Shadowing Practice: True Masculine Leadership - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Good afternoon.
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Dwayne here, Dry Creek Rainer School.
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Another hot day here in Kentucky.
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I think we've got about four more days before
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that cold front's supposed to come through and drop our highs down to the 70s.
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We've endured up to this point, so we can endure four more days.
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I'm here in, I guess, my woodshed, which is just an open -ended...
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Here, let me do this.
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it's an open -ended lean -to on the front of my barn
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so i got good shade i got a little bit of breeze coming through it's making things tolerable let's see
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if we adjust this there we go um got my sms meerschaum loaded up with some cornell
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and dill dark fire kentucky
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closest thing i have to an all -day everyday smoke it's the thing i reach for the most
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i just did a video over on the other channel on
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the tack room bible talk in fact it's uploading in the
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background now the uh mobile strength here is very low
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so it takes a while So I thought I'd just go ahead and work on this while that's uploading.
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I want to do the same subject here, but with a little bit different,
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just a little different approach to it.
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Same subject.
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We're going to talk about leadership, okay?
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There's a lot of things, a lot of misunderstandings about leadership today.
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Anyway, if you're, if you want to know more on how leadership applies in the church today,
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biblically, you might want to go over there and watch that other video when you're done with this one.
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But, you might want to make sure you got your big boy pants on before you do, because, because it's a little plain spoken.
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Okay?
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So anyhow, leadership.
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Let me dispel a couple of incorrect ideas about leadership.
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And I'm talking about just leadership for men today, whatever you ladies can take from this and apply to your life, you're welcome.
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But for you men, for you young men, for you older men, this thing of leadership, I want to break it down a little bit.
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And I want to dispel some false ideas we have about it.
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let me say first off that just you don't have to be a born leader to lead and
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not everyone who's called upon in life to take a position of leadership is a born leader alright Right.
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It's it's not a position that you're born into.
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Some come by it more naturally than others, but there's a mistake in that idea as well.
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Just being born a man, you're born into a position that will most likely at sometimes call you,
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call you into leadership if anything,
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if only for a limited period of time.
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The most important thing I want to address in this is leadership has nothing to do with authority.
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I believe that's the biggest mistake and the biggest misunderstanding.
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It has nothing to do with authority.
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now many of you have I'm guessing most of you do or have worked jobs
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let's see if we can get this going here
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and you've had fellas in the position of authority whether it be the owner the foreman the supervisor or whatever it is,
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but they have no leadership whatsoever.
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They have granted authority, but they're just bullies.
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they're narcissists and they don't lead and they are the perfect example of how just
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because you have authority that does not mean you have leadership
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now there are those in authority who have natural leadership ability
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um
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and i'll define leadership here in a minute according to my
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definition you may define it different you do you okay as always um
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and then you know people who are who do not have a recognized official position of authority
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but they're natural leaders
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and they're they're not your supervisor they're not the foreman they're not the boss they're not the owner
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but on a job they're the one the guys look to
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they're the one who kind of always seems to have the spirit
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and the idea hey guys what if we do this
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and it just works they have
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that calm clear -headed self -assured hey well we could do this
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and it clicks for everybody it's like yeah hey that makes sense
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that worked best for everybody and then you go down
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that road that's leadership without authority leadership and authority are not the same thing
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and they are not always combined in the same personage someone who's always leaning on their authority,
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someone who is always bragging up their authority,
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someone who's always pulling out their position of authority and using it as a cudgel,
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as a whip, they are not leaders.
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And so you say, Duane, I'm just a guy.
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I'm just a guy.
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I'm always the quiet guy.
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I'm always that guy.
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I'm not a leader.
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Okay.
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What do you define as a leader?
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Well, by nature, by nature of the very definition of the word itself, a leader is the dude out in front.
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authority is from behind driving you forward authority leadership is out in front leading you in a path he's already going
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authority says you guys get up and go out there
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and do that because i said so go on you you you go go do
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that go do that because i said so
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if you don't you're going to face this punishment you're going to face this trouble.
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You don't have to know why.
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Do it because I said so.
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That's authority.
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Leadership is out front.
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Says, guys, we're kind of out here now.
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We're out on the middle of this prairie.
