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I was raped when I was nine by a cousin and never told anybody until I was in my late 20s.
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Not only was I raped by a cousin,
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I was raped by a cousin and then later sexually molested by a friend of the family and then by an uncle.
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It was just an ongoing continuous thing.
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So much so that I started to think, you know, this is the way life is.
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As a result of that, got myself into a lot of trouble and believed that I was responsible for it.
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It wasn't until I was 36 years old, 36, that I connected the fact, oh, that's why I was that way.
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I always blamed myself.
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Even though intellectually I would say to other kids, I would speak to people and say, oh, the child is never to blame.
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You're never responsible for molestation in your life.
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I still believed I was responsible somehow, that I was a bad girl.
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The same thing that in some cases causes a child to be abused is the same thing
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that causes you to be abused as an adult,
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is the same thing that in your adulthood that allows you to never be able to say no to people.
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And I realized that I was the kind of child who was always searching for for love and affection and attention.
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Unfortunately there are adults who will take advantage of that and misread your intentions.
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Part of the process for me as an adult has been to come to recognize
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that my inability as an adult female to say no is the same thing
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that caused me to be victimized as a child.
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Many times I would get myself into situations as an adult where I didn't want to say no
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because I didn't want to hurt anybody's feelings.
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I didn't want to say no because I don't want anybody angry with me.
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I didn't want to say no because I don't want people to think I'm not nice.
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And it that to me has been the greatest lesson of my life is to recognize
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that I am solely responsible for it and not trying to please other people, not living my life to please other people,
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but doing what my heart says all the time.
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That's the biggest lesson.
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You know the other big lesson for me has been to
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learn not only do you have the right to do whatever you want, you have the right to change your mind.
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Like I'd say, oh but I have to
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because I said I was gonna do it
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and then later you think about it you realize I shouldn't be doing this
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but I said I was gonna do it and I don't want to make anybody upset.
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It's taken me 37 years to figure that out, to get that straight.
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I think, oh my goodness, if I had learned this 20 years ago, all the time I could have saved.
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Look where I could have been.
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I don't know if men have this problem.
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I think men who are, for instance, abused sexually or physically, that it manifests outwardly in some way,
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that their anger and their rage takes on a different kind of direction.
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I think women to a great extent, and I know many, many women who were sexually abused,
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internalize it and then allow themselves to abuse themselves later on in life.
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You know, you just don't allow yourself to be all that you can be, whereas a man will make it more external and will be angrier.
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I don't believe that anything happens without a reason, and in order to believe that is the truth, you have to believe it in all circumstances.
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If you're going to take responsibility for your life, then you have to take it in all forms.
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I certainly wish that I had been the kind of child who told the first time.
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And so because I wasn't the kind of child who did that,
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a part of my mission in life now is to encourage every other child who's abused.
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You tell.
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You tell and if they don't believe you, you keep telling.
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You tell everybody until somebody listens to you.
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If nothing else, that's part of something good that came out of that experience for me.
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Because I don't want it to happen to another child.
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I don't want another child to be afraid of saying this is what happened to me.
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I was living with my mother and living under circumstances
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that a lot of young children have to deal with today
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and if you'd asked me at the time
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if we were poor I probably would have said no because
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when you are living it
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and you don't know anything else you think that's the way life is I think
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that success is a process and I believe
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that my first Easter speech at the age of three
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and a half was the beginning and
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that every other speech every other book I read every other time I spoke in public was a building block
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so that by the time I first sat down to audition in front of a television camera,
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what allowed me to read it so comfortably and be
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so at ease with myself at that time was the fact that I'd been doing it a while.
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If I'd never read a book, I'd never spoken in public before, I would have been traumatized by it.
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So the fact that we went on the air with the Oprah Winfrey Show in 1986 nationally,
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well it's because I've been being myself since I was 19.
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I would not have been able to be as comfortable with myself had I not made mistakes on the air
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and been allowed to make mistakes on the air and understand
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that it doesn't matter there's no such thing to me as an embarrassing moment
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if I tripped and fell if my bra strap showed
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if I fell flat on my face there's no such thing as an embarrassing moment
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because I know that there is not a moment
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that I could possibly experience on the air
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that somebody else hasn't already experienced it's no big deal
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I can't be embarrassed I can't be embarrassed you can laugh at yourself
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and you can make a mistake and it's not the end of the world.
