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I have good news and bad news.

良いニュースと悪いニュースがあります。

It's not about you.

あなたの問題ではありません。

Imagine that somebody across the street waves at you, so you wave back to them.

道の向こうにいる誰かが手を振ってきたので、あなたもその人に手を振り返したところを想像してみてください。

But then you realize that they're waving at the guy behind you and you're so embarrassed that you want to evaporate.

でも、よく見たら後ろの人に手を振っていたと気づいて、恥ずかしくて消えてしまいたくなる。

You're going to replay this in the shower for the next three years.

これから3年間、シャワーを浴びるたびにこのことを思い出して反芻することになるよ。

Whereas the person who waved at you has already forgotten it by the time that they reached their friend.

一方、あなたに手を振った人は、友達のところに着く頃にはもうそのことを忘れてしまっている。

See, the guy behind you never noticed.

ほら、後ろの男は全然気づいてなかったよ。

Nobody on that street noticed either.

その通りにいた誰も、同じように気づかなかった。

They weren't thinking about you.

彼らはあなたのことを考えていませんでした。

Because everybody on that street was thinking about themselves.

その通りの誰もが自分のことしか考えていなかったからだ。

That girl that you like who left your text on red three hours ago,

3時間前にあなたのメッセージを既読スルーした、あなたの好きなあの子は、

you've reread your own message four times looking for what you said wrong.

自分のメッセージを4回も読み返し、どこがまずかったのか探している。

Meanwhile, she's in a dentist chair, or her dog just puked on her couch, or her phone died, or she saw it and thought,

一方で、彼女は歯医者の椅子に座っているか、飼い犬がソファに吐いたばかりか、スマホの充電が切れているか、あるいはメッセージを見はしたものの、こう思っているのかもしれない。

I'll answer that later.

後で答えます。

And then her brain did what every brain does with every text.

そして彼女の脳は、あらゆる脳があらゆる文章に対して行うのと同じ反応を示した。

She forgot about it.

彼女はそれを忘れてしまった。

You're one of the 47 notifications that she got today wedged between a target receipt

君は彼女が今日受け取った47件の通知のうちの1つで、ターゲットのレシートの間に紛れ込んでいる。

and a reminder to renew her car registration.

そして、彼女の車の登録更新のリマインダー。

Basically, it's not about you.

基本的に、それはあなたの問題ではありません。

Or let's say the worst -case scenario is actually true.

あるいは、最悪のシナリオが実際に現実のものだとしよう。

She's not into you.

彼女はあなたに興味がない。

She doesn't want to see you.

彼女はあなたに会いたくありません。

She doesn't want to talk to you.

彼女はあなたと話したくありません。

You can take that as a judgment on your character and value as a human being,

それはあなたの人格や人間としての価値に対する判断だと受け取ることができる。

or you can realize that she has a vast network of internal values and associations that she's made,

あるいは、彼女が築き上げた広大な内面的価値観と連想のネットワークに気づくことができるだろう。

and for whatever reason, your unique combination of traits

そして、どういうわけか、あなた特有の特性の組み合わせが

and behaviors does not stimulate the correct sequence of stimuli in her hypothalamus to trigger a conscious experience of arousal.

そして行動が、覚醒の意識的な体験を引き起こすための正しい刺激の連鎖を彼女の視床下部内で活性化させることはない。

You didn't do anything wrong.

あなたは何も悪いことをしていません。

She didn't do anything wrong it was just never going to happen anyway, and it was always outside of your control.

彼女は何も悪いことをしていない。そもそもそれは起こるはずのなかったことだし、最初からあなたのコントロール外のことだったんだ。

Basically, it's still not about you.

基本的に、それはまだあなたの問題ではありません。

Or how about this?

これはどうですか？

Your friend bails on your birthday dinner an hour before.

友達が誕生日ディナーの1時間前にドタキャンする。

He doesn't even bother to text you an apology.

彼は謝罪のメッセージすら送ろうとしない。

You feel angry, offended, humiliated.

