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You are one of the smartest women in every room you walk into.
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You know it.
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The people around you know it.
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And yet somehow there's always that woman.
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The moment she walks in, the energy shifts.
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People lean in, opportunities find her, conversations bend in her direction.
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And you've watched it happen enough times to know that whatever she has, It isn't on some resume.
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And I know you.
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You've spent so much time building your career, getting hotter, smarter, richer, becoming someone who's truly undeniable and impressive on paper.
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But no one ever taught you the other game that runs underneath every room you've ever walked into.
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That ends today.
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Hello my muses!
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Welcome back to my channel where women who want everything learn to have their cake and eat it too.
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I'm your host Nadine and I'm rebuilding the village woman once had
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so we can have the right conversations and create lives that feel as good as it looks.
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Here's what I've come to understand about truly socially intelligent women
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they are playing a completely different game than everyone else in the room.
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They understand power, they understand people, and they understand how to position themselves without ever looking like they're trying.
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I think of it as social chess, and it is one of the most under leveraged skills an intelligent woman can develop for her career and for every relationship,
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every room, every version of the life she's trying to build.
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And the great thing about it is you can absolutely learn it.
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It's one of those things where once you see it, you can't unsee it.
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So here are five things you need to master to be the social chess grandmaster.
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As always, we don't gatekeep, so let's step into it.
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First, every room has a power map, so learn to read it within 60 seconds.
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Most people walk into a room
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and immediately start performing a version of themselves they think they need to be in that room.
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They're thinking about how they're coming across, what to say, who to approach.
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And because all of their attention is pointed outward at themselves, they completely miss what's actually happening in the room.
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The first move in social chess is to flip that entirely.
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You walk in and instead of asking, how's my hair?
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How do I look?
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You ask, what is actually going on here?
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Every room, dinner party, work meeting, social gathering has what I call a power map.
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Anchor.
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This is the person the room is emotionally organized around.
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This is the person whose mood sets the tone.
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Pay attention to where people's eyes go to when something funny happens, who they turn to look at to watch their reaction.
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That's the anchor.
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That's the person whose social approval the people in the room wants.
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The second is the connector.
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This is the person who knows everyone and is actively introducing people and initiating conversations and getting people together.
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They are almost always the most genuinely liked person in the room and the most trusted.
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If you want to integrate into a new social environment quickly, find the connector and treat that relationship with care.
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The third is the observer.
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This is the person who was saying the least, but watching everything that's happening carefully.
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The observer is the most underestimated person there.
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They are usually the most valuable to have on your side because they have seen everything and said nothing,
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which means they know things nobody else knows that they know.
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So here's the move.
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In any new room you step into, spend the first five minutes identifying these three people before you engage deeply with anyone.
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It takes practice.
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It's not comfortable at first.
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It pushes you to get out of your comfort zone.
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But once you can do it, you will never walk into a room not knowing how to position yourself again.
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Second, learn to actually read people past their personalities.
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We live in an era obsessed with personality frameworks, Myers -Briggs, Engrams, attachment styles, and look, I love them and I think they're so much fun,
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but they only tell you about a person's general wiring, okay?
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They don't tell you what that person needs right now, in this very moment, in this dynamic.
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I've always found that people always tell on themselves, but not directly in what they say.
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I like to pay attention what they brag about, what they complain about, or what they ask questions about.
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What someone brags about shows their insecurity.
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Really pay attention.
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The person who is constantly talking about their title or their salary
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or their connections is telling you that those things feel fragile to them and they need them validated.
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But don't confuse this with people who are actually just genuinely excited to share positive news, okay?
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That's different.
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Now, what someone likes their values.
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If someone is always frustrated that people don't listen to them, they deeply value being heard and understood.
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If someone is always complaining that people are flaky, they value reliability and follow through.
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Isn't that kind of interesting that you can tell?
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And like when someone asks questions, pay attention to what they ask about because that shows their desires.
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The questions people ask in conversations are windows into what they're actually thinking about, working through, or wanting for themselves.
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Once you start listening at this level, conversations become very interesting and provide a lot of information.
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You start actually hearing people and when you can hear what someone actually needs,
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saying, you become someone they feel very comfortable around and trust because you make them feel understood.
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This is active, deep listening, and it helps build genuine connections and trust.
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Third, stop trying to be interesting and become interested.
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One of the most counterintuitive truths in social intelligence is
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that the women who are the most magnetic in social situations are almost never the ones who are trying to be impressive.
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They're the ones who are the most genuinely curious about the people in front of them.
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When someone is clearly very accomplished or intelligent, people expect them to be somewhat self -centered.
