Практика Shadowing: TED TALK~ 不要等到三十歲才來後悔二十歲没有好好過活，人生是現在就已經開始 【中英字幕】 - Изучайте разговорный английский по видео
Выберите режим практики
Каждый режим открывает полноэкранную комнату практики.
165 предложений
Если предложения слишком короткие или длинные, нажмите Edit, чтобы их изменить.
1
Tanya Cushman Reviewer When I was in my 20s,
2
I saw my very first psychotherapy client.
3
I was a PhD student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.
4
She was a 26 -year -old woman named Alex.
5
Now, Alex walked into her first session wearing jeans
6
and a big slouchy top and she dropped onto the couch in my office
7
and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.
8
Now, when I heard this, I was so relieved.
9
My classmate got an arsonist for her first client and I got a 20 -something who wanted to talk about boys.
10
This I thought I could handle, but I didn't handle it.
11
With the funny stories that Alex would bring to session,
12
it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can down the road.
13
30's the new 20, Alex would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right.
14
Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later twenty -somethings like Alex and I had nothing but time.
15
But before long my supervisor pushed me to push Alex about her love life.
16
I pushed back.
17
I said sure she's dating down, she's sleeping with a knucklehead, but it's not like she's gonna marry the guy.
18
And then my supervisor said, not yet, but she might marry the next one.
19
Besides, the best time to work on Alex's marriage is before she has one.
20
That's what psychologists call an aha moment.
21
That was the moment I realized 30 is not the new 20.
22
Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that didn't make Alex's 20s a developmental downtime.
23
That made Alex's 20s a developmental sweet spot, and we were sitting there blowing it.
24
That was when I realized that this sort of benign neglect was a real problem and it had real consequences,
25
not just for Alex and her love life but for the careers and the families and the futures of 20 -somethings everywhere.
26
There are 50 million 20 -somethings in the United States right now.
27
We're talking about 15 % of the population,
28
or 100 % if you consider that no one's getting through adulthood without going through their 20s first.
29
Raise your hand if you're in your 20s.
30
I really want to see some 20 -somethings here.
31
Okay, y 'all, it's awesome.
32
If you work with 20 -somethings, you love a 20 -something, you're losing sleep over 20 -somethings, I want to see, okay,
33
awesome, 20 -somethings really matter.
34
So, I specialize in 20 -somethings because I believe
35
that every single one of those 50 million 20 -somethings deserves to know what psychologists,
36
sociologists, neurologists, and fertility specialists already know.
37
That claiming your 20s is one of the simplest yet most transformative things you can do for work, for love, for your happiness,
38
maybe even for the world.
39
This is not my opinion.
40
These are the facts.
41
We know that 80 % of life's most defining moments take place by age 35.
42
That means that 8 out of 10 of the decisions
43
and experiences and aha moments that make your life what it is will have happened by your mid -30s.
44
People who are over 40, don't panic.
45
This crowd is going to be fine, I think.
46
We know that the first 10 years of a career has an exponential impact on how much money you're going to earn.
47
We know that more than half of Americans are married or are living with or dating their future partner by 30.
48
We know that the brain caps off its second and last growth spurt in your 20s as it rewires itself for adulthood,
49
which means that whatever it is you want to change about yourself, now is the time to change it.
50
We know that personality change is more during your 20s than at any other time in life.
51
And we know that female fertility peaks at age 28, and things get tricky after age 35.
52
So your 20s are the time to educate yourself about your body and your options.
53
So when we think about child development, we all know that the first five years are a critical period for language and attachment in the brain.
54
It's a time when your ordinary day -to -day life has an inordinate impact on who you will become.
55
But what we hear less about is that there's such a thing as adult development, and our 20s are that critical period of adult development.
56
But this isn't what 20 -somethings are hearing.
57
Newspapers talk about the changing timetable of adulthood.
58
Researchers call the 20s an extended adolescence.