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You don't have to be perfect.
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I truly believe that thoughts are the greatest vehicle to change power and success in the world.
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Everything begins with thoughts.
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I mean, the chairs that we're sitting in, the room that we're in, all started because somebody thought it.
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I thought up
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The Color Purple for myself.
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I read the book.
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When I heard that there was going to be a movie, I started talking it up for myself.
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I felt it so intensely that I had to be a part of that movie.
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I really do believe I created it for myself.
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I wanted it more than anything in the world.
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and would have done anything to do it.
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It was all, I think, a part of the process of growth for me to recognize it can be done.
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I had done a movie called Beloved, a book written by Toni Morrison.
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I worked on that movie for 10 years, and then it came out and it bombed.
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For the longest time, when I would read people say, read that people had said it was a bomb, I would get like, ugh,
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clutched, because I couldn't even say the word bomb.
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I couldn't say it failed.
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It was, it felt like at the time, one of the biggest, you know, disasters of my career.
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It felt like the saddest thing.
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It sent me into depression.
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And what I learned from that experience is what we talk about in the book,
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is you take the thing that was the worst thing for you, the thing that was the challenge,
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and you begin to look at what it was that you really benefited, or how you benefited from that thing.
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And what I learned from that beloved experience, because at the time that it bombed, I went into depression about it.
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My former depression was eating macaroni and cheese for breakfast every morning.
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And about 40 pounds later, I was talking to a friend and they were saying, so why did this take you down so?
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And I said, because I just wanted everybody to feel about that movie the way I felt about it.
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I wanted people to understand that you could be an enslaved person, come through that and still have love.
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And the person said to me, well, I felt that.
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I said, well, I actually wanted millions of people, not just you.
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And then I decided that from all of my work going forward, and that was in 1998 when it bombed,
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I would no longer be attached to the work.
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I would allow myself to detach from it
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and just offer whatever I was doing offer it I say
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this is what I'm doing this is what I would love for you to receive it in the manner in
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which I'm giving it if you don't receive
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that then the joy for me was in the giving of it this is the other thing
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I think that's really important that I've come to on my own I just realized
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that you reach a point where you have to ask yourself what is enough what is enough and you
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You know, I live a really huge life surrounded by,
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it was actually a goal of mine when I was first doing the color purple in 1985.
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I remember writing in my journal then that if I ever get enough money, I want a house surrounded by beautiful things.
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And so I have done that, I have achieved that over and then over and then over.
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And I look around and I say, okay, you got enough.
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It's okay.
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I'm satisfied.
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I have all the things that I need and so now I can focus on how do I take what I know,
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what I've gained, who I've become in the world,
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and how can I use that in service to other people in a way that makes them happier.
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And that for me that's part of what this book is about.
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This is the thing, I remember years ago during the beloved period actually
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when I was being interviewed by a reporter
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and then about a decade later I ran into the same reporter I didn't remember her
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but she remembered me and she said yeah I remembered you I interviewed you during the beloved
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so that was a time and she said
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but no what I realized is
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that you're the same person you just to become more of yourself
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and I thought I actually think that's right I think
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that one of the reasons why I am
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so proud of myself is not just because I escaped apartheid Mississippi
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and was able to get an education and becomes successful in life it's
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because I have paid attention I have paid attention I am a great observer of my life
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and the lives of other people and every day on
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that show it was a classroom for people who were viewing but it was a major classroom for me.
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And so I learned by watching other people's dysfunction, their struggles,
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their triumphs, celebrating in their joys about the meaning of life and what it means to live a full and engaged life.
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And I learned that one of the most important things that everybody is looking for is to be validated,
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to be seen, and to know that they matter.
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And that no matter who you are, Barack Obama, The first time he came on the show as senator.
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He finished the interview and said, that good?
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Is that all right?
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Good for you?
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Beyonce, when she finished teaching me how to twerk, said, was that all right?
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When I interviewed a woman who had lost three of her children to cancer, she said, did I do okay?
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And what I realized is in one form or another, at the end of every conversation, people would say that.
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And I started to see the pattern and understood that what people really want is to know, did you hear me?
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Did you see me?
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And did what I say mean anything to you?
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And in recognizing that, I was able to become a better interviewer
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because I can give you that thing that you're looking for.
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I know how to help you be better in that seat, just as you're doing with us here today.
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Be better in that seat and tell your story in a way that when you leave here, you got what you wanted.
