Prática de Shadowing: What to Say When Texts Go Badly - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo
Escolha um modo de prática
Cada modo abre uma sala de prática em tela cheia.
499 frases
Se as frases estiverem muito curtas ou longas, clique em Edit para ajustá-las.
1
Today we're trying something different.
2
I am looking at text messages and emails from people who are having a very difficult time in a conversation, both at work and at home,
3
and they're not sure how to navigate them.
4
And it's my goal here to try and help.
5
So if you have a conversation right now, and it's in text message form or an email that you can screenshot it,
6
there is a link in the description that you can send it to me
7
and I can help in any way I can navigate, guide, and give advice for how to handle that conversation.
8
Okay, this one is a adult child asking her parents for a doll back
9
that is at her parents' house that she had growing up, and she wants to give it to her daughter.
10
This is dad responding.
11
I talked with mom about the doll.
12
I understand this may bring up sadness or frustration.
13
One, I like that.
14
I like that language.
15
I understand this may bring up sadness and frustration.
16
Getting that out loud.
17
This isn't about anger or withholding because we don't see you.
18
I like that language.
19
What this isn't about is X, Y, and Z.
20
We're just not ready to let go of these memories.
21
Man, that's honest.
22
That's a really vulnerable statement.
23
They represent a time in our family that we miss deeply, including you.
24
I hope you can understand that even if you don't fully agree.
25
I have to say hats off to dad on the statement that says, I understand, I can see, I sense.
26
Here is a time that we miss and we miss you.
27
And we're having a really hard time that we don't let go of these memories.
28
He continues, those memories of you kids are precious to us,
29
especially after losing what I assume is a brother and with your family choosing to remain distant from our lives.
30
Man, that's deep.
31
The things we still have from when you kids were growing up mean everything to us.
32
They are really all we have left. That hits.
33
If you ever want to reconnect, we would really welcome that.
34
I'm not trying to pressure you.
35
Just leaving the door open.
36
Awesome language.
37
I pray for this every single day.
38
Love you, Dad.
39
okay full stop I I need to give credit to this dad's text message
40
there are thousands of kids who wish their father had this amount of emotional empathy understanding patience and to say hey I
41
see you and I know this is going to bring up frustration I'm telling you what's going on The door is open.
42
This is all we have to bring on to.
43
This is all we have to grab on to.
44
I think this is an excellent text message to be able to piece together.
45
So hats off to him.
46
Daughter responds fairly.
47
It is also a very strong source of memories of my childhood, and I wanted to pass it to my children.
48
She ends with, I'll leave it alone.
49
Now, I like that she adds to the conversation rather than pointing it down.
50
She doesn't attack dad.
51
She adds to the conversation.
52
She says, it is also, meaning, hey, this is also on the table.
53
She doesn't begin with, no, it's not, or who cares, or I don't care.
54
There's not an attack.
55
It says, it is also a very strong source of memories of my childhood, and I want to pass it on to my children.
56
I will leave it alone.
57
Now that's her option.
58
That's her choice to just simply drop it, leave it alone.
59
You know what?
60
It's not that big of a deal.
61
I'm going to pick my battles.
62
I'm not going to make a thing of it.
63
And you know what?
64
That's also a very mature way of handling this.
65
I approve of that short, concise.
66
She keeps it very brief.
67
I'll leave it alone.
68
By also saying, hey, this is something I would have want to have for my kids.
69
Another option, should she have wanted to bring this up, is to say it's not about the memories or the past
70
that we're holding onto is also about the future that we're building.
71
Yeah, of course, they would probably, the parents would, in a heartbeat, replace this doll that they have,
72
these memories, these childhood toys with an actual relationship with their child, but that's not gonna happen.
73
So they're grasping on to anything.
74
So the deeper question is, is it about the past that you're holding onto or is it about the future that you're building with future generations,
75
the future love that you want to put into your life the abundance that there is for you to add more.
76
with this daughter's children and the memories of what she's wanted to have.
77
I need to say this is a very, I think this is a respectful conversation.
78
I think this seeks understanding and clarity from both sides.