59
Journalists coined silly nicknames for 20 -somethings like Twixsters and Codults.
60
It's true.
61
As a culture, we have trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.
62
Leonard Bernstein said that to achieve great things, you need a plan and not quite enough time.
63
Isn't that true?
64
So what do you think happens when you pat a 20 -something on the head
65
and you say you have 10 extra years to start your life?
66
Nothing happens you have robbed that person of his urgency
67
and ambition and absolutely nothing happens
68
and then every day smart interesting 20 -somethings like you
69
or like your sons and daughters come into my office and say things like this I
70
know my boyfriend's no good for me
71
but this relationship doesn't count I'm just killing time
72
or they say everybody says as long as I get started on a career by the time I'm 30, I'll be fine.
73
But then it starts to sound like this.
74
My 20s are almost over and I have nothing to show for myself.
75
I had a better resume the day after I graduated from college.
76
And then it starts to sound like this.
77
Dating in my 20s was like musical chairs.
78
Everybody was running around and having fun.
79
But then sometime around 30, it was like the music turned off and everybody started sitting down.
80
I didn't want to be the only one left standing up,
81
so sometimes I think I married my husband because he was the closest chair to me at 30.
82
Where are the 20 -somethings here?
83
Do not do that.
84
Okay, now that sounds a little flip, but make no mistake, the stakes are very high.
85
When a lot has been pushed to your 30s, there is enormous 30 -something pressure to jumpstart a career, pick a city, partner up,
86
and have two or three kids in a much shorter period of time.
87
Many of these things are incompatible, and as research is just starting to show,
88
simply harder and more stressful to do all at once in our 30s.
89
The post -millennial midlife crisis isn't buying a red sports car.
90
It's realizing you can't have that career you now want.
91
It's realizing you can't have that child you now want
92
or you can't give your child a sibling too many 30 -somethings
93
and 40 -somethings look at themselves and at me sitting across the room
94
and say about their 20s what was I doing what was I thinking
95
I want to change what 20 -somethings are doing
96
and thinking here's a story about how that can go it's a story about a woman named Emma.
97
At 25 Emma came to my office because she was, in her words, having an identity crisis.
98
She said she thought she might like to work in art
99
or entertainment but she hadn't decided yet so she'd spent the last few years waiting tables instead.
100
Because it was cheaper she lived with a boyfriend who displayed his temper more than his ambition.
101
And as As hard as her 20s were, her early life had been even harder.
102
She often cried in our sessions, but then would collect herself by saying, you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.
103
Well, one day, Emma comes in and she hangs her head in her lap, and she's sobbed for most of the hour.
104
She'd just bought a new address book, and she'd spent the morning filling in her many contacts.
105
But then she'd been left staring at that empty blank that comes after the words, in case of emergency, please call.
106
She was nearly hysterical when she looked at me and said, who's going to be there for me if I get in a car wreck?
107
Who's going to take care of me if I have cancer?
108
Now, in that moment, it took everything I had not to say, I will.
109
But what Emma needed wasn't some therapist who really, really cared.
110
Emma needed a better life, and I knew this was her chance.
111
I had learned too much since I first worked with Alex to just sit there while Emma's defining decade went parading by.
112
So over the next weeks and months, I told Emma three things that every 20 -something, male or female, deserves to hear.
113
First, I told
114
Emma to forget about having an identity crisis and get some identity capital.
115
By get identity capital, I mean do something that adds value to who you are.
116
Do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next.
117
I didn't know the future of Emma's career and no one knows the future of work, but I do know this.
118
Identity capital begets identity capital.
119
So now is the time for that cross -country job, that internship, that startup you want to try.
120
I'm not discounting 20 -something exploration here, but I am discounting exploration that's not supposed to count.
121
Which, by the way, is not exploration.
122
That's procrastination.
123
I told Emma to explore work and make it count.