怒りを感じ、侮辱され、屈辱を受けたと感じる。

How could you care about someone who clearly doesn't give two shits back?

どうして相手が明らかにこっちのことなんて全く気にしてないのに、そんな人のことを気にかけられるんだ？

You feel bad about yourself, and you feel even worse about them.

自分に対して嫌な気持ちになるし、彼らに対してはさらに嫌な気持ちになる。

And you realize you are not a priority for them.

そして、あなたは自分が彼らにとって優先順位の高い存在ではないことに気づくのです。

That perhaps they aren't even capable of making another human being a priority at all.

おそらく彼らは、他の人間を優先すること自体、全くできないのかもしれない。

That perhaps they see all relationships as highly transactional, unsentimental, and conditional on getting something of value out of another person.

おそらく彼らは、人間関係のすべてを非常に損得勘定的で、情緒的なつながりがなく、相手から何か価値のあるものを得られるかどうかを条件とするものだと見なしているのだろう。

You realize that you opted into this dynamic yourself, whether consciously or unconsciously, and

意識的であれ無意識的であれ、あなた自身がこの力学に自ら飛び込んだのだと気づき、そして

that your naive romantic notions of a burgeoning bromance were premature at best and completely delusional at worst.

芽生え始めたブロマンスについてのあなたの無邪気でロマンチックな考えは、良くても時期尚早で、悪ければ完全に妄想に過ぎなかったということだ。

You realize that this

これって、つまり

so -called friend who has ghosted you on the most important day of the year was never actually a friend at all.

一年で最も大切な日にあなたを音信不通にした、いわゆる「友達」なんて、最初から本当の友達ではなかったのです。

They were only imagined to be a friend, and that they are likely suffering from the loneliness

彼らはただ友達だと思い込まれていただけで、おそらく孤独に苦しんでいるのだろう。

and isolation of their emotionally siloed life far more than you ever will from having one fewer people at a birthday dinner.

そして彼らの感情的に孤立した生活の隔たりは、誕生日ディナーの参加者が一人少ないことからあなたが感じるであろうものよりも、はるかに大きいのです。

Basically, you realize it's not about you. Or this.

基本的に、それが自分や今のこととは関係ないということに気づくんだ。

You give a toast at your brother's wedding, and your voice cracks like you're 13.

兄（弟）の結婚式で乾杯の挨拶をしたら、まるで中学生みたいに声が裏返っちゃう。

You lose your place, you say um 11 times, and then you sit down certain that the whole room thinks that you're a fucking idiot.

話す内容を見失い、「えーっと」を11回も連発し、それから、部屋中の人間が自分をクソみたいなバカだと思っているに違いないと確信しながら席に着く。

Your face is flush with embarrassment, and you just want to curl up behind the DJ booth and die.

顔が恥ずかしさで真っ赤になり、DJブースの後ろに隠れて消えてしまいたくなる。

Yet research finds that fewer than a quarter of the people notice our most embarrassing moments.

とはいえ研究によると、私たちの最も恥ずかしい瞬間に気づく人は4分の1に満たないことがわかっています。

The truth is, nobody fucking cares.

実際のところ、誰も気にしちゃいない。

They are just happy to be at a wedding.

彼らはただ結婚式にいられることが嬉しいだけなんだ。

Happy the bride and groom are going to have a life together.

花嫁と花婿が共に人生を歩むことになって、とても嬉しいです。

Happy that the dinner is four courses and all paid for.

ディナーがコース料理4品で、全部支払い済みなのが嬉しい。

Happy that they are going to get to dance to YMCA later

後でYMCAに合わせて踊れるのが嬉しい。

and hopefully make out with one of the bridesmaids behind the bar.

そしてできれば、バーの裏でブライズメイドの一人とイチャイチャしたい。

Happy that they are going to have an excuse to cancel all of their plans tomorrow when they have a hangover.

明日二日酔いになって、予定を全部キャンセルする言い訳ができるのが嬉しい。

By the time you sit down, they have already forgotten that you even gave a speech.

