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A lot of people mistake seduction.

They have really bad ideas about it.

It's so much more powerful when the other person feels that you love them.

Seduction is a kind of theater.

It's a kind of drama, or if you prefer, it's kind of a movie.

Seduction and love is kind of a spell that you're casting.

You have to be genuinely interested in other people.

So seduction is psychology, right?

It's not force, you're not bullying somebody into a relationship.

You have to make them kind of interested in you.

You have to get their defenses down.

You have to get them to open up to you in some way.

The tools for that are different.

It's like the difference between technology from 200 years ago for things now.

But the game is the same.

It's the psychology of lowering people's defenses, making them open to you, making them less resistant.

So, seduction is reaching the child of everybody.

And when you were a child, you were one years old, what was the greatest pleasure you had?

It was being picked up by your father, your mother, and kind of whirled around and taken everywhere and lifted and twirled, et cetera.

The sense that someone was taking you somewhere and you were under their control made you laugh.

It gives you this incredible pleasure.

And that's what happens when you see a movie

and it takes you on this journey where you don't know where it's going, what's happening next.

People don't have enough of that in their lives.

And a classic thing in the seduction realm will be a man or a woman saying, I love you.

Like when will they say I love you is a big deal.

That's not the language of love.

That's not the language of seduction.

It's something non -verbal.

You have to learn this new language of seduction.

It has nothing to do with words.

It's in your body language.

It's in your actions.

It's so much more powerful when the other person feels that you love them.

Benjamin Dislairely is one of the greatest seducers ever.

I mean, absolutely brilliant.

He was a charmer, a seducer.

He could seduce the birds out of the trees.

He seduced Queen Victoria.

She was madly in love with this dark -skinned Jewish man.

And the whole art of it was, for Disraeli, was to make the other person feel like they were special, they were brilliant.

There's a quote I have in the book.

There's this woman who said, After sitting next to Gladstone at dinner, Gladstone was the great rival of Disraeli.

After sitting next to Gladstone at dinner, I thought he was the most brilliant man in England.

After sitting next to Disraeli at dinner, I thought I was the most brilliant woman in England.

Disraeli charmed everyone because he made you feel like you were special.

You were brilliant.

And he gave you the sense that you were the star of the show.

Here he took

Queen Victoria, the most prudish, uptight woman you can imagine, and he had her completely under his thumb.

She wrote a book, which nobody read.

because she wasn't a writer.

And so now Disraeli would refer to her, you know, we authors, when we write, and he was a great writer,

but he made her think that she was a writer like he was.

I mean, the guy is one of the great seducers of all time.

So getting back to the nonverbal aspect of seduction, you know, there's words that you can use to reason with people,

and there's a place for that and it's important and they're words

that you use to cast a spell if i were to try

and seduce ponny right i would figure out what makes you different what makes you unique

what you love in life

that nobody else is giving you you know things from your childhood things

that make you excited that you love certain colors certain flowers certain gifts certain places

and i would give

that to you right i would get into your world instead of being obsessed with myself

i would get outside of myself into pani's world

and i would say this is what she is missing in her life

and i'm going to give it to her the power of

that is absolutely immense because nobody is giving

that to you in general right and

so a simple example would be we have a conversation at a restaurant at night we're having dinner

and you say some things that we you know you're not really paying attention to

and they're just sort of off the cuff but they kind of reveal

something that bothers you or something that you really are excited about.

And then the next day, I bring up what you said in a different form, perhaps.

I kind of quote you or something, or I give it a different spin.

And I don't call a lot of attention to it, but to you that goes, wow, Robert was actually really listening to me.

He heard what I said.

He understood kind of what was behind my words.

That's really interesting.

Nobody ever does that, you know? okay and as

that happens you start becoming a little less resistant

you start seeing Robert in a different way say maybe

this person can give me things I don't get from other people it doesn't matter

if that other person isn't the handsomest person in the world

or isn't all buff out you know buffed out or etc

but they understand the psychology right they understand for a man what a woman is missing

or for a man what a man is missing for a woman.

They understand this.

That's what gives you the degree of seductive power in life.

Seduction is a kind of theater.

It's a kind of drama or if you prefer it's kind of a movie.

So normally our lives are kind of drab and boring.

We're working in our office at our home.

We're kind of dressed sort of sloppily, we kind of eat the same food, we have the same habits.

When you're in a seduction or a courtship of some kind, it's like you're lifted out of your boring life into kind of a theater,

to something that's heightened, that's intensified, that's extra.

So when you are going on your first date with someone that you like, you don't just dress the way you normally dress, right?