79
And her option to eventually leave it alone is hers to choose.
80
So I'd say bravo to her for realizing it's not a battle she ultimately wants to pick.
81
And I'd say very much kudos to the father for laying this out in a very kind, compassionate way.
82
All right, here we go.
83
Jefferson, you'll love this one.
84
A person I share a mailbox with, an inbox email inbox with, reads every email I send, like her sent out box,
85
and then tells me what to say next time or what she would have done.
86
I've been in the role three years and she's been in it longer than we are on the same level.
87
I shouldn't have responded, I know, but I did.
88
Oh my gosh, let me see what this is.
89
Okay, here the other lady says, in case you get more people asking about whether directors can approve things now under the new allegations
90
and a bunch of legal jargon.
91
Obviously, she only knows this because she reads this lady's outbound scent box.
92
This lady says, or the response is, oh, I keep forgetting you read every email I send.
93
No time for that.
94
The other lady says, oh, not at all.
95
Not all of them the other lady says not all of
96
them by any means not even most only incoming ones generally not outgoing um
97
i only look at the subject line
98
or the first line that's visible as a preview
99
if i happen to pop into the mailbox
100
when it's there i just saw what they were asking um
101
and the response is not reading that that was her response not reading
102
that i secretly i love that i love it she's like, nah, I don't even care.
103
I'm not reading that.
104
I'm not even giving that the time of day.
105
Here this lady is to have a shared email,
106
inbox and outbox, and she goes back and reads her sent mail and then goes on top of her to say,
107
hey, this is what you should have said.
108
This is what you should have done.
109
And her response after getting some lame excuse is, I'm not reading that.
110
I'm not reading that.
111
Two thumbs up from me.
112
And here's the difference.
113
She's being critiqued by her coworker that's on the same level as she is.
114
It would be different if she's being micromanaged by a superior,
115
a manager, a boss, but she's being micromanaged by somebody who's doing the same thing that she is.
116
There's no reason to be putting up with somebody who's trying to micromanage
117
and control everything about it and going back and saying, oh, what you should have said was this, what I would have done is X,
118
Y, and Z, and they're on the same plane as you.
119
I think what this lady says, this message that she's giving, not reading that, is saying, hey, I'm not putting up with that.
120
Well, I'm not going to do that.
121
I'm in support of this message.
122
And to take this a step further, the person who's sent mail is being read by this coworker, I would challenge you to say,
123
have a conversation and begin with when you, I feel.
124
Hey, when you come back and tell me what I should have said
125
or what you would have said or some context of that is obviously some attempt to try and sway how I communicate,
126
it makes me feel controlled.
127
It makes me feel micromanaged.
128
It makes me feel like you think I'm incompetent when you come over in Monday morning quarterback,
129
my own messages, it makes me feel as though you don't think I am competent and capable of performing my job.
130
And that really upsets me.
131
That's an honest conversation because I can tell from these messages, this is probably somebody who's just a busy,
132
nosy, busy body who is trying to be in everybody's business, who needs to be reminded that that's not helpful and that's not welcome.
133
And when you make that very clear through an honest conversation, things can have a way of turning for the better.
134
But this not reading that, that's a great way to start.
135
All right, this one is about an employee's email to a boss.
136
Hey Jefferson, I sent an email to my boss about taking time off the week after my birthday.
137
On August 7th, he just sent me this reply.
138
I haven't taken PTO during the summer and I've worked in this company for 13 years.
139
Never taken PTO during the summer.
140
The response message subject line is time off.
141
It's your call if you think you have earned the time and it's appropriate to take a week off for a birthday.
142
Talk about a passive aggressive line of text.
143
If it's your call, if you think you've earned this and you think it's appropriate.
144
to take a week off for a birthday.
145
Man, you get that, you say, yes, actually, I do think it's appropriate, thank you so much, I was hoping you'd say that.
146
Here's one way to respond.
147
To a passive aggressive comment, respond with, it seems like, it sounds like.
148
For example, it sounds like you don't agree with the decision to take time off.
149
It sounds like you disagree with this.
