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hi guys welcome back to my channel today we are doing another
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you know annual thing where i do 10 things i learned at the age of 26 because
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if you don't already know i'm turning 26 this year
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i'm filming this like one month before my birthday my birthday is on november 5th i don't know
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when this is gonna be up
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but i wanted to do a little video on this
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because i think it's good to always just sort of like reflect on the year
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and of course i just want to say
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that there's definitely a lot of things i learned you know as you know time goes
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and these are just some of it let me count how many
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because i wrote it all right here one two three four
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five six seven eight nine ten 11 okay well maybe 11 things
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but i'm gonna say 10 because one of them could be honorable mention
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because i think 10 is a better number than 11
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i'm not gonna waste your time we're just gonna get straight into it i think
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this year there was a lot of things i wanted to do
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because i was like i'm 25 now like i'm not a kid anymore
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i don't want this to sound like oh i'm old
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now like i think honestly like sometimes i'll joke about oh i'm
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so old now but honestly in reality i'm like i'm pretty young you know
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but at the same time i'm like i'm not a kid anymore
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you know this is i have to take mather into my own hand
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and nobody's gonna come save me you know this is something
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that i just realized
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and this year I really try to get out of my comfort zone
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I didn't show any of this on camera of course
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because you know it's just it's I don't think it's necessary to show stuff certain stuff on camera
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but there was a lot of things I've experienced this year
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that honestly gave me a lot of anxiety and you know
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when you try new things it's just genuinely super scary
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you know number one thing was definitely starting my own beauty brand
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that was something that little me would never imagine
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and I don't know how it was just in the middle of night at my parents place
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I pulled out my laptop
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and I started just looking into the steps of you know I was just like you know what
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Okay, I'm gonna do it and I start cold emailing like a bunch of
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People and it was like one of the craziest thing i've done
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and it felt humiliating in a way because it was just like
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You know, nobody was responding but once I did that wasn't scary anymore
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Another was definitely getting my house
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That was a lot of responsibility that I didn't know like how it would take it
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But then i'm like, you know what?
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I just tell myself like as time goes on I am going to become more comfortable, which is my number one point
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This is i'm just gonna read you exactly whatever I said time will pass anyway
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So do it because six months from now you won't be scared.
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You're gonna be different in a year
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So do it now you'll get used to it how things
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may be now may be different two years from now time can change your life in ways
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You can never imagine.
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It's just that time is gonna pass anyway, you know When something is new at first it's going to be uncomfortable,
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but that is just the process
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That is just how things go.
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It's going to be uncomfortable now and then it's going to be comfortable later
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You're always gonna have that uncomfortable feeling like even
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if I did this when I was like if i'm 50 I'm still gonna be uncomfortable when i'm 50
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But maybe as like a month go by two months go by a year after
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you're gonna be like this is my new normal
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So I think it's something that I learned that you know,
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it's scary But i'm not it's not like i'm not capable that I know i'm more than capable to do it
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It's just it's new and this is also something where I do where like I would
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if i'm booking like a solo trip I would do it like a month in advance
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So once a month later, you know, I would just not think about it until like a month later I'm, like, you know what?
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I've already been thinking about this.
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This is not that scary anymore
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It's just like you get used to things with like things that where you are like, oh my god I can't imagine doing this but then
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when the time actually comes you're just like i'm gonna suck it up I'm gonna do it
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because you're gonna be alive after that
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You just have to tell yourself that like the scariest fucking things like going upstage, you know, doing public speaking,
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whatever it is, you're going to be alive after that.
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Okay, so you're going to be fine.
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You just have to also know that if you are nervous or something, that is just a sign that this is going to make you grow.
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You have to know that the benefits are going to be worth it because after this,
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you are not going to be as nervous the next time you do the same exact thing.
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That is the benefit.
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You have conquered a huge fear in your life.
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And I think that is one of the most valuable things ever because as a human, we shouldn't always be scared to be scared.
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You know, I think being fearless is truly amazing.
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And it's also just like, it doesn't mean that you always have to be fearless.
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Like you can't be scared of anything.
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That just means that, you know, I think it's natural to be scared of things.
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But I think that it's good to also conquer certain fears.