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I would say be easy with yourself.
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Be easy with yourself.
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And it's all going to work out because one of the primary,
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I think, principles that has led me to success is intention
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and I think clarifying the intention based on the principles
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that we set out and the guidelines and manual work that we set out in the book, clarifying the intention, your reason for being.
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I mean, we talk in the book about asking yourself the question about what you're willing to live for
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and what you're willing to die for and getting clear on that because that is really the real work of your life.
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Everybody's going to find a job that's going to be able to bring you money and you're going to be successful.
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You're going to get all of that.
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But why were you really brought here?
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By whatever means you think you got here.
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Why are you really here?
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You've come here to serve and you've come here to love.
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And how are you going to use your service in love?
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First and foremost to yourself because you've got, the work is not to make yourself perfect, but to start to begin to make yourself whole.
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How are you going to do that?
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How do you fill yourself up to be a whole person, a full person of kindness,
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of grace, and being able to offer
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that into the world along with all the wonderful skills you all are going to have?
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How do you offer that into the world in service
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that lifts you up and allows you to meet the rising of your life and lifts other people up.
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And so changing the paradigm to how, not just what am I gonna do, but how am I going to serve?
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How am I going to serve?
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And my prayer for myself since I was a little girl is God use me, God use me.
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And whether you believe in my God or your God or no God,
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the question is how can you be used in service with all this work you're putting in, all this stuff that you're doing,
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you're doing that for what?
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You're doing that to be of service, first and foremost to yourself, your family and your community.
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And then how do you push that out into the world?
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And if the world is 20 people, 20 ,000 people, 20 million people as it was with me every day,
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it does not matter because what really matters is that you're building legacy.
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This is the greatest definition of legacy I ever heard.
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When I opened my school in South Africa for young girls, one of them is here today,
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who's now grown in law school and starting work in New York.
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But I opened that school for girls who were like me.
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I grew up in rural Mississippi, no running water, no electricity.
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My grandmother and I on what I thought was a farm, and I went back and realized it was just an acre.
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It was so big in my mind.
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I went back, oh, this is not a farm.
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This is actually just a yard.
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When I was growing up there, I had a dream for myself.
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I remember being out with my grandmother washing clothes in a big iron pot because we didn't have a washing machine,
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of course, and her putting clothes on the line and saying,
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you better watch me because one day you're going to have to learn how to do this for yourself.
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And I will tell you that the voice inside myself, that all of us have, that feeling, that spirit, that inner voice.
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That voice at four years old said, Mm -mm, mm -mm, this is not going to be my life.
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But I had sense enough not to tell my grandmother.
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I had sense enough not to say that out loud, but I could feel inside myself.
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I'm not going to be doing this.
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And it turned out to be true.
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But what I do know now is what
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Maya Angelou told me about legacy.
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When I came back from opening the school, I said, Maya, the school is going to be my greatest legacy.
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These girls are amazing.
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And I can't even tell you, the Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy is going to be the great.
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She said, you have no idea what your legacy is going to be.
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I said, oh, no, I'm telling you, it's going to be these girls.
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You should have been there.
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You should have seen it.
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She was making biscuits at the time and she put the dough down
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When Maya puts the dough down get back
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She said I said you have no idea what your legacy will be
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Because your legacy is not your name on a building
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Your legacy isn't even the lives of those girls.
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It's every life you touch
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Your legacy is every life you touch and you are building your legacy here and now.
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So everything that you do going forward, every life that you encounter and experience and the way you treat yourself
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and the way you treat other people is building your legacy.
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So think about it in terms of the bigger goal and meeting the rising that is there waiting for you.
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And the fact that you've gotten here and all the things that you had to overcome means you've already won.
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So go forward, that's what I say.
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One of the challenges, especially when you're going through anything, is not allowing the emotions to take over you,
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and to be able to separate the feeling from who you know yourself to be,
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and being able to have that little space in between where you can be the observer of the feeling, when you can observe the feeling
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and not be absorbed by the feeling you can feel it
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and then take the wheel for yourself it's just like you know
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when i was eight years old i memorized invictus
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and at the time i was reciting out of the night
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that covers me black as a pit from pole the pole
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i didn't know what the hell i was talking about at eight years old
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but i did know that the last stanza i am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul,
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that had meaning for me even at eight years old.
