쉐도잉 연습: Peter Fonagy: What is Mentalization? - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

Mentalisation is not a new concept,

but in fact it was particularly intensively used in the 19th century around 1880,

the effort that the mind made was called mentalizing.

And the word actually came into language in the 16th, 17th century has been around.

We started using it along with neuroscientists colleagues in the late 1980s to describe the effort

that an individual makes to understand other people in terms of their thoughts, their feelings, their wishes, their beliefs,

their desires, what goes on between their ears, their subjective world.

If you start understanding behavior in terms of the feelings or the thoughts that give rise to it,

it gives you a sense of meaning that behavior becomes meaningful.

And of course the same processes apply to one's own behavior.

Why did we start using it just then?

Well, neuroscience progressed and we realized that there were particular parts of the brain that actually were devoted just for this function,

just to understand behavior in terms of mental state

so it was kind of it was a thing it was something that perhaps we needed to consider.

We were the first group in London to apply that notion to how parents understood their children

that you can understand a child in terms of the thoughts, the feelings, the wishes, the beliefs,

the desires that the child has that might explain to you why the child behaves in that way.

That understanding will determine your attitude towards the child.

If you think that the child who,

I don't know, whose face is just covered in chocolate and looking at you and kind of tentatively child maybe of one,

their first birthday, and they're looking at you having just dipped that entire face in the chocolate cake that you have made.

And you look back.

How you interpret the child's actions,

whether there's something that they did for fun and and you laugh along with them, or you see the child doing that just

because they wanted to ruin the whole birthday celebration and not appreciate how much effort that you have made.

How you conceive of the child's behaviour will entirely determine your reaction, and the child is looking at you,

trying to understand the meaning of their actions in your reactions.

So in that little interchange, there are two people each trying to read each other's minds.

And it happens in a flash, in the blink of an eye, how your intuitive understanding of the child

and how the child's intuitive understanding of your reaction can make that interaction something that's joyful,

that's something that is a memory

that will stay with you for the rest of your life

and something that you remind remind the child of or it's something

that becomes a source of anxiety for the child

that they don't know that what they do may be met with disapproval

and their intention is not recognized it's always becomes spontaneity, will always be a source of threat.

Some parents struggle a little bit more with seeing the child as the child is,

the child's genuine thoughts, genuine feelings, genuine beliefs, genuine desires behind their action,

and they are more likely to put their ideas about what the child might be trying to do into the child,

onto the child, and that may sometimes be unhelpful.

I don't think that anybody does that on purpose.

Sometimes I know that as a parent, sometimes I get tired.

When I get tired or when I get anxious, I'm much more likely to jump to conclusions about my child and misunderstand.

And to be honest, probably I get the child right.

and this is somebody talking who prides themselves on his sensitivity about 50 % of the time.

But I think that actually is probably extremely healthy for the child because they get used to it.

If they got used to in their interaction with you, they got used to them being perfectly understood all the time,

that wouldn't prepare them for life.

I think there are very important elements to understanding the impact of modern culture,

modern society on child rearing from the point of view of mentalizing.

Because mentalizing as an approach highlights is the critical nature of the relationship between child and parent,

that the child is looking to find themselves,

their subjectivity in the mind of an adult who is there for them exclusively,

because of the nature of that relationship being an attachment relationship.

Replacing that adult with any kind of generic stimulus like a television

or something that's presented by the media is potentially catastrophic

because it will not have the opportunity within it to enable the child to recognize themselves.

And if we think that that's important, and I personally think it is the most important thing, then there is a very profound risk.

I think I've got two or three pieces of evidence that speak to that.

The first is from much later in development, that what we've now recognised is that in adolescence,

certainly after age 11 or 12,

children's primary socialising agents are other children.

They encounter very few adults.

And I think this has led to substantial problems like the increase of anxiety in girls and increase of self -harm,

a whole range of difficulties.

I think there is also evidence

that the more we have focused on early childhood as an area of concern

that children from the younger stage needed to be recognized as children,

as individuals, the more benefit that we can see in terms of 10 years later,

there's adolescents being less violent.

A very good example of that is in England where a government coming in,

putting a great deal of money into early childhood interventions, led 10 years later to a decline of violent crime.

I think thirdly, and perhaps to me most importantly,

the amount of time

that a parent spends with the child is less important than the quality of

that time and we know a hell of a lot about that.

And the quality of that time is not

so much to do with quality of happy time or good time or pleasant time,

it's to do with the parent being there to help the child solve the problems

that they on their own feel unable to solve.

So it's to me problem -solving time.

So it's young children being able to turn to an adult who is there for them with the problems

that they experience from within.

If that channel can be preserved then the quality of the relationship between the parent

and the child will fulfill its evolutionary function.

If that is missed, then that person,

that little person, will find it less safe to turn to others around them,

to help them with the problems that they will have throughout their life.

So, to me,

it is opening the child's mind up to solutions to their problems being found in the social network around them.

That is what we want to establish in the early years.

If we fail young children in that by overemphasis in the media,

by neglect, a whole range of other things.

I think we will make the child more rigid, more closed off, less flexible, less adaptable, less willing to learn.

And after all it is for learning that we have been put on this planet.

We are just teaching and learning machines.

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영상에서 피터 포나지는 1살 아이가 초콜릿 케이크에 얼굴을 묻히는 장면을 예로 들었습니다. 부모가 아이의 행동을 어떻게 해석하느냐에 따라 반응이 달라지고, 그 반응이 아이와의 관계에 큰 영향을 미친다는 것을 설명했죠. 이런 일상적인 순간은 마음의 상태를 이해하는 '멘탈라이제이션'이라는 개념을 실감할 수 있는 좋은 기회입니다. 영상 영어 공부를 하다 보면 이렇게 실생활과 연결된 대화를 통해 자연스럽게 영어 실력을 키울 수 있어요.

유용한 표현과 연어 모음

give rise to: ~를 초래하다. "행동을 일으키는 감정이나 생각"을 표현할 때 자주 쓰입니다. 예: "The feelings give rise to the behavior." (그 감정이 행동을 초래한다.)
jump to conclusions: 조급히 결론 내리다. 부모가 피로할 때 아이의 행동을 잘못 해석하는 상황에서 사용되었죠. 예: "Don't jump to conclusions about the child's intention." (아이의 의도에 대해 조급히 결론 내리지 마세요.)
pride oneself on: ~로 자랑스러워하다. "나는 감수성으로 자랑스러워한다"는 표현에 사용되었습니다. 예: "He prides himself on his sensitivity." (그는 자신의 감수성으로 자랑스러워한다.)
be met with: ~에 부딪치다. 아이의 행동이 부모의 비승인에 부딪치는 상황을 설명할 때 씁니다. 예: "Their action may be met with disapproval." (그들의 행동이 비승인을 받을 수 있다.)

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수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점	was called · were devoted · is just covered
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	has been · have made · we've now recognised

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