150
It sounds like you have a reason for that statement.
151
Whenever you say it seems like it sounds like you're hinting at,
152
hey, there's something else behind the feelings here that you're picking up on that they're not saying.
153
That would require a conversation.
154
I would suggest a phone call, an in -person meeting to say,
155
hey, you know that I've been here 13 years.
156
I've been working here a long time.
157
Is there something that I'm missing?
158
Is there something else you would like to see to help you feel like I have earned the time
159
and the appropriateness to take off on my PTO time for my birthday during the summer?
160
Having that conversation, is there anything else?
161
Is there something that would make you feel more comfortable?
162
I'm not trying to rock the boat.
163
I'm not trying to create an issue.
164
I want this to be your call too.
165
I want this for both of us to be involved in this decision
166
and not to where I feel like it's a yes
167
and you're going to be resentful and it's always going to be these backhanded type of comments like this.
168
Sounds like you disagree with this decision.
169
It feels like you disagree or you have other feelings and opinions on this.
170
Can we meet tomorrow to discuss this on the phone?
171
Can we meet in person to talk about this?
172
And then there you are able to have the conversation of when I read your message,
173
it felt like there were some other feelings that caused you some heartburn, and I want to make sure that's not there.
174
What else could I do to help you feel like I've earned on top of the 13 years I've been here,
175
a week off for my birthday, which I'm certainly not trying to make a habit.
176
I've showed my loyalty in that I've been part of this and I want to be,
177
and I would love it if this is something you're in agreement with too.
178
Before we keep going, I'm going to take a moment to tell you about Athena.
179
Sometimes it's not that you need more hours in the day.
180
Truth is, you need somebody you trust to take hours away from you.
181
Athena matches you with a full -time dedicated executive assistant to help you with all those things
182
that fall through the cracks and fall off your plate, like booking that doctor's appointment you know that you need to have been doing,
183
or maybe setting those travel plans, or maybe ordering that gift, or ordering things around the house, or maybe in the business,
184
things like responding to emails and calls that you've been meaning to get to, but you can't.
185
On average, Athena users have gotten up to 15 hours back per week, and that's pretty incredible.
186
Right now, you can go to athena .com slash Jefferson and find your dedicated full -time executive assistant today.
187
Right now, athena .com slash Jefferson.
188
Find your executive assistant.
189
And now, let's keep going.
190
Okay, this one is between a mom and an adult son.
191
And the mom is asking the son if the kids, the grandkids, her grandkids, received some postcards that she sent.
192
Context is, they've tried counseling a few years it didn't go very well.
193
And so they don't text and communicate all that often.
194
The mom says, happy Sunday.
195
Did the girls receive their postcards from London?
196
Son responds, I don't know if this relationship can be repaired, but if so, the first step isn't sending postcards.
197
He could have just said, I don't know, or yes, or no. Just answer.
198
That wasn't an invitation for that sharp of a cut.
199
I mean, that's a very acute angle to come right into.
200
She's asking, did the girls receive their postcards?
201
And it's, I don't know if this relationship can be repaired, but if so, the first step isn't sending postcards.
202
Yeah, that's unnecessary.
203
That's hurtful.
204
I would rather you not respond at all to it
205
or respond very briefly and just answer the question rather than sending
206
that because what you've just done what the son's done is just open up a whole can of worms
207
which is evidenced by the following mom then says just
208
because you have a problem with me it would be unfortunate
209
if you let that affect the daughter's relationship with me her granddaughters you
210
You will have to answer for your choices.
211
So I hope you think about the consequences of your choices.
212
Okay, this is alarm, big alarm number two, okay?
213
If you read how many times she, the mom says you in this, just because you have a problem with me,
214
if you let that affect the relationship, you will have to answer for your choices.
215
And I hope you think about the consequences of your choices.
216
Six times in two sentences, she mentions the word you.
217
That should send fire alarm sounds.
218
There should be blaring warning signs all across the board
219
that what she's propping up is just pouring gasoline on a fire that he started.
220
That was some friction and now it's going to turn ugly.