You put on something nice or you don't simply take them to the local pizza hut for the date.

You take them to a restaurant with atmosphere.

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It's like a theater.

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It's like a stage.

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You're creating some fantasy.

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We all want drama in our life.

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We all want fantasy.

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We all want something more.

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And so the fact that someone is making an effort to please you, that they're actually trying to look nicer than they may normally look,

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they're taking you to places.

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that they're behaving in a way that's kind of responsive to you is actually a good thing.

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It's not, it's not, it is manipulative in one way,

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but it's a good form of manipulation where you're showing the other person that you're willing to put some effort into this.

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That it's not just like, oh, you know, I could just show up in my pajamas and it'll be okay.

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Or we can just come over to my house and watch television.

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We want something more.

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And a lot of women will complain that the man, after the first couple of dates, he isn't trying anymore.

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He takes me for granted.

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He's not doing anything that seems, you know, like he used to do, right?

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So that sense of courtship, it's like a mating dance between two kind of birds or in nature, right?

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It's a game.

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It's a ritual.

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Don't look at it as manipulation, look at it as something that goes back thousands of years.

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It is kind of the animal part of our nature.

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It's a courtship and that it involves these kind of rituals of doing things that you normally don't do.

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The key to making what we're talking about work is what I say, you have to be genuinely interested in other people.

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so if i'm in a restaurant with ponny

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and i'm in a conversation i have to go she's more interesting than i am right now i'm

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so used to hearing my own thoughts

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and my own things it's kind of poor i'm tired of it

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but ponny comes from a different world if you can start getting in

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that mind frame then you want you want to get into her world

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you want to understand what makes her tick trying to tell you that seduction is like this other area, this other realm that you enter.

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It's like a courtship, romance area, if it is a sexual seduction.

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You're taking somebody out of their day -to -day life.

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They work nine to five at a job or wherever it is,

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and now you're bringing them into this other world where you take them to certain places that are special.

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You act in a different way.

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Maybe you dress in a different way.

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Everything's sort of heightened and dramatic and maybe even slightly theatrical.

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And you're stirring something that they don't normally get at their job.

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So seduction is something that can

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that still goes on even in a relationship even after

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you've been together for several years where you you don't have to do it every day

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because it gets tiring you know but But every week or month or so, you do something, you re -seduce the other person.

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You show that there's still something they don't know about you.

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You reveal that there are depths to you in things that they never figured out before.

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There's still an element of mystery.

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There's still an element of drama.

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You're still put in the effort to take them to a place that they've never been to before.

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You never really get the feeling

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that the person you're talking to is actually really listening to you

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and really paying attention and really trying to understand your point of view.

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If somebody did that to you suddenly in the office or in the realm of a male -female seduction, you would feel it.

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You would go, wow, that's rare.

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And you would almost be halfway seduced by just the attention

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that you could give to someone and show that you're not just sitting there listening to yourself and what you want.

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The falling in love process generally takes time, right?

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There's a famous French writer named Stendhal who wrote a great book called On Love, one of the greatest books written about love.

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It was in the early 19th century.

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And he compared to falling in love to what he called crystallization.

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And it's based on this thing where you would throw a

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piece of wood into this mine in Germany somewhere at Salzburg

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and then you would pull it out like a week later

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and it would be filled with all of these brilliant crystals and he compared that to the process of falling in love.

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The person is just who they are.

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They're like a trunk of a tree.

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But your mind kind of puts all these qualities on them, crystallizes them into some kind of ideal figure, right?

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And so that mental process takes time, right?

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It requires also some distance and some fantasizing, right?

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Whereas opposed to letting time go by

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and letting the other person begin to think about you

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and fantasize about you and in their mind sort of imagine some interesting qualities about you

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and fascinate them which is what he calls this crystallization process I mean literally think of it

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that way that in their mind they're kind of forming this sort of ideal crystal image of you right

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and it takes time and it takes some absence

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It takes the ability to say, you know, you're not in their face all the time.

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You disappear for a couple of days, a couple of weeks or whatever, not weeks, but a few days.

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You let them think about you and you let that kind of spell, because seduction and love is kind of a spell that you're casting, right?

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And there's an art to it.

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And so the mistake people have is they're in too much of a hurry.

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I maintain that the process of seducing is making the other person fall in love.

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So if you go to a bar

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and you pick up a woman in the bar and that night you go back to your place and you have sex, that's not seduction.

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Right?

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Because we are psychological creatures, right?

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We're not animals and the process of actually having our emotions engaged by the other person takes a lot deeper process.

