शैडोइंग अभ्यास: 6 Mindsets That Make People Respect You During Conflict - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें
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I absolutely love this scene because it is basically a masterclass in how to deal with conflict.
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Colin Farrell's character, the coach, has almost no leverage.
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He's dealing with genuinely dangerous people and he still manages to apologize and take responsibility without becoming defensive, weak, or desperate for forgiveness.
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In under 60 seconds, the coach demonstrates five of these six charismatic mindsets that we teach on this channel.
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If you understand what he does here, you'll be able to walk into a tense situation,
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take responsibility, and still come out with more respect than you walked in with.
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So the situation is this.
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The coach is a boxing trainer whose students have just made an enormous mistake.
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Without him knowing it, they robbed a farm belonging to a criminal organization.
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And now the coach has walked directly into that organization to apologize for what his boys did.
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Feel free to talk.
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One of the hardest parts of making an apology is this first point of contact.
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It's awkward.
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You're anticipating the conflict that's about to come.
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And Raymond here isn't making it easy on the coach.
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He's not making eye contact.
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He's not inviting at all.
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Overall, just an extremely intimidating situation.
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And the mistake a lot of people make
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when they meet this kind of energy is they either lose the nerve to apologize and start dancing around the topic,
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or they start to make excuses for why they messed up.
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And I call this basically, how do I be safe thinking?
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But this is where the first mindset comes in.
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No matter what, I will be okay.
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This may sound like positive thinking, but it's more like flipping a switch in your brain
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it changes the situation from a threat to a challenge as a result
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you're able to approach the conflict instead of withdrawing and having
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that mindset is what allows the coach to get right to the point
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and say this i gather you're the conciliarity of the outfit
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that my boys were stupid enough to around with on
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that note i'd like to extend my apologies on their behalf
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what the coach says next gets dangerously close to something that ruins a lot of apologies.
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My boys, they're naive.
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They've had hard lives and they're just starting to come good.
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When people screw up, their first instinct is usually to make excuses in order to protect their image.
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And at first, it seems like this is what the coach is doing here.
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But there is a massive difference between an excuse and an explanation.
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An excuse gives a reason for what happened and then uses that reason to dodge responsibility.
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The coach is doing the opposite of that.
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They've had hard lives and they're just starting to come good, but they're my lads.
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my responsibility.
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This is the perfect example of the second mindset, which is I care more about my character than my reputation.
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A lot of people in this situation wouldn't have wanted to take the blame
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because it would make them look bad and they might be in trouble.
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But ironically, this has the opposite effect.
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If the coach had tried to blame his students or deflect, he'd have come across as weak and defensive.
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Taking action based on your character, what you value and what you think is right, is almost always inconvenient.
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That's why it's so valuable.
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And Ray can see that he's chosen not to take the easy way out.
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And it's not just about earning Ray's respect.
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When we violate our own ethics and then try to get away with it, we reduce our own self -respect.
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And that's why character matters so much.
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But the most important part of the apology is what the coach says next.
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Now I can return your goods, but I can't return the inconvenience, the time, the f*ing headache this is where apologies often go wrong in
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relationships imagine your partner isn't doing their share around the house
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and they're not doing the dishes it would be nice
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if you said thank you
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and helped me with the dishes the problem isn't just the extra work
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that you had to do it's
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that you spent a bunch of time wondering about why they weren't getting it done and it made you feel
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disrespected and so
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when they are apologizing for not doing the dishes
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it doesn't fully capture the scope of the problem that's why what the coach says here is so important.
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Now I can return your goods, but I can't return the inconvenience, the time, the f*ing headache.
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By acknowledging the full depth of the wrong that was done to Ray and his organization, he's making Ray feel understood,
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like they have a shared reality and therefore he can trust him.
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The reason most people don't do this though is because our instinct
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when we apologize is to shrink the problem down so it makes it seem like what we did wasn't so bad.
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I made no disrespect.
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But it's the opposite mindset that makes an apology feel complete, which is I have impeccable honesty and integrity.
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Having the courage to acknowledge what went wrong to its full
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extent is actually what makes an apology land rather than feeling like a dodge.
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Now, the coach is already in an intimidating situation.
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I've got some good news.
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What?
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I found out he's weed we took.
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That is not good news, Ernie.
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Mickey Pearson has terrible news in the face of a violent and expensive bet.
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So the last thing you'd want to do in a situation like this is to expose your vulnerabilities,
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but that is exactly what the coach does next.
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I'll make amends, but just leave me lads alone.
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What makes the coach such a charismatic person is that he has equal parts competence and warmth, which is what we see here.
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You can tell by the emotional tone of his voice he genuinely cares about his students
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and he's communicating
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that he's concerned about their well -being
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now up to this point ray could interpret everything the coach
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is doing as a strategy just a guy trying to protect himself settle a debt
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and get out of a bad situation alive when the coach says
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but just leave me lads alone he's demonstrating the fourth mindset
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which is i go first in humanizing the interaction
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when you are willing to show what you genuinely care about your motives become easier to understand
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and as a result you make yourself more trustworthy but the hardest part of this apology is how
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Ray reacts to it.