221
He says, you don't have a relationship with any of us.
222
That was your decision.
223
If you have no interest in building a healthy relationship, we will not have a relationship.
224
Meanwhile, my man, she just asked, did the girls receive the postcards and you're already shutting it down?
225
I mean, a postcard is just something that's simple, thinking of you.
226
It's not an offensive gesture.
227
You don't have any relationship with any of us.
228
That was your decision.
229
Most likely that was probably two -way.
230
It's a two -way street there.
231
If you have no interest in building a healthy relationship, we will not have a relationship.
232
Okay, this is getting really, it could have just stopped there and let that breathe, but they are sending it rapid fire.
233
And here she goes, I've tried.
234
I've apologized.
235
I have forgiven your over -the -top disrespect.
236
It says, you had for me as a child.
237
What, I don't know, what more do you want?
238
Man, how many times has that in a family argument caused way more pain?
239
Anything that follows after the question of what else do you want from me does not go well.
240
That's a hypothetical question.
241
That is a question out of anger, out of resentment, out of fear, out of frustration, out of loss, okay?
242
And all it says is nothing positive.
243
When you face that on the other side of it, what she has, you used me for this, I did this, I did chores,
244
I did this, I did this.
245
You don't need me for anything.
246
That's some big vulnerable, I feel like that's some big feelings buying all this.
247
You don't need me for anything now that you are a big shot.
248
So we don't have a relationship.
249
And I have accepted that.
250
So here the son says, you're the reason why we don't have a relationship.
251
And she goes, what are you talking about?
252
What else do you want from me?
253
I've done everything.
254
You're the reason why.
255
No, you're the reason why we don't have a relationship.
256
So both of them are pointing towards you, you, you, and they're escalating this.
257
Now I'm seeing for the first time at least some better language to this
258
and it's this the son says I'm not having this conversation via text
259
and I'm not having it right now now I wish he would have taken
260
that sentence and moved it way up to the top
261
if he wasn't in
262
if he wasn't in a place to have this you could have spared a lot of problems by
263
that sentence and putting it at the top I wish I wish this this was the only sentence of this response.
264
It wasn't.
265
He enter new paragraph.
266
Oh, I've never heard an apology or even acknowledgement that you realize how toxic your words and actions have been, including these today.
267
Enter new paragraph.
268
Again, I'm not interested in an unhealthy relationship.
269
You aren't entitled to access to me or my family.
270
That's true.
271
Get help.
272
Please stop texting me.
273
Oh, okay.
274
When you tell somebody, get help, please get help.
275
Do you think they put any blame on themselves?
276
Do you think that all of a sudden you become the white knight of like, hey, be well, please get help for yourself.
277
Stop texting me.
278
Well, it's easy to say, please stop texting me after, you know, looks like four different responses by him engaging in in the communication.
279
If he had just said, I'm not having this conversation via text right now, I will communicate with you later, period.
280
That would have saved so much harm than what he just did.
281
Here she says, love is a choice.
282
I choose to love you.
283
I like that.
284
But from a distance, because I don't deserve any more abuse ever from anybody.
285
Man, there is something to be said for the text and response that goes too far
286
because it creates so much more damage.
287
It's like compound interest.
288
The pain is compounded.
289
The anger, the frustration, the hurt.
290
compounds.
291
People have this all the time with parents and adult children where there's miscommunication.
292
And that is, what do you want from me?
293
I've done all this.
294
I've done all that.
295
Here's what I would have wanted to see.
296
When she says, happy Sunday, did the girls receive their postcards from London?
297
I would have wanted to see either one, hey, I'd rather not have this conversation via text.
298
I'll communicate with you a little bit later.
299
I would have rather seen a simple answer to her question.
300
Yes, they did.
301
Thank you.
302
And leave it at that.
303
Or three, just leave it alone for a few days and respond later when you're more controlled.
304
I don't know if this relationship can be repaired, but if so, the first step isn't sending postcards.