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Haven't seen rain in six or eight weeks.
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The water barrels on the wagons are getting low and the animals are tired and everybody's kind of complex.
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You all came from Ohio and Pennsylvania and Boston, and you bought these wagons,
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and you're headed to a new life in Oregon, but you've never been through this before.
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I've been over this path before, and I know about four days ahead of us,
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there's a small river, and I know
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that there's a stand of trees just east direction of where we're at on
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that river that has grass
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and what we could do guys is we could head for the river
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and kind of shift our bearing a little bit to the east
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and find that grass and we could stop there and catch up
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and rest up and fill our water barrels
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and water all the animals again and kind of catch our breath and then move forward.
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That's leadership.
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What do you think, guys?
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You want to do that?
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Well, I don't know if I want to do that.
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Well, we could.
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I don't know.
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They told us back in St. Joe that we need to push hard.
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We need to do this.
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All right, fellas.
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You do what you want but I'm going to move off slow and easy myself with my wagon.
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I'm going to head for that meadow and I'm going to head for that river.
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Because from experience, I know that's the best way to go.
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Y 'all do what you want.
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But I highly recommend that you think about going this path that I'm taking.
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Because I know this path.
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I've been down this path.
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And this is the best path.
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This is the path I'm going.
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And then he heads off that way.
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and then by one by one
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they look at each other and they shrug
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and they're like what else are we going to do and they fall in behind him
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guess what he's a leader
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and he's leading no threats
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no authority no reaching into his coat pocket
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pulling out a document that everybody signed said you have to do what I say do he's just leading
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he's just quietly saying
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I know that life is this way I know this is the best way
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and I'm going to go this way because I know from experience it's the best way
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but y 'all do what you want believe it or not that's true leadership young men
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you have a group of guys and y 'all been buddies since junior high and there has been years of
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immature poor decisions amongst the group
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and we one day you say somebody says hey you know
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what let's go down to the dew drop in let's get drunk tonight
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and let's go out and farmer johnson's field
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and he just planted it in wheat and let's do donuts
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and let's spin out
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and tear it up out there tonight it's supposed to be
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a full moment let's have fun quiet leadership is where you step up
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and you say you know what i've been down there before
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i've been down this path before this isn't the right path to go it's about time we grow up
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and you quietly say guys
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i've been working for a farmer for the last year now for the first time in my life i realize
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how much work it is to go out and level
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that ground out and re -sow that seed because now I go through it.
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And I don't think that's probably the best way to go.
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Let's go camping up on the bluff instead.
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Let's go do this instead.
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I'm not going to do that.
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I'm going to go do this.
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This is best.
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No authority.
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Guys, I forbid you to do this.
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You can't do this.
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Anybody goes out to the farmer's place out there and tears up his field tonight, I'm going to whip you, you know.
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No, just leadership.
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Leadership is finding the best path to go and going and trying to say, guys, this is why this is the best path.
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This is why I'm going down that path.
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Now, if any of you want to follow and go down this path, you're welcome to do so.
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Son, you just stepped into a position of leadership, and no authority was required, and when you start getting into that life habit,
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there's an ant getting down in front of my camera there, you're well on your way to a much better life,
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come on you little rascal, he is persistent,
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and he's fast oh there he goes we're just keeping it
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real guys y 'all don't care do you man that's the
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fastest little ant well okay that's leadership that's not authority people think
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that to be in leadership i have to have authority no
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let's get a little closer to home okay your family's not
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going in the direction how to go now i'm not talking about underage children
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that are still living at home that is a position of authority
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but your wife even for those of us who are Christians
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where we believe God set it up as the husband is
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the leader in the home he is the leader in the home okay he holds a responsibility
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but he doesn't have what most today would recognize.
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authority and
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when we decide we need to go down a better path we try to get our family to go down
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that path by the hammer of authority
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and in today the women today they're forget it okay forget
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it they're not going to follow your authority in fact they've
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been brainwashed they ain't gonna follow anybody's authority all right they don't recognize authority
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and so the men don't do anything and the family implodes
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because the man says I have no authority in my family
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and I try to get my family to go a path
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that is correct and they won't do it and therefore my hands are tied and I'm helpless.