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And so as I've grown into myself, become more of who I was meant to be,
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the mastery of that comes when you can separate those emotions and feelings from the who of who you are.
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So The Oprah Winfrey Show was on for 25 years, was the most successful television talk show in the history of all television.
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I did it for 25 years.
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Never missed a day.
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Never missed a day.
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And the reason it was the most successful is because around the second year of it,
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I changed the motivation and intention of the show.
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I went from just trying to be a talk show competing with everybody else in the rat race of ratings
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and literally sat down with my producers and said, how do we use this show as a force for good how do we
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and that came after doing three shows in a row i'd done a show with the ku klux clan
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and i realized in the middle of that show that i wasn't helping anybody i thought i was
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exposing their vitriol when in fact they were using their appearance on the show to recruit other members
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and so i could feel that going on in the audience
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and then another show that we did with on people who had infidelities
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and a husband had come on with his with his wife
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and his girlfriend the producers were so happy that they got the husband
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and the wife and the girlfriend and in the middle of
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that show the husband humiliated his wife and said she's pregnant
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on national television and when that happened i was so ashamed that that had happened on my platform I said,
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this will never happen to me again, and I will never do a show like the Klan again.
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And so my producers were like, well, what are we going to do?
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I said, we're going to turn this around,
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and we're going to, nobody bring me an idea that you are not clear about what the intention is.
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And we are going to only do shows that come from the intention of how can we best serve the audience.
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And I'm telling you, after every show, there was a meeting to say, did we serve the intention?
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Did we do what we say we wanted to do? and how can we do it better the next time.
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And that is when the joy, the happiness, the level of satisfaction,
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the level of pleasure and everything changed for me in doing that show.
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And it's also when the numbers took off.
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All sort of happened at the same time, but it was because it was intentional.
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and we were trying to use it as a service and not just as a show.
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My favorite quotes of all time is Martin Luther King, who says, not everybody can be famous,
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but everybody can be great because greatness is determined by service.
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And what I found is no matter what it is you're doing for other people,
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no matter how tedious or menial the job may seem to you,
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that if you shift the paradigm of whatever your work is to how do I use this to serve, How can I be of service?
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Whether it's your talents, whatever it is you're offering, if it is offered in service, the shifting of the paradigm to I'm going to use
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this to serve makes a world of difference in the way you put
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that energy out into the world and the way that it comes back to you.
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That's what I learned from doing the show.
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My life is fueled by my being and the being fuels the doing.
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So I come from a centered place.
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I come from a focused place.
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I come from compassion, it's just my nature.
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I come from a willingness to understand and to be understood.
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And I come from wanting to connect.
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I mean, the secret of that show for 25 years is that people could see themselves in me.
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All over the world, they could see themselves in me.
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And even as I became more and more financially successful, which was a big surprise to me,
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I was like, oh my god, this is so exciting.
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I got more than 30 ,000 by the time I was 30.
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So, but what I realized is through the whole process, because I'm grounded in my own self,
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that although I could have more shoes, my feet stayed on the ground, although I was wearing better shoes.
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So I could keep my feet on the ground, even though I could get more shoes.
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And I could understand, I could understand that it really was because I was grounded,
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was doing and continue to this day to do the consciousness work.
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I work at staying awake.
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And being awakened is just another word for spirituality, but spirituality throws people off and they think you mean religion.
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When I was hiring people for my company looking for presidents, when people would come in,
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I'd say, tell me, what is your spiritual practice? and literally people go, well, I'm not religious.
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I said, I didn't ask you about your religion.
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I asked you what's your spiritual practice.
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What do you do to take care of yourself?
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What do you do to keep yourself centered?
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What do you do to the, and you know, one woman started crying, you know, that's not the person.
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Everything is fueled that comes from me really wanting to be a better person on earth.
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And this is what I know to be true.
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The reason why the show worked is because I understood that audience,
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my viewers, the people who watched us every day and would come and just like you all did,
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get tickets and they would come with their family.
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You all just came across campus, but that's good too.
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People would come from all over the world just to be there with their aunts
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and their mothers and they'd come with their cousins and there'd be a few men in there going, what the hell?
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Or saying, well, I went to Oprah with you.
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I went to Oprah and I'll at least give me clear for three or four weeks I went to Oprah with you.
