Shadowing Practice: I changed my reality (here's how) - Learn English Speaking with Video

I've definitely just entered a new chapter.

I've moved city, I've cut people off that no longer served me, I've got new friends, I've got incredible work opportunities

and it got me thinking about how many versions of myself have existed

and how many different chapters I've been through in my 20s and I thought we could talk about that in today's video.

I am such a firm believer that you can create your own reality and you can create your own dream life.

I've had so many different versions of what my dream life looks like.

I mean, if you would have asked me in my early 20s what my dream life would be, it would be living in the city, shopping, being financially free and having time,

which is why I wanted to be self-employed.

And I felt really guilty because before I moved to London, I was feeling so unhappy with my life.

And I think it's because I'd almost achieved everything that I wanted to achieve.

I lived in the big city.

I had financial freedom.

I had so much time to spare where I could get into some hobbies like I got into Pilates and other things.

That made me happy for a certain amount of time

and then I forgot that I'm allowed to evolve and I'm allowed to want new things.

A couple months ago I did my big brain dump on YouTube.

I was so unhappy in that period.

Every day looked the same.

I wasn't really challenging myself.

I wasn't growing as a person.

You grow so much when you're uncomfortable because you're learning so many lessons.

And I needed to make myself uncomfortable again.

Moving to a city where I have no family.

I've got, well, I've got friends here, but I just didn't have any like close, close friends here.

It was a risk.

It was really scary.

Now I've been here, I think I've been here a month.

I'm so happy and I feel like my soul's happy to see a different life, if that makes sense.

I think sometimes you can get

so stuck in thinking how your life looks right now is just how it looks and that's what it is.

And you just kind of surrender to it.

But if you want to change your reality, let me tell you, you can do that.

It is scary and sometimes you do have to take risks.

I believe if you do some inner work

and you find out what your soul and what your subconscious wants and then you chase that,

it will only ever work out for you because that was what you're meant to be doing and that was your purpose, if that makes sense.

I'm going to tell you a couple of the steps that I've made to change my reality to what it is now.

I was living what I thought my dream life was.

And it was at the time.

I was so happy doing my Pilates, getting matcha every day.

I lived in what then was my dream apartment.

But after a while, it got kind of boring.

It got kind of repetitive.

I was living the same day every day.

And it was making me really unhappy.

It was making me almost self-destruct.

I wasn't actually looking at why I was unhappy.

I was just kind of going about my day and just thinking, oh, happiness will come back soon.

But I've just got to wait it out.

Rather than actually thinking, wait, what do I need to change here?

And when I looked at my relationships, when I looked at where I lived, when I looked at my work and how I spent my days, I was like, right, this is what is making me unhappy.

So we need to change that.

It sounds really cringe, but it is

so important to talk to yourself in situations or moments like this

because the most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship that you have with yourself.

You're the only person that is going to be in your life forever.

You need a relationship with yourself.

And if you can't talk to yourself and ask yourself questions like, does this make me happy?

Am I living a life that I'm content with or

that is pushing me for growth or am I in a job that makes me feel fulfilled?

If you can't sit down and ask yourself these questions and actually have a conversation with yourself, then you're never actually going to align with your true self.

You're only ever going to want what's best for you.

You have to do what's best for you, even if other people don't like it,

which I think is what stops a lot of people because change is uncomfortable and not many people like change.

I quite enjoy change because it makes me grow it's uncomfortable

but it makes me grow not everyone thinks like that so

if you're changing people are gonna try and keep you the same

because that changes their reality which makes them feel uncomfortable

so you've kind of got to push past that

and even just talking to people

and being like i'm not happy where i am right now i want to do this

so many people were putting me off moving to London.

I hope he doesn't mind me saying this but my dad being one of them.

I think me moving here on my own it really worried him.

When he came to move all of my stuff into my

new apartment he was like okay I get it now like this area is

so lovely and everyone's really polite it feels safe.

