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You need to realize that if you want to do something, there's not going to be a special moment.
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I feel like people are going to make fun of me and .
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Yeah, people probably gonna, but it's okay.
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Who gives a ?
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If you don't ask for it, you're not going to get it.
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If you don't work for it, you're not going to get it.
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It's just that simple.
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Okay, so you have to go for it.
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Number 12, you do not need to be friends with everyone.
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It's okay to lose friends.
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There's going to be some XYZ, some friend to save me.
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Like, no, .
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You save yourself.
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You do everything for yourself.
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Okay guys, welcome back to my channel.
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Okay, you might be like, wow, you look really fantastic today.
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You might be ovulating.
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Yeah, you're right.
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I look amazing because it is my birthday.
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I am turning motherfucking 25, babes, 25.
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So, in honor of my 25th birthday, I want to do some of your guys' personal favorite f*ing videos of my journal entries, okay?
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So I wanted to just do this topic, 25 things I learned at the age of 25.
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I know, super cringy, not original at all.
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But it is currently 4.48 in Korea right now.
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And you know what's crazy?
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I started this journal in January today.
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I filled her out.
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Guess what?
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I'm on the last page.
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This is exactly what I wrote, okay?
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I wrote down a bunch of stuff that I'm gonna talk to you about.
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And if you're like, what are the stickers about?
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The stickers are basically my mood.
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I bought this like sticker and I never used it in my journals, like ever.
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So basically, yeah, I wrote down everything.
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I went to a cafe this morning and I was like, you know what?
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Let me just write down some stuff.
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And I'm not gonna lie, for those who follow my Instagram, You would see
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that it was kind of hard for me to write down anything to be honest at the beginning
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But then once it started flowing it just started flowing
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So I also want to have this edited like my usual journal entries.
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So, you know feels kind of nostalgic I don't know.
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So let's just get started
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because I feel like personally for me I don't think 25
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is a very very Special special type of year at least for me, but I do feel like it's still a number I mean, it's the oldest I've been which is I mean for every single birthday
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that you go through
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But I just feel like 25 is just an interesting number
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to me like it's like five is just right in the middle You know, you're in your mid-20s, literally in your mid-20s.
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And so, yeah, I just want to say some stuff to you guys, or at least some stuff that I wanted to tell my younger self that I didn't know of.
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Number one, I wrote down, once you want it, it'll become true.
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You can become what you want.
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The only limit is you.
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And I think that that was something I realized in college, maybe a few years ago.
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And I think that when you grow up in a certain environment, people put limitations onto you, right?
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Because they themselves don't believe that they can become what they want to be.
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So, of course, they put that limitation onto whoever.
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You know, when you believe something, you tell other people to believe it as well.
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So when you're younger, of course, you're going to believe that because, you know, you're a kid, right?
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But the thing is that when you really want something and you always act on it, it's bound to become true.
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Because from my experience, it's just it wouldn't work the other way around.
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So that is something that I think a lot of you guys need to know.
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Like if there's something that you really want to do, like I always say on my channel is just you should do it.
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We don't have infinite amount of time on Earth.
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So you might as well do it.
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You can just be a little cringe because I think being cringe is very freeing, you know, and.
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Sure, if something you do are like, oh, I feel like people are going to make fun of me and shit.
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Yeah, people probably gonna.
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But it's okay.
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Who gives a fuck?
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You know, you're going to be living the dream life.
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And the people who make fun of you are going to
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be the exact same people who are going to slide into your DMs and be like, you want to hang out?
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Anyways.
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Number two.
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A day is very long.
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A lot you can accomplish.
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And the mood that I put for that one is literally this face.
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Okay.
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This face, which is like honestly a very bad mood.
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Okay.
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I think that's a good thing.
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Like you can think of it as a good thing because you can get so much done.
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But I think that I've gotten to the point
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that I feel like sometimes like I feel like an hour
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feels very long Like I can accomplish a lot within an hour
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So hence when I do take a break it's just it's very weird for me
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because i'm like i'm wasting time I'm literally wasting time.