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I had such regard for that and I just had a conversation with John Mackey who runs
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Whole Food and has written this fabulous book you should get it called Conscious Capitalism
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and he was talking about how the investment in the stakeholders the people who you are serving
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that connection between the people who you're trying to serve
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and sell to is equally as important as the people who you're buying from, equally as important as the people who are,
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you know, supporting you financially, as your stockholders if you are, you know, a public company.
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So I always understood that there really was no difference between me and the audience.
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At times I might have had better shoes, but at the core of what really matters, that we are the same.
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And you know how I know that? because all of us are seeking the same thing.
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You're here at this fabulous school and we'll go out into the world
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and each pursue based upon what you believe your talents are, what your skills are, maybe your gifts are,
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but you're seeking the same thing.
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Everybody wants to fulfill the highest, truest expression of yourself as a human being.
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That's what you're looking for the highest, truest expression of yourself as a human being.
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And because I understand that, I understand that if you're working in a bakery and that's where you want to be,
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that may be what you've always wanted to do is to bake pies for people
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or bake cakes for people or to offer your gift, then that's for you.
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And there's no difference between you and me, except that's your platform.
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That's your show every day.
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So my understanding of that.. has allowed me to reach everyone.
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And there's no way that you wouldn't, because that's what I truly feel.
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I first came across this question,
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what happened to you, when I was doing an interview with Dr. Bruce Perry a couple of years ago for 60
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Minutes Story I was doing.
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Now I've known Dr. Perry for over 30 years.
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I first started interviewing him in the early 90s, late 80s, early 90s on the Oprah show,
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when we were talking about raising children and how important it is those first zero to six years.
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So I've been hearing about what it means to nurture and support the brain early on.
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It wasn't until that conversation a couple of years ago.
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I don't know whether, I think it's because of where I was in my life at the time.
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I opened a school in South Africa.
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I've had these wonderful, brilliant girls who come from traumatic backgrounds.
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grow up and have really serious mental health issues.
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And I was trying to, at the time, figure out what are we doing wrong at our school?
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Something's really wrong here.
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And in that interview with Dr. Perry,
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he said, you know, most people ask the question when kids are not behaving the way you want them to behave, or what's wrong with them,
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we really should be asking about what's happened to you.
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It was like a major moment, like I got it in a way that I hadn't received it before.
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And I realized that it's not just for children that you ask that question, but it's really everybody.
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And that moment, Bruce, as I've said to you many times, Dr. Perry, changed the way I saw my relationships, how I saw my own life,
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how I interacted with people.
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And even in politics where it was so crazy in the past four years, and everybody's always talking about what's wrong, what's wrong, what's wrong.
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I would always say, I wonder what happened to that person.
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I wonder what happened to them younger that caused them to be this way.
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So all of the labels that you just gave, Jay, there is a world of labels.
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There is, you know, overachiever.
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There is, you know, obsessive compulsive moms, soccer moms.
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There is the desire to, you know, please people all the time.
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There's a multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple labels that refer back to what happened to us.
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And so I will just say this.
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One of the things that Bruce says in the book, each of us comes into the world with our own worldview.
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And that worldview is actually shaped from the crib.
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And you get from the world what you project into the world
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and you project into the world what you were raised with and what you were raised around.
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So that's why what happened to you is the essential question.
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The younger the children are, the more influence you have, not only on who they become,
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but on what their brain becomes because if you're surrounded by chaos
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and dysfunction and loudness and disorder at a zero to two months,
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it means the synapse in your brain doesn't form in the way that it does in children who have had that.
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And you are more likely for behavioral problems, health problems, all other problems in life,
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just because you didn't get what you needed from zero to two months.
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That is what is so amazing.
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I thought trauma prior to my conversations with Bruce in doing this book,
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I thought trauma had to be a big gigantic thing, experience.
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You had to go through a tsunami, literally, if not literally a tsunami, a tsunami -like crisis in your life a fire,
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a hurricane, a tragedy, a car accident, a stabbing, somebody died.
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And it was through co -authoring this book with him that I understood that it was the consistent little things.
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It was the aggressions and microaggressions in a person's life that causes them to have their own worldview.
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Whatever that worldview is for you is different from me.
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So the biggest learning for me is that trauma doesn't have to have a great big old capital T on it.
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It's really how you were loved.
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And that neglect and trauma are hand in hand because both are equally as toxic.
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Over the years of interviewing people, it was my greatest classroom.
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I was always paying attention to what people were saying and paying attention to their lives.