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So I think that just telling yourself that no matter what you want to do, your time is going to pass.
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Like if you're going to be like, I'm going to wait until I'm older.
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Like, okay, this applies to specific situations.
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Don't put yourself in situations where it's like, I don't know, like if you're like a teen and you decide to get married.
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You know, I don't control anyone's life.
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You do you.
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But I'm just saying like when you're really young, you might not know what's best for yourself, okay?
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I just think that with certain things, given certain contexts, because I always try to preface this
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because I know there's people out there who's gonna twist my words because I'll be saying one thing.
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And then because I didn't address another point that I didn't even like talk about, people are going to misconstrue my words and be like,
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well, she didn't talk about this and that.
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Sometimes it's just hard to cover all the grounds, you know, but I do try to.
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But sometimes when I don't cover all the grounds, people try to point at things and they're like, oh, well, you didn't mention that,
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so you mean this, which I didn't mean that.
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It's just that, you know? so circumstances okay just know
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that as time passes you're gonna be just time it's gonna pass
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that is just something
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that you have to know honestly at the beginning of the year
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this is something i've been working really hard on is the brand
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and i was like either i'm gonna be 30 with a brand
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or five years from now i'm just not gonna have a brand like it's just
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that either way time is gonna pass either i'm gonna improve
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and learn from this experience and challenge myself or you know
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that just doesn't happen it's just either
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or you know time is gonna pass either way number two
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i said obsession beats talent there is a price this is not something that's like very like oh rainbows and sunshine.
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It's just something I've seen.
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You don't have to believe me.
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Honestly, this entire video, you don't have to believe me.
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This is just what I've seen in my 26 years of living.
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Obsession always beat talent, okay?
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Honestly, I think that pretty privilege is a real thing.
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I think if you look really pretty, like there's going to be advantages in society for you to get.
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But I've seen that people who are not like conventionally attractive,
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they become more successful and they get more opportunities because there's an obsession with it there's just something where it's like,
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it is an aura to you.
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You're just confident.
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Because sometimes I just think that with certain people, it's like, yeah, you look at people, like, you know, you see the physical appearance,
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but there's something that you can't really describe as the aura.
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I just think an aura is so powerful.
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Like, you just know that they're very confident in them.
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So I think confidence bring you so far.
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And when you have an obsession where you're constantly striving and striving and striving, you just want to get better and better and better,
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you're gonna become better.
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Like, even with like a person who has a lot of talent,
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they just automatically get it at the first try or they're super pretty, whatever it is.
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They're super smart, whatever.
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But if you're obsessed, you're mediocre, but you're obsessed.
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You are going to get so fucking far.
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That's just something I realized.
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But I do want to say that there is a price.
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Like I said, it's obsession.
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To be obsessed with something doesn't sound healthy.
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Again, I just want to say that this is just the reality of things.
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I'm not saying this to make you feel bad or whatever.
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I just, it's the reality.
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The reality is never pretty.
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I've seen that you will succeed.
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But because once again, the word is obsessed.
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Obsession is never good.
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There is a price.
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You're going to maybe sacrifice your relationships.
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You're going to sacrifice your friendships.
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You're going to sacrifice your time.
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You're going to constantly think about this all the time, but you are going to get better.
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But there's a price to pay.
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Of course, there's people who can make a very healthy boundary.
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I think that you can succeed in life with having a very healthy boundary.
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That's a whole different topic.
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But this is just what I've seen.
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That obsession always beats talent because you're thinking about a 24 seven.
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Is it healthy?
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No, but I've seen that it brings people to success.
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So next point I wrote down is that you are enough.
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You don't need to be fixed.
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You can show up and have fun.
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There's no holes to fill.
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You are whole.
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Why did I read it like that?
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So if you don't already know, I have, um, let me just show you guys.
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This is what I have on my phone screen.
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Literally, I have the quote, I am enough.
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That has generally been the quote that has helped me the most because in a lot of my life, I'm always looking for something wrong.
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Oh, I'm not pretty enough.
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I'm not smart enough.
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I'm not thin enough.
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I'm not sociable enough.
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I'm just not good enough.
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I'm just not enough, enough, enough, enough, enough.
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And so you wake up hating yourself.
