Prática de Shadowing: 3 Communication Truths That Will Change Every Conversation - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo

Hey y'all, it's Jefferson.

On today's episode, I'm going to be sharing with you three must-know truths

that are going to change the way you communicate and how to leverage those mindsets to improve your life for the better.

Welcome to the Jefferson Fisher Podcast.

In fact, season two of the Jefferson Fisher Podcast, where I'm on a mission to make your next conversation the one that changes everything.

If you enjoy learning tools to improve your communication, I'm going to ask you to please follow this podcast.

And if you would, leave a review.

Give it a like, a star, anything helps.

It really does.

I want to also let you know that my new book, The Next Conversation, is officially out on pre-order.

And if you like anything about this podcast, I promise you, you're going to like the book.

And for the first time, I have the Jefferson Fisher School of Communication that is now out and ready.

All you have to do is just look in the show notes.

I'll have all the links posted right there.

Before we go into the three things that I want to dive into, you might notice something a little bit different.

The sound quality might be a little bit different.

I now have a microphone.

I'm in a studio and not in my car.

Now, I want to tell you, don't worry, I'm still going to be making car videos, those daily car videos that you see and that I enjoy making for you.

But when it comes to podcasting and more longer form content, I can't always make it in the car.

I'll still keep the episode short.

I'm hoping to keep it at the 12 to 18 20 minute mark right in there to where it's

it's something that you can listen to right in your commute

but I don't want to have super long form content right

now I just want to keep it in the sweet spot until I get more comfortable with it

and see what works in my life

so this is a change with everything that's coming up with the book launch

and I'm also going to be bringing you guests for the

first time I'm going to have solo episodes too you're still going to hear from me

but I also want to bring you some guests that I know

that you love and people that I love

that are going to also just continue to pour into you as much as they have poured into me.

All right, three things that I want you to know that are going to change the way you communicate.

Are you listening?

Are you ready?

Number one, never win an argument.

Whenever your goal is to win an argument, you lose so much more every time.

And it gets me frustrated, to tell you the truth, of how much I see out in the world,

videos to blogs to books and magazines and articles on how to win every argument.

Let me tell you right now, it is a lie.

It's snake oil.

It's clickbait.

It's not true.

It has nothing to do with real world.

That's why it does not work.

When you've ever seen, like, why am I not winning this argument?

Because the idea of winning it does not work.

It never has.

It never will.

People like to say, well, Jefferson, aren't you an attorney?

Isn't this kind of your day job?

This is what you do for a living.

You win arguments.

Absolutely not.

No, that's not how it works.

As a trial attorney, any trial attorney who is in the courtroom, you do not choose your client's facts.

When a client walks into my door and they have, hey, I've been in an accident and here are my facts.

I can't create new facts that will help my case.

And I can get rid of facts or delete facts that hurt my case.

I am stuck with the cards that are dealt.

Same thing applies with the law.

I can't choose.

I'm here in Texas.

I can't choose what laws I'm going to follow or not going to follow.

They apply to everyone here in the state, same if the federal level or any state in the U.S.

I can't choose any of that.

And so when it comes to arguing as an attorney, it's more about giving the facts and evidence a voice.

How can I persuade you based upon my facts and what I have in the law?

And then it's ultimately up to the finder of fact is how they call it.

You have the judge or you have the jury, and it's going to be those are the people who decide what's persuasive and what's not.

Are they following the law?

At the end of the day, they have to follow the law.

It has nothing to do about who's winning an argument.

The other attorney might have better facts.

The other attorney might have better law.

It has nothing to do with me winning it.

So it's not even the same thing in the courtroom or as an attorney.

You cannot win every argument.

When you do, when you set out to say, I want to win this argument, you will lose the relationship with this person.

It may not be the first time.

It may not be the second time.

But over time and time and time again, the value and quality of that relationship is going to continue to go down.

Here's what I mean.

When you and I are fighting and we're trying to win an argument, what I've really won is your contempt.

You're now mad at me, most likely.

I've won your ability to have awkward silence now every time we pass each other in the hall.

I still have to probably work with this person.

You probably have to live with this person.

What have you won?

You've really probably won the first chance.

You're now the first person up to have to apologize.

Often we win arguments because we said something that was over the top, went too far below the belt.

Anything that made the argument stop.

Just because you're the last one who speaks does not mean that you're the one who won the argument.

It is just not true.

So every time you try to see yourself is winning an argument, you're going to lose the relationship.

You're going to lose their respect.