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First of all, I'm going to need to know how your lads got the information about where our farm was cited, because that's not common knowledge.
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The coach has just humbled himself before
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Ray, and he gets nothing back from him.
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I think most people would feel pretty devastated by this reaction, especially since a major reason that people do apologize is to get forgiveness,
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to be absolved of the guilt that they're feeling.
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But the coach does two things here that I think are really impressive.
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The natural thing to do here would be to double down on trying to convince
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Ray that he's truly sorry.
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But instead, the coach does nothing.
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Children usually apologize because they're trying to get something.
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They want the forgiveness.
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They want their privileges back.
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They want the other person to stop being mad at them.
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And of course, the coach hopes that
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Ray will accept this apology, but he doesn't beg him to receive it in any particular way.
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Joe Hudson calls this an upright apology.
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You're neither begging for forgiveness nor trying to escape blame.
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You're just standing in it because you behaved in a way that you want to change.
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When we're interacting with someone, there's a lot of times where we're thinking, I need to get this person to like me.
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I need to make this sale.
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Or in the coach's case, I need this person to forgive me.
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But regardless of the relationship, you do not want to drop into this convincing mode.
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This is especially important during an apology because then instead of offering up something to them, you're putting pressure on them.
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And that's actually the fifth charismatic mindset, which is I don't need to convince anyone of anything.
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But part of why the coach is able to take this in stride is because he has an ace up his sleeve.
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I'm going to need to know how your lads got the information about where our farm was sited, because that's not common knowledge.
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Well, I can do better than that.
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One of the strongest positions you can apologize from is when you've already started to make reparations.
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The coach's case, he actually tracked down the man that leaked the location of the farm, but let's just take the dishes problem.
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Instead of apologizing and then changing your behavior, just start washing the dishes.
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Then when you do go to apologize, you've already started fixing that problem.
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Actions obviously speak louder than words.
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What I love about the coach's character is that he displays all of the same qualities when the power dynamics are flipped, like in this scene.
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You could see all five of the charisma mindsets we discussed earlier in the scene, but he's also demonstrating the sixth mindset.
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You're embarrassing yourself here, lads.
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Kids, stab.
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Girls, shoot.
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Boys, punch.
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Grownups, fight with their heads.
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That's where the real battle is.
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Up here, in the grave.
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Now wake up, lads.
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Come on down to the gym.
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We'll see what we can do with you.
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When you openly share what you genuinely care about, what you're trying to do, you give people a chance to connect with you,
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even in a moment of conflict like this one.
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And that is the final charisma mindset, which is I proactively share my purpose.
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These mindsets form the deepest layer of confidence in conflict and everywhere else.
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It's not about always having the perfect response,
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never looking weak, or even getting the other person to respond to you the way that you wish they would.
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It's being okay, even if someone is angry with you, even if you have to admit you were wrong,
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and even if the conversation doesn't end the way you hoped.
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Because when you believe that you'll be okay, no matter how they respond, you stop scrambling to defend yourself.
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Stop trying to explain everything away or convince the other person to see you differently.
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Instead, you can stay calm.
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You can tell the truth and take responsibility.
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When you have the internal confidence and the ability to communicate confidently, conflict becomes a lot easier to handle.
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Now, if you're interested in the fastest way
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that I know to build both that internal confidence and the ability to actually show it when you're feeling pressure,
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that's exactly what we work on inside of Charisma University.
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Over 30 days, you'll get a clear action to take every day
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so that you can practice these skills until they start becoming your default response instead of something
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that you have to consciously remember in the middle of a stressful conversation.
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The program works on both the internal side of confidence and the external skills of how you communicate,
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which takes a lot of the guesswork out of it.
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Just follow the exercises and practice them in your real life.
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So if you want to feel calmer, more confident, more grounded in difficult conversations, you can learn more about Charisma University with the link below.
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Either way, I hope you enjoy this video.
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I'll see you in the next one.