305
That is a slam the door in your face and totally is opposite of the person that says,
306
hey you haven't apologized to me and um you're the one
307
that needs to get help and
308
if you have no interest in building a healthy relationship
309
we will not have a relationship in other words hey this is all on you here at least she's trying
310
and the door just got slammed in her face
311
and also she says some things
312
that did not help her um don't communicate on text with these type issues it creates pain
313
and it creates a record it creates a historic record
314
that you go back and you look at this text message
315
and when you're when you're upset you go back
316
and look at it and you're hurt again
317
and every time you talk to them you you go back
318
and you look at it again and you keep it with you
319
and it becomes the remember
320
when you said this i want to emphasize
321
i don't know all the context i don't know in the past what this mother has done
322
or what this son has done i'm only reading the text message
323
and the message as it comes and looking at it from a communication standpoint.
324
So when he says, I don't know if this relationship can be repaired, but if so, the first step isn't sending postcards.
325
What that tells me is that there are much deeper feelings at play.
326
He responded so hot.
327
He came on so strong to a simple question of, did the girls receive their postcards from London.
328
He took what was a level one question and turned it into a level 13 response.
329
And that disparity, that difference says there are much bigger issues at play, and we just don't know about those.
330
And in truth, I can see both sides.
331
I can see from the grandmother's side of saying, hey, I want a relationship with my granddaughters.
332
I also see that the son is absolutely entitled to say, hey, look, I'm not giving you access to my grandkids right now.
333
This is where we are as a family.
334
And I can respect both sides here.
335
I can understand both sides.
336
What I'm looking at is the way in which words are being used to either gain connection or pull it apart.
337
Okay, this is a DM from somebody somebody talking about a friend's daughter.
338
My friend's daughter is 22, living at home, studying law and working at a law firm.
339
She works very hard, but does not help at home or pay rent for food or accommodation.
340
Recently, the mom has asked her daughter to pay rent like $50 a week.
341
Daughter paid one week and now is 10 days late for the next week.
342
Mom sent a text to remind her to pay and daughter replied, why can't you just be a nice person?
343
Just wonder what your response would be, Jefferson.
344
Daughter is very offhand, like not a good relationship with mom.
345
And while she works very hard at her job in law firm, she's also very entitled and a bit on edge.
346
she seems to take everything out on her mom.
347
If you get the message, if somebody asks you, why can't you just be a nice person?
348
There are some ways that we can handle this.
349
When somebody asks, why can't you be a nice person?
350
What they're really saying is, why can't you just do what I I want you to do.
351
Why can't you just be compliant?
352
Why can't you just be a nice person and make me comfortable?
353
Your job, if by being nice, it's to make the other person comfortable, then no, we're not going to be nice.
354
If nice means I have to put aside everything that I do and make my life and my emotions all about you,
355
no, then I'm not going to be a nice person.
356
If I have to make sure that I can't do a thing without passing it by you, and that's what requires.
357
it to be nice, then no, I'm not going to be a nice person.
358
Why can't you just be a nice person?
359
I would encourage her to respond, I'm not being nice.
360
I'm being respectful.
361
Another response could be, I'm not being nice, period.
362
I'm being kind, period.
363
And I'm letting you know that to live in this house and to afford what we have, rent is due on this day.
364
No fight, no tussle, no, hey, why don't you, this is just like you, you're lazy, you don't contribute, all of that garbage.
365
You don't want to be nice.
366
There is a difference between being nice and being kind.
367
Nice says, I'm concerned about the pleasantries, about being polite, about sweeping everything under a rug.
368
We're not going to mention that.
369
I can't be nice.
370
Nice is concerned about the surface.
371
I have to be nice.
372
I can't tell them the truth.
373
That's not nice.
374
Kind is related to the word kin.
375
It's deep.
376
It's connection.
377
It says, kind says, or nice says, I can't tell you that.
378
I can't tell you the truth because that's not nice.
379
Kindness says, I care about you enough to tell you the truth.
380
So you don't want to be nice.
381
You want to be kind.
382
So when somebody says, why can't you be a nice person?
383
Meaning, why can't you, why you can't just be nice?
384
Why can't you make me comfortable?
385
I would encourage a, I'm not trying to be nice, period.