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And what I understood and could articulate, not through science, but just through my own observation,
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is that, oh, people are as dysfunctional, as unhappy,
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as.. disoriented in their lives based on how far they are from the center of themselves.
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And the center is where wholeness lies, as you know.
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And so where there is no center and there is no sense of wholeness and love for yourself,
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there's going to be disarray, chaos, confusion, and, you know, dysfunction in your life.
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And I saw that over and over and over again, that people behave based on how they were loved
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and then how they were able to process that in a way to love other people.
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Well, you start with understanding that your cup being full is how you allow yourself to give to other people.
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You can't give what you don't have.
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You can't love if you haven't been loved.
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You don't even know how to begin to do that.
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So I think it begins with fundamentally understanding that you are worthy enough,
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you are valuable enough, you matter enough to give yourself the love that you deserve.
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And that starts by taking out time for yourself.
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So I have my own rhythm and pattern.
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I know that if I go six days and then on the seventh, by the seventh or eighth,
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don't give myself a break that lots of other things give.
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That I'm not as alert, I'm not as attuned, I'm not as centered, I'm not as focused.
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So I know that that is my limit.
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I cannot go beyond a certain amount of days.
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And for me, walking in nature is my solace.
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It is where I feel that I am one with all and all being, you know, all creation and connected.
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For other people, it may be dancing, it may be music, it may be knitting,
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it may be whatever it is that brings some kind of rhythmic pattern into your life.
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Actually, it was Bruce and I were walking on my campus in South Africa, and there were a group of girls dancing,
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literally, on the lawn, because Lord knows they love to dance.
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And Bruce says, oh, that's not just fun.
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I said, oh, they're just having fun.
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And Bruce said, oh, they're not just having fun, they actually are healing themselves.
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The rhythmic pattern, that's why when you've been in an argument with someone
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or you're in the middle of an argument with somebody,
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if you just go and take a walk or you go and turn on some music and you start dancing,
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if you just have some form of movement, you feel better.
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That's number one.
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Number two, one of the most important things most most important takeaways from
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what happened to you i believe is understanding how the brain works
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and that diagram that's on page 26
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or 27 about the inverted brain being like a triangle
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so you see
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that beginning with the brain stem that's the lower part of the brain all the way to the cortex
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and through the limbic area you understand that um you understand
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that when you're upset or in fear or angry
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or are in an antagonized state
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and you're trying to reason with a person a child your spouse your boss your friend
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they literally cannot hear you because the reasoning part of the brain is in the cortex
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and what you're saying is only reaching the brain stem
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So whenever somebody is dysregulated, which is what that is, being anxious and fearful and yelling and screaming,
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the thing to do is to calm yourself first.
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Then you will be able to help that other person get calm and regulated.
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That's how you get to reason.
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But if you both are just yelling at each other, literally, and you're going, you don't hear me and you don't hear me either.
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They actually cannot hear you.
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That's what I thought was so fascinating.
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I was in a boardroom having to confront someone in my 40s
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and I had so much anxiety about the fact that I was going to have to have this confrontation with somebody.
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Normal disagreements would cause me a great sense of angst
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and worry and oh my god and what's going to happen and I just said what where is this coming from?
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Why am I so afraid when I am the one in the power seat?
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I am Oprah Winfrey running the Harpo Studios, my name spelled backwards, I'm the person in charge,
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and in order to have a disagreement with somebody I go through so much angst.
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And I realized, Jay, that even though I had the power.
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I still felt that every confrontation, I was going to get a whipping, that a whipping was going to result.
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That thing that used to come up inside me when I had to walk to get my own switch.
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Oh, where is this feeling coming?
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I'm feeling like in every confrontation, I'm going to get a whipping.
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And at the end of it, that person's going to be mad at me.
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And at the end of it, that person's going to say, you better not act like you're mad.
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You know, all the things that happened to me as a kid.
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So it wasn't until I was a full -grown adult in my own seat of,
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you know, perceived power, feeling those feelings of anxiety and anxiousness, having to have the slightest bit of confrontation.
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So what I say in what happened to me is that being beaten as a child,
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having to be subservient to other people's ideals of what it means to be a child meaning you are seen
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and not heard so i've grown up to have this big personality
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but being raised in an environment where children are seen
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and not heard and your opinions do not matter
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so what happened to me taught me
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that my opinions do not matter keep your opinions to yourself
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and do whatever you can to please other people so
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that other people will like you so that other people will not be upset with you.