You're going to lose their trust, their confidence.

And over time, you're going to lose the ability to connect with

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that person when you always set out to win an argument.

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So instead of winning an argument, this is what I want you to do.

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See the argument as something to unravel.

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See the argument as something to unravel, as in a knot.

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You have one side, I have the other.

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And when I'm pulling and we're pulling, it just makes the knot tighter and tighter.

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It doesn't go anywhere.

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Instead of seeing who's going to win this tug of war, you have to stop, put it down, and find a way to locate the knot.

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And when you do, that's where you have the heart of the matter, where you can start to unravel and say, I'm trying to understand where you're coming from.

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They're trying to understand where you're coming from.

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Then you can talk.

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Then you can connect with the person.

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It is not winning an argument that is going to change the way you communicate.

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It is seeing the way that you can unravel the knot.

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I really hope that resonates with you.

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It's one of the main pillars that I use every day in my communication

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and how I see things between two people and how we connect with each other.

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Don't look to win the argument.

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You want to look to unravel the knot.

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You just have to be patient enough.

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Truth number two, have something to learn, not something to prove.

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Now this goes beautifully with the first point of never win an argument.

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Number two says, have something to learn, not something to prove.

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Struggle happens, difficulty happens, bad things happen in communication when I'm trying to prove something against you.

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But here's the fact of it.

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The harder I work to push against you, the harder I push to prove my point, the more hardened you'll become that I'm wrong.

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Because what you don't know is that behind everybody, as we're going to talk here in the third step, is there is a surface and a depth behind everybody.

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So if I were to say, you're wrong.

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Hey, you listening right now?

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You're wrong.

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Whatever opinion you have, I'm going to say that it's wrong.

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But what I don't know is when I tell you that you're wrong, I could also be saying that your family member is wrong.

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Your grandparent is wrong.

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What you've known your whole life is wrong.

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We all come into circumstances with different life experiences.

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So if you've been raised, maybe let's say in a particular religion your entire life, or you've heard only a certain political party your entire life.

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These are big concepts I'm talking about here.

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Or maybe you grew up in an area that is culturally a certain way, and somebody says that that's wrong.

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What you're doing is just changing their whole paradigm and saying everything about you is wrong.

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And we will get so defensive, even to the point of refusing to listen, to be able to preserve that identity that the other person has.

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They will fight tooth and nail.

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It doesn't matter.

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That's why logic does not work in these circumstances.

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Logic doesn't work because it is part of their identity.

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It is their value in their life of this is who I am.

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If you're saying that I'm wrong, that means my dad's wrong.

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My mom's wrong.

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My grandparents are wrong.

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And it ties to a whole lot more.

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When somebody likes, let's say, a political candidate, it doesn't matter what party, and you say that they're wrong, well, you get a lot of people

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that are fans of certain people get very defensive because they tied their identity to that person.

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You have to understand that you come into it with something to learn, not something to prove in that conversation.

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I get really worked up about these truths because they hit so much at home for me.

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The points that I give, they're little quick, rapid things.

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I'm always going to be giving you those.

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I want to start season two a little bit different.

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That does not mean I'm going to continue to do the bigger concepts.

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I always give practical takeaways, and I'm going to give that to you here.

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I want you to get used to this mindset of when you see struggle, when there's friction in the communication, ask yourself, Am I trying to prove something,

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or am I trying to learn something?

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Here's a depiction of this, an illustration I want you to have in your mind.

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If I'm arguing with you, I cannot pour, let's say I have a glass of water.

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I cannot pour water into your full pitcher.

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I can't pour new thoughts into a pitcher that's already full.

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I have to let you get it all out.

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I have to ask you questions and get curious of, well, how long have you, you know, how'd you come to that conclusion?

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How long have you thought like this?

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Things that you're getting information out of the other person, rather than just trying to splash the water in their face and saying, take this and whatever, everything I say is right.

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Instead, you need to ask questions that get it all out.

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And only then is there space for you to fill it with your new thoughts.

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Have something to learn, not something to prove.

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Truth number three is one of my favorites.

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The person you see is not the person you're talking to.

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The person you see is not the person you're talking to.

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Like we said in step two, everybody has a surface and a depth.

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The person who's serving you coffee at the cafe, maybe they served it a little late.

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Maybe they had a little bit of attitude.

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That's the person you see.

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But the person you're talking to maybe should have been off two hours ago

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or just got a terribly rude comment from a customer an hour before and now it's weighing on them.