386
I'm being kind, period.
387
And let the conversation go where it needs to.
388
Okay, this one is between very old friends.
389
One of them is now living out of state, comes to visit in town and asks me, so when are we going to hang out?
390
This friend never has any suggestions and almost always needs a ride.
391
Obviously, I use a Jefferson standard reply, but what do you think, Jefferson, was the appropriate response?
392
Okay, I'm looking at the text message here.
393
The question is, hey, what day are you going?
394
Hey, I'll be there Saturday.
395
Response is, well, I have plans Saturday.
396
Okay, well, that's my schedule.
397
Sorry.
398
And then the response from the friend is, you always have an excuse not to meet up.
399
I don't know why we're even friends anymore.
400
And then the response from the person who sent this.
401
They use, did you mean for that statement to hurt me?
402
I like that response.
403
All right.
404
Here's some things that are going on.
405
One, it's friendship we're talking about here and very old friends.
406
So, you know, it goes back a long way.
407
I want you to read when it's, you always have an excuse not to meet up.
408
I don't know why we're not friends anymore.
409
What do you hear in that statement?
410
What do you hear in that statement?
411
Is it anger?
412
Is it really anger.
413
What's that also tied to?
414
Sadness, frustration, sadness.
415
I wanted to see you.
416
I'm let down.
417
I'm frustrated.
418
I expected, I hope to see you and it's not going to work out.
419
And so you're the only person I have to lash out against.
420
You always have an excuse.
421
They use that absolute word of always, which is not true.
422
So that's an indicator right there of where their emotions are.
423
you always have an excuse not to meet up.
424
I don't know why we're even friends anymore.
425
That's just internal dialogue that says, hey, I'm hurt.
426
Your statement question, did you mean for that statement to hurt me?
427
What I love about that is you did a great job of putting the spotlight back onto them.
428
Okay.
429
Instead of a really, you could have argued against the always, could have said, I don't always have an excuse.
430
You know what you did last time and get into an argument or yeah, I don't even know why we're friends anymore either.
431
Yeah.
432
You know what?
433
Forget you.
434
And just let's, let's stop being friends.
435
You didn't do that by using the question, the stuff that I talk about.
436
Did you mean for that statement to hurt me?
437
Great job of you're not even responding to the content of this guy's text.
438
You're, you're responding to the intent to it.
439
And the friend is not responding to this yet.
440
So I'm very curious of how he would respond.
441
Here's one thing I would, there's nothing wrong with this question.
442
If I could add something else to it, maybe something you would want to say afterwards or say in its place is this,
443
I'm sad and frustrated that I don't get to see you too.
444
It makes me upset that we're going to miss each other too.
445
I'm mad that we don't get to hang out too.
446
See, instead of fighting, trying to make them feel something else and tell them how they should feel, when you say, you know what?
447
God, I'm bad about it too.
448
it has a way of bringing connection and understanding because you're affirming and acknowledging that very feeling that they have,
449
something that you should share, right?
450
I'll say, what kind of set it off if I'm the other person?
451
Says, okay, well, that's my schedule, sorry.
452
That's a pretty flippant response.
453
It's a pretty flippant response.
454
Let me ask you the question,
455
could you have said something a little better? could you have put a little bit more effort and time in that response?
456
And if you had, would you have gotten maybe a little bit different response in return?
457
If I'm looking at the start of the message, it says, when is that?
458
What day are you going?
459
What day are you going?
460
You say, hey, the tent will be here Saturday.
461
I said, maybe.
462
I don't know for sure.
463
In other words, you're saying, I might be there.
464
I'll be there Saturday.
465
I told these other people, maybe.
466
I'm not really sure if I'm going to be there.
467
His response is, I have planned Saturday.
468
Bummer.
469
You could have said, oh man, that's a bummer.
470
I'm going to miss you.
471
That makes me sad.
472
That makes me bummed out.
473
Instead, you said, okay, well, that's my schedule.
474
Sorry.
475
That's going to get a defensive response.
476
One, because it's not a real apology.
477
It's you saying, well, okay, deal with it.