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You wake up like this is wrong with me.
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That is wrong with me.
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If I get this, I'll be okay.
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If I get this, I'll be okay.
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If I do this, I'll be okay.
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If I look like this, I'll be okay.
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It's never going to be enough.
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It is never going to be enough.
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You will get exactly what you want it'll never be enough
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so you might as well just like yourself now
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because it is exhausting having to do
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that like i don't want to say like love yourself
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because like it's hard to like understand right it's just i am enough
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if you see someone doing something really cool i am enough there are rooms to improve
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but you don't have holes to fill
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there's not something wrong with you of course like you know like i don't want to say
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that like yeah go to go to therapy like do like self -improvement all
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that but don't wake up like i am i'm for life like there's something wrong with me
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that I can never fix because that is a very exhausting way to live
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and I just think that life shouldn't be like
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that you should wake up happy you know you should wake up feeling excited for the day
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because at the end of the day this is your life you know start living your life
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and stop like thinking like how do I become dumb how do I do
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that trust in that vision and run for it okay just trust in what you know
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and go for it okay
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because at the end of the day you are living life for yourself
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so do the things you want who gives a fuck what
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Billy Bobby Brown I mean
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who cares what billy bobby jane whatever it's doing you know i mean
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so that's something really important that i think you guys need to know
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that you are enough and i think that maybe even though
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if i'm saying right now it might not mean anything
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but you just have to know that you know especially
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if you're young you know it's like you can breathe
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you can see you can hear everything you can do what you want we'll all deal with the same cars
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and the thing is that you know but people who do things
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that you want to do they don't show you the ugly parts that's what you have to know
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There was a price that was paid that you did not see.
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You have to know that.
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That is very important.
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Next, you can become exactly what you envision and it will take time.
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You will slowly morph into your thoughts whether you like it or not.
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Just depends on how badly you want it.
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Little steps matter.
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And I had like a sub point under that.
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Your issues will stay if you don't face it.
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If you don't come face to face with your issues, it'll never be resolved.
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What you think in your head will become the reality.
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Which is why it's always like people say that like if you never desire something if you can't achieve it.
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And that is true in my opinion
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and it's just like of course it's not going to become like your vision
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if you don't try to actually pursue that
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because the more you think about something is going to become true especially
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when you're constantly exposed to something
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that you always want you're going to always think about it
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and the same thing goes for like bad thoughts
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if you constantly think about like i'm not pretty enough
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i'm not good enough it's going to always be with you
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so you have to control how your mind thinks about things
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and it first starts with just telling yourself
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that you are enough this is i didn't mention this is one of my points
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but i'm just going to quickly go over it don't put people on pedestals okay don't don't idolize people
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because we're all human you're bound to get disappointed
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and i know it's hard especially when you set expectations for friends
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and everything you know that's a whole different topic
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but like let's just talk about celebrities and all
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that don't put people on pedestals you know don't be like oh my god i can't get what she wants
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if you think like that of course you're not gonna get it
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but if you think like okay i can just go to acting school
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or whatever like put myself out there you know like honestly
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i think being cringe is to be free like just putting yourself out
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there you have to act like you have it of course the road is gonna be rough
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it's gonna be tough but i just think
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that your thoughts will shape you i hope
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that brings some sort of comfort to you as well especially
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if there's something you've always want just know
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that you are on the road of getting it as long as you put in the work into getting it
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that goes without saying it's hard to get what you want
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if you don't put in the work right
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but i just think it's also very important
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which i think is actually it's probably my next point my next point is
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that little steps matter yes
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that was one of the points i mentioned in what i just say little steps matter it's
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so important because you're not gonna see it
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And I know like some of you guys might be like, yeah, of course you're not going to see it.
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But when you're actually pursuing a greater life for yourself or something that's so different for yourself, you're going to forget that.
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You're going to be like, well, I don't see any progress.
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Like what the hell?
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Like what the am I doing?
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You're not going to see progress.
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Okay.
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That's the thing.
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You're going to slowly, slowly become that.
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And I go through the same exact shit.
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Like I'm just like, I don't want to, I want to give up.
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Like I don't really care.
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And even now, sometimes it's hard.
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Sometimes I don't start things because I'm just like, I'm not going to see stupid progress.
