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There are certain social rules and nobody teaches you because technically they're not rules.
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Like nobody's gonna pull you aside until you're breaking them, but people will make their thoughts about you
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or write you off before you've even had the chance to get to know them.
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And I know some of you are gonna be like, well, I don't want to get to know them either then.
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But girlfriend, this is not really how the world works.
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And trust me, a lot of these are things I wish someone had told me
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so I didn't have to look like an idiot.
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And I hate the excuse, it wasn't my intention.
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As if that dismisses the poor lack of thought.
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So we're going to change that.
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So I wrote down 10 of my social rules that I think every smart woman should know.
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Some of these are going to sound so simple, but if you start paying attention, you'll realize how many people break them.
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Hi muses.
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Welcome back to the channel where the women who want everything learn to have their cake and eat it too.
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I'm your host Nadine.
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And today we are getting into the 10 unwritten social rules every smart woman should know.
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Also, if you like conversations like this, make sure you're in my Inner Circle newsletter.
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It's free.
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I'll link it in the description box below.
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And as always, we don't gatekeep, so let's step into it.
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Rule number one, never make someone regret telling you something.
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If someone tells you something vulnerable, embarrassing, private, or even just personal, don't make them regret giving you access to that information.
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Don't bring it up in front of other people.
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Don't turn it into a joke three weeks later.
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Don't tell your boyfriend because he doesn't count.
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He counts.
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And most importantly, don't ever use it against them, even when you're angry, even when you are no longer friends.
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And never put her in a position to try to out her either.
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When someone gives you sensitive information, they're also giving you a bit of responsibility for how to handle it.
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People remember who made them feel safe.
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Rule number two, 2.
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Know when to move on from a conversation topic.
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I think one of the most underrated signs of social intelligence is knowing when to let something go.
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I went to this networking meetup where this guy kept going back to a topic
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because he was so worked up about it, but everyone else had moved on from it hours ago.
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And it just got to a point where everyone was kind of annoyed and irritated.
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It's kind of like when you have
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that one uncle who won't shut up about politics at the family dinner and no one wants to talk to him anymore.
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And the vibes are just kind of stale and awkward, but he doesn't get the memo.
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Don't be that person.
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Rule number three, protect people's dignity in public.
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Your friend who says something wrong, you don't always need a corrector in front of everyone.
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Your significant other is telling the story and gets a detail wrong.
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Oh my God, that's not how it happened.
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This is how it happened.
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And you hijack the conversation girl what are you doing someone sneezes
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and has snot running down their face sometimes the kindest thing you can do is to look away
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and let them handle it there are people who will embarrass other people for a laugh
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or expose something because it makes the story better
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or publicly correct people because they need everyone to know
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that they are right don't trade someone else's sensitivity for 10
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seconds of social currency protect people in public handle problems in private.
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Rule number four, never compete with someone else's good news.
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Your friend says I got promoted and you go, oh my God, congratulations.
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I'm actually up for a promotion too.
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Let her have her moment.
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Sometimes being a good friend means being able to let someone else be the main character
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when it's time for them to shine.
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Celebrate her, ask questions, be excited.
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You don't lose anything by letting another woman have her moment.
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Rule number five, no VIP access with people with GA tickets.
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I honestly didn't really know what to call this one, but this is actually something I first learned with dating before I started applying it to all areas of my life.
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And I love it.
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There's this idea now that vulnerability automatically creates intimacy and it can, but vulnerability and intimacy are not the same thing.
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You can tell someone your entire childhood trauma within 45 minutes of meeting them and still not actually know each other.
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Real intimacy requires time, consistency, and reciprocal trust.
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So the girl you've hung out with twice doesn't need to know the entire lore behind your last friendship breakup.
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And someone you've been dating for three weeks doesn't need to know every insecurity or every shitty relationship you've been in.
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People have to earn access to you over time.
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Chemistry and familiarity is not trust.
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Oversharing is not intimacy.
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Rule number six, invitations are information.
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This one might hurt some feelings, but pay attention to who invites you, who initiates with you, who includes you, and who reciprocates.
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If you've asked someone to hang out three times and she said no every time without ever suggesting another date, that's a data point.
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If you are always organizing the dinners, checking in, remembering birthdays, and keeping the entire your friendship alive.
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that's a data point.
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If someone is always having parties and get togethers that you only find out about after it happens, that's a data point.
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But not all of these require confrontation.
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Sometimes you just need to see clearly where you stand with them and then move on.
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Rule number seven, never punish someone for saying no. If your friend says she can't come to dinner, just say, no worries girl next time.
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Not wow okay I guess you're too busy for us now even
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if you are joking okay because it's not a funny joke.
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If someone doesn't want to drink stop asking them why.
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If someone doesn't want to talk about something move on
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because every time you punish someone for saying no you're telling them
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that it's not okay for them to be real with you and that's exhausting.
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Nothing kills a friendship faster.
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So give people room to say no and you'll actually create more honest relationships.
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Rule number eight, remember the little things.
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This is probably the easiest social skill on this entire list.
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Remember what people tell you.
