Shadowing Practice: Changing for my family. - Learn English Speaking with Video
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There's a habit that I have been trying for long time. to change it.
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but I'm not success yet.
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That habit is I like to think that I'm Right.
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I know the best.
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I know better than other people.
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and I want auto people to do what I believe.
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I want people to do the way I Want it.
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This is the very big problem. when we married.
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We have to live together as a family.
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this habit is become a big problem.
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Among us, among the.. couple life.
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I try.
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to change myself a lot.
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I don't want to be a person who always tells people to do things all the time.
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but it's not very easy.
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it's not easy at all because it have been transferred for many generations.
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it from my grand -grandma, grandparents.
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until my parents and Me.
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And I don't want this habit to be transferred to my kids.
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my next generation.
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or people around me.
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I want everybody to be independent, to be themselves.
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Thank you.
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I don't want them to be like me.
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It's not.
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problem for many people, but for me I think it's a big problem.
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Thank you. Because I always Think.
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I'm Right.
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I know better.
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So when my wife do earthen house My wife, she is at an old building.
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Teacher.
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when she taught people how to do paint, clay paint to do something.
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I always told her that, "You cannot do that.
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You have to do this.
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You have to do this." This is the way I feel like it.
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I don't like myself. to be like that.
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I want her to be herself.
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but it's become habit.
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It just come out.
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It came out.
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I don't know myself sometimes.
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So I have to work very hard to remind myself that.
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I need to respect.
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my wife.
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Respect my kid.
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my son They have their own dream.
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They have their own way of thinking.
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They have their own experience.
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They have their own imagination.
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So they need to do what they believe, what they want to do. But...
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My problem is I want them to do what I believe.
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I want them to do my dream.
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to follow my imagination.
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This is not normal.
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this will cause a lot of problems.
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because people around me will not grow.
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They cannot develop themselves.
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Because whenever they do what I want them to do, they cannot do the best.
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they cannot develop themselves much.
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But whenever they do what they believe in, What day? dream about it.
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what they want to try.
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they will develop themselves a lot.
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That's the way people can grow.
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So I want people to grow.
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Thank you. But...
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I know that I cannot do it many times, many things.
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But I want other people to do it.
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That's not fair.
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For example, like when I watched soccer or what football or what another sport.
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I always yell at the player Go left, go left, go right, go faster, kick harder.
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I always yell.
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But, I cannot do like them.
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they have their own ability, they know that they're the limitation of their ability.
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They know what to do.
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But I cannot do it but i want them to do the way i want them if i go to the field.
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I cannot run fast like them.
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I cannot kick the football like them.
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I cannot do that.
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But I always think they have to do like this.
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That's why I have to yell very loud around the on the stadium.
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So this habit is is one thing I think is cause problem.
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cause problem for people around me especially my son, my wife.
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people around me that's mean I did not respect their thinking.
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I do not respect their imagination.
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So when I try to Push my dream or my imagination to their life.
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Thank you.
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they will be unhappy.
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They feel unhappy.
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because it's not the way they want it.
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So that's the cause of conflict, that's the cause of suffering. in the family.
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I don't want to be like that. So, I'm trying.
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to remind myself that "I will not do that." But many times it just came up.
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I did it by Thank you.
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No consciousness with no consciousness.
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because it's in my life for so long but i cannot stop doing it i cannot stop
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train myself to not do it.
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Because I don't want it to be transferred to the next generation.
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So, The habit is one thing It's very hard.
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to chain especially habit that I grew up with.
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is in my blood.
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But I believe that I will do it one day.
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That's why I keep Keep training, keep doing myself, keep respect.
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utter people's thinking, utter people's idea.
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Because I want to see people around me grow the way they want to grow.
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I don't want them to be like me.
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Because I'm not the best person.
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This is the way I can be.
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I think they can do better than me.
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That's why I don't want them to think like me.
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I don't want them to do like me.
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because I believe that they can do better than me.
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So if they think like me, that do like me.