478
It's like a sorry of like, yeah, I'm sorry.
479
Well, deal with it.
480
It's not an actual apology.
481
And you're going, okay, well, that's my schedule.
482
Okay, well, that's what I got.
483
So good luck.
484
That's going to come back.
485
And to me, no wonder they came back a little bit at you a little bit.
486
No wonder they growled.
487
You always have an excuse not to meet up.
488
I don't know why we're not even friends.
489
So while I'll say props to you for using that, did you mean for that statement to hurt me?
490
I think we could have avoided this situation altogether had your first text not been, okay, well, that's my schedule.
491
Sorry.
492
If you had voiced the feeling of, oh man, you have planned Saturday.
493
That's the only day I can meet, man.
494
This is going to, that's crushing.
495
That's heartbreaking.
496
That totally bums me out.
497
That way you could have at least been able to share in
498
that mutual feeling rather than making them feel as though they're at a wit's end
499
and feeling like they're the only ones that's rowing the friendship boat.
Baixar aplicativo
Tudo o que você precisa para falar fluentemente
Pronúncia com IANota em cada frase
Prática de IPADomine cada som
VocabulárioMonte seu banco de palavras
Jogo de vocabulárioAprenda brincando
Mesmo canal
B11
Use This Phrase on The Silent Treatment
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B21
How good leaders communicate
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B22
Hard conversations are NOT about you...
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B24
Never Struggle with Small Talk Again | Easy Tips for Better Conversations
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B24
You’re Not Responsible for Their Emotions
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B23
Finance Expert: How You Talk About Money Matters Ft. Vivian Tu
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B21
Erin McGoff: How to be Instantly More Confident at Work
American AccentBusiness EnglishInterview EnglishUniversity Students
B21
You’re Losing Respect Every Time You Say This
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationWorking Adults
B22
THIS is How To Be Direct Without Hurting People | Jefferson Fisher
American AccentBusiness EnglishInterview EnglishDaily Conversation
B2How to Be Direct Without Sounding Rude
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B2How Strong Communicators Handle Difficult Talks
American AccentBusiness EnglishInterview EnglishDaily Conversation
B23 Communication Truths That Will Change Every Conversation
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B1what to say instead of staying silent
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B1Be more direct.
American AccentBusiness EnglishDaily ConversationWorking Adults
FOR YOU
Vídeo recomendado
B21
30 frases
Finally Sending a Text She Put Off for 15 Years
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B248
22 frases
its time to have a conversation with them
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B21
31 frases
Downsizing: Talking Dad into Selling the Family Home
American AccentDaily ConversationWorking Adults
B21
103 frases
Jensen Ackles vs. Technology😂
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B22
134 frases
The Sculpting of Our Souls | Tamara W. Runia | October 2026 General Conference
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B240 frases
Hey Mom
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B21
188 frases
relationships are hard.
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B21
268 frases
Asking 80 Year Old Canadians About Their Biggest Regrets in Life
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B25
25 frases
A Dad's Pain🥺
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B21
228 frases
Ashley Stahl | How To Figure Out What You Really Want | Keynote Speaker | SpeakInc
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B23
27 frases
More Than a Pizza Shop, A Slice of Family History | Story of the Week
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
B11
80 frases
The Most Heartbreaking Messages Across 23 Years
Daily ConversationWorking Adults
Vocabulário e dicas de fala para esta lição
Esta aula de conversação usa o vídeo “What to Say When Texts Go Badly”. Este vídeo tem 499 frases e 5334 palavras para praticar shadowing. A fala dura 32:28. O falante fala em ritmo natural, cerca de 164 palavras por minuto, próximo de uma conversa do dia a dia. 87% das palavras estão entre as 3.000 mais comuns do inglês, por isso o vocabulário é fácil de acompanhar.