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You know, like what's the point?
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But you have to believe in that.
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A lot of this is just through believing in yourself like
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it's going to happen as long as i keep working for it that's the hardest thing
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which is why people don't try to challenge themselves like that
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because it's very much just believing in yourself and
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that gets very exhausting when you don't see results fast
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but the ones who wait and the ones who really believe in
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that vision and just constantly go and go
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and go those are the ones who get rewarded at the end right
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and i think that's something that a lot of us need to remember
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and that's how you become great my next point is
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that life feels so good when you're happy it may be temporary
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but it feels so good this is especially important to remember
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when you're on your darkest days like
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when you just feel it what the is life like life don't make sense
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this is just not worth it like it just doesn't make sense every day is gonna feel like this
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when you have a bad day i know it just feels like it's gonna be like this forever
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but trust me when i say this it's not gonna be like
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that forever it's just it's just gonna take one really little thing
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it's probably gonna take like a friend probably gonna take like a drive
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it's probably gonna take like an ice cream or whatever watch a movie
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or maybe it might be just be facing one of your fears
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or challenging yourself or putting yourself in a different environment really forcing yourself to
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or maybe it's just like stepping right outside and you have to know
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that happiness comes temporary which is like you know don't feel
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so weird like oh i was happy yesterday now i'm sad
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you know also i don't want to downplay anyone's like mental illness like i know
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there's just people who have like just are always very very
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sad just like experience with like you know depression anxiety
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and all that still think my point applies
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that happiness is temporary emotions is temporary itself
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and you just need to cherish that well like when you have a good moment you
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You know, there's nothing you can do to keep it, but just enjoy it.
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Life is all about trying to get that sort of happiness.
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So when you have it, just know that this is a really great thing.
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You're gonna have ups and downs and that is normal and that is okay.
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But just know that when it rains, sunshine's gonna come.
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The sun is always gonna come out.
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The hardest thing you can do is just to keep going, even though it might just be like you literally doing nothing,
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but you're still going, okay?
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You just have to believe a good day's gonna come.
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I can't promise you when, but it's going to come.
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Next, abandon your identity.
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Don't limit yourself to a label.
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Don't take this the wrong way again everyone has identity like
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if you want to hold on to your identity like that's
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you know some people's identity means everything to them please don't take this the wrong way
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but i'm just gonna talk about what i mean by
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that i mean don't strict yourself with a label i think
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that there was one time on tiktok where i talked about it i said
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that personally for me like i don't know my sexuality
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i don't like to be labeled down to like you know she's straight is she a lesbian is she bi
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she pansexual like i just don't like that label i said
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that what did i say i said that's
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because like you know people sexuality is very fluid
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and like you know you might change
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that in the interim might come for you for changing your sexuality people like to put you in a box
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so people who identify themselves as lesbians they were saying
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that well this is a very harmful thing to say
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because you know like for me like my identity is not fluid
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and this is very harmful because you're gonna make men think
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that oh they can change me into liking men again
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or liking men in general and i just won't say that
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that is not what i meant i just meant for those like i apologize i'm very sorry
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if i wasn't clear but what i mean by
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that is i'm just saying that for myself honestly like i think
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that there's also people who can relate to me where it's like especially when you're figuring yourself out.
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I think those people who, you know, was criticizing my point, they have a point because it's like, they're very sure of themselves.
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They're very sure of their identity.
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But for me, I'm not sure of my identity, which is why I'm saying that because like, I'm not sure of it,
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which is why I'm very fluid.
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And I've seen also people online where it's like the, their identity changes.
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And it's also not like I'm fluid is more so like, I just don't know.
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Cause I don't date.
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So that's the biggest point.
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That is the biggest reason.
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And so, yeah, I just, I just want to clear the air because I don't want my, I don't mean to offend anyone.