So had I had listened to my dad

and stayed in Manchester I'd still be stuck in this mindset

where I felt stagnant I wouldn't have the opportunities I have

now you've just got to do whatever is best for you

and I think when you talk to yourself

and you do some inner work you're gonna know what's best for you the one person

that is gonna know how to look after you better than anyone is yourself sometimes your mom

but mostly yourself but you can't let other people stop you

or hold you back I mean I always get comments saying how much I've changed

and I'm thinking well yeah who wants to stay the same

if i was the same as

when i started my youtube channel then i've not evolved as

a person i've not grown i've not experienced a different reality

and that was another thing

that i just wanted to touch on really quickly you only

get one life you may as well live as many versions

of yourself in this life as you possibly can then you get to experience more

and i mean the fact

that i've now got to experience a new city who knows i might move to another city one day

but the fact that I've given myself

that experience in my lifetime makes me really happy I'm not

going to live in Manchester for all of my life

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if that's what you want to do

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and you want to live in the same city for the rest of your life

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that is so okay but for me I thrive off new experiences

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which is why I love traveling so much and I think

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when you know yourself you know what your soul wants I know

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that I love to learn new things and learn about new cultures and travel and because I know that about myself,

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I know what I then devote my time to and what I prioritize.

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But yeah, after doing this inner work, I'm realizing that I wanted new friendships.

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I wanted a new city.

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I prayed for more fulfilling days.

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When I moved here, I've not had one day where I felt homesick.

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I've not felt lonely.

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I've not felt like this was a big mistake.

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I knew that this was the right decision and that's only because I listened to myself.

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No one was telling me to move to London.

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In fact, most people that I talked to was actually trying to put me off the idea.

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I knew in my heart that this was the right decision and like I said, I've not regretted it once.

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I'm so happy with this new life and this new version of myself.

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And it's so nice for me because I've basically documented the past 10 years, like I said, on YouTube.

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And being able to look back at all of the different versions of myself that I've gone through.

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It's very humbling and I mean, I was gonna say kind of embarrassing,

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but it's actually not embarrassing because that girl right at the start led me to where I am today.

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Something that I had to learn is your identity is not set in stone.

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I think growing up a Jehovah's Witness, if you're new here, I grew up a Jehovah's Witness.

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I think for me, the biggest realization

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that I could change my identity and change who I was was

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when I left the religion because I thought that religion was tied down to my identity.

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The fact that I never celebrated Christmas, the fact that I never celebrated birthdays.

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I went to Kingdom Hall twice a week.

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Like that was my reality that I lived with for so long that I felt like I couldn't get out of.

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It does consume so much of your life.

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So when I came out of the religion, I was like, oh, I can actually control what I do with my life.

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And I think that's where I realized, probably when I was like 21, when I realized that I can make my life.

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I can basically create a life however I want to.

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And that's when the real shift happens.

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I moved out, I moved into my city apartment.

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I always say this, but my favorite show growing up, even though I was a Jehovah's Witness and I probably shouldn't have been watching it was Sex and the City.

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My whole self right now, I feel like Sex and the City shaped it.

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I love Carrie Bradshaw.

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I loved her lifestyle.

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That's why I became who I became in my 20s.

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I wanted someone that owned so many pairs of shoes

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and handbags and had an incredible wardrobe and lived in the city

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and just gallivanted about and dated and had fun and had loads of friends and that's how I spent my 20s.

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That's how I wanted my life to look and that's basically how it's looked and I still love doing those things,

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don't get me wrong, but I just was ready for a change.

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I was ready to level up in some way for as much as I'm still going to shop, I'm still going to do Pilates, I'm still going to have my matcha.

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Although I've been on my coffee hype recently so maybe this is the new version of myself.

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My new version is an iced americano yum there's some more things

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that i want to add to my life that's just going

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to make it feel more fulfilling sorry this isn't really an

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anything video it's just me kind of telling you what's been on my mind this week

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and it was just the fact

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that i feel like a new version of myself all over again

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and that's not to say

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that i don't love any of the old versions of myself i think people get it twisted

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that because you're wanting to change all the time and wanting to evolve, whether it's your hair, your relationships,

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where you live, I think some people, not everyone, but some people can take that and think you hate yourself because you're always wanting to change.