124
second I told
125
Emma that the urban tribe is overrated best friends are great for giving rides to the airport
126
but 20 -somethings who huddled together with like -minded peers limit
127
who they know what they know how they think how they speak
128
and where they work that new piece of capital
129
that new person to date almost always comes from outside the
130
inner circle new things come from what are called our weak ties, our friends of friends of friends.
131
So yes, half of 20 -somethings are un - or underemployed, but half aren't, and weak ties are how you get yourself into that group.
132
Half of new jobs are never posted, so reaching out to your neighbor's boss is how you get that unposted job.
133
It's not cheating, it's the science of how information spreads.
134
Last but not least, Emma believed that you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.
135
Now this was true for her growing up, but as a 20 -something,
136
soon Emma would pick her family when she partnered with someone and created a family of her own.
137
I told Emma the time to start picking your family is now.
138
Now you may be thinking that 30 is actually a better time to settle down than 20 or even 25, And I agree with you,
139
but grabbing whoever you're living with or sleeping with when everyone on Facebook starts walking down the aisle is not progress.
140
The best time to work on your marriage is before you have one, and that means being as intentional with love as you are with work.
141
Picking your family is about consciously choosing who
142
and what you want rather than just making at work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.
143
So what happened to Emma?
144
Well, we went through that address book
145
and she found an old roommate's cousin who worked at an art museum in another state.
146
That week, Ty helped her get a job there.
147
That job offer gave her the reason to leave that live -in boyfriend.
148
Now five years later, she's a special events planner for museums she's married to a man
149
she mindfully chose she loves her new career she loves her new family
150
and she sent me a card that said now the emergency contact blanks don't seem big enough now
151
Emma's story made that sound easy
152
but that's what I love about working with 20 -somethings they are so easy to help
153
20 -somethings are like airplanes just leaving LAX bound for somewhere west
154
Right after takeoff, a slight change in course is the difference between landing in Alaska or Fiji.
155
Likewise, at 21 or 25 or even 29, one good conversation, one good break,
156
one good TED Talk can have an enormous effect across years and even generations to come.
157
So here's an idea worth spreading to every 20 -something you know.
158
It's as simple as what I learned to say to Alex.
159
It's what I now have the privilege of saying to 20 -somethings like
160
Emma every single day.
161
30 is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family.
162
Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do.
163
You're deciding your life right now.
164
Thank you.
165
Thank you.
Скачать приложение
Всё для свободной речи
ИИ-оценка произношенияОценка каждой фразы
Практика IPAОсвойте каждый звук
СловарьСоберите свой словарный запас
Игра со словамиУчитесь играя
FOR YOU
Рекомендуемое видео
B26
157 предложений
If you're under 30, please watch this video…
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
C11
165 предложений
TED 中英雙語字幕: 如何讓壓力成為你的朋友
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C151
34 предложений
Don't Despair
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C11
745 предложений
Jack Ma: Love is Important In Business | Davos 2018
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C19
429 предложений
The Secret to Fixing Your Adulthood
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C13
48 предложений
Anxiety is the Dizziness of Freedom｜英文Talk：焦虑是好事，恰恰因为现代社会的流动性强
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B125
18 предложений
You Are Not Behind
American AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
C18
196 предложений
"每当我身处低谷，我就会听这段讲话”【乔布斯在斯坦福大学毕业典礼上的演讲】中英大字幕/英语长句快语速 Steve Jobs' Stanford Speech
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B22
68 предложений
Why Does Time Feel Faster As We Get Older?｜全英Talk：长大之后，时间越过越快？如何应对时间贫困？
Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students
B26
323 предложений
once i gave myself permission to not have kids, everything became easier
British AccentDaily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B22
121 предложений
What 30 Years in the "Real World" Taught Me About Happiness
Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults
B24
146 предложений
If You're Stressed About Your Future, Watch This
Daily ConversationUniversity Students
Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку
Этот урок разговорной практики построен на видео «TED TALK~ 不要等到三十歲才來後悔二十歲没有好好過活，人生是現在就已經開始 【中英字幕】». В этом видео 165 предложений и 2123 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 14:44. Говорящий держит ровный темп — около 144 слов в минуту, удобный для шедоуинга. 83% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка; остальные стоит разобрать перед занятием.