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Or maybe their kids are staying with their mom

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and they're in a bad mood because they don't like where they are in life.

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There's always a surface and a depth.

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People that you're driving behind.

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This is for me right here.

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I'm talking to myself.

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When you're driving in the left lane and somebody's in the left lane here in the United States, you have the right lane, left lane.

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Our default is typically in the right lane through single lane passing traffic.

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But it's two lanes.

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Left lane is for passing.

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The right lane is for those that go slow.

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So anytime you want to, somebody's going slow in the left lane, it irritates me to no end.

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But I'm working on that.

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See, I can work on things too.

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Well, anytime you're going slow behind a car, that's probably going to speed limit, let's be honest.

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You just automatically assume they are in your way.

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Get out of my way.

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How dare you be in my way?

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You don't know what in the world is going on with their life.

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You don't know what kind of news this person is dealing with.

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Same way when somebody is coming up behind you, like what we call on your rear.

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When they are right up behind you, you think, what do you want?

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What do you want from me?

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And you get aggravated that they're trying to speed you up.

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So it just goes all into this thing of we like to think about ourselves.

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It's our default.

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It's natural.

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I want you to see that the person you see is not the person you're talking to.

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So you have to get really curious about understanding that everybody has something going on that you don't know about.

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People you're related to, they have struggles they don't share with you.

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Your kids, there are things that are happening in their life that they may not share with you.

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Same thing with your work.

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You have a supervisor, an employee.

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There are things going in their life that you don't know.

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They're having conversations in their head that you aren't part of.

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For those that have been in relationships or are in one right now, you've all experienced this concept where somebody comes into the house,

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the room, the apartment, whatever, and you can just tell they're in a bad mood.

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And it's not until 20 minutes into the conversation, you're like, is something wrong with you?

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Well, it turns out what happened to them happened six hours before,

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and they've been living with that long before they came in contact with you.

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So things happen that you have no idea about.

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So when you go into this thing of exactly who I see with this person is exactly who they are.

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And you go into stereotypes and you say, oh, I'm going to call a spade a spade.

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That's fine.

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Do what you need to do.

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Understand that's not the real person.

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I've seen some of the toughest people, meanest looking people be the biggest teddy bears and sweethearts.

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I've also seen the smallest, may I say oldest, weakest people be the sturdiest,

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strongest humans I've ever come across.

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You cannot But judge a book by its cover.

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Three truths that I want you to understand when it comes to communication.

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You use these mindsets by thinking about them, taking them to heart.

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I want you to just take for a moment

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and see what has resonated with you in this conversation that we're having here.

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Yeah, it's a conversation.

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I know I'm talking to you and you're not talking back.

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But you are in many ways when you leave comments, when you comment on any videos.

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I get to hear from you.

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For those that are part of my newsletter, you're able to ask me questions, and I'm able to field those.

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Throughout the rest of the season, I will be answering my newsletter emails.

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I have lots of them that I've starred, and I want to make sure that I get to.

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You can also join my newsletter there in the show notes.

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I have a little link for it there.

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I want you to understand that when you go into communication, applying these will change the way you think, And when you use them,

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it will improve your life.

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When you, number one, stop seeing arguments as something to win, but something to unravel.

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Number two, have something to learn, not something to prove.

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And number three, the person you see is not the person you're talking to.

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Three things that are going to change the way you communicate.

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That's real those are things that are on my heart, and those are things that are outlined in chapter one of my book,

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things that really, really mean a lot significantly to me, and I hope they've shown some light, shared some light, and shed some light onto you.

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Thank you so much for listening to this podcast.

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If you enjoyed today's episode, I'm going to ask you to, again, just follow this podcast, and if you would, leave a review.

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I'd love to have you part of the newsletter, and again, my book, The next conversation is currently still on pre-order.

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If you like, I would still love to have any kind of feedback that you have.

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So if you like or don't like this studio setup, if you like or don't like the microphone, just tell me.

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All this stuff is new to me.

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This is not super fancy.

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There's not some big, huge team.

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This is me trying to talk to you and share what's on my heart.

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I'm looking forward to sharing.

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Season 2 of the podcast, got a lot of things coming that we're still planning on that I just cannot wait to share with you.

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Thanks for being with me.

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And as always, you can try that and follow me.