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I can do so much within an hour What I want to get at is just
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that you can do so much There's so many different possibilities I can do
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and you can improve yourself in so many different ways Like within a day
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so much can change
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and I don't want this to come off as I don't know Toxic positivity
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or toxic like productivity like
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if you don't go to bed exhausted then you're not doing enough Like I've seen people say
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that and low-key like I get sold into that too
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But like there's also moments where you just have to be like hold up, hold up I gotta I gotta I gotta I gotta rest
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because you will get burnt out You need to have a healthy balance of the two number three I said
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that you don't know how hard other people have it and I put in quotations don't romanticize Slash idolize others.
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I think that sometimes like when we see people, right?
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Especially online you idolize them.
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You're like, oh, they're like doing like the best They're living like the dream life
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But the thing is that I say this but it's like I feel like we don't practice it enough You see celebrities.
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Oh my god, if I have her face, it's like so simple You don't know that maybe she gets constantly sexualized.
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Maybe there's like predatory ass men going for her And then
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when you think that way when you idolize someone you feel really shit about yourself
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And i'm not saying this to make you feel better about yourself.
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Like oh, they have it super hard It's just that we're all human at the end of the day.
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So you just might as well focus on yourself Okay, we all have our own issues and
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when you see someone I don't know celebrity whatever you only
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see the peak You only see what they want you to see.
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You never know what people are going through, right?
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It's just you don't know that and I think that
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that itself creates a sort of like connection in a way
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like like we're all human at the end okay i think that's very important for us to remember
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and it's also a sense of like empathy towards others as
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well you don't know what the they're going through you know
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what i mean all right number four i think i already
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mentioned this everyone's human we're all like in other countries more
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than others there's like this very intense like idolization like people
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like to idolize people people like to put people on pedestals i don't think i'm an odd person out
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but i think that there's some people who do it to the very extreme
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that i don't understand like don't get me wrong back
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when i was in high school i love celebrities you know it got me through school i love
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that obsession over people they bring me entertainment it's like you know whatever yeah as i got older
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and also just also making content as well i just feel like they're literally human i personally just don't like
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when people put other people on pedestals i just don't think it's healthy
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and i just don't think it makes sense you know i mean everyone has flaws like what makes you think
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that just because you look a certain way just
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because you're this person life is perfect life might be easier
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for some other people you know they might not have to go to certain struggles
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but everyone has your own very like certain struggles that you probably just can't comprehend.
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Number five, I said that if you don't change, it won't change.
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The thing is that you need to realize that if you want to do something, there's not going to be a special moment.
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There's not going to be a rainbow in the sky or somebody knocking on your door being like, you have to do this.
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Like maybe, maybe if you do have that, then that's great.
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If you have a great friend who inspired you, whatever, great.
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But for most people, that's not really the case.
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Like if you want to do something you have to be the one willing to do it
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and that is the hardest part it just takes time to keep practicing
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and practicing like this is your life you call the shots it's exactly that simple
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and it's also just like closed mouths don't get fed i think i saw this one model say
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that before and that's very true
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if you don't ask for it you're not gonna get it
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if you don't work for it you're not gonna get it it's just
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that simple okay
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so you have to go for it number six i said nobody's saving you you save yourself
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which is basically like number five i don't know i think
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especially for us women i don't know like back then watching
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a lot of like fk ass disney shows like i always
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imagine oh there's gonna be a prince charming to save me
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there's gonna be some xyz some friend to save me like no you save yourself you do everything for yourself
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which is why like for me like even spoiling myself i
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don't expect anyone to spoil me i spoil myself i do everything for myself you know this hotel was
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so expensive and like nobody got it for me got it for myself
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because i'm like nobody's gonna get it for me like
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if somebody got it for me
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that would be amazing like somebody treats me this would be amazing
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but like i don't expect that i don't think
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that we should live life expecting like oh like a man's
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gonna come xyz do this for me like we live in 2025 babes like i mean like
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if you want that like you do you babes
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but i also wanted to say
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that like we live in 2025 us women like we can
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do everything for ourselves you can treat yourself out to a really nice dinner you can buy yourself
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that luxury ass bag that you wanted number seven you still feel 14
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and 25 you don't feel 25 and scared for the future
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so i think that when i was younger like especially in high school i
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or in in college i expected myself to like have everything figured out at 25
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because like you know if you're 18 you just think
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that old 25 is like super old like you should probably have everything figured out the truth is
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that you don't okay at least for me i don't i
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don't feel like i have everything figured out i don't feel 25 i still feel like i'm like
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that 14 year old kid like i'm the 18 year old kid you know
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and like mentality wise i still don't know what the is
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going on i'm still scared of the future yeah i feel like i don't know i don't know
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if that's like something people talk about when they turn 25
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but at least for me i still feel young um And number eight, I said that I can't imagine being 35 or in my 30s.