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When you, a smart, beautiful woman, turn the full beam of your attention onto the person you're speaking with
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and asking them questions that really show you were listening, it is a little disarming because it's unexpected.
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So it creates an instant bond.
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Your intelligence is not your most powerful social asset.
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Your curiosity is.
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And here's a real life application.
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Most people ask surface level questions and conversations.
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What do you do?
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Where are you from?
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How do you but they're not memorable.
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The woman playing social chess asks what I call second layer questions.
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She takes whatever answer you just gave her and goes one level deeper.
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You say you just got back from a work trip.
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She doesn't say, oh, how was it?
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She asks, what was the most unforgettable thing about it?
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You say you're thinking about changing careers.
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She doesn't say, oh, really?
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Why?
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Or to what?
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She asks, what finally Second layer questions do something very important here.
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It signals that you are actually listening to them and it invites the other person into a more interesting version of themselves, even if it's just for 10 minutes.
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that woman for someone else, even for a moment, makes you unforgettable.
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Fourth, understand the difference between social capital and social debt.
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This is a framework I don't think gets talked about enough, and it completely changed how I think about every social interaction I have.
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Every interaction you have with another person either deposits into
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or withdraws from what I call your social capital account with that person.
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account, the balance determines what's available to you when you need it.
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Social capital deposits are small but consistent.
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You remembered something that they said three months ago.
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You sent them something that made you think of them.
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You showed up and celebrated them even when it was inconvenient for you.
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You defended their name in a room they weren't in.
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You celebrated their wins without making it about you.
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None of these are really grand gestures, but they are hallmarks of a good and also micro deposits you make that compound over time.
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Social debt, on the other hand, is less obvious than most people think.
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I mean, yeah, it can look straight up like selfishness,
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but it usually looks like the friend who likes to process all of their thoughts out loud all the time, but never asks how you're doing.
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Or it can look like the colleague who is warm
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and charming when they want something from you and professionally distant the rest of the time.
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can look like the person who shows up for the fun moments and disappears the moment things are difficult for you.
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None of these people think of themselves as takers, but their social account is overdrawn and the people around them feel it even when they can't fully understand it.
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If you are playing social chess, you need to understand that social debt compounds just like financial debt.
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Small withdrawals that go unaddressed don't stay small.
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They accumulate into this negative feeling And once people feel that way about you and they have that impression about you,
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it is very hard to turn around.
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I don't know about you girls, but there are some friends that I've dropped around my Saturn return dark night of the soul.
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And it was mostly due to this selfishness or this lack of awareness.
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And no matter how they try to explain themselves or whatever, you just have that impression of them and you can't really go back to how things work.
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The framework is so useful because we're usually completely unaware about our social account balances.
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why certain relationships feel transactional, why certain people seem kind of distant, why we don't get invited into certain rooms anymore.
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And the answer is almost always that you have been overdrawing from an account.
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Unless and less and less.
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You meet an insecure girl The universe knows how much I have to say about that.
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But I have a separate video in the works about insecure girls because ew, Anyways, the woman playing social chess is aware and mindful of this.
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So she makes deposits before she needs to make withdrawals.
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And she understands that the most valuable social capital you can build is the kind
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that makes people feel like you're someone worth getting to know or being friends with.
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The girlies around me who are great at doing this invest a lot of time
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and energy into making plans and communicating and offering help where they can.
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I don't know if there's even an Chinese,
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there is a phrase called which pretty much means your fate or luck with people is just really good.
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People like you, you're charismatic, people gravitate towards you naturally.
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So make deposits before you make withdrawals.
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The key to networking is thinking about what you can do for others before asking what they can do for you.
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And the fifth and last one, master the energy of the room.
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Now, here is something that took me honestly way too long to figure out and fully understand.
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Communication is only partially verbal.
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In fact, research suggests
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that the feeling people walk away with from an interaction is largely determined by your energy than by what you actually said.
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I'm sure you've heard of people say this.
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It's not what you say, but it's how you say it,
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feeling upset or uncomfortable, or you can say very little and leave people feeling completely at ease and in awe of you.
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There's a concept I love called emotional contagion.
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It's a scientifically documented phenomenon where we unconsciously absorb and mirror the emotional states of the people around us.
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You walk into a room where two people just had an argument and even though nobody told you, you feel it.
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You sit next to someone on the plane who is anxious and you start feeling
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someone who is genuinely so positive and carefree that you leave feeling more inspired and excited about life.
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And it's because we have what is called mirror neurons, cells in our brain that literally fire in response to the emotional states of others.
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We are wired to catch each other's feelings, which is kind of cool, isn't it?
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Like in some ways we're kind of telepathic.
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So the social chess or social game implication of this is huge
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because it means that the most powerful thing you bring into any room is not a talking point or a strategy.
