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One of the biggest issues with our generation is that we believe love is a feeling as opposed to an act.
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And because of that, it can be very easy to confuse it with lust, which leads to a whole number of separate issues.
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But I think that after reading Dostoevsky, after spending a lot of time studying philosophy,
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I've come to realize that life is about the actions that you take.
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And the way that you ultimately feel about someone is reciprocated in the actions,
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except the actions are more pure and it sort of acts as a filter.
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In other words, if you love someone, you are going to show up for them every single day, regardless of how you feel.
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Not that you're going to be perfect, but you're going to actively try to hear them out.
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You're going to try to understand them and you're going to try to create the best relationship possible.
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But when love is just a feeling, that means that you are heavily susceptible to emotions and mood swinging,
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you know, chemical changes in your brain over time,
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you know, beauty fades and beauty directly changes the way that we view and feel about certain people.
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And so you basically are just leaving yourself vulnerable to the many things
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which will inevitably happen in life that could change the way that you then treat someone.
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And I'm a big believer in the sort of Aristotle view, in Aristotle's view of who an individual is.
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Who you are is what you do, not what you think, not the intentions that you had, not what you wish to happen, right?
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It's what you do.
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And I think as it relates to relationships, your relationships is how you treat each other and love is a, is an action.
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It is a visible thing.
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Like you can see someone loving someone else, right?
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I remember talking to my grandfather,
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um, but after my grandmother had passed away and he was just the way that he talks about my grandmother was like,
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he was just so, so in love with her.
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Even after, you know, he's 80 years old, she's passed away.
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And the way that he talks about her, I, it just, I realized that it was so much deeper.
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Um, and there were so many actions behind everything and they showed up for each other constantly.
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I mean, it's one of those things where you just can't deny it.
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And then I'm sure that there were other people that are old now,
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and maybe they got divorced or the broken up or whatever.
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And a lot of that was because they felt a certain way in the moment.
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And that was, they were confusing lust for love or they had love,
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but they didn't continue to show up for each other after you know five ten years of marriage
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because they kind of sort of felt like it was an obligation to stay together
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and so it fell apart you know i i'm very very blessed
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and lucky to have um two parents that are still together
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and that love each other
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and sort of exemplify to me what it looks like where you know
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you you decide you make a decision a decision
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that oftentimes is not the easy one to make
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and you do it every day because you care about this person more than you
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and I've even started to realize this
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because love doesn't always have to be romantic I feel like what I've been talking about in this video
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so far has been purely romantic but even even in friendships right
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if you love someone like a brother then you are willing to compromise certain things I think about
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this when I was in um my later years of high school I remember
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that there was this guy that I knew and I wanted to basically be friends with this guy.
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And, and, you know, we had been friends like on and off there.
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It's never like we had a dramatic, like falling out or something, but just on and off throughout growing up as one does.
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And he said, um, it was, it was one of the later summers in my high school.
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And he was like, yeah, man, you know, we should hang out sometime over the summer.
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And I really, I had no friends.
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So I was like, definitely down to do it.
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And every single time
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that uh you know i'd offer to do something with this guy
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he would always be like well i'm playing poker with the guys
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and let's let's find another night but literally every single night
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that i would ever and and i didn't really contact him
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that much to be fair
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but he would always be like oh yeah i'm playing poker oh yeah i'm playing poker
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and i realized it was like if he actually cared to be friends with me
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and cared about the relationship
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and had a sort of brotherly love then he would have said
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you know what i'm going to make the time to do something
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that i could do with him you might be like well why didn't
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you do poker well i was completely broke
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i didn't have enough money to play poker there was a buy -in
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and also i just don't like to play it in general
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so it didn't really make sense for me to go
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and play poker with the group that he was playing with anyways that's besides the point
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Thank you i just realized in that moment
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that was such a big learning opportunity for me
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that it's like the actions the way that somebody treats you and what they're willing to sacrifice um for you is
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the literal like the visible um coming to life of love and most people
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that i mean this goes way over their head i feel like uh you know another thing is
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that your intentions don't erase the consequences of your behavior.
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And so most people don't understand this because I'm sure in his head, he was like, well, I do want to hang out with this guy,
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but you know, it's just poker.
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There were a lot, there were a lot of other guys.
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So it just kind of was the path of least resistance, whatever, excuse me.
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But the reality is if you love someone, you make the time, you make the effort,
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you make the sacrifice, you do what needs to be done.
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And that's just, that's how life is.
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That's how life is.
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When I was in college, there was one time where a buddy of mine who lived six and a half hours away said,
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I need a ride home for, and I was in our hometown and, you know, he was six and a half hours away,
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like I just said, but he needed a ride home for the holidays.
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And I drove six and a half hours to meet him.
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And then six and a half hours back to go back to our hometown.
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And I did this because I was like, this is what you do for someone.
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And, you know, I, I mean, I guess it's a different point of view that I'm going to have because I'm Christian,
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but like life is about acts of service and doing things for people, even if there's no reciprocity in it,
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you know, somebody is not always going to treat you the way that you treat them.
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And in my limited experience of life, I have realized that I always, almost always am willing to go the extra mile for other people,
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but that rarely ever is returned to me.
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And I like, that's not what the value of things is based off of.