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If your friend tells you that her mom is having surgery next Tuesday, text her on Tuesday.
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If your significant other has a huge presentation coming up, ask them how it went.
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Friend is back from vacation, be excited and be ready to ask about their trip.
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This sounds so basic, but think about how good it feels when someone remembers something that you mentioned weeks ago.
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Because what's actually being communicated is I care about you.
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I'm paying attention and I'm interested in being part of your life.
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And if you have a terrible memory, just put it in your calendar.
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Rule number nine, don't make people guess where they stand with you.
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This is something I've come to appreciate more and more as I got older.
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Give people compliments and be real with how you feel.
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Tell people you appreciate them tell people if they did an amazing job
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if you had a great time meeting someone tell them you had
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so much fun with them something
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that really changed my viewpoint is this quote i read a
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while ago and it's give people their flowers
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while they are still around to receive them but also
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if you've grown apart from a friend learn to communicate
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so you don't leave them hanging and confused too
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and lastly rule number 10 your reputation enters the room before you do this is the rule
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that defines where you sit in your social circles.
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Your reputation is more than just what people think of you or your accomplishments.
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It's your character and values.
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And I think people forget that.
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Do you show up?
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Can you keep your word?
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Do you celebrate other women?
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Are you gracious when there's nothing to gain?
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Do you talk poorly about every other friend?
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Do you make people feel good about themselves?
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Because people talk, not necessarily in some bad gossipy way, but think about how often we say things like, oh my God, I love her.
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You guys would totally get along.
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She's so sweet.
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I think you should invite her.
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That is your reputation working for you.
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And the opposite happens too.
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So if you think you need to do some damage control, instead of thinking about how to get more people to like you, think about what it's like being your friend,
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what it's like getting to know you or work with you.
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What do people experience when they interact with you?
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Character determines whether people want you to stick around and that's all 10.
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You just have to understand that the ways you treat people really do add up
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and eventually how people feel in your presence becomes part of your reputation in your absence.
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That's all the cake I have for you today.
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Thank you so much for watching until the end.
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I appreciate it so much and if you enjoyed our little chat today, please like, hype, and leave a comment to share your thoughts and I'll see you in the next episode.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 말하기 레슨은 영상 “10 social rules every smart woman should know”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 135개와 단어 1610개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 8:40입니다. 화자는 분당 약 186단어로 빠르게 말하므로 연음과 약하게 발음되는 소리가 많습니다. 단어의 89%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에 나오는 익혀 둘 만한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| reputation 명사 | /ˌɹɛpjʊˈteɪʃən/ | 평판, 명성 |
| intimacy 명사 | /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/ | 친교, 친밀함 |
| friendship 명사 | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | 우정, 우의 |
| topic 명사 | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | 화제, 주제 |
| regret 동사 | /ɹɪˈɡɹɛt/ | 후회하다 |
| invite 동사 | /ɪnˈvaɪt/ | 초대하다 |
| punish 동사 | /ˈpʌnɪʃ/ | 벌주다, 징벌하다 |
| vulnerability 명사 | /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/ | 취약성 |
| earn 동사 | /ɝn/ | 벌다 |
| sensitive 형용사 | /ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/ | 민감하다 |
| uncle 명사 | /ˈʌŋ.kl̩/ | 아저씨, 삼촌 |
| flower 명사 | /ˈfloʊɚ/ | 꽃 |
| skill 명사 | /skɪl/ | 기술, 스킬 |
| promotion 명사 | /pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/ | 승진, 진급 |
| congratulations | /kənˌɡɹæt͡ʃəˈleɪʃ(ə)nz/ | 축하해요, 축하합니다 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| come up 동사 | 올라오다 |
| get along 동사 | 과/와/ 잘 지내다, 과/와 사이가 좋다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- Can you keep your word?
- Do you celebrate other women?
- Are you gracious when there's nothing to gain?
- Do you talk poorly about every other friend?
- Do you make people feel good about themselves?
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | you've even had · you've hung · you've been |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | women who want · friend who says · people who will |
주의할 발음
화자는 don't, doesn't, you've 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 49번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: reputation /ˌɹɛpjʊˈteɪʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, punish /ˈpʌnɪʃ/, promotion /pɹəˈmoʊʃn̩/, congratulations /kənˌɡɹæt͡ʃəˈleɪʃ(ə)nz/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: reputation /ˌɹɛpjʊˈteɪʃən/, intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/, communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, confused /kənˈfjuːzd/, flower /ˈfloʊɚ/, define /dɪˈfaɪn/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/
- /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: invite /ɪnˈvaɪt/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, sensitive /ˈsɛn.sɪt.ɪv/, vacation /veɪˈkeɪ.ʃən/, vulnerable /ˈvʌln(ə)ɹəbl̩/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: confused /kənˈfjuːzd/, congratulations /kənˌɡɹæt͡ʃəˈleɪʃ(ə)nz/, presentation /ˌpɹɛzn̩ˈteɪʃn̩/, expose /ɪkˈspoʊz/, organize /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, reputation, intimacy, friendship 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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