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It can't happen quickly, it can't happen overnight.

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There are plenty of books written out there about how to pick women or guys in a bar.

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But seduction isn't about that.

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It's something else, it's something more elemental.

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And I talk in The Art of Seduction about how it goes back to our childhood,

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how we are incredibly vulnerable to the emotions of other people.

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It begins with our parents.

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Right?

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And the sense of, you know, we internalize their presence, we're thinking about them, we have this kind of very deep emotional attachment to them.

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We're seduced by our parents in some ways.

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It kind of sets a tone from early childhood, this need to feel vulnerable to other people.

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Right?

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That's the thing as well is, you know, a lot of people mistake seduction and that's the reason I wrote the book,

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they have really bad ideas about it.

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Well, they have an idea that it's this kind of cold process.

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Typically, it'll be a male seducer, but it can be a woman.

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And they're really conniving, and they're coming up with all kinds of tricks.

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Schemes.

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Schemes to get the woman or man to fall for them.

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And either they're after money or sex or something else, right?

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And actually, seduction is a matter of vulnerability.

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It's making yourself vulnerable to the other person.

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And to let another person in

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and to let them have some control over your emotions can be kind of a scary process.

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But if you can't feel that vulnerability, if you can't open yourself up to the power of that other person, there won't be a seduction.

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It'll be this kind of cold, mechanical process.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This speaking lesson is built on the video “The Fastest Way to Make Someone Fall in Love With You!”. This video has 210 sentences and 2458 words to shadow. The speech runs for 14:41. The speaker talks at a natural 167 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. 87% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.

Key vocabulary in this video

15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
spell noun	/spɛl/	Words or a formula supposed to have magical powers.
theater noun	/ˈθi(ə)tɚ/	A place or building, consisting of a stage and seating, in which an audience gathers to watch plays, musical performances, public ceremonies, and so on.
psychology noun	/saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/	The study of the human mind.
vulnerable adjective	/ˈvʌln(ə)ɹəbl̩/	More or most likely to be exposed to the chance of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
emotion noun	/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/	A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data.
element noun	/ˈɛləmənt/	One of the simplest or essential parts or principles of which anything consists, or upon which the constitution or fundamental powers of anything are based.
compare verb	/kəmˈpɛɚ/	To assess the similarities and differences between two or more things [“to compare X with Y”]. Having made the comparison of X with Y, one might have found it…
ideal adjective	/aɪˈdi(ə)l/	Pertaining to ideas, or to a given idea.
reveal verb	/ɹɪˈviːl/	To uncover; to show and display that which was hidden.
crystal noun	/ˈkɹɪstəl/	A solid composed of an array of atoms or molecules possessing long-range order and arranged in a pattern which is periodic in three dimensions.
genuinely adverb	/ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/	In a genuine manner; truthfully, truly.
ritual noun	/ˈɹɪt͡ʃ.u.əl/	A rite; a repeated set of actions, especially in religious contexts.
resistant adjective	/ɹəˈzɪstənt/	Which makes resistance or offers opposition.
bore verb	/boɹ/	To inspire boredom in somebody.
manipulation noun	/məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/	The practice of manipulating or the state of being manipulated.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Meaning
figure out verb	To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce.
go back to verb	To stem from; to originate in.
pick up verb	To lift; to grasp and raise.
bring up verb	To mention.
come up with verb	To manage to produce, deliver, or present (something) by inventing, creating, thinking of, or obtaining it.
get back to verb	Return to (an activity)
go back verb	To return to a place or state after having been there at a previous time.
written out adjective	deleted or excluded from a narrative work or record.

Sentences worth repeating

Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:

It's in your body language.
There's a quote I have in the book.
We're working in our office at our home.
You would go, wow, that's rare.
We're seduced by our parents in some ways.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	being picked · being obsessed · would be filled
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	you've been · they've never been
Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing	woman who said · them which is

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 66 contractions and reduced forms, such as you're, don't, they're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “th” sounds: theater /ˈθi(ə)tɚ/, bother /ˈbɑðɚ/, thumb /ˈθʌm/, theatrical /θiˈætɹɪkəl/
The “sh” and “zh” sounds: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, seduction /sɪˈdʌk.ʃn̩/, courtship /ˈkɔɹt.ʃɪp/, crystallization /ˌkɹɪstəlaɪˈzeɪʃən/
Long words — get the stress right: psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, manipulation /məˌnɪp.juˈleɪ.ʃən/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like spell, theater, psychology.

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Key vocabulary in this video

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Sentences worth repeating

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What is the Shadowing Technique?