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Same thing when I was 18.
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Like, I couldn't imagine being in my 20s.
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Even, like, when I was 14, I can't imagine when I was in my 20s that I would be in my 20s.
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And even now, I can't imagine being in my 30s or, like, 35.
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Which honestly just shows you how precious time is.
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Spend it wisely.
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And I think that sometimes I still do think that I restrict myself a lot from happiness sometimes.
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Because I'm, like, seeing, like, how happy I get when I travel.
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And I'm like, bitch, why don't you travel?
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And I'm like, oh, because I'm scared, because I'm scared.
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Sometimes you just got to push yourself.
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You know, you are the only person that can push yourself, essentially.
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Number nine, save up, invest in luxury, then poor quality since luxury lasts longer.
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When I was younger, I would say that I would buy 10 bags and they add up to $1,000.
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Rather than buying $1,000 back, just one bag, you know, and I just thought the more options, the better, but the things that those things get worn.
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So I think that it's a lot better for you to be investing in high quality items.
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It doesn't have to be luxury items, but it needs to be high quality.
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Trust me, it's worth the investment.
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And I think that as you get older, you know what your taste is.
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You know what is versatile to you you know what you're going to wear invest in those okay
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because trust me those last number 10 um
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spoil yourself no one can spoil you more than yourself i
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literally just mentioned this i guess i forgot i wrote
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that down but yeah you are your biggest prize okay you need to recognize
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that and some people who makes you feel like oh you spend
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so much money like like
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if you earn the money yourself you're spending on yourself why
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you know why are you like you know why are people judging you for
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that you know like you are your most important thing you
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should be spoiling yourself nobody knows you better than you know yourself
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so like you know what exactly you like you buy
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that for yourself okay
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because you are the biggest prize number 11 people who are
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your friends slash nice to you may not have your best interest at heart
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that was something that i feel like as i got older i just learned
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that it wasn't surprising but i think that not like a black
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and white thing you know it's
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because it might be due to their own insecurities due to their own problems
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that they're going through and it's like we all have problems
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and that's completely fine
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but it's just at the end of the day it's like
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some people don't have your best interests at heart that's just
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as plain as simple like they might not mean it
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which is you know it's completely okay some people who are
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nice to you you know they just want access to you
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they just want access to you as a human they don't really want to see you succeed like even
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if they do want you succeed it's also at a point
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like i do feel like sometimes they don't want to see you go over a certain point especially
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when they're not doing good in life themselves
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which is why personally it's important to choose your friends wisely i'm a strong believer
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that the people around you strongly impact who you are
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so pick your friends wisely number 12 you do not need
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to be friends with everyone it's okay to lose friends I think that coming from a formal people pleaser, I still struggle with it, but I've gotten so much better at it,
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is that sometimes I feel really sh about myself when I see that certain friendships don't work out, certain friendships died, you know, just lost certain friendships.
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And I'm like, oh sh, I should have like preserved that.
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I feel like everyone tries to maintain it in a certain way.
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They don't want to like cut it super obvious.
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Like I'm never going to be friends with you because you never know.
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Like you might see them at a certain occasion or whatever
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and some people might go on coffee dates with them even
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though they don't really want to be friends with these friends
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but they don't want to create bad blood you know there's those type of people
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and i feel like for me i just don't entertain that
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and i don't think there's right
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or wrong answers to this it just depends on you
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and i think that for me i just don't have the energy to do
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that and sometimes i think about it i'm like maybe i should do
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that maybe i should have just maybe pretend like not in like a bad way
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but sometimes i'm like oh i feel like i'm making more enemies
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and friends at the end of the day it is what it is
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and for me my logic is just that why put in energy
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and time when i know
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that i don't see a future with this friend you know there's like
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so many qualities that doesn't sit with me
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and am i really just gonna pour in time just to
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avoid the uncomfortableness of us like not being friends anymore you know like the awkwardness
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and i feel like people shouldn't take offense to people who don't want to be your friends
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because sometimes just like the vibes are just it's different you know it's like there's
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so much people in the world you can't be friends with
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everyone number 13 people treat you based on how you look yes i think
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that that is just something i learned
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because of growing up ugly quotation marks it's like
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when you look a certain way people treat you better it's just how it works
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which is sad especially in korea people really like that
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that is like true
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but like in korea it really gets emphasized you know like
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you go out now wearing makeup yeah people treat you differently it's just how it is
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which is why i think it's very important to invest in
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your looks in your character in your education in your career everything about yourself
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and you might be like oh yeah you're being
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so materialistic we live in a materialistic world i'm just being real with you You don't have to take my advice.