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It was never a question of authority.
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And I've gotten this question from a number of men and women.
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It's a question of leadership.
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Leadership does not require and demand that anyone follows you.
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Leadership demands that you get out in front and go the direction that you know you need to go.
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so if you're like we need to start we need to start going to church
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just for an example we need to start going to church and the wife says i'm not going to church
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our kids are getting in trouble in school all the time they're starting to pick up things
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that are not right that we don't believe in we need to get them under some good godly influence
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i'm not going to church and maybe she'll throw a fit
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and say um and you're not taking the kids to church
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and again given the situation we have in this country you
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don't feel like you have the authority to make them do
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that and you probably don't just the real hardcore realities you don't but it doesn't take authority to lead.
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You say, okay, well, Sunday morning I'm going to church.
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And you get up and you get dressed.
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Anybody want to go?
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No?
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Okay, you go.
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You have found a path that is the best and better path to take, and you have gotten in front, and you have started down that,
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and you've started leading down that path.
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Now, sometimes, for a long time, it can feel like you're not leading anything.
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You're just taking a walk because you're out by yourself.
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But that's what has to be.
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You say, you know, we should start, whatever, having family devotions.
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We should start praying together as a family.
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There are some who think that's what you need and some don't
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but let's say you feel like that would be very helpful to your family
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and the wife's like I'm not interested in that
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and the kids just want to play video games and the wife will step in and block you
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from leading the children into that okay, alright whatever you set up, 7 o 'clock every evening,
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you go find a quiet place and you sit there and you read your Bible and you pray
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and you have family devotions by yourself.
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You don't have the authority to drive them and to make them do it.
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Lead them and lead them by going down the right path and be willing to go down that path alone
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because they may need to see you a long way down
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that path and see that you have not stepped in
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so many traps and so many snares and your path is working so much better than their path before they will,
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if they ever do and that's a reality before they ever do choose to start going down your path leadership not authority
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it works in church as men go into a church
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just that quiet standing up saying fellas
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that this isn't this is not the right way to go um
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and there will be backlash there's always backlash um leadership takes far more strength personal strength than authority does
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Authority is a cheap strength that is being granted to you by somebody else.
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Leadership is a personal strength that comes from inside.
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Before my family and I went to Papua New Guinea back in 1998, we were getting ready to go.
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We were preparing.
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We had, you know, it wasn't a decision.
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The decision had been made.
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The preparation had been made.
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We were just waiting on the proper dates to go.
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And while we were waiting,
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several weeks before that, the men of the church got up and told the church,
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we think we're being led that we need to pay off our mortgage.
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We don't need to be answering to the bank, spending God's money on all this interest.
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We need to be separated from the world and we need to pay this off.
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and the church said sounds like a wonderful idea we agree
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and we did it was the most amazing thing in a
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church i've ever seen in my life we had women who had been married for a
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while bringing their wedding dresses that they had saved
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and said here sell this and put that money towards a mortgage engagement rings
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and wedding rings we had an old an old black man in the church, poor as Job's turkey.
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The church van went and picked him up and, and brought him to services.
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He had a, he was a big, big man, but he had a heart.
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He was the gentlest, sweetest soul.
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He had a heart as big as he was.
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He brought in a pair of shoes.
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It's what he had.
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And he gave his shoes
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and said sell these put it towards I want to do my part we had men bring in hunting rifles
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and people had second cars and that they used vehicles they sold
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and brought it in and we did we paid that mortgage off we got out of debt to the bank.
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A few weeks later, the pastor had one of these fake, false evangelists.
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They're not evangelists.
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It's not biblical.
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That was a personal friend of his come in and had a one -week We had a one -week series of messages,
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and the pastor was a good man.
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He was a good pastor.
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He had a good family, and we loved him, and we took care of him.
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the pastor had expressed
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in the course of a conversation with this evangelist friend of his that they had
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four or five children and they'd like to have a van that's what they'd like to have
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because of the size of the family.
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Well, the next night, this evangelist got up.
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I'm going somewhere, okay?
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The next night, this evangelist got up and did not encourage.
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He ripped into the church.
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He castigated.
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He reprimanded.
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This pastor of yours is a good man.
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He has a good family.
