Shadowing Practice: the power of self-concept - Learn English Speaking with Video
Creating lesson...
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most of us live at the mercy of other people's opinions
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and it's easy to let a harsh comment or a toxic environment tell us who we are.
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In the summer of 2025, a young woman named Alondria entered a reality TV villa and was given a script that she didn't write herself,
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the stereotypical mean girl edit.
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Due to this, she was met with a wave of microaggressions and public doubt, but unknowingly to the public, in less than a year later,
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she would crash high fashion websites within 10 minutes of launch, becomes signed with one of Hollywood's biggest talent agencies and by the penthouse of her dreams,
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all due to her maintaining her self-concept.
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Now the question is, how do you bridge the gap between external execution and the execution of your dreams?
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The key is, you don't change the world, you change your self-concept.
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By breaking down Alondria's transition from public scrutiny to commercial dominance, we will explore why high-level success isn't just about hard work
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but it is also about cultivating an identity that makes your goals a psychological inevitability.
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So if you're ready then let us begin.
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Part 1.
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Refuse to argue with the mirror.
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Your self-concept is the overall mental image and collection of beliefs you hold about yourself.
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It encompasses your perceived personality traits, abilities, social roles and values, shaping how you navigate the world and interact with others.
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Before we can understand this video's case study, let's break down the background.
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Love Island is a globally popular reality dating series where a group of single contestants live isolated,
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constantly monitored by cameras and cut off from the outside world.
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Contestants are heavily subjected to public scrutiny and the episodes that are broadcasted are crafted by production teams,
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which often shapes how the audience perceives their personalities, the drama and the storylines.
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Alondria entered the Love Island Villa as an independent and captivating presence.
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During her time on the show, she consistently stayed true to her core values and boundaries.
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However, as the episodes progressed, viewers noticed that the series' editing began heavily pushing a skewed
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and highly polarising narrative about her connections and interactions within the house.
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This editorial framing attempted to project a villainous or overly dramatic image onto her,
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deliberately twisting authentic moments to fit a sensationalized television storyline.
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When Alondria stepped out of the villa, the world continued to project this distorted image onto her.
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She faced intense colorism and even received threats.
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Throughout the onslaught of vitriol, she was highly praised by fans for remaining poised and grounded,
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actively pushing back against the media editing and ongoing narrative that attempted to project this villainous image onto her.
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This brings us to our first point, you must refuse to argue with the mirror.
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The world will always try to tell you who you are based on its own limitations, insecurities and biases.
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When someone insults you or labels you, they are not describing you, what they are actually describing is their own lens.
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The trouble is, if you don't have a deeply rooted self-concept, you will mistakenly accept their distortion as your truth.
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Alondria's power lies within the fact that even though this experience was harrowing, she stopped trying to clear her name to people who were committed to misunderstanding her.
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She didn't spend her vital energy trying to convince internet trolls that she was a nice girl.
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She didn't write frantic apology paragraphs or beg for their love and validation.
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Why?
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Because she knew who she was.
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She anchored her mind in her lived reality and not the televised illusion.
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You gotta have a good sense of self
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when you're putting yourself out in that way
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and thank goodness I already knew who I was before I put myself on a public platform
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because if you don't know who you are the world will try to tell you who they think you are.
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It's gonna mind f you so bad to where you're gonna be like you know what they might be right.
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Wait am I a bad person?
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Am I this?
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Am I that?
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If you don't have that strong sense of self and
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that confidence it can derail your mental health
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that i have to snap out of it like you know
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what girl these folks don't know you honing this behavior in
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your own life means practicing cognitive detachment what we can learn from alandria is
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that when you are hit with a harsh critique at work
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or a rumor in your social circle do not fight the
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reflection do not waste your breath trying to change a narrative
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that has been manufactured by small minds identify your own truths and that means your character your work ethic, your heart, etc. and anchor yourself there.
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Let the outside noise burn itself out.
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The less attention you give it, the weaker it becomes.
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The mirror can only reflect what you feed it.
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If you give it silence, the illusion starves.
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And this can apply to any external circumstance.
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It doesn't always have to be people trying to warp your perception of yourself.
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It can also be your environment.
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You may not like where you live, you may not like the clothes that you wear, and this can all contribute to you not feeling like your ideal self
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but whatever you do you must practice cognitive detachment and anchor yourself with your truths.
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Part 2.
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Upgrading your standard.
