Shadowing Practice: Stop Start in Love - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Let's try to understand one of the oddest, most painful, most widespread phenomena in love.
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It's going on right this moment between a couple, let's say he a dentist, she a nutritionist in Rio de Janeiro.
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Two teenagers are at it in Canberra, there's a pair involved in the rigmarole in downtown Dakar, another in Svalbard, another still in Winnipeg.
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If every time it happened a light went on, most of the earth would be a glow from space.
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We can refer to the phenomenon as push-pull or stop-start or sometimes distance management.
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The structure is identical and fairly predictable.
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Growing intimacy, then retreat.
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Altitude, then a drop.
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Two good days, then a fight.
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Five warm messages, then silence.
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A weekend away, then a call for time alone.
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It can seem like a horrible, but ultimately mysterious curse.
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It is, in fact, an almost logical phenomenon with a singular purpose – to protect one
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or both of the parties from a generally unconscious but violent fear that love might work out, that happiness might become real,
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that a true partnership could build, that vulnerability might be created and then, when the shield was lowered, when one had grown to depend on someone completely,
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that everything might go catastrophically wrong.
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The other party could change their mind, they might abscond, they could die.
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To prevent such worries, the mind of the stop-start lover looks around for ingenious solutions
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and finds one in a committedly dispiriting game.
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Older than chess, more harmful than poker, this game would have been played in ancient Egypt.
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The Aztecs were at it.
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The rules state that love can happen, but that it must never pick up velocity.
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There can be intimacy, but always within bounds.
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The exits must remain forever open.
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can't be too much security that would paradoxically generate an untenable impression of danger.
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In practice, the game requires a vigilant monitoring of every exchange and repeated quiet injections of disappointment.
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If last night was beautiful, this morning has to be moody.
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Tuesday was good, Wednesday must be awful.
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If the dialogue is getting very cosy, there has to be some disappearance.
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What cannot be allowed to occur was what almost certainly once occurred a very long time ago.
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An unprocessed, unexplored letdown, in which cosiness was achieved and then torn away.
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Mummy was the best mummy in the world, before the doctor said she wasn't well.
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Daddy was the sweetest, then Jill came on the scene.
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The holidays were nice, except for when the drinking began.
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Let's believe that someone interested in stop-start love isn't doing it on purpose.
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The lover who keeps needing to pause isn't aware, as they put down the phone and decides not to answer a message for four hours,
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that they are interrupting the flow of affection in the name of self-protection and along the way, devastating a fellow human being.
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The most potent players of this stop-start game have no real insight into their tactics.
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They just register an overwhelming need not to type anything back, not to be free tonight
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and not to say I love you too at the end of a call or evening in bed.
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What can we, the victims of stop-start, do?
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For a start, feel extremely sorry for ourselves in our misery.
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We don't need to compound our pain by making light of it, or indeed hoping it can ever easily end.
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It would be hard to explain all this to a group of six-year-olds.
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When you're older, you're going to form something called relationships.
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You'll meet a nice person, a special friend.
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Some days your special friend will call you and on others they'll just vanish.
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One might not want to make it to adulthood after a class like that.
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The sole effective weapon we have against stop-start game playing is knowledge.
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To describe the phenomenon accurately the moment it appears, to provide a succinct explanation as to why it might be doing so,
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to give the other party a few chances at reform, and then to walk away, because we know what we're up against,
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and we recognise that lonely calm truly is better than continually agitated togetherness.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau C1 is gebaseerd op de video “Stop Start in Love”. Deze video bevat 52 zinnen en 707 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 4:24. De spreker praat in een natuurlijk tempo van ongeveer 160 woorden per minuut, dicht bij een alledaags gesprek. Slechts 81% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is pittig.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| mummy zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmʌm.i/ | mummie |
| intimacy zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/ | intimiteit |
| abscond werkwoord | /əbˈskɑnd/ | heimelijk vertrekken (van/uit), zich stilletjes uit de voeten maken |
| dispirit werkwoord | ontmoedigen | |
| ingenious bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɪnˈd͡ʒiːnjəs/ | ingenieus |
| nutritionist zelfstandig naamwoord | /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/ | voedingsdeskundige |
| overwhelm werkwoord | /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/ | overweldigen, overmannen |
| rigmarole zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɹɪɡməɹoʊl/ | gezwets |
| unprocessed bijvoeglijk naamwoord | onbewerkt | |
| untenable bijvoeglijk naamwoord | onhoudbaar | |
| vanish werkwoord | /ˈvænɪʃ/ | verdwijnen |
| adulthood zelfstandig naamwoord | volwassenheid | |
| interrupt werkwoord | /ˌɪntəˈɹʌpt/ | afbreken, onderbreken |
| vulnerability zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/ | kwetsbaarheid, zwakke plek |
| singular bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ˈsɪŋ.ɡjə.lɚ/ | enig, enige |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| pick up werkwoord | oppakken, optillen | |
| work out werkwoord | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | uitrekenen |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 10 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals isn't, you're, can't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: nutritionist /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/, vanish /ˈvænɪʃ/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, injection /ɪnˈd͡ʒɛk.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/, nutritionist /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/, paradoxically /ˌpɛɹəˈdɑksɪkli/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, disappearance /dɪsəˈpɪəɹəns/
Klanken die Nederlandstaligen lastig vinden:
- Stemhebbende eindmedeklinker — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ niet verscherpen: abscond /əbˈskɑnd/, altitude /ˈælt.ɪˌtjuːd/, pause /pɔːz/
- /æ/ — opener dan de Nederlandse “e”: agitate /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/, vanish /ˈvænɪʃ/, altitude /ˈælt.ɪˌtjuːd/, accurately /ˈæk.jə.ɹɪt.li/
- /g/ — een harde plofklank, geen Nederlandse “g”: rigmarole /ˈɹɪɡməɹoʊl/, singular /ˈsɪŋ.ɡjə.lɚ/, glow /ɡloʊ/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als mummy, intimacy, abscond.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.