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It is a regulated, grounded, genuinely present, good energy.
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When you are that woman, you become the emotional anchor of every room you walk into.
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People feel better around you without knowing why.
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They trust you faster.
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They open up more easily.
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They want to be near you.
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And here's a little wisdom for my muses and may mays.
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The energy
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Your energy is the accumulated output of how you have been living pause rewind
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that back okay your energy is the accumulated output of how
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you have been living a woman who is genuinely at peace
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with her choices who is building something she believes in who is not betraying herself in her relationships
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or her work she walks into rooms feeling confident and expanded There's no performance because she has nothing to perform.
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So the most magnetic version of you is the result of you actually living your best life.
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And that is both the most inconvenient and the most liberating thing I can tell you.
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So here's your homework for this week.
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I want you to walk into one social situation, a work meeting, a dinner, a catch up with a friend.
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It can be anything.
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And I want you to practice one to two things from today
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and then come back here and let me know in the comments how it went.
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This is a challenge, okay?
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Because I know it'll make you zone.
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But just like any skill, social chess is built one move at a time.
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That's all the cake I have for you today.
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Thank you so much for watching until the end.
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I appreciate it so much.
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And if you enjoyed our little chat today, please like hype and leave a comment to share your thoughts and I'll see you in the next episode.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “the social skills every smart woman needs”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 193개와 단어 2443개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 15:07입니다. 화자는 분당 약 162단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 88%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| chess 명사 | /t͡ʃɛs/ | 체스, 서양장기 |
| accumulate 동사 | /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/ | 모으다, 축적하다 |
| anchor 명사 | /ˈæŋ.kəː/ | 닻, 정 |
| withdrawal 명사 | /wɪðˈdɹɔ(ə)l/ | 인출, 출금 |
| brag 동사 | /bɹæɡ/ | 자랑하다, 나대다 |
| inconvenient 형용사 | /ˌɪn.kənˈviːni.ənt/ | 불편(不便)하다 |
| selfishness 명사 | /ˈsɛl.fɪʃ.nəs/ | 이기심 |
| unforgettable 형용사 | /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/ | 잊을 수 없다, 잊지 못하다 |
| magnetic 형용사 | /mæɡˈnɛtɪk/ | 자석의 |
| compound 명사 | /ˈkɑmpaʊnd/ | 화합물 |
| betray 동사 | /bɪˈtɹeɪ/ | 배반하다, 배신하다 |
| carefree 형용사 | /ˈkɛɚfɹi/ | 태평한 |
| contagion 명사 | /kənˈteɪd͡ʒən/ | 전염 |
| liberate 동사 | /ˈlɪbəˌɹeɪt/ | 해방(解放)하다 |
| neuron 명사 | /ˈn(j)ʊɹɑn/ | 신경 세포 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| come back 동사 | 돌아오다 |
| turn around 동사 | 회전하다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- You walk in and instead of asking, how's my hair?
- How do I look?
- You ask, what is actually going on here?
- Isn't that kind of interesting that you can tell?
- What do you do?
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 현재완료진행 have/has been + -ing — 전에 시작해 지금도 계속되는 동작 | have been overdrawing · have been living |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | women who want · person who knows · person who was |
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | you've watched · You've spent · you've ever walked |
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | is pointed · is always frustrated · is called |
주의할 발음
화자는 don't, they're, you're 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 46번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “th” 소리: withdrawal /wɪðˈdɹɔ(ə)l/, telepathic /ˌtɛlɪˈpæθɪk/, withdraw /wɪðˈdɹɔ/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: selfishness /ˈsɛl.fɪʃ.nəs/, transactional /trænˈzækʃ(ə)nəl/, unconsciously /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəsli/, implication /ˌɪmpləˈkeɪʃən/, initiate /ɪˈnɪʃ.i.eɪt/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, accumulate /əˈkjuːmjʊˌleɪt/, inconvenient /ˌɪn.kənˈviːni.ənt/, unforgettable /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: selfishness /ˈsɛl.fɪʃ.nəs/, unforgettable /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/, carefree /ˈkɛɚfɹi/, frustrate /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/, mindful /ˈmaɪnd.fl̩/
- /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: inconvenient /ˌɪn.kənˈviːni.ənt/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, counterintuitive /ˌkaʊntəɹɪnˈtuɪtɪv/, gravitate /ˈɡɹævɪteɪt/, validate /ˈvæl.ɪ.deɪt/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: muse /mjuːz/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, charismatic /ˌkɛɹəzˈmætək/, transactional /trænˈzækʃ(ə)nəl/, confuse /kənˈfjuːz/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, chess, accumulate, anchor 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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