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That's not the case at all.

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You have to do whatever makes you happy in this era of your life right now.

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You can also change your mind.

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Don't ever think because you've said something once, like for example, I don't want to have kids that

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when you meet your right person

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and you think I could imagine having this person's child you can't change your mind that's just an example

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but you have every right to change your mind

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if there's a part of you that you don't like about yourself

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which I've been doing a lot of shadow work recently

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and there's a lot about myself that I have buried deep

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and chosen to ignore

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that has now come to the surface shadow work is no joke you want me to talk about

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that in another video then we'll talk about it

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but shadow work is the most humbling thing i have ever done a lot got brought to the surface

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that i didn't like about myself but all of these things

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that i don't like about myself guess what i can change

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so it's not actually that scary it might take a lot of work

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but these things that i've been ashamed of that i haven't wanted to acknowledge I can just get rid of.

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I can actually just stop that and think, okay, I'm not going to do that anymore.

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I'm going to do this instead.

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Guys, we might only get this one life.

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I say might because who knows?

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Please, you have to make it a fulfilling one.

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Obviously, you're not going to be happy all of the time, but I think we should be happy the majority of the time.

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So we want to create a life that supports that, right?

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And I think it starts with asking if you're happy in your life right now.

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Look at your relationships.

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Look at what you do for a living.

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Look at what you're studying.

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Look at where you live.

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Look at your daily habits.

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Is the way you're living your life making you feel fulfilled?

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Does it make you feel happy?

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Does it make you excited to wake up in the morning?

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Let me tell you, I've been naturally waking up around 6am

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which is like two hours earlier than I need to be awake.

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I am so excited to start my day that I just get up at 6am.

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That's never been me.

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I've always been like okay I've got two hours, great, back to sleep.

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I'm so excited to get up and start my day

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because I've shifted and created this reality that I'm now so happy with.

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That it's just the best feeling in the world

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and that's why I wanted to talk about it in this video

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because I want everyone to feel how I feel

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when I've been waking up in the morning

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so you've got to ask yourself if you're happy right now and

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if not think about little ways you can change your life

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I think don't get overwhelmed with thinking you have to change

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everything right now maybe just do it really slowly try something new every month

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if you want to change your body for example maybe just start working out once a week then maybe twice a week.

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Find a workout that works for you, whether it's Pilates, whether it's going to the gym, whether it's even doing like a team sport.

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After that, you want to change your job.

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Maybe either look for another job, think about what it is that you want to do, make little steps to start that business.

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And then this is where the uncomfortableness comes in because with working out, yes, you're pushing yourself to get to the gym, which can sometimes feel uncomfortable, but

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quitting your job that's really uncomfortable like

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that can put you in a state of fight or flight

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and it can feel like you're going backwards instead of forwards

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don't be irresponsible with it make sure you've got some sort of income

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or some sort of support but

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if you just think oh well this job is supporting me right now

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and if i quit then i'm not going to have any money then that's not going to get you anywhere

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so maybe start looking for the new job

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or thinking about what you want to do and finding ways to support

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that if you're unhappy in your city maybe look at how you would want to live your life whether

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that is going and living a soft life there's another version of me

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that exists that wants to move to Italy work in a coffee shop from seven till three

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and then spend the rest of the day on a beach

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reading a book drinking wine having a picnic on the beach like there is another version of me

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that exists that wants that maybe that will come in my 30s who knows

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but think about the life you want to live whether you

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want i mean right now i wanna hustle like i wanna

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build something for myself where's the best place to do

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that in the capital in london

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so that's why i moved to london you've just got to think about what will make you happy right now

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and have a good chat with yourself i hope all of this made sense this was kind of like a podcast.

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I always say I want to do more videos like this

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because I don't want to have a podcast

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but sometimes I've just got things to say and things to share

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and I only want you guys to be happy so any advice

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that I can give you on being happier I'm always going to share it.