あなたが着席する頃には、彼らはあなたがスピーチをしたことすらすでに忘れてしまっている。

Because it's not about you.

それはあなたの問題ではないからです。

Or you find out your friends planned a weekend trip to Joshua Tree and you weren't in the group chat.

あるいは、友達がジョシュアツリーへの週末旅行を計画していたのに、自分だけグループチャットに入っていなかったことが後からわかる、といったこともある。

I mean, this one stings because it does feel like a verdict.

いや、これは本当に心にくる。まるで判決を突きつけられたような気分だからだ。

But group trips get planned by whoever happened to be at brunch that day.

でもグループ旅行の計画は、その日たまたまブランチにいた人たちで決まるんだよね。

Someone said, hey, we should go.

誰かが「ねえ、行こう」と言った。

And four people said yes.

そして4人が「はい」と答えました。

Someone made a chat and nobody stopped to audit the guest list.

誰かがチャットを作ったが、ゲストリストの監査を誰も止めなかった。

And sure, maybe you weren't loved enough to be thought of in that moment.

そして確かに、その瞬間に思い出してもらえるほど愛されていなかったのかもしれない。

Maybe they don't think of you as their bestest friend in the universe.

もしかしたら、彼らはあなたのことを宇宙で一番の親友だとは思っていないのかもしれません。

Maybe they don't pine for your presence in every free moment when you're not around.

もしかすると、あなたがそばにいないとき、彼らは暇さえあればあなたの存在を恋しがっているわけではないのかもしれない。

Maybe they even find you to be a little bit needy, self -conscious, and exhausting.

もしかしたら、彼らはあなたのことを少し依存的で、自意識過剰で、一緒にいると疲れると感じているのかもしれません。

Maybe one of the four guys actually secretly kind of doesn't like you.

もしかしたら、その4人のうちの1人は、実は密かにあなたのことがあまり好きではないのかもしれない。

Maybe they've actually known each other much longer than they've known you, and they pine for the days when they were a valiant foursome,

もしかしたら、彼らはあなたと知り合った期間よりもずっと長くお互いを知っていて、かつての4人の気鋭の仲間だった頃の日々を懐かしんでいるのかもしれない。

off on their own together.

二人きりで出かけている。

Maybe they couldn't be bothered to invite other people, and they just didn't even think anything of it.

ただ他の人を招待するのが面倒だっただけで、そもそもそんなこと考えもしなかったんでしょう。

Basically, maybe it's not about you.

基本的に言って、それはあなたの問題ではないのかもしれません。

Or you get fired.

さもなければ解雇されます。

HR is in the room, there's a box for your stuff, and it feels like the most personal judgment imaginable.

人事部の人が部屋にいて、荷物を入れるための箱が用意されていて、それはまるでこの上なく個人的な審判を受けているような気分になる。

They looked at you and they decided, this guy's not worth it.

彼らはあなたを見て、こいつには価値がないと判断したんだ。

But in truth, layoffs get decided in spreadsheets by people who have never heard your voice.

しかし実際のところ、解雇はあなたの声を聞いたこともない人々によってスプレッドシート上で決定されているのだ。

They don't recognize your name, and they certainly don't give a shit if you have a stellar personality or not.

彼らはあなたの名前を知らないし、あなたの性格が素晴らしいかどうかなんて、全く気にしていない。

A VP needed to cut 12 % of costs before the earnings call, and your salary was a sell in column F.

あるVPは決算説明会までにコストを12%削減する必要があり、あなたの給与はF列の「売却候補」リストに載っていました。

Congratulations, you get three months severance and a new LinkedIn profile picture.

おめでとうございます。3か月分の退職金と、新しいLinkedInのプロフィール写真が手に入ります。

But let's say it's even worse.

でも、仮にそれがさらに悪い状況だとしよう。

Let's say that you actually do fucking suck at your job, and you're fired for performance, and your manager is sick of your shit,

仮にあなたが実際に仕事がめちゃくちゃ下手で、業績不振で解雇され、上司があなたのだらしなさにうんざりしているとしよう。

and his manager is breathing down his neck telling him to run a tighter ship.