Vocabulário principal deste vídeo
15 palavras do vídeo que vale a pena aprender, com pronúncia e significado:
| Palavra | Pronúncia | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| frustration substantivo | /fɹʌsˈtɹeɪ.ʃən/ | frustração |
| anger substantivo | /ˈæŋɡə/ | raiva, ira |
| communicate verbo | /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/ | comunicar |
| repair verbo | /ˈɹiːpɛɚ/ | reparar |
| sadness substantivo | /ˈsædnəs/ | tristeza |
| alarm substantivo | /əˈlɑɹm/ | alarme |
| compound substantivo | /ˈkɑmpaʊnd/ | composto |
| disagree verbo | /dɪsəˈɡɹi/ | discordar |
| doll substantivo | /dɑl/ | boneca, boneco |
| apology substantivo | /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | desculpa |
| inbox substantivo | /ˈɪnbɑks/ | caixa de entrada |
| encourage verbo | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | encorajar, incentivar |
| friendship substantivo | /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/ | amizade |
| remind verbo | /ɹəˈmaɪnd/ | lembrar, recordar |
| aggressive adjetivo | /əˈɡɹɛs.ɪv/ | agressivo |
Phrasal verbs que você vai ouvir
| Palavra | Pronúncia | Significado |
|---|---|---|
| go back verbo | voltar | |
| bring up verbo | criar | |
| come back verbo | voltar | |
| grow up verbo | crescer | |
| put up with verbo | aguentar, suportar | |
| fall off verbo | cair | |
| let down verbo | decepcionar, desapontar | |
| work out verbo | /ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/ | calcular |
Frases que vale a pena repetir
Frases curtas e completas do vídeo que você pode usar na conversa do dia a dia:
- Is there something that I'm missing?
- What, I don't know, what more do you want?
- Why can't you just be compliant?
- Why can't you just be a nice person?
- Why can't you make me comfortable?
Gramática neste vídeo
As estruturas que o falante mais usa, com as palavras exatas do vídeo:
| Estrutura | No vídeo |
|---|---|
| Frases condicionais if + oração, will/would + verbo — uma condição e seu resultado | if you had, would you |
| Present perfect have/has + particípio passado — uma ação passada que ainda importa agora | have left · have wanted · I've been |
| Voz passiva be + particípio passado — o foco está no que acontece, não em quem faz | being critiqued · being micromanaged · being read |
| Orações relativas who / which + oração — informação extra sobre uma pessoa ou coisa | people who are · kids who wish · person who sent |
Pronúncia para ficar de olho
O falante usa 199 contrações e formas reduzidas, como I'm, don't, you're. Diga-as na forma curta, do jeito que você ouve.
- Os sons de “th”: breathe /bɹiːð/, altogether /ɔl.tuˈɡɛð.ɚ/, thumb /ˈθʌm/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/
- Os sons de “sh” e “zh”: frustration /fɹʌsˈtɹeɪ.ʃən/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, sharp /ʃɑɹp/, suggestion /səˈd͡ʒɛst.ʃən/
- Palavras longas — acerte a sílaba tônica: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, superior /sʊˈpɪɹ.i.ɚ/, unnecessary /ʌnˈnɛs.əˌsɛɹ.i/
Sons difíceis para falantes de português:
- Consoante final — sem acrescentar um “i” depois: communicate /kəˈmjuːnɪkeɪt/, compound /ˈkɑmpaʊnd/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/, remind /ɹəˈmaɪnd/, prop /pɹɑp/
- /l/ final — a língua toca o céu da boca, não vira “u”: doll /dɑl/, meanwhile /ˈmiːnwaɪl/, visible /ˈvɪzɪb(ə)l/, angle /ˈæŋ.ɡəl/, mutual /ˈmjuːt͡ʃuəl/
- /h/ — um sopro suave, diferente do “r”: harm /hɑːm/, helpful /ˈhɛlp.fl̩/, habit /ˈhæb.ɪt/, hint /hɪnt/, unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/
Como praticar com este vídeo
- Ouça o vídeo inteiro uma vez sem falar e anote as palavras que você não conhece.
- Comece na velocidade 0,75×, faça shadowing frase por frase e volte à velocidade normal quando ficar fácil.
- Grave a sua voz e compare com o original, prestando atenção a palavras como frustration, anger, communicate.
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.