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It's usually usually for me my points apply to myself
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but of course like you know
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when you make videos people are going to try to like connect to what you say
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so it's like you have to word your things carefully
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but i just want to clear the air
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so okay back to my point where don't tie yourself to like an identity is
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that let's say
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that today you identify yourself as an introvert you're anxious you don't like public speaking you don't own yourself to
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that the next day you don't need to be an introvert you don't need to live according to
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that you can play an avatar you can just be a completely different person
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you know the next day you can just be i'm
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so confident you know like extrovert whatever because that allows yourself to evolve
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and i think it's harder to do that
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when you're maybe stuck in like school
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or something people might judge you be oh my gosh she's
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so different but i think it's easier i guess
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when you get older that's just something that i've learned
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but for me it's definitely a lot more like slower
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i've seen people where they just change their identity really found like respect
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but for me it took me a lot longer to become more confident like literally
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if this was like high school me met me
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now they should be like who is she you know she would be
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so surprised and it just takes time like you don't own yourself like to be a certain way just
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because you were like this like a week ago yesterday you know you can change your identity
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so fast this allows yourself to just really grow
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and evolve as a person next i said
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you'll surprise yourself life will surprise you in good ways you might think
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that life is gonna go a certain way like you have your entire life spelled out for you think
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that if i do this i'm gonna get this i'm gonna get
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that yeah maybe maybe it might just be in that direction
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but maybe something better will come
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or maybe something similar will come i don't think you're gonna get your life a hundred percent right or maybe you will,
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who knows, but life will surprise you.
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You might be, I don't deserve this.
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This is never like gonna happen.
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This is like just horrible.
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But life might still surprise you, you know?
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Because what you think is in here, but how other people react is kind of separate from here.
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Like you might be, I'm not qualified for this job.
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I'm not qualified for this.
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But then surprisingly, you get hired.
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You get the thing.
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I'm not trying to be pessimistic, but there's also times where things will be bad.
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You know, you're like, oh, I didn't expect this to happen.
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But I'm not gonna talk too much about that because that's bringing the mood down.
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Anyways, okay, next.
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Taking a pause may feel like forever, but reality is you can hop right back on.
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You'll be okay.
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So this is for my girlies who are impatient as fuck.
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Like you want results fast, fast, fast.
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Okay.
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This is something I've really learned this year.
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I like moving fast, especially when I'm doing something I'm really not comfortable with.
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I just feel I need to get it done ASAP.
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But yes, time is moving.
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But what you're going to do is not going anywhere.
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Like the thing that you plan on doing, you still have to do it.
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You just have to wait.
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And I think that you taking a break, let's just say you, you pausing for a little bit.
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Life is not ending.
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Okay.
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Yes.
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Yeah.
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Maybe some people are still running, improving, but what's meant for you is going to be yours.
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Okay.
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It's not going to go anywhere.
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If it's going to go any somewhere then it's probably just not for you
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but you taking a break
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i don't know a day two days three days a week
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a month a year what's meant for you is gonna be for you okay
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if it's not then it's probably just not the right timing yet it's going to go through hell to reach
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you if it's meant for you
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that is something you have to remember okay what's meant for you is going to be for you
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and i think that's special for me like
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when i try to take breaks i'm like oh my god my life is ending like how dare i do
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that like you you're a failure how dare you do that
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but i've realized this year it's like you can hop right back on.
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It's just a car.
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It's just moving and you take a pause.
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You walk around the field.
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You do whatever you want and you go back onto the car and you keep driving.
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You know, don't crush yourself for taking a break because it's just also, you're taking a break for a reason.
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You're trying to recharge and you like being so rude to yourself, it's kind of doing the opposite of taking a break, don't you think?
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Next, I said that, oh, this is something really important.
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You can be loved and feel supported while doing what you want.
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You don't need to do it alone.
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So this is coming from really, really just, I mean, all of these are coming from my personal experience,
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but I think this might be a very niche one that don't think you see a lot of people talking about.
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So if you don't know, I started my entire career here by doing it alone because nobody believed in me.
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And I do think that when you're alone, you have a lot of time to process things.
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Okay, truly, you improve a lot when you're alone because you're not really influenced by things externally from people.
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Like you're just all like here.
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So I do think that doing things alone is there are benefits with that.
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But because I've always done things alone where nobody's like behind me, like supporting me, be like, yeah, you got this.
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I just felt like to succeed in life, To do what I want to do, I need to do it alone.
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Because that brings out the best version of myself.
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Like when I'm alone, that's my best.