そして彼のマネージャーが目を光らせて、もっときっちり仕事をするようにと言っている。

So guess what?

ねえ、ちょっと聞いてよ。

You're done.

終わりました。

You're gone.

あなたはもういない。

And it hurts.

そして、それは痛い。

It hurts to realize that you weren't good enough at that role to make the cut.

あの役で採用される水準に達していなかったと気づくのは、とても辛いことだ。

But maybe, maybe it's not just a lost job.

でも、もしかしたら、失ったのは仕事だけじゃないのかもしれない。

Maybe it's a market signal.

それは市場のシグナルかもしれません。

Maybe you were not right for that role to begin with.

そもそもあなたはその役職には合っていなかったのかもしれません。

Maybe it didn't suit your skill set or your personality or your interests, or you were never really motivated to do a good job anyway.

おそらく、その仕事があなたのスキルセットや性格、興味に合っていなかったのか、あるいはそもそも、良い仕事をしようというモチベーションがまったく湧かなかったのかもしれません。

Maybe you lacked the enthusiasm necessary to excel.

おそらく、あなたは優れた成果を上げるために必要な熱意に欠けていたのでしょう。

Maybe you went into the wrong career to begin with and never stopped to question why.

そもそも最初から自分に合わない職業を選んでしまい、その理由を立ち止まって考えたことがなかったのかもしれません。

Maybe this is actually that opportunity to realize

もしかしたら、これこそが実現すべき機会なのかもしれない。

that you have never properly assessed what you're great at and what you're not great at.

自分が何が得意で何が苦手なのか、きちんと評価したことがないということだ。

Maybe, just maybe, this is the best thing that has ever happened to you professionally.

もしかしたら、ただのもしかしだけど、これがあなたのキャリアの中で今までで最高の出来事なのかもしれない。

And while it is technically about you, it's also not really about you.

そして、技術的にはあなたに関することではあるものの、実際にはあなたに関することではない部分も大きいのです。

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It's about what you're best at and leveraging those skills to create the most enriching life possible.

それは、自分が最も得意とすることを見極め、そのスキルを活かして、できる限り充実した人生を創り出すことについての話です。

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So really quick, before we talk more about how it's not about you, let's talk about me.

「『それはあなたの問題ではない』という話を深める前に、ちょっとだけ私の話をさせてください。」

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This video is sponsored by Veyr.

この動画はVeyrの提供です。

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Now, a lot of you guys have been commenting, asking me about my watches, And I'm very excited to announce that for the first time,

さて、皆さんからたくさんコメントをいただき、私の時計について質問を受けることが多かったのですが、このたび初めて、とても嬉しいお知らせがあります。

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one of the watch brands that I wear has decided to sponsor a video.

私が愛用している腕時計ブランドの1つが、動画のスポンサーを務めることになりました。

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And they were kind enough to send through a bunch of awesome watches for me to try on

そして彼らは親切にも、私が試着できるように素晴らしい腕時計をたくさん送ってくれた。

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and to show off to you guys.

そして皆さんに見せびらかすためです。

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So Veer is really interesting because it was started by two friends back in 2016

Veerは2016年に友人同士の2人によって立ち上げられたという点で、非常に興味深い存在です。

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because they wanted one watch for surfing before work and also for work itself.

仕事の前にサーフィンをするときと、仕事でも使える腕時計が欲しかったからです。

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They didn't want to have to switch when they went from the ocean into the office.

彼らは、海からオフィスに移動するときに、持ち物を持ち替える手間をかけたくなかったのです。

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And by 2018, they were assembling watches right here in the United States out of California, Arizona, and Alabama.

そして2018年までに、彼らはここアメリカ合衆国のカリフォルニア、アリゾナ、アラバマの各地で時計の組み立てを行うようになりました。

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Now here is what actually sold me on wearing it.

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The crown screw down so you twist it shut and you stop thinking about water.

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It's water resistant and Veyr backs it with an actual waterproof warranty.

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Now if it ever lets water in while sealed properly they fix it or replace it.