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Now refusing to argue with a mirror is a powerful defensive strategy but further personal growth requires a more offensive move.
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Once you stop reacting to external noise you have to decide what internal standards will govern your actions.
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In behavioral psychology your self-concept acts as internal thermostat it dictates your baseline behavior
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if you view yourself as a victim of a toxic environment then your behavior will reflect defensiveness anxiety
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and retreat but if you view yourself as competent
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and excellent your actions will naturally align with excellence regardless of the chaos that's around you
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when alandria exited the villa into a storm of public hostility
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she faced a critical choice either she can let the digital environment lower her internal thermostat or maintain her personal standard.
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She chose the latter.
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She didn't retreat into hiding, nor did she engage in messy public feuds.
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Instead, she anchored her self-concept in her tangible skills, her work ethic, and her long-term career goals.
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This internal clarity changed her behavioral output.
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While the critics were busy typing comments alandria was busy executing
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a professional strategy i was very sure in myself i know
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a lot of y'all didn't know who i was at the
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time i was like kind of like side eye me a
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little bit i'm very business minded it has to make sense
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here as long as it makes sense to me i don't care
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if it makes sense to nobody else self-doubt doesn't live here babe regardless
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if you have a thousand people on the internet telling you
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what to do self-doubt doesn't live here don't live here I'm
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gonna bet on me every time I'm gonna come out on top.
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She systematically converted a high stress crisis into a masterclass in personal branding.
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When trolls mocked her makeup in the villa, she didn't internalize the critique as a flaw.
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Instead, she objectively analyzed the moment, took control of the narrative, and released high quality beauty content that showcased her actual skills.
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By demonstrating high emotional intelligence and competence, she completely altered how the market perceived her.
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They don't know who you truly are
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so like this is your chance now to take advantage of your narrative
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and change the minds of people and tell them who the real you are
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and if they seem like you after that then still be it because that's the real you.
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This is the practical reality of a strong self-concept.
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It changes your choices.
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Because Alondria operated with the strict professional discipline of an elite creator, she attracted elite opportunities right out of the gate.
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She didn't settle for the cheap short-term influencer gigs in order to stay relevant.
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She held out for partnerships that matched her internal value.
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This disciplined approach is what led to her immediate post-show success, including a massive sold-out global collaboration with NYX Cosmetics.
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Her initial real-world breakthrough was a direct result of keeping her actions consistently aligned with her high internal standard.
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To apply this to your own journey, you must stop letting temporary circumstances dictate your permanent behaviour.
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If you are stuck in a toxic workplace or an unsupportive social circle or even a period of failure.
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Do not lower your standards to match your environment.
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Play the part in order to become the part.
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If you want to be a leader, develop the discipline, punctuality and emotional regulation of a leader today.
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When you decouple your self-concept from your current surroundings and solidify it to your core values, your habits will inevitably build a reality that matches your mind.
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And since we are on the topic of moving like your ideal self.
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Now back to the video.
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Part 3.
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Play the long game.
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It's easy to hold your head high for a week or a month but a deeply rooted identity requires long-term maintenance.
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When the initial hype of your new reality fades you must
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continue to act like the person you decided to be even when no one is watching.
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You have to protect your self-concept from the slow erosion of daily life and the temptation to drift back into comfort.
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A fragile self-concept seeks the immediate payoff of a quick win, but a solid self-concept plays the long game.
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Alondria didn't just have a single viral moment in 2025 and then disappear once the show cut off.
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Once her season ended, she continuously protected and maintained her standard over the long haul.
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Now, the danger of initial success is that it invites complacency or worse, a reliance on the applause of others.
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But because Alondria's self-identity wasn't an act for the cameras, her momentum didn't stall when the cameras turned off.
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She understood that her self-concept is a lifestyle.
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She continued to move with the notion that she belonged in elite spaces.
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That sustained internal alignment is exactly what paved the way for her massive leaps less than a year later,
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accumulating in her official signing with Hollywood powerhouse UTA, dominating high fashion circuits and achieving the financial independence to buy her dream penthouse.
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These achievements occurred because of the mathematical compounding interest of a self-concept that was maintained day after day and month after month.
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This reveals a profound self-development truth.
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Your life does not change when you achieve your goals, instead your life changes when you sustain the identity required to keep them.
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In psychology, this is known as identity stabilization.
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When you first upgrade your standards, your brain treats the new behavior as a foreign anomaly.
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It will actively look for evidence to drag you back to your old baseline.