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and, you know, if you were good people, you would love your pastor and you would take care of your pastor and he wants a van,
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you guys need to go down to the dealership and buy your pastor a van.
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And the church was full.
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And this false evangelist, as is their skill, he had whipped everybody up to an emotional frenzy because we honestly did love the pastor.
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He was an excellent man.
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We loved his family.
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and they were like yeah yeah yeah and
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so then the evangelist led right there into a vote how many of you vote you know
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that let's go down and go down dealership and
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buy him a van oh yeah yeah yeah and i'm sitting there back on the back wall i was security and
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just kind of the floating anything anybody needed back there and i'm sitting there and i'm appalled I'm absolutely appalled.
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And I'm like, man, I don't know what to do in this situation.
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I'm just a young man.
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Married, had three small children.
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And so I didn't say anything.
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And then we met every Sunday night before service started.
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The men of the church met in a room, and we prayed for the service.
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And there were probably 10 or 12 of us in there.
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and we met, we prayed, and we got done, and I spoke up.
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I said, fellas, can I have a moment?
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I have something on my heart.
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And they're like, yeah, Dwayne, of course, sure, what is it?
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I said, look, we went before the church,
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and we led the church into getting ourselves out of debt.
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And I said, we led them into sacrifice, deep,
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deep personal sacrifice to sell very dear personal items of theirs to get out of debt
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because we felt like it was not biblical for us to owe the world.
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We just did that.
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and the pastor was sitting there I said look we love
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Mike all of us nobody in here is going to disagree we love pastor Mike
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and we're always happy to take care of him and
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if he needs a van then by all means we should get him a van
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but can we really biblically in all consciousness go back before the church and lead them back into debt again.
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And they sit there and they're like oh man
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did not even think of this did not even see it did not even
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no we can't do that and I'm like listen whatever you guys decide I'm not
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going to go against it but this was on my heart
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and this is what I think the mistake I think we're fixing to make
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and Pastor Mike being the good godly man he is says no I agree we have vehicles
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a van is a nice luxury
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but right now the church is not in the position we
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don't need to do this we will keep on with what we're doing
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and it was resolved and the church was happy smooth.
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Everybody was on the same page.
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I left and went to New Guinea and I got a letter from a friend.
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So that same evangelist came back, held another meeting while I was gone
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and found out the church had not gone and gone into debt and gotten the pastor a van,
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found out what I had said in the meeting.
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And so he stood up in the pulpit,
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called me out by name in front of my entire congregation and reprimanded and castigated me and castigated the church for our decision.
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It broke my heart, but it taught me a lesson.
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Because although it broke my heart, I knew that I was right.
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And along with knowing that I was right, I knew that I had no authority,
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so I did not get offended because those under my authority rebuked my authority.
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I had no authority, so therefore I had no skin in the game.
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What I had was a conscious and the courage to stand up and say, fellas, the path you're fixing to go down, that's not a good path.
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I think this path over here's a better path and that's the path we should go.
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Leadership is not authority and leadership is often a very lonely path.
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It does not require a born into ability it simply requires quiet courage
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and enough knowledge and wisdom to know
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that that's not a good way to go that's a better way to go
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and I'm going to go that way
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because it's a better way to go who wants to go with me there's no reason why you can't do
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that at a job.
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There's no reason why you can't do that in your family.
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There's no reason why you can't do that in a circle of friends.
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There's no reason why you can't do that in church.
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There's no reason why you can't do that at any point in life.
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You cannot be a real man if you do not have the courage and the quiet wisdom.
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To exercise leadership with the proper heart and the proper way when leadership is required.
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It has nothing to do with your personality.
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It has nothing to do with your position.
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It has nothing to do with your title.
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It has nothing to do with anything.
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It only has to do with your character.
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It only has to do with your character.
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Okay?
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Anyhow, I hope this clarifies some things for you.
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I hope it helps somebody.
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And why not? Be logical. Be reasonable. Be safe. Have fun. And exercise true leadership.
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I will catch you guys next time.
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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson
This video has 354 sentences and 3932 words to shadow. The speech runs for 30:44. The speaker talks at a steady 128 words per minute, a comfortable pace for shadowing. 88% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.