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And I will have to tell you, it is also for me, not for everybody else, but for me,
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one of the reasons why I was so susceptible to sexual abuse,
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because I had been taught and trained not to speak up for myself,
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that whatever somebody wanted to do who was older than me or in a position of authority,
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that they had rights that I did not so that what happened to me was ingrained in a way that,
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you know, literally caused me to be a major people pleaser for a great deal of my life.
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If you come into success and fame, and particularly fame, because fame is its own world and definition,
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because it really is based upon what other people think of you.
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So because fame isn't what you think of yourself, it's what other people think of you.
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If you come into that and you don't have a grounded,
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centered self, you will be controlled by the outside instead of the inside.
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And if you come into that not in the fullness of knowing who you are
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and what you're supposed to do with that fame.
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Whenever somebody likes you or doesn't like you, that determines whether or not you're having a good day or a bad day.
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And you have lost control of your own life.
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So I think what fame teaches you quickly is to grow the wholeness within yourself
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so that you're not controlled by others' outside opinions of you.
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I have people that I trust and one of the things
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that if I may pat myself on the back for is
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that I try to surround myself with people who are smarter than I am.
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I think that the ability to be as good as you can be comes from understanding who you are
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and what you can and cannot do
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and what you can't do is far more important than what you can do
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if what you can't do is going to keep you from flying as high as you can.
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I think the most important thing to get ahead falls back to what what I truly believe in
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and that is the ability to seek truth in your life
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and that's on all forms you have to be honest with yourself you can be pursuing a profession
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because your parents say it's the best thing you can be pursuing a profession
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because you think you'll make a lot of money you can be pursuing a profession
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because you think you're gonna get a lot of attention none of
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that will do you any good if you're not being honest with yourself
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and the honesty comes from your your natural born instinct will tell you
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when you're doing something whether or not this feels right you feel a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment
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and worthiness to the world in such a way
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that you know you're doing the right thing you don't have to ask anybody
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when you're doing the right thing you don't have to say you think this is okay
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it's like and it works on every level whether
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or not you're going to a party or you're choosing a dress
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or you're choosing a friend
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if you ever have to say do you think this is okay chances are it is not
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because that's your instinct trying to get you to ask yourself that question maybe this isn't okay
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คำศัพท์และข้อสังเกตด้านการพูดสำหรับบทเรียนนี้
บทเรียนฝึกพูดนี้ใช้วิดีโอ “Oprah Winfrey - You Will Never Be The Same Again” เป็นสื่อ วิดีโอนี้มี 517 ประโยค และ 6916 คำ สำหรับฝึกพูดตาม ช่วงที่มีเสียงพูดยาว 39:38 ผู้พูดพูดด้วยความเร็วเป็นธรรมชาติ ประมาณ 174 คำต่อนาที ใกล้เคียงกับบทสนทนาในชีวิตประจำวัน 86% ของคำอยู่ใน 3,000 คำที่ใช้บ่อยที่สุดในภาษาอังกฤษ ส่วนที่เหลือควรดูไว้ก่อนเริ่มฝึก
คำศัพท์สำคัญในวิดีโอนี้
คำที่ควรเรียนรู้ 15 คำจากวิดีโอ พร้อมคำอ่านและความหมาย:
| คำศัพท์ | คำอ่าน | ความหมาย |
|---|---|---|
| legacy คำนาม | /ˈlɛɡəsi/ | มรดก |
| intention คำนาม | /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/ | ความตั้งใจ |
| fame คำนาม | /feɪm/ | ชื่อเสียง, ศักดิ์ศรี |
| cousin คำนาม | /ˈkʌz(ə)n/ | ลูกพี่ลูกน้อง |
| trauma คำนาม | /ˈtɹɔm.ə/ | การบาดเจ็บ |
| surround คำกริยา | /səˈɹaʊnd/ | ล้อม |
| lesson คำนาม | /ˈlɛs.ən/ | บทเรียน |
| producer คำนาม | /pɹəˈdjuːsə/ | ผู้ผลิต |
| label คำนาม | /ˈleɪ.bəl/ | ฉลาก |
| classroom คำนาม | /ˈklɑːsɹʊm/ | ห้องเรียน |
| grandmother คำนาม | /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/ | ย่า, ยาย |
| whip คำนาม | /ˈwɪp/ | แส้ |
| tsunami คำนาม | /(t)suːˈnɑːmi/ | สึนามิ, คลื่นยักษ์ |
| wash คำกริยา | /wɑʃ/ | ล้าง, ซัก |
| anxiety คำนาม | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | ความวิตกกังวล |
กริยาวลีที่คุณจะได้ยิน
| คำศัพท์ | ความหมาย |
|---|---|
| go back คำกริยา | กลับไป |
| take off คำกริยา | ถอด |
ประโยคที่ควรฝึกพูดซ้ำ
ประโยคสั้น ๆ ที่สมบูรณ์จากวิดีโอ ซึ่งนำไปใช้ในบทสนทนาประจำวันได้:
- Why are you really here?