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You can be like, wow, she's like so toxic.
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Like she only believes and looks.
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Like it's up to you, but I'm just telling you from my 25 years of living, people judge you based off how you look.
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People treat you better if you look prettier.
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People treat you better if you look more put together, okay?
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And it's also confidence.
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Confidence is very important.
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If you're, like, confident and you take up space, people will treat you according to that.
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But when you're very insecure, like, you know, people will disrespect you.
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Number 14, don't take advice from people you don't want to become.
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Very, very important.
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I feel like in the older generation, especially family members, they will literally give you unsolicited advice.
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Like, even friends sometimes, they will give you unsolicited advice.
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I know that like it can sometimes just be for your best interest, right?
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But sometimes like if I didn't ask, don't give it to me.
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But even when they do give it to you, if it's like a stranger or whatever, and you're like, what the f* are they thinking?
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Like, why would I take your advice?
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Like, you know, I don't like that advice.
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Do you want to become them?
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Then you really think about it.
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If you don't want to become that person, don't take their advice, you know?
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Like even if you do want to become that person, still take it with a grain of salt.
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Really think through it.
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Is this for me?
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Because everyone has different sorts of, you know, like context.
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Like it's like different for everyone in situations. And
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so you have to really think through it number 15 don't control slash waste energy on what you can't control
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that i feel like has really helped me a lot like it makes me like feel a lot more relieved
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when i think about it i'm like okay literally it's
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that simple when you're passing your test it's done don't stress about it
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and i know it's hard honestly it's hard
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because i remember back then people tell me that
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and i was still stressed about it but the thing is
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that it's just that simple especially as you get older
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and older like whatever you put out there you cannot control it anymore it's out there
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so you might as well just let it go and
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that honestly when i tell myself that when i clock myself when when I'm like stressing about it, it really brings me a lot of peace because I do think that I'm like a very, like a control freak, which is not a good thing.
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Like I just feel like things need to go in a certain way.
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And it's like, it's a very bad flaw of mine and I really hate it.
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But these days I just tell myself, if I can't control it, I can't control it.
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Let it go.
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Number 16, authenticity is powerful.
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It attracts people.
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Not only is that powerful, I think it makes you happy.
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Okay, it's just very important.
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I think that is one of the key things I learned this year is just be yourself.
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Just do whatever the fuck you want.
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Just do what aligns with you.
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You laugh super weird.
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Okay, then you laugh super weird like yeah i might judge you like people might judge you
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but you be yourself you being authentically yourself is going to attract people
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because we live in a society
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that we try to cover hide a lot of ourselves
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and i get it like sometimes it's for work it's just how we deal with it as a society
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but at the same time like at a healthy amount of authenticity is very nice you know
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and yes it's like we're all scared of being judged
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because we all want to fit in and
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so we want to be accepted who doesn't want to be accepted right sometimes they can make you really miserable
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because they can make you very suppressed and you're doing things
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that you don't really want to you know do and
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so it's very important
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that you stick true to who you are okay number 17 stay away from people pleasers as friends okay
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and it's like i get it like especially in work settings
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like you have to like you know you have to be nice to your boss like yes i get
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that but like as friends
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because as a formal people pleaser myself like i used to
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like be a certain way to get people to like me
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and i don't realize how manipulative that is
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because like i'm literally trying to get you to like me
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literally i said this in my journal entry on my other
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channel my second channel kindness without truth is manipulation emma watson said
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that okay in a podcast i remember and you don't realize
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that but the thing is that you're just trying to get
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that person to like you and you're not even showing your real self
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and this also grows secret resentment because you keep playing
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and playing this character
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and then it's like it builds a certain rhythm it builds a certain type of dynamic
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and then you're like oh my god why is this dynamic
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like this like how the did it become like this well you made it like
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that you wanted that person to like you so bad
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but the thing is that the people
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that will be your friends will come to you
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if you just be yourself
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so personally for me i don't like people pleasers everyone can
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have their preferences don't come for me okay i'm just saying like i I like to know people for who they are.
