쉐도잉 연습: This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
레슨 만드는 중...
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But is it appropriate for someone who...
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No. Yeah.
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No, no, no, no, no. There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate.
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So for this week, I thought I'd do something a little different.
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I have a club called the Love Life Club, and every month I answer questions of my members.
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This one caught my attention as something that would be fun to bring to all of you here.
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It was someone who asked, How do you know the difference between someone who is love bombing you and someone who has real intentions?
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This was my answer.
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And by the way, don't forget to like this video, subscribe to this channel and hit the notification bell so that you get notified the next time we do a video.
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Can we do one final question?
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Please.
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Yeah.
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From someone called Tamila.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
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I met a man online.
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In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
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He was pursuing me and is waiting to meet when I'm back in the US.
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We're in different states and he's organizing a day in his city, San Diego, in a month.
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In his text, there's a lot of us talk.
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Talk of living together, how many kids I'd want, asking me for my preferences on houses, calling me wifey, etc. Help.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine intention?
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How long has she been speaking to this man?
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She met him online.
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But how long ago?
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It doesn't say But is it appropriate for someone who know?
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Yeah, no, no, no, no, no There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate
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It's you know it that's has love bombing written all Over it.
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How do you not get swept up?
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Because it's a lovely thing to hear, right?
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You meet someone you find attractive, whatever, and they're saying all the right things, and they're saying all these, like, how do you stop yourself from getting carried away in those kinds of words?
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Here's what you hear in your head.
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You hear, imagine someone just rang your phone, like it was an unknown number, and you picked it up and it was a automated message
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and it said you have been selected from a random pool
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of people to collect two million dollars all you need to
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do to collect your winnings is to speak now with your bank account details so that we can deposit the funds
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that's what you imagine being said because if
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that happened we'd all be like hang up this doesn't make
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any sense why you're giving me two million dollars right now I've never been that lucky in my entire life
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it doesn't add up two million dollars is not that easy to make no
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if someone out of nowhere starts saying wifey this, wifey that, we're going to have this many kids, we're going to live in this house,
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either they are projecting to a scary degree,
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which means that there's something unhealthy about them
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and they believe they're this in love with you and they're mistaken because they don't even know you.
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So that love isn't real and you're dealing with a really unhealthy person, or you're dealing with a scammer.
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What they're scamming you out of, it might be sex, it might be money,
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it might be just all of your energy, and they're not going to give you anything in return.
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They're just going to bring you out to San Diego
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and have a fun with you and then send you back and be like, wifey what?
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I didn't say any of that.
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I don't remember any of that it's
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you know there's some they're trying to get something
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they're trying to get something
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so you you have to start seeing it for what it
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really is it feels nice to be told you just won a million dollars but you can't trust it
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and it's the same with this how can you feel this way about me you do not know me
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you have no idea who I am
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so either take the time to actually get to know who I am and let's start again or
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I'm going to see this for what it is
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which is either a gross projection or a manipulation but someone can only know you over time by asking questions,
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by taking the time to actually get to know you And by the way, be careful of like traveling to see someone who you don't know.
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I mean, in general, are they willing to make an effort to see you?
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Could they meet you halfway?
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You know, like, is there a way for the two of you to meet in a way
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that requires at least some mutual investment?
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Because the, you know, fly to be with me in my backyard is a very easy thing to say to someone.
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And I'm not saying that means they're dangerous or evil, but at the very least, it's like, it's a lot of work for you
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and none for them I think that's such a good point we've made it before
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but um just when somebody asks you to fly to see them it feels like investment
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because you go oh my god they really want to spend all this time with me
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but actually it's no investment
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if the person is thinking well I'm gonna have a nice weekend I'm gonna get sex out of it
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and then they fly home and i never have to think about it again
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or i certainly don't have to think about it further than
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that weekend and until i decide but we think it feels like
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because it feels like investment right it feels like it's something serious
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because you think oh this person wants to spend a weekend with me exactly
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so yeah i think that's really interesting what it is is
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you're depositing a whole lot of money for very little investment on their part.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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Before you go, if finding love is a priority for you this year, I have something for you that is brand new.
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Go check it out.
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I can't wait to see what you think and I'll speak to you soon.
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Thank you.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 88개와 단어 1125개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 7:07입니다. 화자는 분당 약 158단어로, 일상 대화에 가까운 자연스러운 속도로 말합니다. 단어의 90%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속해 어휘가 쉬운 편입니다. 전체 88문장 중 14문장이 질문이어서 의문문 억양과 짧은 대답을 연습하기에 좋습니다.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 9개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| automate 동사 | /ˈɔ.təˌmeɪt/ | 자동화하다 |
| notify 동사 | /ˈnoʊtɪfaɪ/ | 통치하다, 통보하다 |
| bracket 명사 | /ˈbɹækɪt/ | 괄호 |
| backyard 명사 | /bækˈjɑːd/ | 뒤뜰 |
| notification 명사 | /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/ | 통지 |
| sweep 동사 | /swiːp/ | 쓸다 |
| organize 동사 | /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/ | 조직하다 |
| subscribe 동사 | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | 구독하다 |
| preference 명사 | /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/ | 선택 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| hang up 동사 | 전화를 끊다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- Can we do one final question?
- How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
- In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
- How do you not get swept up?
- Could they meet you halfway?
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | was just said · have been selected · being said |
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | have been selected · I've never been · we've made |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | someone who asked · someone who know · someone who you |
주의할 발음
화자는 they're, I'm, don't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 44번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, projection /pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, notify /ˈnoʊtɪfaɪ/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/, preference /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: organize /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 0.75배속으로 한 문장씩 섀도잉을 시작하고, 익숙해지면 보통 속도로 돌아갑니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, automate, notify, bracket 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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