Shadowing Practice: This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS - Learn English Speaking with Video
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But is it appropriate for someone who...
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No. Yeah.
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No, no, no, no, no. There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate.
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So for this week, I thought I'd do something a little different.
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I have a club called the Love Life Club, and every month I answer questions of my members.
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This one caught my attention as something that would be fun to bring to all of you here.
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It was someone who asked, How do you know the difference between someone who is love bombing you and someone who has real intentions?
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This was my answer.
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And by the way, don't forget to like this video, subscribe to this channel and hit the notification bell so that you get notified the next time we do a video.
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Can we do one final question?
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Please.
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Yeah.
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From someone called Tamila.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
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I met a man online.
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In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
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He was pursuing me and is waiting to meet when I'm back in the US.
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We're in different states and he's organizing a day in his city, San Diego, in a month.
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In his text, there's a lot of us talk.
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Talk of living together, how many kids I'd want, asking me for my preferences on houses, calling me wifey, etc. Help.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine intention?
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How long has she been speaking to this man?
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She met him online.
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But how long ago?
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It doesn't say But is it appropriate for someone who know?
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Yeah, no, no, no, no, no There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate
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It's you know it that's has love bombing written all Over it.
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How do you not get swept up?
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Because it's a lovely thing to hear, right?
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You meet someone you find attractive, whatever, and they're saying all the right things, and they're saying all these, like, how do you stop yourself from getting carried away in those kinds of words?
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Here's what you hear in your head.
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You hear, imagine someone just rang your phone, like it was an unknown number, and you picked it up and it was a automated message
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and it said you have been selected from a random pool
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of people to collect two million dollars all you need to
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do to collect your winnings is to speak now with your bank account details so that we can deposit the funds
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that's what you imagine being said because if
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that happened we'd all be like hang up this doesn't make
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any sense why you're giving me two million dollars right now I've never been that lucky in my entire life
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it doesn't add up two million dollars is not that easy to make no
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if someone out of nowhere starts saying wifey this, wifey that, we're going to have this many kids, we're going to live in this house,
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either they are projecting to a scary degree,
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which means that there's something unhealthy about them
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and they believe they're this in love with you and they're mistaken because they don't even know you.
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So that love isn't real and you're dealing with a really unhealthy person, or you're dealing with a scammer.
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What they're scamming you out of, it might be sex, it might be money,
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it might be just all of your energy, and they're not going to give you anything in return.
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They're just going to bring you out to San Diego
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and have a fun with you and then send you back and be like, wifey what?
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I didn't say any of that.
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I don't remember any of that it's
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you know there's some they're trying to get something
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they're trying to get something
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so you you have to start seeing it for what it
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really is it feels nice to be told you just won a million dollars but you can't trust it
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and it's the same with this how can you feel this way about me you do not know me
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you have no idea who I am
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so either take the time to actually get to know who I am and let's start again or
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I'm going to see this for what it is
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which is either a gross projection or a manipulation but someone can only know you over time by asking questions,
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by taking the time to actually get to know you And by the way, be careful of like traveling to see someone who you don't know.
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I mean, in general, are they willing to make an effort to see you?
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Could they meet you halfway?
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You know, like, is there a way for the two of you to meet in a way
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that requires at least some mutual investment?
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Because the, you know, fly to be with me in my backyard is a very easy thing to say to someone.
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And I'm not saying that means they're dangerous or evil, but at the very least, it's like, it's a lot of work for you
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and none for them I think that's such a good point we've made it before
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but um just when somebody asks you to fly to see them it feels like investment
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because you go oh my god they really want to spend all this time with me
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but actually it's no investment
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if the person is thinking well I'm gonna have a nice weekend I'm gonna get sex out of it
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and then they fly home and i never have to think about it again
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or i certainly don't have to think about it further than
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that weekend and until i decide but we think it feels like
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because it feels like investment right it feels like it's something serious
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because you think oh this person wants to spend a weekend with me exactly
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so yeah i think that's really interesting what it is is
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you're depositing a whole lot of money for very little investment on their part.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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Before you go, if finding love is a priority for you this year, I have something for you that is brand new.
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I'm really excited about it.
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Go check it out.
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I can't wait to see what you think and I'll speak to you soon.
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Thank you.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS”. Deze video bevat 88 zinnen en 1125 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 7:07. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 158 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. 90% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen. 14 van de 88 zinnen zijn vragen, dus het is goede oefening voor vraagintonatie en korte antwoorden.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 14 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| differentiate werkwoord | /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/ | zich onderscheiden |
| unhealthy bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/ | ongezond |
| automate werkwoord | /ˈɔ.təˌmeɪt/ | automatiseren |
| notify werkwoord | /ˈnoʊtɪfaɪ/ | mededelen, waarschuwen |
| bracket zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈbɹækɪt/ | haakje |
| manipulation zelfstandig naamwoord | /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/ | manipulatie, gebruik |
| backyard zelfstandig naamwoord | /bækˈjɑːd/ | achtertuin |
| notification zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/ | melding |
| scam zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈskæm/ | oplichting, deceptie |
| sweep werkwoord | /swiːp/ | vegen |
| organize werkwoord | /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/ | organiseren |
| subscribe werkwoord | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | abonneren |
| halfway bijwoord | /ˌhæfˈweɪ/ | halfweg, halverwege |
| preference zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/ | voorkeur, preferentie |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- Can we do one final question?
- How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
- In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
- How do you not get swept up?
- Could they meet you halfway?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | was just said · have been selected · being said |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | have been selected · I've never been · we've made |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | someone who asked · someone who know · someone who you |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 44 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals they're, I'm, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, projection /pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: backyard /bækˈjɑːd/, organize /ˈɔɹɡənaɪz/, subscribe /səbˈskɹaɪb/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: bracket /ˈbɹækɪt/, backyard /bækˈjɑːd/, scam /ˈskæm/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/
- /w/ — met ronde lippen: sweep /swiːp/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als differentiate, unhealthy, automate.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.