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For example, if you view yourself as someone who doesn't deserve the penthouse, you will unconsciously self-sabotage your way out of the contract.
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The world eventually yields to anyone who refuses to lower their internal thermostat.
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Your only job is to show up and execute from your values today, tomorrow and the day after that.
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The trajectory of your life will never exceed the boundaries of your self-concept.
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Alondra's journey from the to commercial dominance proves that real world success is never just a byproduct of luck or even hustle.
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It's the physical reflection of an identity that refuses to compromise.
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When the world handed her a script designed to tear her down, she chose to write her own ending because she knew her value wasn't up for public debate.
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If you want to achieve goals that feel entirely out of your reach from your current reality, you must stop trying to change your external circumstances first.
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Turn inwards.
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If Alondria had internalized the noise of the internet trolls, her potential would have stayed trapped in that villa.
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Instead, her self-concept allowed her to block out the vitriol, focus on her business-minded strategy and outgrow the limits that small minds try to place on her.
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The narrative that the world tries to hand you only has power if you agree to read it.
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When you build a solid self-concept,
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your goals start being something that you are desperately chasing and they become the natural inevitable outcome of who you are.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 151 sentences and 2151 words to shadow. The speech runs for 11:49. The speaker talks fast, about 182 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. Only 79% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is demanding.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 less common words from the video, with pronunciation and meaning:
- narrative /ˈnæɹ.ə.tɪv/ (noun) — The systematic recitation of an event or series of events.
- villa /ˈvɪlə/ (noun) — A house, often larger and more expensive than average, in the countryside or on the coast, often used as a retreat.
- refuse /ɹɪˈfjuːz/ (verb) — To decline (a request or demand).
- mirror /ˈmiɹɚ/ (noun) — A smooth surface, usually made of glass with reflective material painted on the underside, that reflects light so as to give an image of what is in front of it.
- argue /ˈɑɹ.ɡju/ (verb) — To show grounds for concluding (that); to indicate, imply.
- elite /ɪˈlit/ (noun) — A special group or social class of people who have a superior social or economic status and attendant power, advantages, or privileges in society; a member of…
- edit /ˈɛdɪt/ (verb) — To change a text, or a document.
- toxic /ˈtɒk.sɪk/ (adjective) — Having a chemical nature that is harmful to health or lethal if consumed or otherwise entering into the body in sufficient quantities.
- critic /ˈkɹɪt.ɪk/ (noun) — A person who appraises the works of others.
- regardless /ɹɪˈɡɑɹd.lɪs/ (adverb) — Without attention to warnings or indications of bad consequences.
- deeply /ˈdi(ː)pli/ (adverb) — To a deep extent or degree; very greatly.
- ideal /aɪˈdi(ə)l/ (adjective) — Pertaining to ideas, or to a given idea.
- reflect /ɹɪˈflɛkt/ (verb) — To bend back (light, etc.) from a surface.
- script /skɹɪpt/ (noun) — A writing; a written document.
- psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ (noun) — The study of the human mind.
Phrasal verbs you will hear
- break down (verb) — To stop functioning.
- cut off /ˌkʌt ˈɔf/ [ˌkɐɾ ˈɔf] (verb) — To remove by cutting.
- hit with (verb) — To do something intended to punish or hurt (someone), especially as a sudden or surprise action.
- look for (verb) — To seek.
- meet with (verb) — To have a meeting with (someone).
- settle for (verb) — To accept or allow something, especially something not entirely desirable.
- show up (verb) — To appear, arrive, or attend, especially suddenly or erratically.
- sold out (adjective) — Completely sold; of which no more is in stock.
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 35 contractions and reduced forms, such as didn't, don't, doesn't. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: ethic /ˈɛθ.ɪk/, authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/, mathematical /ˌmæθ(.ə)ˈmæt.ɪ.kəl/, breakthrough /ˈbɹeɪk.θɹuː/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: execution /ˌɛk.sɪˈkjuː.ʃən/, reflection /ɹɪˈflɛkʃən/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/, illusion /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/, partnership /ˈpɑɹtnɚʃɪp/
- Long words — get the stress right: psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, execution /ˌɛk.sɪˈkjuː.ʃən/, consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/, behavioral /bɪˈheɪvjəɹəl/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like narrative, villa, refuse.
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
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| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | was given · was met · are broadcasted |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | people who were · someone who doesn · anyone who refuses |
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.