쉐도잉 연습: The friendship recession | Richard Reeves - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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There are some studies that suggest, for example, that being without a close friend, being lonely, is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
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It's quite hard to measure friendships.
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What's the quality of that friendship?
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What's the quantity?
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When people say they have a certain number of friends, what does that mean?
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Does it mean how many friends they have on Facebook?
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It is difficult to get at this quantitatively, and also people I think are a bit reluctant to admit sometimes to not having friends.
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Loneliness is in some ways quite a stigmatized condition.
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And so actually getting people to admit to loneliness is something that social scientists really struggle with.
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I think a big question now is whether we're facing a friendship recession.
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That's a term that Daniel Cox, a scholar at the American Enterprise Institute, has used to describe this rise in the number of people who lack a certain number of close friends,
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who have fewer people to turn to in times of crisis.
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You need a shoulder to cry on, or at least someone to have a conversation with.
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That's less and less likely to be a friend now.
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As society changes in all kinds of ways, technologically, economically, But I think it's important we pay attention to what is very often an underappreciated human relationship,
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which is the friendship.
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Friendships come in all shapes and sizes and are also formed in very different ways and in very different places.
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One way we form friends is just by being at the same school as somebody, by growing up in the same place.
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Another way is through the situations you find yourself in, through work.
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There are also friends that you form through activities that are chosen, so through a voluntary activity or a sport, athletics.
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The fourth is online friendships.
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Those are friendships that are formed through a screen or over the internet in one kind or another, without necessarily ever physically meeting that person.
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Across human history, there's always been a tribal size, I think, to friendship groups, which is somewhere in the teens,
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say between 12 and 15 perhaps is a reasonable number to think about.
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And then there are close friends.
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Some people, of course, have no close friends
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but most people have at least a close friend
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and most people would say that the ideal number of close friends to have is somewhere around the three or four number.
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Friendship was something that the the ancient philosophers used to take very seriously
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if you go back to Aristotle for example in some ways seen as the ideal relationship
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and one of the reasons why friendship is I think so important and so idealized is because it's a relationship of
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genuine and radical equality, and one in which you're not in the friendship in order to get something out of it for yourself.
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There's no sense of dependency, there's no sense of exchange, it's not a transactional relationship in any way.
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And in most other occasions, relationships do contain some kind of transaction, some kind of what's in this for me.
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But the definition of a friendship is a relationship where there is nothing in it for you.
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other than the relationship.
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Bye.
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We've seen a decline in lots of traditional institutions, including the family, people marrying later if they do marry, obviously in areas like religion,
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in some cases the labour market.
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And so what that means is there's more of a need for people to have social relationships, connections outside of those institutions.
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That's where friends are hugely important.
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But during the same period, we've seen a real decline in the number of people who say that they have a number of close friends.
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particularly in 21st century US.
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Number one is geographical mobility, people moving away from their homes, moving to big cities or career opportunities, which necessarily stretches their friendship network.
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Parents are spending quite a bit more time on parenting, on looking after their kids, which squeezes out the time that they might have had for friendships before.
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There's also a lot of emphasis on work and careers, what some scholars call workism, which is a sense that your identity is
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so wrapped up in your work that you don't have as much energy and time left over for friends.
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And then lastly, I'd point to the breakdown of relationships.
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As marriages break up or couples separate, that can be really fracturing of friendship groups that have been formed as a couple.
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Once they break up, the friendship groups very often get shattered as well.
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There are a few downsides to being without friends.
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One is lack of access to opportunities.
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It turns out that many people get a lot of jobs
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and opportunities and chances to go and do things through their friends.
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So friends do act as a communications information channel.
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But there are some quite profound effects on health too, mental health and even physical health.
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It's not exactly clear what the causal relationships are, what's going on.
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But it is clear that having friends is protective of your health in various ways.
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And so it's not just that being without friends can make you isolated in a sort of economic or a social sense, but it can also make you sad.
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And being sad, it turns out, is also bad in terms of your physical as well as emotional health.
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Today, 15 % of young men say that they don't have a close friend.
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That was just 3 % back in the 1990s.
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And so we're seeing a five -fold increase in the number of men who have no close friends.
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Back in 1990, Almost half of young men, 45%, said that if they had to turn to someone in a time of trouble, it would be to a close friend.
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But now that's dropped to about 22%.
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And in fact, there are more men, about 36%, who say that they would go to their parents.
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So that's quite a radical transformation in the social networks that we've seen, particularly of young men.
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The pandemic has been a sort of stress test for our friendship networks.
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Interestingly, there we see
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that it's women who've been most affected with more than half
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of women saying they'd lost touch with at least some of their friends.
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you I think that's because female friendships are more based on physical relationships, on face -to -face time,
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whereas male friendships tend to be more mediated perhaps through activities or technology.
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We don't know for sure.
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But that gender gap is suggestive of the fact
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that women's friendships are more in need of more regular physical contact than male friendships are, which is maybe why women's friendships have borne the brunt.
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of the impact of COVID on those friendship networks.
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There's obviously a dystopian version of how these trends could continue, which is a world of essentially atomized individuals without friends,
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isolated, sad, lonely, perhaps in ill health.
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I think that's why we have to pay real attention to these trends
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and to recognize that friendship is incredibly important for human flourishing.
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And that people want to make friends.
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We're wired to want to be social creatures and to be friends.
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but that might be harder for us to do so in certain circumstances.
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Circumstances where we're under too much pressure, where we're too segregated, where the opportunities to cultivate friendship are not there.
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A key lesson that we learn is that friendships don't form themselves.
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Friendship is not a flower that just blooms all on its own.
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It's more like a woodworking project that you have to carve out and continue to work on.
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One of the necessary steps to making a friend is to admitting that you want to make a friend.
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to being open to that.
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That requires a certain vulnerability It requires you in some ways to reveal a need, a desire, And I think as we get older,
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there's sometimes a sense of shame that comes along with not having enough friends.
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And actually saying I need a friend is maybe one of the hardest sentences any human being can utter.
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- Friendship recession: 친구 관계의 쇠퇴. "최근 친구 수가 줄어드는 friendship recession 현상에 대해 논의하고 있습니다."
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- Shoulder to cry on: 위로해줄 사람. "고통스러울 때 shoulder to cry on이 없으면 힘들어집니다."
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