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What do you do when you want to give your fullest help to someone and you're willing to help someone, right?
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You're giving your best to help someone and still they don't understand your help.
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They don't understand the value of your help and they don't understand the consequences of their bad habits, the bad things that they do.
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What should you do?
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Well, this is one of the most common questions that I get asked from people.
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I need to help this person, I care about this person, I want to help that person, I'm giving the best of mine, but still they're not ready to take that help.
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They're not growing up.
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What should I do?
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Should I help them or should I stop helping them?
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Well, I'll tell you the Buddha story, right?
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Buddha had a khasin and his name was Devadatta.
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Later he became a monk and in the beginning he did fine, he was doing good, he did meditations and he was doing good, right?
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He became a monk under the Buddha's guidance.
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And little by little Buddha became famous, people started to gather around the Buddha.
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When Devdottir saw this, he became jealous on the Buddha and he thought, no, no, I need to become the Buddha.
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Right?
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I need to take this position.
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He thought that Buddhahood was a position that was in a company, right?
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That means like you swap the person and you can go to that position.
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It was not like that, right?
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So what happened?
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He tried everything, right?
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Devadatta tried everything to hurt the Buddha and harm the Buddha's life and kill the Buddha.
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But still, Buddha had the compassion in his heart towards Devadatta.
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And I came across this one part of the sutra that the Buddha says, it's amazing, the Buddha says that if there is anyone
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that I was thinking about day and night and giving my fullest to help, right, that was Devadatta.
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I was willing to give my best and I was thinking about him day and night to help this person.
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But this person doesn't understand, and did not understand the consequences of his evil intentions.
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Right?
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So Buddha was willing to help, but he did not get the help.
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Right?
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And do you know when Devadatta learned the lesson?
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It was in his deathbed.
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In his deathbed, Devadatta told, I regret about the things that I did in the past towards the Buddha.
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from now onwards I go for refuge to the Buddha.
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But sometimes it is late, right?
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So we need to understand that.
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For some people to learn lessons in life, it takes some time, right?
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It takes a long time to learn lessons, right?
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Sometimes you are giving your fullest help and they don't understand.
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That is the nature of people.
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Because capacities of people, mental capacities of people, how people view this world is different, okay?
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so if you care about someone right
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if you love someone you need to give your best to help
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that person right you need to be willing to give your best to
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that person sometimes they will not understand it right in
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that case please do not lose who you are right lose
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do not lose your characters good good characters in the name of helping that person right you how to protect yourself.
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If you only protect yourself, you can help that person, right?
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First, do not lose who you are, lose your characters and lose your ethics to help someone.
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That is the first thing that you have to do.
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And then the second thing is that you need to understand for some people to learn lessons in life, it takes time, right?
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So that you need to wait until that.
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Until then, you need to practice your compassion and your empathy towards that person.
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The Buddha said that, I have empathy towards Devadatta.
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So in the same way, if we can have the empathy towards that person, that is the best thing to do.
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And the third thing is that you need to be willing to help, give your fullest help at any time when they are ready.
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Right?
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Because sometimes when we give our help, right, we try our best and then we give up.
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And after some time, the person learns the lesson and they come back to us to get the help.
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And now we have the ego in our mind.
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We always keep that past memories in our head and we say, no, I'm not giving you the help.
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If you truly care about that person, if you truly love someone, you need to be willing to give you help at any time, right?
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Whether they are in your life or out of your life, whatever the place, whatever the situation, if you truly care about that person's development, right?
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you need to be willing to help.
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So this is what we need.
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First we need the patience and then we need to give the time for people to grow and learn, right?
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Sometimes it works for you and also we need to be willing to help that person,
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give the best to that person and that is what we do in these kind of situations.
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So I believe that you got some idea about this situation So I wish you, may all of you be healthy,
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happy and may all of you be able to realize the four noble truths in this life.
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Namu Baddahaia.

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