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And this is coming from a formal people pleaser, okay?
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Number 18, be friends with people who match your energy.
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It's very important.
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Like, especially if you're super high maintenance, if you're a very ambitious person and if you're very disciplined, be friends with those people because those people will only make you more disciplined.
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Yes, I think it's like, it's good to have friends, you know, like kind of different all across, but it's very important that your friends share your core values.
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I think as you get older, I think it's better to be friends with people who are more compatible with you.
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But it's really up to you
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because I know some people like having friends for different needs
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like oh I have my ice skating friend I have my
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friends who talk about emotions I have my friends who talk about work like you do you you know
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that everything can work like everything is not black
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and white you know it's up to you anyways
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so 19 realizing you come farther than you think I think
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it's very important especially living in like a I don't know I think we're living in a world
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or I might just be in certain countries where it's like very fast-paced
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so constantly running constantly hustling constantly grinding you don't really reflect on much you know you don't really think
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that oh I've actually came really far I'm really grateful for
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you know xyz I think it's very important for us to just be like, okay, we came a long way.
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Like, let's take a moment and be happy.
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You know what I mean?
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And like being proud of yourself and something
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that I started doing recently is just to say out loud every single morning three things I'm grateful for.
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It can be so f*ing like simple.
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I'm like, I'm grateful for my health.
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I'm grateful to be traveling.
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I'm grateful to eat the food I want.
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It's that simple and it really just makes you feel a little bit better.
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Number 20, I still don't know what I'm doing, but I have more experience.
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I think that especially when we're younger, we always think that we'll have everything figured out.
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You don't, but you have more life experiences that's teaching you something.
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I think life is just what you do with the time you're given.
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You don't need to have a purpose in this world.
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It's just you just have time.
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You have time and it's a privilege to be alive.
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And you just do whatever the f* you want to do with that time.
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Number 21, discipline slash hard work is greater than talent.
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If you can grind, then you will go farther than anyone else.
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I've said this multiple times.
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Like, it's very important that you put in hard work.
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And again, I always say this.
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It's not mutually exclusive, okay?
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You can have discipline and also talent.
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You just need to want it that bad.
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You can make up excuses all that because we're all played with the cards we're given.
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Okay, that is just the truth at the end of the day Some people have easier.
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Okay, and some people have a harder but that is just your cards Okay, you can't be complaining about it because
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that are just your fucking cards You cannot change the cards you're given only have to just go forward
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because if you sit and whine about it You're still with those cards.
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Okay, it's not gonna like it's gonna change the fucking cards
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because life is unfair You can't control where you're born who you're born with like it's just you're born
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and there you go This is your fucking life and you go with it.
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Let me just say this for my chinese followers you know i don't really know how to explain this
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but it's like it's like
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if you can withstand certain obstacles you can constantly just keep grinding
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and like do the most i don't think anything can stop you in this lifetime
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because not many people can go through obstacles not many people can go through the hardships
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and i think the hardest thing in life is
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that you put in a lot of work
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and you constantly see failure i don't want to say failure
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because i always think that you're getting slightly better
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but it's like you don't get the outcome you want and you have to constantly keep going and going.