Ключевая лексика этого видео
15 слов из видео, которые стоит выучить, с произношением и значением:
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| adulthood существительное | зре́лость, взро́слость | |
| define глагол | /dɪˈfaɪn/ | определя́ть, определи́ть |
| exploration существительное | /ˌɛkspləˈɹeɪʃən/ | иссле́дование, изуче́ние |
| whoever | /huˈɛvɚ/ | кто́ бы ни, кто́ бы ни́ бы́ло |
| marry глагол | /ˈmæɹi/ | выходи́ть за́муж, вы́йти за́муж |
| discount существительное | /ˈdɪskaʊnt/ | ски́дка, диско́нт |
| enormous прилагательное | /ɪˈnɔː.məs/ | огро́мный, грома́дный |
| blank существительное | /ˈblæŋk/ | загото́вка, болва́нка |
| supervisor существительное | /ˈsupɚˌvaɪzɚ/ | нача́льник, нача́льница |
| ambition существительное | /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/ | амби́ция |
| psychologist существительное | /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/ | психо́лог |
| fertility существительное | /fɝˈtɪləti/ | плодоро́дие, плодови́тость |
| earn глагол | /ɝn/ | зараба́тывать, зарабо́тать |
| happiness существительное | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | сча́стье, ра́дость |
| ordinary прилагательное | /ˈɔɹdɪnɛɹi/ | обыкнове́нный, обы́чный |
Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите
| Слово | Значение |
|---|---|
| settle down глагол | успоко́иться |
| grow up глагол | расти́, выраста́ть |
| sit down глагол | сади́ться, сесть |
| stand up глагол | встава́ть, встать |
| turn off глагол | выключа́ть, вы́ключить |
Грамматика в этом видео
Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:
| Конструкция | В видео |
|---|---|
| Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает | has been pushed · been left · is overrated |
| Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас | have trivialized · have robbed · has been pushed |
Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание
Говорящий использует 36 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например didn't, can't, you're. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.
- Звуки «th»: therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, psychotherapy /ˌsaɪkoʊˈθɛɹəpi/
- Звуки «sh» и «zh»: exploration /ˌɛkspləˈɹeɪʃən/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/, specialist /ˈspɛʃəlɪst/, intentional /ɪnˈtɛnʃənəl/, internship /ˈɪntɜːnʃɪp/
- Длинные слова — следите за ударением: exploration /ˌɛkspləˈɹeɪʃən/, supervisor /ˈsupɚˌvaɪzɚ/, psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/, developmental /dɪˌvɛləpˈmɛntəl/, fertility /fɝˈtɪləti/
Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:
- /w/ — губы округлены, это не /v/: consequence /ˈkɑn.sɪ.kwəns/, likewise /ˈlaɪkˌwaɪz/, rewire /ɹiːˈwaɪə(ɹ)/
- /h/ — лёгкий выдох, а не русское «х»: whoever /huˈɛvɚ/, happiness /ˈhæpinɪs/, huddle /ˈhʌdəl/, hysterical /hɪˈstɛɹɪkəl/
- Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: rob /ɹɑb/, extend /ɛkˈstɛnd/, privilege /ˈpɹɪv.(ɪ.)lɪd͡ʒ/, parade /pəˈrɑd/, jeans /d͡ʒiːnz/
Как заниматься с этим видео
- Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
- Повторяйте предложение за предложением на обычной скорости, пока ваш ритм не совпадёт с ритмом говорящего.
- Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как adulthood, define, exploration.
Что такое техника Shadowing?
Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.