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You do things because in general, I consider myself to be, I'm not trying to virtue signal,
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but I do consider myself to be a loving person in the sense that I like people specifically as individuals in groups,
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you know, it gets questionable, but as individuals, you know, I like to help people.
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And I think that that's a good thing.
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And I think almost everybody likes to help people.
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I think this is like a natural, you know, you feel good when you help people.
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I've never met someone that doesn't like to help people, but anyways, love is like, Hey, I'm going to show up.
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I'm going to do this.
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And it's just sad to see that most people don't make that effort.
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And I think what's scary is to think about when our generation starts to get married.
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And by the way, a lot of people are you know,
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the percentage of people that are getting married is getting lower and lower as time goes on.
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But I think what we're seeing is, or what we're going to see is a lot of people aren't going to stay married for very long
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because they don't know what it's like to commit through hard times, through aging, through, you know,
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the different mood swings or periods of life that people go through.
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And it just is a, is the, uh, sort of symbolic representation of failing love.
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That's what I think.
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Um, yeah, it's not just getting along with someone.
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It's not just being physically attracted to someone.
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It's not just having your interests be aligned for, you know, a finite period of time.
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It's so much more.
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It's, it's the actions that's showing up every day but yeah those are my thoughts thank you guys for watching
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Vocabulário e dicas de fala para esta lição
Esta aula de conversação usa o vídeo “love is how you treat someone, not how you feel about them”. Este vídeo tem 117 frases e 1611 palavras para praticar shadowing. A fala dura 8:37. O falante fala rápido, cerca de 187 palavras por minuto, então espere sons ligados e reduzidos. 87% das palavras estão entre as 3.000 mais comuns do inglês, por isso o vocabulário é fácil de acompanhar.
Vocabulário principal deste vídeo
15 palavras do vídeo que vale a pena aprender, com pronúncia e significado:
| Palavra | Pronúncia | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| poker substantivo | /ˈpoʊkɚ/ | atiçador, tiçoeiro |
| mood substantivo | /muːd/ | humor, mau humor |
| romantic adjetivo | /ɹoʊˈmæn(t)ɪk/ | romântico |
| visible adjetivo | /ˈvɪzɪb(ə)l/ | visível |
| swing verbo | /ˈswɪŋ/ | balançar |
| sacrifice substantivo | /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/ | sacrifício |
| grandmother substantivo | /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/ | avó |
| hometown substantivo | /ˈhoʊmˌtaʊn/ | cidade natal |
| confuse verbo | /kənˈfjuːz/ | confundir |
| percentage substantivo | /pə(ɹ)ˈsɛntɪd͡ʒ/ | percentagem, porcentagem |
| rarely advérbio | /ˈɹɛəɹli/ | raramente |
| dramatic adjetivo | /dɹəˈmætɪk/ | dramático |
| buddy | /ˈbʌdi/ | companheiro, colega |
| friendship substantivo | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | amizade |
| scary adjetivo | /ˈskɛə.ɹi/ | assustador |
Phrasal verbs que você vai ouvir
| Palavra | Significado |
|---|---|
| pass away verbo | falecer, ir-se |
| fall apart verbo | cair aos pedaços |
| fall out verbo | brigar |
| grow up verbo | crescer |
Gramática neste vídeo
As estruturas que o falante mais usa, com as palavras exatas do vídeo:
| Estrutura | No vídeo |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + particípio passado — uma ação passada que ainda importa agora | I've come · I've even started · has been |
| Voz passiva be + particípio passado — o foco está no que acontece, não em quem faz | is reciprocated · be done · is returned |
Pronúncia para ficar de olho
O falante usa 39 contrações e formas reduzidas, como I'm, didn't, don't. Diga-as na forma curta, do jeito que você ouve.
- Os sons de “th”: grandmother /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/, grandfather /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌfɑðɚ/, brotherly /ˈbɹʌð.ɚ.li/
- Os sons de “sh” e “zh”: intentions /ɪnˈtɛnʃənz/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, representation /ˌɹɛp.ɹə.zɛnˈteɪ.ʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, obligation /ˌɑ.blɪˈɡeɪ.ʃn̩/
- Palavras longas — acerte a sílaba tônica: representation /ˌɹɛp.ɹə.zɛnˈteɪ.ʃən/, inevitably /ɪˈnɛvɪtəbli/, exemplify /ɛɡˈzɛmplɪfaɪ/, reciprocate /ɹɪˈsɪpɹəˌkeɪt/, reciprocity /ˌrɛsəˈprɑsəti/
Sons difíceis para falantes de português:
- Consoante final — sem acrescentar um “i” depois: mood /muːd/, romantic /ɹoʊˈmæn(t)ɪk/, dramatic /dɹəˈmætɪk/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, commit /kəˈmɪt/
- /l/ final — a língua toca o céu da boca, não vira “u”: visible /ˈvɪzɪb(ə)l/, literal /ˈlɪt(ə)ɹəl/
- s + consoante no início — sem um “i” antes: swing /ˈswɪŋ/, scary /ˈskɛə.ɹi/
Como praticar com este vídeo
- Ouça o vídeo inteiro uma vez sem falar e anote as palavras que você não conhece.
- Comece na velocidade 0,75×, faça shadowing frase por frase e volte à velocidade normal quando ficar fácil.
- Grave a sua voz e compare com o original, prestando atenção a palavras como poker, mood, romantic.
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.