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So if I have people supporting me, I'm like, oh, oh, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
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I enjoy your company though.
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I enjoy your company.
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So something is, this is gonna like distract me from my track.
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Like I'm, something's wrong.
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Like I won't be able to like succeed and be me because I've only known me for being alone.
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I don't really know me as well when I'm with people, you know?
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And I'm like, this is kind of unfamiliar.
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Like I like your company, but now I'm like distracted.
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But not like distracted, but just enjoying.
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I think I'm like, oh, I'm enjoying this person's company.
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So, but I still need to be alone in my space.
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You know, maybe this comes into like something with me doing, you know, like being an introvert and something like that.
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But something I learned recently is that you can feel supported
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and loved and be with the people that you like while succeeding.
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This point might just fly over your head and be like, yeah, no shit.
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But for me, I'm just like, it's just all about balance, you know?
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And maybe it's also because like maybe I was raised in a very competitive environment.
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Maybe I'm just like, oh, people are going to be competitive with me.
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Therefore, I need to be competitive with them, you know?
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Maybe it's like that.
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But you just need to know that you can be loved and succeed.
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This is just honestly I feel this is a very niche point
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that I don't think everyone would realize but it's just something I realized a little too late.
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Yeah that's something I learned this year at least that was really important for me.
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And next maybe giving yourself the things you want as a child now will make you feel better even if it's temporary.
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It kind of explains itself when if you're a kid right
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and there are things that you want to do but you weren't able to do it.
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I don't know doing sudoku, going to the arcade, watching a bunch of cartoons, eating pizza late at night.
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Sometimes maybe doing that will truly just bring happiness.
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It's truly maybe that is just all you need to just, you know, really just fulfill your inner child.
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Sometimes that's all it takes to just be happy.
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Maybe temporarily, you know.
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And the last little point that I have is that don't try to understand everything.
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Think less.
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You know, it's funny because like back then I'm like, how the hell did I go to school like at 7 a .m.?
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Like how the f* in high school was I able to wake up
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so early and just do all those things and I take the test and everything?
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Truly, it's because like you wake up super early and maybe it's because also you're a kid.
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So you're just like conditioned to like just doing all that.
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But it's also just you don't really think.
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Like, at least for me, I wake up at like goddamn 6 a .m and I'm like, I'm not even thinking straight.
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I'm just doing go, go, go, go, go.
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But truly, like, you don't need to try to understand why was I not picked?
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Why wasn't, you know, I chosen?
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Or why didn't I get this?
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Whatever.
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Don't try to go understand that, you know?
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Just do things, you know?
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But of course, it's important to think as well.
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It's important to reflect and analyze, you know?
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But sometimes don't think too much.
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Be like, oh my God, what if I'm not qualified for this?
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Then make yourself qualified.
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Make yourself qualified.
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Make it good.
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Make it so good that people are gonna shut their mouth shut.
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But yeah, that's my last piece of advice.
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But I kind of want to go on a little more life advice here.
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The stuff that I've learned recently, you know, this year, especially for me, is just I feel like I'm not deserving of this.
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I'm not deserving of that.
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I can't do this.
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I'm not qualified for that.
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But who gives a fuck?
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I got eyes.
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I got nose.
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I can smell.
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I can taste.
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I can walk.
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I can breathe.
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I'm young.
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Like, it's like I can as many times as I want.
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And yeah, what's going to cost me is probably just being a little embarrassing, but it's not embarrassing unless you think it's embarrassing, you know?
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And people who find you cringe are probably just the people who are too scared to do what you're doing, you know?
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And sometimes I catch myself doing that.
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I'm like, oh, that's what's kind of cringe.
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But I'm like, wait, why am I judging?
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Like, that's because, you know, I'm projecting.
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Face your fears.
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I promise you it's not going to be as scary as you think it is because when you face your fears,
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you're one step closer into just doing what you want
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and constantly living in fear and just feeling like you're not good enough is really going to be very harmful for yourself.
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You're not going to live a happy life and you're always going to be like, oh my, I'm not happy with this.
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I'm not happy with that.
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So you might as well do the terrifying thing.
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You might as well come face to face with your fears.
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And like I mentioned in one of my previous points, it's like if you don't face your fears, it's never going to be resolved.