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I think that is the hardest part and i think that's very scary
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and not many people can keep doing that so i think
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that for those of you who can do that it's very impressive things
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that i saw one video i think someone said
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that you just need to outlast your competition because i've always thought
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that oh everyone grinds everyone thinks like me but the thing is
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that it's that's not true not everyone thinks like that not everyone's
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that obsessed there's only certain people who are that obsessed
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and those are the ones that succeed in life
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so it's very important that you know that and
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that i don't want to say
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that you're special i like i don't want to get it to your head
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but you are special you are that okay you just have to grind
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and not everyone can grind so the fact
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that you're already grinding you're bound to succeed 22 how people
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treat you is how they feel about themselves like yes
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if an employee gives you an attitude it sucks you know
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and it's like me telling you this like how they treat
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is just how they feel about themselves i'm sure it's not gonna make you feel better
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but that's just the truth how people treat you people judge you like yes it's gonna still feel like
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but it's genuinely just because of themselves like sometimes like
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when i'm like in a bad mood and
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when i give people attitude it's not really
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because of what they've done like yes sometimes it could be
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because of what they've done but like majority of time it's like
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if you feel you didn't do anything wrong it's just
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because of they're having a day okay so we shouldn't hold on to
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that and be like oh
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but it's hard like i'm a sensitive ass too like it
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gets to me it's just what it is you know number
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23 a lot of things in the world is transactional plus that's okay
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and i think that's just something
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that i learned in adult world especially you know it's just
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what it is like some people even like friendships i'm with you
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because i have a good time with you or you hang out with
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that person to be networking like
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that i used to be really naive i'm like what the
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like i just want to be friends with this person like what why is
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that but sometimes that's just how the world works
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and that's like you accepting
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that just makes it easier you know like it's like you're benefiting from this
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that person's benefiting from this it's just that simple you know
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and that's okay that's okay but i think it's a little different
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when it's like maybe like the expectations is different around like let's say you're dating someone
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and you genuinely love this guy you're like oh this guy makes me happy
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and this guys just want to have sex i don't know i think it's
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if it's not like the same then we have an issue
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but both of you guys just want to you know have
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sex you know whatever like friends with benefits this is such a bad example why i'm giving this example
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but whatever this is the one that comes in my head
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but just like when it's like different i think
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that causes a bit of an issue
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but you guys seem to feel free to disagree with me in the comments okay
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because everything i say is like open for discussions i am
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one person i am one woman saying whatever the i'm saying
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you can feel free to disagree this is my take okay
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number 24 the simple moments are key to real happiness me waking up going to a 7-eleven going to get
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that big ass americano with the winter melon milk
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that brings me a lot of joy that's my happiness happiness is not a grand thing happiness are little bits
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and that's just important for you to know and
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that will make just make your life happier
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because tiny little happiness equals big happiness
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and happiness is just moments you i don't think you can be happy all the time
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because if you don't feel a wide range of emotions you cannot feel happiness
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if you don't know sadness you're not gonna feel happiness
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if you're happy all the time what the is
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that that's just became the baseline then
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so it's very important for you to to realize
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that 25 you don't need to wait for a quote-unquote milestone to deserve something you're allowed to live
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and take up space and that made me happy i think
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that just goes for everything especially in life like you're always
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waiting for something you're like oh it has to be like xyz i have to do
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that in order to get myself
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that of course yeah it's like you have to make it like financially it makes sense you know like
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if you don't if you don't got a job maybe don't buy
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that crazy ass thing that's gonna cost you rent just giving
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you a little disclaimer here i'm sure we all know what the f* i mean
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but it's like i can only wear a bikini
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if my body looks a certain way I can only be going on a solo traveling if I look a certain way, you know, I can only be talking to so-and-so or I don't know, be friends with X, Y,
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Z if I got into a certain college, like stupid like that.
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Don't make your life so conditional.
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Don't put conditions on your life because that makes it so restricting because the thing is that things constantly evolve.
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When you evolve in a certain point, your condition is going to evolve again, you know, it's never ending.
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Okay.
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So you might as well not put conditions on your life.
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Just do what you want to do.
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That was the last piece of advice, but I think I wrote down something in the back.
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I said that lastly, if you don't feel secure it'll reflect onto everything plus perception
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of everything external things plus money won't make you more confident
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from within maybe it'll make you more confident in your skills
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but internally you need to do the work
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and i put a very sad face with that because i think
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that for majority of my life i always thought
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that external things can make me happy like yes it brings you closer to happiness
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but at the end internal stuff really f*ing matters
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and it's like you know you might be oh i feel
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insecure let me go travel you're still gonna feel insecure like yes i can make you happy temporarily
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but like the key issues the internal issues is still going to be within you.
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If your issues lie within like external stuff, then yes, you moving to a different place, you changing your scenery is going to fix that because your original issues will do to external things.
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But if your issues lie within internally, it's going to stay that way.
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So it's very important that we look within and it's like, can't escape from your issues.
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So yeah, I really hope you guys like that.
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Yeah, I just wanted to do this in celebration of my 25th birthday today.