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The crystal is sapphire.

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It's the same scratch resistant glass that you see on watches five times the price.

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So Veyr was cool enough to let me pick any watch from their entire collection

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and I picked this one because of the really unique orange face.

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You know it's on brand guys.

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The whole book is bright orange

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so I felt like I needed a bright orange watch to blind you guys with when I'm sitting here doing YouTube videos.

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So check out Veer through the link in my description.

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Go to www .veerwatches .com slash Mark Manson.

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And if you buy a watch, you will get a free watch roll, which is normally worth $59.

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It's super cool.

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It's great for traveling.

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Very nice.

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But you can only get it if you buy a watch through my link in the description below.

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Back to the video.

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Then let's say your partner cheats on you.

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Of everything on this list, this one probably feels the most about you.

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You weren't enough.

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You weren't hot enough.

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You weren't fun enough.

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You weren't present enough.

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You weren't loving enough.

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But the infidelity research points the other direction.

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The best predictor of whether someone will cheat is whether they've cheated before.

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A 2017 study that followed people across multiple relationships found

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that the people who cheated in one relationship were three times more likely to cheat in the next one.

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New partner, same result.

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The common denominator is the person doing the cheating, not the person being cheated on.

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Personality research finds the same pattern.

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People who score high in narcissism, low in conscientiousness, and who get uncomfortable when intimacy gets real are the ones who end up straying.

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They brought those traits into the relationship.

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You didn't put them there.

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So once again, it isn't really about you.

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Or is it?

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Because you did contribute to the relationship.

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You chose to be with them.

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You believed them when they told you that they were committed.

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But here's the problem.

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Infidelity isn't meaningfully connected to the quality of the partner or the relationship.

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The psychologist Shirley Glass found that 56 % of men

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and 34 % of women who'd had affairs described their marriages as happy or very happy.

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They weren't fleeing a bad partner.

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Esther Perel, who has spent decades counseling couples after affairs, says that people who stray are usually looking for different versions of themselves,

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not a different partner.

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The version who isn't a tired parent with a mortgage, or the version who feels 25 and full of energy again.

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Sure, maybe there were problems.

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Maybe you've drifted and let yourself go.

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Maybe the sex has gone stale.

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Every long relationship has problems.

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But a problem in a relationship leaves you with a bunch of honest options.

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You can bring it up and work on it.

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You can go to therapy.

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You can leave.

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Cheating is the option that lets them get what they want without having the hard conversations, without doing any of the work.

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Choosing it takes a specific type of cowardice, and that cowardice was in them long before you showed up,

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and there was nothing you could have done to fix it.

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Your partner was running from something inside of themselves, and you happened to live in the house and be with them when they ran.

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Could you have done more?

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Of course you could have.

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Could things have been salvaged?

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Yeah, probably.

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But is it about you?

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No. Honestly, it is about them.

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Now, you might be saying this is getting a little bit ridiculous.

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I mean, Mark, are you saying that nothing is about me?

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Nothing is personal?

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Isn't that just avoiding responsibility or my problems?

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No, actually, you are responsible for everything in your life.

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You are responsible for everything you do.

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And so in that sense, everything that you do is about you.

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But similarly, everything everybody else does is primarily about them.

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It's not personal towards you.

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It's not about you.

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That girl that never got back to you, it's about her.

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It's not about you.

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It's not personal.

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That friend who ditched you, it's about them, not about you.

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It's really not that personal.

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The job you lost, it's about them, not about you.

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The cheating spouse at the end of the day, even if you were a shitty partner, it was about them and the choices that they made.

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They chose to handle it that way.

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It's about them.

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So why do we resist this idea?

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Why do we keep telling ourselves that everything is actually about us?

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I think we do this because we'd have to accept the fact

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that nobody is thinking about us as much as we think they are.

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Because believing that every slight aimed at you is about you requires a certain degree of self -importance

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that I think underneath it all feels kind of good.

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To take everything personally, you're assuming that somebody with their own job, their own family, their own credit card debt

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and weird rash spent part of their day masterminding how to make you feel like shit, I mean, come on.