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But anyway I hope you enjoyed this video.

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Thank you so much for watching me and thank you to people that have been around for a long time.

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I always get subscribers coming up to me telling me that

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they've watched me for years and they've watched me

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when I was blonde when I was with my ex-boyfriends

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and I just wanted to say thank you for sticking around for every version of myself

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and I promise I'm going to keep growing I'm going to

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keep becoming better the channel is going to keep growing I'm becoming better

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so yeah thank you for watching I love you all so much and I will see you in the next video

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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les

Deze video bevat 246 zinnen en 3083 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 15:54. De spreker praat snel, ongeveer 194 woorden per minuut, dus reken op verbonden en ingeslikte klanken. 86% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden; de rest kun je beter vooraf bekijken.

Belangrijke woorden in deze video

15 minder gangbare woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:

uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/ (bijvoeglijk naamwoord) — ongemakkelijk. Not comfortable; causing discomfort.
fulfill /fʊlˈfɪl/ (werkwoord) — vervullen. To satisfy, carry out, bring to completion (an obligation, a requirement, etc.).
shadow /ˈʃædəʊ̯/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — schaduw. A dark image projected onto a surface where light (or other radiation) is blocked by the shade of an object.
scary /ˈskɛə.ɹi/ (bijvoeglijk naamwoord) — eng. Causing fear or anxiety
evolve /ɪˈvɑlv/ (werkwoord) — ontwikkelen. To move (something) in regular procession through a system.
podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — podcast. A program, especially an audio program, produced on a regular basis, delivered over the Internet in a compressed digital format and designed for playback on…
humble /ˈhʌmbəl/ (bijvoeglijk naamwoord) — bescheiden, deemoedig. Not pretentious or magnificent; unpretending; unassuming.
ignore /ɪɡˈnɔː/ (werkwoord) — negeren. To deliberately not listen or pay attention to.
naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/ (bijwoord) — natuurlijk. In a natural manner.
lesson /ˈlɛs.ən/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — les. A section of learning or teaching into which a wider learning content is divided.
chase /t͡ʃeɪs/ (werkwoord) — achtervolgen, achternazitten. To follow at speed.
happiness /ˈhæpinɪs/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — blijheid, blijdschap. The emotion of being happy; joy; elation.
pray /pɹeɪ/ (werkwoord) — bidden. To direct words, thoughts, or one's attention to a deity or any higher being, for the sake of adoration, thanks, petition for help, etc.
friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — vriendschap. The condition of being friends.
lifetime /ˈlaɪf.taɪm/ (zelfstandig naamwoord) — mensenleven, levensduur. The duration of the life of someone or something.

Phrasal verbs die je zult horen

grow up (werkwoord) — opgroeien. To mature and become an adult.
look for (werkwoord) — zoeken. To seek.
work out /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ (werkwoord) — uitrekenen. To calculate.
come back (werkwoord) — terugkomen. To return to a place.
find out (werkwoord) — ontdekken, onderzoeken. To discover, as by asking or investigating.
get up (werkwoord) — opstaan. To move in an upward direction; to ascend or climb.
go about (werkwoord) — aanpakken. To busy oneself with.
look after (werkwoord) — verzorgen, behartigen. To follow with the eyes; to look in the direction of (someone or something departing).

Uitspraak om op te letten

De spreker gebruikt 117 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals I've, I'm, you're. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.

De klanken “sh” en “zh”: shadow /ˈʃædəʊ̯/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, shoe /ˈʃu/, ashamed /əˈʃeɪmd/, realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/
Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, realization /ˌɹɪə.laɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/, irresponsible /ˌɪɹ.əˈspɑn.sə.bəl/, repetitive /ɹɪˈpɛtɪtɪv/

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Grammatica in deze video

De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:

Structuur	In de video
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is	have been watching · I've been doing · I've been waking
Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt	I've definitely just entered · I've moved · have existed
Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet	be stuck · is not set
Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding	reality which makes · gym, which can

Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?

Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.

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