Shadowing Practice: This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS - Learn English Speaking with Video
Ders oluşturuluyor...
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But is it appropriate for someone who...
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No. Yeah.
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No, no, no, no, no. There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate.
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So for this week, I thought I'd do something a little different.
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I have a club called the Love Life Club, and every month I answer questions of my members.
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This one caught my attention as something that would be fun to bring to all of you here.
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It was someone who asked, How do you know the difference between someone who is love bombing you and someone who has real intentions?
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This was my answer.
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And by the way, don't forget to like this video, subscribe to this channel and hit the notification bell so that you get notified the next time we do a video.
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Can we do one final question?
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Please.
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Yeah.
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From someone called Tamila.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
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I met a man online.
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In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
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He was pursuing me and is waiting to meet when I'm back in the US.
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We're in different states and he's organizing a day in his city, San Diego, in a month.
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In his text, there's a lot of us talk.
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Talk of living together, how many kids I'd want, asking me for my preferences on houses, calling me wifey, etc. Help.
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How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine intention?
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How long has she been speaking to this man?
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She met him online.
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But how long ago?
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It doesn't say But is it appropriate for someone who know?
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Yeah, no, no, no, no, no There's very little about what was just said that's appropriate
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It's you know it that's has love bombing written all Over it.
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How do you not get swept up?
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Because it's a lovely thing to hear, right?
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You meet someone you find attractive, whatever, and they're saying all the right things, and they're saying all these, like, how do you stop yourself from getting carried away in those kinds of words?
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Here's what you hear in your head.
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You hear, imagine someone just rang your phone, like it was an unknown number, and you picked it up and it was a automated message
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and it said you have been selected from a random pool
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of people to collect two million dollars all you need to
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do to collect your winnings is to speak now with your bank account details so that we can deposit the funds
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that's what you imagine being said because if
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that happened we'd all be like hang up this doesn't make
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any sense why you're giving me two million dollars right now I've never been that lucky in my entire life
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it doesn't add up two million dollars is not that easy to make no
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if someone out of nowhere starts saying wifey this, wifey that, we're going to have this many kids, we're going to live in this house,
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either they are projecting to a scary degree,
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which means that there's something unhealthy about them
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and they believe they're this in love with you and they're mistaken because they don't even know you.
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So that love isn't real and you're dealing with a really unhealthy person, or you're dealing with a scammer.
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What they're scamming you out of, it might be sex, it might be money,
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it might be just all of your energy, and they're not going to give you anything in return.
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They're just going to bring you out to San Diego
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and have a fun with you and then send you back and be like, wifey what?
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I didn't say any of that.
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I don't remember any of that it's
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you know there's some they're trying to get something
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they're trying to get something
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so you you have to start seeing it for what it
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really is it feels nice to be told you just won a million dollars but you can't trust it
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and it's the same with this how can you feel this way about me you do not know me
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you have no idea who I am
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so either take the time to actually get to know who I am and let's start again or
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I'm going to see this for what it is
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which is either a gross projection or a manipulation but someone can only know you over time by asking questions,
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by taking the time to actually get to know you And by the way, be careful of like traveling to see someone who you don't know.
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I mean, in general, are they willing to make an effort to see you?
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Could they meet you halfway?
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You know, like, is there a way for the two of you to meet in a way
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that requires at least some mutual investment?
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Because the, you know, fly to be with me in my backyard is a very easy thing to say to someone.
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And I'm not saying that means they're dangerous or evil, but at the very least, it's like, it's a lot of work for you
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and none for them I think that's such a good point we've made it before
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but um just when somebody asks you to fly to see them it feels like investment
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because you go oh my god they really want to spend all this time with me
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but actually it's no investment
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if the person is thinking well I'm gonna have a nice weekend I'm gonna get sex out of it
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and then they fly home and i never have to think about it again
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or i certainly don't have to think about it further than
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that weekend and until i decide but we think it feels like
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because it feels like investment right it feels like it's something serious
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because you think oh this person wants to spend a weekend with me exactly
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so yeah i think that's really interesting what it is is
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you're depositing a whole lot of money for very little investment on their part.
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Thank you so much for watching.
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Go check it out.
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I can't wait to see what you think and I'll speak to you soon.
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Thank you.
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu B2 seviyesindeki konuşma dersi “This Romantic Gesture Is Actually a Sign He's NOT SERIOUS” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 88 cümle ve 1125 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 7:07 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 158 kelimeyle, günlük konuşmaya yakın doğal bir hızda konuşuyor. Kelimelerin %90’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında, bu yüzden kelime dağarcığını takip etmek kolay. 88 cümlenin 14 tanesi soru; soru tonlaması ve kısa cevaplar için iyi bir alıştırma.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodaki en ileri düzey 10 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| unhealthy sıfat | /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/ | sağlıksız |
| notify fiil | /ˈnoʊtɪfaɪ/ | bildirmek |
| bracket isim | /ˈbɹækɪt/ | ayraç, parantez |
| manipulation isim | /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/ | manipülasyon |
| notification isim | /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/ | bildirme, bilgilendirme |
| scam isim | /ˈskæm/ | dolandırma, dolandırıcılık |
| sweep fiil | /swiːp/ | süpürmek |
| subscribe fiil | /səbˈskɹaɪb/ | abone olmak |
| halfway zarf | /ˌhæfˈweɪ/ | yarı yolda |
| preference isim | /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/ | tercih |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| add up fiil | birikmek |
| hang up fiil | asmak |
Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler
Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:
- Can we do one final question?
- How do I differentiate between love bombing and genuine attention?
- In brackets, I'm traveling out of country.
- How do you not get swept up?
- Could they meet you halfway?
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | was just said · have been selected · being said |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | have been selected · I've never been · we've made |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | someone who asked · someone who know · someone who you |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı they're, I'm, don't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 44 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, projection /pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: differentiate /dɪf.əˈɹɛn.ʃi.eɪt/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: sweep /swiːp/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: projection /pɹəˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, bracket /ˈbɹækɪt/, scam /ˈskæm/, sweep /swiːp/, preference /ˈpɹɛf(ə)ɹ(ə)ns/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: bracket /ˈbɹækɪt/, backyard /bækˈjɑːd/, scam /ˈskæm/, halfway /ˌhæfˈweɪ/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; unhealthy, notify, bracket gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.