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They didn't.

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They don't really fucking care.

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See, the twisted fucked up thing about taking everything personally is

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that each grievance makes you the main character of the entire world.

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If your friend skipped your birthday to hurt you, then you mattered enough to be someone worth hurting.

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If a girl broke your heart because you said the wrong thing, then it means that your words matter enough to end a relationship over.

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The truth is, she just wasn't that into you.

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And being wronged feels much better than being irrelevant.

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Psychologists who study people with chronic senses of victimhood find

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that they ruminate on old slights and crave having their pain recognized by others.

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The slight becomes almost like a little trophy that they can show and display to others.

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It's proof that they count, that they matter.

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The psychologist David Elkind calls it the imaginary audience, the conviction that everybody is watching and judging you at all times.

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Kids have it, teenagers especially have it, and they agonize about it, but you're supposed to outgrow it.

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But the truth is, plenty of adults never outgrow it, they just get better at hiding it.

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When one unanswered text ruins your whole weekend, the 12 -year -old who got laughed at in the cafeteria

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is still in there inside of you throwing a fucking pity parade, imagining that everything everyone else does leads back to you.

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No matter how fucked up the situation, the reason for someone's behavior lives inside that person.

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Their fears, their habits, their bad week, their dead phone.

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Aaron Beck, the founder of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy,

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had a name for a habit of assuming that you caused events that had little or nothing to do with you.

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He called it personalization, and he classified it as a cognitive distortion.

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Now, the fix that cognitive behavioral therapists use is very simple.

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When something stings, you're supposed to come up with three explanations for it that don't involve you in any way.

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They don't have to be true, they just need to be possible.

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And when part of the mess is yours, you can own that part.

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If you were a crappy partner, great, fix that for your next relationship.

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If you were really bad at your job, then you should probably figure out why.

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Now, all of this can sound a little bleak, like nobody's thinking about you that much,

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or your friends aren't lying awake wondering how you're doing every day,

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or the guests at your brother's wedding forgot your toast as soon as the conga line started.

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But actually, flip it around.

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Because if nobody is watching that closely, if nobody cares, nobody is grading you either.

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Nobody is actually judging.

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You can take the salsa class and be fucking terrible at it.

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You can start a YouTube channel and have nobody watch it.

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You can ask the dumb question in a meeting and actually learn something new.

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You can wear the weird sweater that gets you strange looks on the train.

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Nobody cares.

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Nobody's going to remember.

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The audience that you've been performing for your whole life is mostly empty seats.

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And the few people

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that are sitting there are probably too busy worrying about their own performance to notice the quality of yours.

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So no, it isn't about you.

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Which means you get to go be whoever you want to be.

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So go be it.

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このスピーキングレッスンは、動画「How To Stop Taking Things Personally」を教材にしています。この動画には、シャドーイング用の文が250文、単語が2846語あります。音声の長さは14:08です。話す速さは速く、1分あたり約201語です。音のつながりや弱く発音される音が多くなります。単語の86%は英語の頻出3,000語に含まれます。残りは練習の前に確認しておきましょう。

この動画の重要語彙

動画に出てくる覚えておきたい単語15語を、発音と意味つきで紹介します。

単語	発音	意味
cheat 動詞	/ˈt͡ʃiːt/	騙す, まやかす
psychologist 名詞	/ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/	心理学者
priority 名詞	/pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/	優先, 優先権
judgment 名詞	/ˈd͡ʒʌd͡ʒ.mənt/	判決, 裁き
habit 名詞	/ˈhæb.ɪt/	習慣
slight 形容詞	/slaɪt/	僅な, 些細な
twist 動詞	/twɪst/	捻る
pine 名詞	/paɪn/	松, ゴヨウ
sponsor 名詞	/ˈspɒn.səː/	スポンサー
toast 名詞	/toʊst/	トースト
sting 動詞	/ˈstɪŋ/	食う, 刺す
trait 名詞	/tɹeɪt/	特徴
vast 形容詞	/væst/	広大な, 莫大な
meanwhile 副詞	/ˈmiːnwaɪl/	その間に
founder 名詞	/ˈfaʊ̯n.dəː/	創設者, 創立者

