
- Beginne mit 0,75-facher Geschwindigkeit, sprich Satz für Satz nach und wechsle zur normalen Geschwindigkeit, sobald es leichtfällt.
- Nimm dich auf und vergleiche mit dem Original; achte dabei auf Wörter wie apology, mindset, apologize.
Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?
Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.