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Vocabulário e dicas de fala para esta lição

Esta aula de conversação de nível B2 usa o vídeo “3 Communication Truths That Will Change Every Conversation”. Este vídeo tem 271 frases e 3221 palavras para praticar shadowing. A fala dura 16:56. O falante fala rápido, cerca de 190 palavras por minuto, então espere sons ligados e reduzidos. 89% das palavras estão entre as 3.000 mais comuns do inglês, por isso o vocabulário é fácil de acompanhar.

Vocabulário principal deste vídeo

As 15 palavras mais avançadas do vídeo, com pronúncia e significado:

Palavra	Pronúncia	Significado
podcast substantivo	/ˈpɑdˌkæst/	podcast
unravel verbo	/ˌʌnˈɹævəl/	desemaranhar
knot substantivo	/nɑt/	nó
pour verbo	/poɹ/	despejar, entornar
newsletter substantivo	/ˈn(j)uzˌlɛtɚ/	boletim, boletim informativo
cosy adjetivo	/ˈkoʊzi/	íntimo, confortável
mindset substantivo	/ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/	mentalidade
grandparent substantivo	/ˈɡɹæn(d)pɛəɹənt/	avós, avô
resonate verbo	/ˈɹɛz.əˌneɪt/	ressoar
courtroom substantivo		corte
circumstance substantivo	/ˈsɝ.kəmˌstæns/	circunstância
microphone substantivo	/ˈmaɪ.kɹəˌfəʊn/	microfone
anytime advérbio		qualquer hora
aggravate verbo	/ˈæɡ.ɹə.veɪ̯t/	agravar
depiction substantivo	/dɪˈpɪkʃən/	retrato

Phrasal verbs que você vai ouvir

Palavra	Significado
come up with verbo	pensar (em), alcançar
go down verbo	descer
look forward to verbo	ansiar por, estar ansioso para
talk back verbo	responder
turn out verbo	terminar

Frases que vale a pena repetir

Frases curtas e completas do vídeo que você pode usar na conversa do dia a dia:

When you've ever seen, like, why am I not winning this argument?
Isn't this kind of your day job?
Hey, you listening right now?
How long have you thought like this?
How dare you be in my way?

Gramática neste vídeo

As estruturas que o falante mais usa, com as palavras exatas do vídeo:

Estrutura	No vídeo
Present perfect have/has + particípio passado — uma ação passada que ainda importa agora	have poured · you've ever seen · I've been
Voz passiva be + particípio passado — o foco está no que acontece, não em quem faz	are dealt · you've been raised · are outlined
Orações relativas who / which + oração — informação extra sobre uma pessoa ou coisa	people who decide · one who speaks

Pronúncia para ficar de olho

O falante usa 119 contrações e formas reduzidas, como you're, I'm, don't. Diga-as na forma curta, do jeito que você ouve.

Os sons de “sh” e “zh”: depiction /dɪˈpɪkʃən/, friction /ˈfɹɪkʃən/, splash /splæʃ/, illustration /ˌɪləsˈtɹeɪ̯ʃən/
Palavras longas — acerte a sílaba tônica: stereotype /ˈstɛ.ɹi.əˌtaɪp/, illustration /ˌɪləsˈtɹeɪ̯ʃən/, beautifully /ˈbju.tɪ.fə.li/, supervisor /ˈsupɚˌvaɪzɚ/, apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/

Sons difíceis para falantes de português:

Consoante final — sem acrescentar um “i” depois: podcast /ˈpɑdˌkæst/, knot /nɑt/, mindset /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/, grandparent /ˈɡɹæn(d)pɛəɹənt/, resonate /ˈɹɛz.əˌneɪt/
/h/ — um sopro suave, diferente do “r”: harden /ˈhɑɹdn̩/, sweetheart /ˈswiːtˌhɑːt/
s + consoante no início — sem um “i” antes: stereotype /ˈstɛ.ɹi.əˌtaɪp/, sturdy /ˈstɜrdi/, sweatpants /ˈswɛtˌpænts/, sweetheart /ˈswiːtˌhɑːt/, splash /splæʃ/

Como praticar com este vídeo

Ouça o vídeo inteiro uma vez sem falar e anote as palavras que você não conhece.
Comece na velocidade 0,75×, faça shadowing frase por frase e volte à velocidade normal quando ficar fácil.
Grave a sua voz e compare com o original, prestando atenção a palavras como podcast, unravel, knot.

O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?

Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.

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Vocabulário e dicas de fala para esta lição

Vocabulário principal deste vídeo

Phrasal verbs que você vai ouvir

Frases que vale a pena repetir

Gramática neste vídeo

Pronúncia para ficar de olho

Como praticar com este vídeo

O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?