- How are you going to do that?
- How am I going to serve?
- I'd say, tell me, what is your spiritual practice?
- What do you do to take care of yourself?
ไวยากรณ์ในวิดีโอนี้
โครงสร้างที่ผู้พูดใช้บ่อยที่สุด พร้อมคำพูดจริงจากวิดีโอ:
| โครงสร้าง | ในวิดีโอ |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — การกระทำที่เริ่มก่อนหน้านี้และยังดำเนินอยู่ | I've been being · I've been hearing |
| Present perfect have/has + กริยาช่อง 3 — เหตุการณ์ในอดีตที่ยังเกี่ยวข้องกับปัจจุบัน | has been · hasn't already experienced · I've come |
| Passive voice be + กริยาช่อง 3 — เน้นสิ่งที่เกิดขึ้น ไม่ใช่ผู้กระทำ | was raped · be abused · be victimized |
| Relative clauses who / which + อนุประโยค — ข้อมูลเพิ่มเติมเกี่ยวกับคนหรือสิ่งของ | men who are · women who were · people who were |
การออกเสียงที่ควรระวัง
ผู้พูดใช้รูปย่อและรูปลดเสียง 154 ครั้ง เช่น you're, don't, I'm ให้พูดแบบสั้นตามที่ได้ยิน
- เสียง “th”: grandmother /ˈɡɹæn(d)ˌmʌðɚ/, seventh /ˈsɛvənθ/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, eighth /eɪtθ/, rhythm /ˈɹɪð.əm/
- เสียง “sh” และ “zh”: intention /ɪnˈtɛnʃn̩/, confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, profession /pɹəˈfɛʃ.ən/, dysfunction /dɪsˈfʌŋk.ʃən/, wash /wɑʃ/
- คำยาว — ลงเสียงหนักให้ถูกพยางค์: confrontation /ˌkɑn.fɹənˈteɪ.ʃən/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, spirituality /ˌspɪɹ.ə.t͡ʃuˈæl.ə.tɪ/, electricity /ɪˌlɛkˈtɹɪsɪti/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/
เสียงที่คนไทยมักออกเสียงยาก:
- เสียงท้ายคำ — ออกเสียงให้ครบ ไม่เปลี่ยนเป็นตัวสะกดแบบไทย: label /ˈleɪ.bəl/, wash /wɑʃ/, spiritual /ˈspɪɹɪt͡ʃuəl/, principle /ˈpɹɪn.sɪ.pəl/, chaos /ˈkeɪˌɑs/
- /v/ — ไม่ใช่ /w/ ให้ฟันบนแตะริมฝีปากล่าง: beloved /bɪˈlʌvd/, seventh /ˈsɛvənθ/, behave /bɪˈheɪv/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, overcome /ˌəʊ.vəˈkʌm/
- /z/ — เสียงก้อง ไม่ใช่ /s/: cousin /ˈkʌz(ə)n/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, observer /əbˈzɝvɚ/, whereas /(h)wɛɹˈæz/, disaster /dɪˈzɑːs.təː/
วิธีฝึกกับวิดีโอนี้
- ฟังวิดีโอให้จบหนึ่งรอบโดยยังไม่ต้องพูด แล้วจดคำที่ยังไม่รู้จัก
- เริ่มที่ความเร็ว 0.75× พูดตามทีละประโยค แล้วกลับไปใช้ความเร็วปกติเมื่อเริ่มคล่อง
- อัดเสียงตัวเองแล้วเทียบกับต้นฉบับ โดยสังเกตคำอย่าง legacy, intention, fame เป็นพิเศษ
เทคนิค Shadowing คืออะไร?
Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