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I'm very blessed to be turning 25 and I think
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that I can officially say that my frontal was developed yeah
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and I think that I am looking forward to more things to learn
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because I think that right now I'm like oh I know everything
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but I think like
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that all the time every single mother birthday I'm like oh I know everything
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and then I'm like oh I didn't life is always gonna be humbling you
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but at the same time it's gonna give you more wisdom that's just how it works
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and I think that when you learn how much you don't know that's wisdom you know
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but yeah I just want to say
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that thank you guys for being with me for another year
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and I'm excited to continue being with you guys for the following year I'm I'm excited and we can both grow together.
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I think back to like my past two years or three years being online and I'm like, wow, things has changed.
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I see a lot of comments where people are like, oh, you've grown more confident.
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Or there's also those comments where, whoa, she's changed.
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And it's like, you know, it can be negative.
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It can be positive.
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You can be the one sole judge of that.
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But I do think that for me, it's been more positive.
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And it's like, you know, I had to see comments where people aren't like, oh, she changed.
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I don't like her anymore.
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That's completely fair.
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I'm not everyone's cup of tea.
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It's completely fine.
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You don't have to watch me.
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You don't have to like me completely.
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Okay, I don't take offense to that and I hope you have a great life.
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It's just that simple.
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That's just the sh that happens when you post yourself online.
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That's completely cool.
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You know, I know what I signed up for.
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But yeah, I just want to say that.
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Thank you guys for being here.
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Thank you guys for watching this video.
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Yeah, wish me a happy birthday in the comments.
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I would love that.
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Anyways, I think that definitely when I post it, it's probably not gonna be my birthday anymore, but I would love a belated birthday.
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But yeah, I hope you guys have an amazing, amazing rest of your day and rest of your week.
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And I am ready to take some bomb ass fking photos in this fking dress.
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Hopefully the photos I'm gonna post on Instagram fk eat down.
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Yeah, anyways, I will see you guys very very soon and until then have an amazing amazing rest of your day, okay?
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Bye guys!
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Love you!
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 560 sentences and 6613 words to shadow. The speech runs for 24:24. 88% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| happiness noun | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | The emotion of being happy; joy; elation. |
| grind verb | /ˈɡɹaɪnd/ | To reduce to smaller pieces by crushing with lateral motion. |
| spoil noun | /spɔɪl/ | Plunder taken from an enemy or victim. |
| grateful adjective | /ˈɡɹeɪtf(ə)l/ | Of a person or their actions, feelings, etc.: expressing gratitude or appreciation; appreciative, thankful. |
| mood noun | /muːd/ | A mental or emotional state, composure. |
| friendship noun | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | The condition of being friends. |
| luxury noun | /ˈlʌk.ʃə.ɹi/ | Very wealthy and comfortable surroundings; the state of being that they create. |
| invest verb | /ɪnˈvɛst/ | To spend money, time, or energy on something, especially for some benefit or purpose; used with in. |
| succeed verb | /səkˈsiːd/ | To follow something in sequence or time. |
| discipline noun | /ˈdɪsəplɪn/ | A controlled behaviour; self-control. |
| anyways adverb | /ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/ | Anyway, anyhow, in any case. |
| formal adjective | /ˈfɔɹməl/ | In accordance with established forms. |
| celebrity noun | /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/ | Fame, renown; the state of being famous or talked-about. |
| toxic adjective | /ˈtɒk.sɪk/ | Having a chemical nature that is harmful to health or lethal if consumed or otherwise entering into the body in sufficient quantities. |
| babe noun | /beɪb/ | A baby or infant; a very young human or animal. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. |
| write down verb | To produce or set (something) down in writing; to record something. |
| figure out verb | To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce. |
| hold up verb | To wait or delay. |
| take up verb | To pick up. |
| think through verb | To fully consider, so as to understand all the consequences of. |
| add up to verb | To have a particular effect in combination. |
| buy back verb | To purchase (something already sold, misplaced, destroyed, or given away). |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result | if you don't change, it won't change · If you can grind, then you will go · if you don't feel secure it'll reflect |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | I've been · I've gotten · I've seen |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | those who follow · been which is · people who make |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | being judged · be accepted · was developed |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 279 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, I'm, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, rhythm /ˈɹɪð.əm/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, withstand /wɪðˈstænd/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, luxury /ˈlʌk.ʃə.ɹi/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/
- Long words — get the stress right: celebrity /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, internally /ɪnˈtɜːnəli/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/, authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like happiness, grind, spoil.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.