Key vocabulary in this video
15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:
| Word | Pronunciation | Meaning |
|---|---|---|
| pastor noun | /ˈpæs.tɚ/ | A minister or priest in a church. |
| pray verb | /pɹeɪ/ | To direct words, thoughts, or one's attention to a deity or any higher being, for the sake of adoration, thanks, petition for help, etc. |
| mortgage noun | /ˈmoɹ.ɡɪd͡ʒ/ | A legal agreement in which a borrower pledges real property as collateral for a loan used to purchase or refinance that property. |
| courage noun | /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/ | The quality of being confident, not afraid or easily intimidated, but without being incautious or inconsiderate. |
| define verb | /dɪˈfaɪn/ | To determine with precision; to mark out with distinctness; to ascertain or exhibit clearly. |
| whip noun | /ˈwɪp/ | A lash; a pliant, flexible instrument, such as a rod (commonly of cane or rattan) or a plaited or braided rope or thong (commonly of leather) used to create a… |
| wagon noun | /ˈwæɡən/ | A heavier four-wheeled (normally horse-drawn) vehicle designed to carry goods (or sometimes people). |
| grass noun | /ɡɹɑːs/ | Any plant of the family Poaceae, characterized by leaves that arise from nodes in the stem and leaf bases that wrap around the stem, especially those grown as… |
| tear verb | /tɛɹ/ | To rend (a solid material) by holding or restraining in two places and pulling apart, whether intentionally or not; to destroy or separate. |
| wisdom noun | /ˈwɪzdəm/ | An element of personal character that enables one to distinguish the wise from the unwise. |
| sacrifice noun | /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/ | Originally, the killing (and often burning) of a human being or an animal as an offering to a deity; later, also the offering of an object to a deity. |
| shoe noun | /ˈʃu/ | A protective covering for the foot, with a bottom part composed of thick leather or plastic sole and often a thicker heel, and a softer upper part made of… |
| barrel noun | /ˈbæɹəl/ | A round (cylindrical) vessel, such as a cask, of greater length than breadth, and bulging in the middle, made of staves bound with hoops, and having flat ends… |
| farmer noun | /ˈfɑɹ.mɚ/ | A person who works the land and/or who keeps livestock; anyone engaged in agriculture on a farm. |
| quietly adverb | /ˈkwaɪ.ɪt.li/ | Producing little or no noise. |
Phrasal verbs you will hear
| Word | Meaning |
|---|---|
| go down verb | To descend; to move from a higher place to a lower one. |
| get up verb | To move in an upward direction; to ascend or climb. |
| go out verb | To leave, especially a building. |
| come through verb | To come into a room or other space through a door or passageway. |
| find out verb | To discover, as by asking or investigating. |
| get out of verb | To leave, exit or escape from; to become free of. |
| pull out verb | To withdraw; especially of military forces; to retreat. |
| stand up verb | To rise from a lying or sitting position. |
Grammar in this video
The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:
| Structure | In the video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now | We've endured · have worked · have granted |
| Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it | being born · are not always combined · was required |
| Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing | woodshed, which is · people who are · one who kind |
| Superlatives the -est / the most … — the top or bottom of a group | The most important · the biggest · the best |
Pronunciation to watch
The speaker uses 130 contractions and reduced forms, such as I'm, don't, they're. Say them the short way, as you hear them.
- The “th” sounds: smooth /smuːð/, breathe /bɹiːð/, theirs /ðɛɚz/
- The “sh” and “zh” sounds: shoe /ˈʃu/, devotion /dɪˈvoʊʃən/, backlash /ˈbækˌlæʃ/, luxury /ˈlʌk.ʃə.ɹi/, punishment /ˈpʌnɪʃmənt/
- Long words — get the stress right: supervisor /ˈsupɚˌvaɪzɚ/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, preparation /ˌpɹɛpəˈɹeɪʃ(ə)n/, whatsoever /ˌ(h)wʌtsoʊˈɛvɚ/, congregation /ˌkɑŋɡɹəˈɡeɪʃən/
How to practise with this video
- Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
- Shadow it sentence by sentence at normal speed, repeating each one until your rhythm matches the speaker.
- Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like pastor, pray, mortgage.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.