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Hi, I'm Dr. Tracy Marks, and I make mental health education videos.

Today, I'm talking about diffusing your anger before you lose control,

and this is a follow -up of a video I did on looking at how you become angry based on your temperament.

That video is linked in the corner and in the description.

There's many ways that you can, or techniques you can use to manage your anger and rage,

so this video will be part of a series on anger management.

After this video, I'll have an affirmation video on processing anger.

It's more of a meditation to help you process your emotions through affirming statements.

If this isn't your style, then just click away.

But focusing on affirming statements is one approach to processing anger.

What you think and assume about your situation affects your response to it and your behavior.

And we can hold tightly to negative assumptions that can distort how we interpret a given interaction.

To better understand how to stop before you lose control, let's look at the cycle of anger.

First, you have a triggering event, and this would be something like feeling disrespected or used or having someone cut you off in traffic.

And then this is followed by negative thoughts, like I'm the weakest link on this team or that woman driver doesn't care about anyone but herself.

These are automatic thoughts that pop into your mind right after the triggering event.

Then you have an emotional response to your thought even if your thought isn't rational.

You may feel shame or embarrassment for being the worst team member,

or you feel rage toward the driver like you wish you could hurt her or that she would just crash her car.

This is followed by physical symptoms like a racing heart or sweaty palms or even tense muscles and jaw clenching.

Then you have the behavioral response of yelling, cursing, arguing, or even crying.

So with this cycle, you have things going on in your head that lead to behaviors.

And there's different places in this cycle that you can change to address your anger.

Right now, I'm focused on the behavioral response.

The first technique to diffuse your anger is to practice taking three deep breaths before you respond.

And this gives you a chance to resist lashing out automatically.

Many times the anger response is impulsive.

And if you had been able to wait even just five seconds,

you may have had the control to hold back on saying something hurtful that you can't take back.

The second technique is to develop canned responses to controversial topics.

If you're always around people who like getting into political discussions and their views are opposite of yours,

you wanna already know what to say to shut down the conversation or make it clear that you have no comment.

It could be as simple as, I don't discuss politics before 5 p .m or without a glass of wine in my hand.

Whatever it is, make it something that fits your personality

and help people get the message without it becoming the focus of another discussion.

For example, you don't want to say something like, only idiots discuss politics.

That's just going to turn into a different kind of argument.

You're not trying to insult people.

You're just trying to politely and respectfully pass on that conversation.

Prepare a couple of statements that you can use for any topic

or situation that you know triggers you

if someone repeatedly tries to engage you in a conversation or activity

that you're avoiding use the broken record technique where you give the same response in the same tone of voice

you don't need to craft another response just to make sure

they get it this time saying the same thing in the same tone sends a stronger message

that you meant what you said another thing you can do is develop statements

that de -escalate the situation before you get too angry

And these would be statements like, I need to take a break, or I need a timeout.

Can we talk about this later?

Or the classic, maybe we can agree to disagree on this.

These are canned statements similar to the no comment statements, but the purpose of these statements is to stop a conflict that you've already participated in,

but you recognize it's getting too heated for you and you're about to blow.

And this is where it's helpful to know what your physical symptoms are

when you start to get angry or rageful and this is step four in the cycle of anger.

Do you start sweating?

Does your chest get warm?

Knowing this about yourself can help you recognize when you're going down the path to rage and when to use this technique.

The fourth technique is to stop and observe your anger.

Imagine it as if you're another person in the room looking at you.

What do you look like?

Do you appear intensely angry because you're throwing things, or do you just seem snippy and hot -headed?

Are you talking loudly or brooding in your head?

By disengaging from your anger and actually observing it in a mindful way, you take the energy out of it,

and this gives you time to avoid lashing out.

The last thing you can do is use diversions.

Let's say you remove yourself from the situation by using the

third technique of shutting things down with an I need a timeout statement.

Then do something to distract yourself like listening to music or taking a brief walk or even coloring.

Coloring complex drawings is a popular stress reduction technique

and you can buy a coloring book or there's free coloring templates available online at justcolor .net or freemandalas .net.

Next time, I plan to address the negative automatic thoughts in the cycle of anger.

Stay tuned.

See you next time.

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단어	발음	뜻
anger 명사	/ˈæŋɡə/	성, 분노
technique 명사	/tɛkˈniːk/	기술
trigger 명사	/ˈtɹɪɡɚ/	방아쇠
topic 명사	/ˈtɑpɪk/	화제, 주제
automatic 형용사	/ˌɔː.təˈmæt.ɪk/	자동, 자동적
observe 동사	/əbˈzɜːv/	관찰하다
symptom 명사	/ˈsɪm(p)təm/	증상, 증후
argue 동사	/ˈɑɹ.ɡju/	논하다, 의논하다
muscle 명사	/ˈmʌs.əl/	근육
participate 동사	/pɑːˈtɪs.ɪ.peɪt/	참가하다
reduction 명사	/ɹɪˈdʌk.ʃən/	환원
interaction 명사	/ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/	상호작용
tune 명사	/tjuːn/	곡, 곡조
controversial 형용사	/ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/	논쟁의 여지가있는
palm 명사	/pɑm/	손바닥

영상에 나오는 구동사

단어	뜻
go down 동사	내려가다
take back 동사	되찾다

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영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:

If this isn't your style, then just click away.
Can we talk about this later?
Does your chest get warm?
What do you look like?
Are you talking loudly or brooding in your head?

주의할 발음

화자는 you're, I'm, don't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 22번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: reduction /ɹɪˈdʌk.ʃən/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, assumption /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: automatic /ˌɔː.təˈmæt.ɪk/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, participate /pɑːˈtɪs.ɪ.peɪt/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/

한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:

/f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: helpful /ˈhɛlp.fl̩/, craft /ˈkɹæft/, affirm /əˈfɝm/, diffuse /dɪˈfjuz/, affirmation /æfɝˈmeɪʃn/
/v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, controversial /ˌkɑn.tɹəˈvɝ.ʃəl/, diversion /dɪˈvɝ.ʒən/, impulsive /ɪmˈpʌlsɪv/
/z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: observe /əbˈzɜːv/, resist /ɹɪˈzɪst/, diffuse /dɪˈfjuz/

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