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इस पाठ की शब्दावली और बोलने के सुझाव
यह स्पीकिंग पाठ वीडियो “6 Mindsets That Make People Respect You During Conflict” पर आधारित है। सबसे ज़्यादा दोहराए गए शब्द ये हैं: coach, mindset, apology, apologize, ray। इस वीडियो में शैडोइंग के लिए 162 वाक्य और 1957 शब्द हैं। बोला गया हिस्सा 9:26 लंबा है। वक्ता तेज़ बोलता है, लगभग 207 शब्द प्रति मिनट, इसलिए जुड़ी हुई और कमज़ोर ध्वनियाँ ज़्यादा मिलेंगी। 85% शब्द अंग्रेज़ी के 3,000 सबसे आम शब्दों में से हैं; बाकी शब्द अभ्यास से पहले देख लेना अच्छा रहेगा।
इस वीडियो की मुख्य शब्दावली
वीडियो के 15 सीखने लायक शब्द, उच्चारण और अर्थ के साथ:
| शब्द | उच्चारण | अर्थ |
|---|---|---|
| apology संज्ञा | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | क्षमा, क्षमायाचना |
| mindset संज्ञा | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | मानसिकता |
| apologize क्रिया | /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/ | क्षमा मांगना, माफ़ी माँगना |
| dish संज्ञा | /dɪʃ/ | प्लेट, तबक़ |
| forgiveness संज्ञा | /fɚˈɡɪvnəs/ | क्षमा, माफ़ी |
| skill संज्ञा | /skɪl/ | कुशलता, कौशल |
| acknowledge क्रिया | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/ | स्वीकार करना |
| headache संज्ञा | /ˈhɛdeɪk/ | सिरदर्द, सरदर्द |
| instinct संज्ञा | /ˈɪn.stɪŋkt/ | फ़ितरत, वृत्ति |
| inconvenience संज्ञा | /ɪnkənˈvinjəns/ | असुविधा |
| disrespect संज्ञा | /dɪsɹɪˈspɛkt/ | अनादर, अपमान |
| topic संज्ञा | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | प्रसंग, विषय |
| earn क्रिया | /ɝn/ | कमाना |
| defend क्रिया | /dɪˈfɪnd/ | रक्षा करना |
| extent संज्ञा | /ɪkˈstɛnt/ | विस्तार |
वीडियो में आने वाली फ़्रेज़ल वर्ब
| शब्द | उच्चारण | अर्थ |
|---|---|---|
| wake up क्रिया | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | जागना |
दोहराने लायक वाक्य
वीडियो के छोटे, पूरे वाक्य जिन्हें आप रोज़ की बातचीत में इस्तेमाल कर सकते हैं:
- You're anticipating the conflict that's about to come.
- I've got some good news.
- I found out he's weed we took.
- I'll make amends, but just leave me lads alone.
- You're embarrassing yourself here, lads.
इस वीडियो का व्याकरण
वक्ता जिन संरचनाओं का सबसे अधिक प्रयोग करता है, वीडियो के असली शब्दों के साथ:
| संरचना | वीडियो में |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — बीता हुआ काम जिसका असर अभी भी है | have just made · has walked · They've had |
| Relative clauses who / which + उपवाक्य — व्यक्ति या वस्तु के बारे में अतिरिक्त जानकारी | mindset, which is · complete, which is · warmth, which is |
| Passive voice be + past participle — ज़ोर इस पर कि क्या होता है, न कि कौन करता है | was cited · be absolved · was sited |
ध्यान देने योग्य उच्चारण
वक्ता 48 बार संक्षिप्त रूपों का प्रयोग करता है, जैसे you're, they're, doesn't। इन्हें वैसे ही छोटा बोलें जैसा आप सुनते हैं।
- “th” की ध्वनियाँ: sixth /sɪksθ/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, ethics /ˈɛθ.ɪks/, withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, warmth /wɔɹmθ/
- “sh” और “zh” की ध्वनियाँ: dish /dɪʃ/, reputation /ˌɹɛpjʊˈteɪʃən/, wash /wɑʃ/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, capture /ˈkæp.(t)ʃɚ/
- लंबे शब्द — बलाघात सही रखें: apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, inconvenience /ɪnkənˈvinjəns/
हिंदी भाषियों के लिए मुश्किल ध्वनियाँ:
- /v/ और /w/ का फ़र्क़ — /v/ में ऊपर के दाँत निचले होंठ को छूते हैं, /w/ में होंठ गोल होते हैं: convince /kənˈvɪns/, forgiveness /fɚˈɡɪvnəs/, defensive /dɪˈfɛn.sɪv/, inconvenience /ɪnkənˈvinjəns/, impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/
- /z/ — इसे “ज” (/dʒ/) न बनाएँ: apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, lads /lædz/, expose /ɪkˈspoʊz/, charisma /kəˈɹɪzmə/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/
- शब्द की शुरुआत में s + व्यंजन — पहले “इ” न जोड़ें: skill /skɪl/, scope /skəʊp/, sleeve /sliv/, stressful /ˈstɹɛsfəl/, scramble /ˈskɹæmbl̩/
इस वीडियो से अभ्यास कैसे करें
- पहले बिना बोले पूरा वीडियो एक बार सुनें और जो शब्द नहीं आते उन्हें लिख लें।
- 0.75× गति से शुरू करें, एक-एक वाक्य की शैडोइंग करें, और सहज लगने पर सामान्य गति पर लौटें।
- अपनी आवाज़ रिकॉर्ड करें और मूल से तुलना करें, ख़ासकर apology, mindset, apologize जैसे शब्दों पर ध्यान दें।
शैडोइंग तकनीक क्या है?
शैडोइंग (Shadowing) एक विज्ञान-समर्थित भाषा सीखने की तकनीक है जो मूल रूप से पेशेवर दुभाषिया प्रशिक्षण के लिए विकसित की गई थी। विधि सरल लेकिन शक्तिशाली है: आप मूल अंग्रेज़ी ऑडियो सुनते हैं और तुरंत इसे ज़ोर से दोहराते हैं — जैसे वक्ता की छाया 1-2 सेकंड की देरी से। शोध से पता चलता है कि यह उच्चारण सटीकता, स्वर, लय, जुड़ी हुई ध्वनियाँ, सुनने की समझ और बोलने की प्रवाहशीलता में काफ़ी सुधार करता है।