跟读练习: Stop Start in Love - 通过视频学习英语口语
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Let's try to understand one of the oddest, most painful, most widespread phenomena in love.
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It's going on right this moment between a couple, let's say he a dentist, she a nutritionist in Rio de Janeiro.
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Two teenagers are at it in Canberra, there's a pair involved in the rigmarole in downtown Dakar, another in Svalbard, another still in Winnipeg.
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If every time it happened a light went on, most of the earth would be a glow from space.
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We can refer to the phenomenon as push-pull or stop-start or sometimes distance management.
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The structure is identical and fairly predictable.
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Growing intimacy, then retreat.
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Altitude, then a drop.
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Two good days, then a fight.
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Five warm messages, then silence.
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A weekend away, then a call for time alone.
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It can seem like a horrible, but ultimately mysterious curse.
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It is, in fact, an almost logical phenomenon with a singular purpose – to protect one
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or both of the parties from a generally unconscious but violent fear that love might work out, that happiness might become real,
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that a true partnership could build, that vulnerability might be created and then, when the shield was lowered, when one had grown to depend on someone completely,
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that everything might go catastrophically wrong.
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The other party could change their mind, they might abscond, they could die.
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To prevent such worries, the mind of the stop-start lover looks around for ingenious solutions
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and finds one in a committedly dispiriting game.
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Older than chess, more harmful than poker, this game would have been played in ancient Egypt.
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The Aztecs were at it.
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The rules state that love can happen, but that it must never pick up velocity.
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There can be intimacy, but always within bounds.
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The exits must remain forever open.
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can't be too much security that would paradoxically generate an untenable impression of danger.
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In practice, the game requires a vigilant monitoring of every exchange and repeated quiet injections of disappointment.
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If last night was beautiful, this morning has to be moody.
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Tuesday was good, Wednesday must be awful.
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If the dialogue is getting very cosy, there has to be some disappearance.
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What cannot be allowed to occur was what almost certainly once occurred a very long time ago.
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An unprocessed, unexplored letdown, in which cosiness was achieved and then torn away.
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Mummy was the best mummy in the world, before the doctor said she wasn't well.
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Daddy was the sweetest, then Jill came on the scene.
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The holidays were nice, except for when the drinking began.
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Let's believe that someone interested in stop-start love isn't doing it on purpose.
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The lover who keeps needing to pause isn't aware, as they put down the phone and decides not to answer a message for four hours,
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that they are interrupting the flow of affection in the name of self-protection and along the way, devastating a fellow human being.
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The most potent players of this stop-start game have no real insight into their tactics.
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They just register an overwhelming need not to type anything back, not to be free tonight
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and not to say I love you too at the end of a call or evening in bed.
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What can we, the victims of stop-start, do?
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For a start, feel extremely sorry for ourselves in our misery.
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We don't need to compound our pain by making light of it, or indeed hoping it can ever easily end.
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It would be hard to explain all this to a group of six-year-olds.
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When you're older, you're going to form something called relationships.
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You'll meet a nice person, a special friend.
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Some days your special friend will call you and on others they'll just vanish.
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One might not want to make it to adulthood after a class like that.
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The sole effective weapon we have against stop-start game playing is knowledge.
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To describe the phenomenon accurately the moment it appears, to provide a succinct explanation as to why it might be doing so,
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to give the other party a few chances at reform, and then to walk away, because we know what we're up against,
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and we recognise that lonely calm truly is better than continually agitated togetherness.
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本课的词汇与口语要点
这节 C1 级别的口语课以视频“Stop Start in Love”为素材。 这段视频共有 52 个句子、707 个单词可供跟读。 讲话部分时长为 4:24。 说话人语速自然，每分钟约 160 个词，接近日常对话。 只有 81% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，词汇难度较高。
视频中的重点词汇
视频中最难的 15 个单词，附发音和释义：
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| mummy 名词 | /ˈmʌm.i/ | 木乃伊 |
| intimacy 名词 | /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/ | 親密 /亲密, 親近 /亲近 |
| devastate 动词 | /ˈdɛv.ə.steɪt/ | 摧毀 /摧毁, 破壞 /破坏 |
| ingenious 形容词 | /ɪnˈd͡ʒiːnjəs/ | 有发明才能的 |
| nutritionist 名词 | /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/ | 營養學家 /营养学家 |
| overwhelm 动词 | /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/ | 吞沒 /吞没 |
| untenable 形容词 | 站不住腳的 /站不住脚的, 立場薄弱的 /立场薄弱的 | |
| vanish 动词 | /ˈvænɪʃ/ | 消失 |
| adulthood 名词 | 成年 | |
| interrupt 动词 | /ˌɪntəˈɹʌpt/ | 打斷 /打断, 插嘴 |
| vulnerability 名词 | /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/ | 脆弱性 |
| singular 形容词 | /ˈsɪŋ.ɡjə.lɚ/ | 單一 /单一 |
| disappearance 名词 | /dɪsəˈpɪəɹəns/ | 消失, 失蹤 /失踪 |
| predictable 形容词 | /pɹəˈdɪktəbləl/ | 可預見的 /可预见的, 可預言的 /可预言的 |
| dentist 名词 | /ˈdɛntɪst/ | 牙醫 /牙医, 牙科醫生 /牙科医生 |
视频中出现的短语动词
| 单词 | 发音 | 释义 |
|---|---|---|
| pick up 动词 | 拾取, 撿 /捡 | |
| put down 动词 | 放下 | |
| work out 动词 | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | 計算 /计算, 算出 |
需要注意的发音
说话人用了 10 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 isn't, you're, can't。请按听到的简短形式来说。
- “sh” 和 “zh” 音: nutritionist /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/, vanish /ˈvænɪʃ/, affection /əˈfɛk.ʃən/, unconscious /ˌʌnˈkɑnʃəs/, injection /ɪnˈd͡ʒɛk.ʃən/
- 长单词——注意重音位置: intimacy /ˈɪn.tɪ.mə.si/, nutritionist /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/, paradoxically /ˌpɛɹəˈdɑksɪkli/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, disappearance /dɪsəˈpɪəɹəns/
中文母语者容易读错的音：
- /v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: devastate /ˈdɛv.ə.steɪt/, overwhelm /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/, vanish /ˈvænɪʃ/, vigilant /ˈvɪd͡ʒɪlənt/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/
- 词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: abscond /əbˈskɑnd/, agitate /ˈæ.d͡ʒɪ.teɪt/, devastate /ˈdɛv.ə.steɪt/, ingenious /ɪnˈd͡ʒiːnjəs/, nutritionist /njuːˈtɹɪʃ.ənɪst/
- /r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: paradoxically /ˌpɛɹəˈdɑksɪkli/, rigmarole /ˈɹɪɡməɹoʊl/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, predictable /pɹəˈdɪktəbləl/, harmful /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/
如何用这段视频练习
- 先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
- 先用 0.75 倍速逐句跟读，熟练之后再回到正常速度。
- 录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 mummy, intimacy, devastate 这类单词。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。