動画に出てくる句動詞

単語	意味
sit down 動詞	座る, 腰掛ける
check out 動詞	試験する, 検査する
find out 動詞	見出す, 調べる
show up 動詞	現れる

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動画に出てくる短く完結した文です。日常会話でそのまま使えます。

They weren't thinking about you.
Basically, it's not about you.
She doesn't want to see you.
Could you have done more?
Isn't that just avoiding responsibility or my problems?

この動画の文法

話し手がよく使っている文型を、動画の実際の表現とともに紹介します。

文型	動画での表現
現在完了進行形 have/has been + -ing — 以前に始まり今も続いている動作	have been commenting · you've been performing
現在完了形 have/has + 過去分詞 — 過去の出来事が今も関係している	has already forgotten · has ghosted · have already forgotten
受動態 be + 過去分詞 — 誰がするかより、何が起きるかに焦点を当てる	were only imagined · weren't loved · be bothered
関係詞節 who / which + 節 — 人や物について情報を加える	person who waved · someone who clearly · friend who has

注意したい発音

話し手はyou're, weren't, didn'tなど、短縮形や弱形を66回使っています。聞こえたとおりの短い形で発音しましょう。

「th」の音: bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, breathe /bɹiːð/, booth /buθ/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, enthusiasm /ɪnˈθuziæzəm/
「sh」と「zh」の音: conscious /ˈkɑn.ʃəs/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, congratulations /kənˌɡɹæt͡ʃəˈleɪʃ(ə)nz/, registration /ˌɹɛd͡ʒ.ɪˈstɹeɪ.ʃən/, notion /ˈnoʊʃən/
長い単語（アクセントの位置に注意）: psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, priority /pɹaɪˈɒɹɪti/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/

日本語話者が苦手な音：

/r/ と /l/ の区別 — /l/ は舌先を歯茎につけ、/r/ はどこにもつけない: behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, primarily /ˈpɹaɪ.mə.ɹə.li/, ridiculous /ɹɪˈdɪk.jə.ləs/, congratulations /kənˌɡɹæt͡ʃəˈleɪʃ(ə)nz/, crystal /ˈkɹɪstəl/
/v/ — /b/ にならないように、上の歯を下唇に当てる: cognitive /ˈkɑɡ.nɪ.tɪv/, whoever /huˈɛvɚ/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, vast /væst/, invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/
/f/ — 「フ」ではなく、上の歯と下唇で出す: fewer /ˈfjuː.ɚ/, founder /ˈfaʊ̯n.dəː/, flip /flɪp/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, trophy /ˈtɹoʊfi/

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まず声を出さずに動画を最後まで聞き、知らない単語をメモします。
まず0.75倍速で一文ずつシャドーイングし、慣れてきたら通常の速度に戻します。
自分の声を録音して元の音声と比べます。cheat, psychologist, priorityなどの単語に特に注意しましょう。

シャドーイングとは？英語上達に効果的な理由

シャドーイング（Shadowing）は、もともとプロの通訳者養成プログラムで開発された言語学習法で、多言語習得者として知られるDr. Alexander Arguelles によって広く普及されました。方法はシンプルですが非常に効果的：ネイティブスピーカーの英語を聞きながら、1〜2秒の遅延で声に出してすぐに繰り返す——まるで「影（shadow）」のように話者を追いかけます。文法ドリルや受動的なリスニングと異なり、シャドーイングは脳と口の筋肉が同時にリアルタイムで英語を処理・再現することを強制します。研究により、発音精度、抑揚、リズム、連音、リスニング力、そして会話の流暢さが大幅に向上することが確認されています。IELTSスピーキング対策や自然な英語コミュニケーションを目指す方に特におすすめです。

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繰り返し練習したい文

この動画の文法

注意したい発音

この動画での練習方法

シャドーイングとは？英語上達に効果的な理由