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there will be similar to me.
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That's mean.
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they cannot develop their life to be better than me. So, Thank you.
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It's hard.
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to change the habit.
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especially when You grew up in Asian Culture.
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that we believe that Man is the leader of the family.
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We were taught like that for many generations.
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But now, We cannot think like that anymore.
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Everybody in the family is equal We need to respect each other, even My son, my kid,
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he's young, but I need to respect him.
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So this is a big chain, this is a big revolution. in My.
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hate in my thinking.
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to change the culture in my life.
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to do something different.
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Because the way I grew up with.
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It's not work anymore.
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in the world.
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in the new era.
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because the world has changed so much.
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Thank you there need to be different.
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They need to be themselves, they need to be independent.
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That's the way to survive.
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So, It's not the same thing anymore.
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nothing the same anymore.
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That's why I feel like I need to change myself.
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I don't want...
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to be an old man that nobody want to come nearby me.
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because if it come nearby me, level be tall to do that, to do this, to not do that, not do this all the time for me.
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So, Nobody wants to be close to me, and it's not very fun.
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I think it will be more fun if everybody around me can be themselves.
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They can feel relaxed, they can feel free, they can feel independent, they can do whatever.
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They want to.
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that will be very nice atmosphere.
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when people are happy and be around each other.
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When people become independent and be around each other, I think this is a kind of life that I am expecting.
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now.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This B1 speaking lesson is built on the video “Changing for my family”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: cannot, habit, respect, themselves, grow. This video has 149 sentences and 1191 words to shadow. The speech runs for 10:29. The speaker talks at a steady 114 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 89% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
The 13 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| habit noun | /ˈhæb.ɪt/ | An action performed on a regular basis. |
| imagination noun | /ɪˌmæd͡ʒəˈneɪʃən/ | The image-making power of the mind; the act of mentally creating or reproducing an object not previously perceived; the ability to create such images. |
| yell verb | /jɛl/ | To shout; holler; make a loud sound with the voice, especially to express intense emotions such as anger or excitement. |
| utter verb | /ˈʌtəɹ/ | Sometimes preceded by forth, out, etc.: to produce (a cry, speech, or other sounds) with the voice. |
| unhappy adjective | /ʌnˈhæpi/ | Not happy; sad. |
| consciousness noun | /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/ | The state of being conscious or aware; awareness. |
| earthen adjective | /ˈɝθən/ | Made of earth or mud. |
| grandparent noun | /ˈɡɹæn(d)pɛəɹənt/ | The parent of someone's parent. |
| limitation noun | /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/ | The act of limiting or the state of being limited. |
| automobile noun | /ˈɔː.tə.məˌbil/ | A type of motor vehicle designed to move on the ground under its own stored power and intended to carry a driver, a small number of additional passengers, and… |
| grandma noun | /ˈɡɹænmɑː/ | Grandmother. |
| relax verb | /ɹɪˈlæks/ | To make something loose. |
| clay noun | /kleɪ/ | A mineral substance made up of small crystals of silica and alumina, that is ductile when moist; the material of pre-fired ceramics. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| come out verb | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | To be discovered; to be revealed. |
| come up verb | To emerge or become known, especially unexpectedly. |
Sentences worth repeating
Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:
- I don't want them to be like me.
- I don't know myself sometimes.
- I don't want to be like that.
- Because I'm not the best person.
- I don't want them to do like me.
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | have been transferred · be transferred · were taught |
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | have been transferred · has changed |
| Comparatives -er than / more … than — comparing two things | better than |
| Superlatives the -est / the most … — the top or bottom of a group | the best |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 17 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, I'm, they're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: imagination /ɪˌmæd͡ʒəˈneɪʃən/, consciousness /ˈkɑnʃəsnəs/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/
- Long words — get the stress right: imagination /ɪˌmæd͡ʒəˈneɪʃən/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/, automobile /ˈɔː.tə.məˌbil/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like habit, imagination, yell.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.