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And it's going to be scary.
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It's just would you rather just live in regret forever or just do the thing?
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Just do the scary thing, you know?
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And then the second time we do it, it's not going to be scary anymore.
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You just need to know that once you face this, it's not going to be as scary.
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Anyways, I hope you guys enjoyed this video.
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That's basically all I have to say.
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I hope this helped you guys.
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I know I haven't made a journal entry on this channel in a long time,
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but you have to you guys do have to know I do have a second channel that's dedicated journal entries.
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I need to post more often.
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Honestly, let me know what you guys think
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Happy early birthday to me I don't know
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when this is gonna be up but my birthday present I want from you guys
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that I would wish you guys will wish me happy birthday
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Anyways, but yeah, I hope this was helpful for you guys
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And I just want to let you guys know
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that I will always be supporting you face your fears and don't let people tell you what the fuck to do
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You know if you can think it you are going to become it you just have to know that
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Okay, you have to know that and these are just some lessons
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that i've learned that I Want to share with you guys because I wish someone told me so anyways,
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I love you guys and i'll see you guys very very soon Love ya
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This speaking lesson is built on the video “10 things i learned at 26”. This video has 553 sentences and 6173 words to shadow. The speech runs for 21:54. 88% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| scary adjective | /ˈskɛə.ɹi/ | Causing fear or anxiety |
| obsession noun | /əbˈsɛʃən/ | The quality of being obsessed; an unshakeable feeling that one topic or activity must be pursued above other interests. |
| succeed verb | /səkˈsiːd/ | To follow something in sequence or time. |
| qualify verb | /ˈkwɑ.lɪ.faɪ/ | To describe or characterize something by listing its qualities. |
| scare verb | /skɛɚ/ | To frighten, terrify, startle, especially in a minor way. |
| temporary adjective | /ˈtɛmp(əˌɹ)ɛɹi/ | Not permanent; existing only for a period or periods of time. |
| happiness noun | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | The emotion of being happy; joy; elation. |
| label noun | /ˈleɪ.bəl/ | A small ticket or sign giving information about something to which it is attached or intended to be attached. |
| fluid noun | /ˈflu.ɪd/ | Any substance which can flow with relative ease, tends to assume the shape of its container, and obeys Bernoulli's principle; a liquid, gas or plasma. |
| uncomfortable adjective | /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/ | Not comfortable; causing discomfort. |
| anyways adverb | /ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/ | Anyway, anyhow, in any case. |
| sacrifice noun | /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/ | Originally, the killing (and often burning) of a human being or an animal as an offering to a deity; later, also the offering of an object to a deity. |
| pause noun | /pɔːz/ | A temporary stop or rest; an intermission of action; interruption; suspension; cessation. |
| harmful adjective | /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/ | Causing or likely to cause harm or damage; injurious. |
| exhaust verb | /ɪɡˈzɔst/ | To draw or let out wholly; to drain completely. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| wake up verb | /ˌweɪk ˈʌp/ | To stop sleeping; to awake. |
| go through verb | To travel from one end of something to the other. | |
| bring out verb | To elicit, evoke, or emphasize (a particular quality). | |
| come out verb | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | To be discovered; to be revealed. |
| get out of verb | To leave, exit or escape from; to become free of. | |
| give up verb | To surrender (someone or something); to inform on (someone). | |
| go over verb | To look at carefully; to scrutinize; to analyze. | |
| pull out verb | To withdraw; especially of military forces; to retreat. |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- But then i'm like, you know what?
- I've already been thinking about this.
- Why did I read it like that?
- You know, like what's the point?
- Why wasn't, you know, I chosen?
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result | If I get this, I'll be · If I do this, I'll be · If I look like this, I'll be |
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going on | I've already been thinking · i've been working |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | I've experienced · i've done · have conquered |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | comfortable, which is · people who are · person who has |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 345 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, don't, you're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: breathe /bɹiːð/, thin /ˈθɪn/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, sunshine /ˈsʌnʃaɪn/
- Long words — get the stress right: temporary /ˈtɛmp(əˌɹ)ɛɹi/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, celebrity /səˈlɛb.ɹɪ.ɾi/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like scary, obsession, succeed.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.