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The losers, the conversations that produced the worst connection, the most awkwardness were, what do you do?

Why?

So these last two, how are you and what do you do?

They're very socially scripted, right?

The moment we ask those questions, our brain goes into autopilot.

So there's a lack, it's more of a performance.

There's a lack of excitement in the conversation.

And they ran out of things to talk about.

They're fact -based questions.

And this is the trap of what we'll call level one conversation, which is you are trapped in fact.

Where are you from? got any kids, married, the facts are dead ends, right?

So it's very hard for someone to break out of that fact because they're stuck in that social script.

The best conversation starter was actually a sneaker.

I was like, well, interesting that this one did best by lot.

It was, what was the highlight of your day?

Now, what this question does psychologically, it sounds casual.

Well, first of all, it's not too deep.

A mistake that extroverts can make is they ask too deep, too quickly, right?

They're like, what is your greatest goal in life?

And you're like, I don't know you, right?

So it's not too deep, but it's a subtle replacement for how are you.

You're actually asking the other person's brain to search for optimism.

You're literally inviting their brain to think like, what was good?

And then they think, well, highlighted my day.

So one, we just broke autopilot.

The moment someone goes, oh, and they're thinking for the first time, their brain goes, ooh, we get to do something new.

So they got to think of something new, and it was immediate.

It wasn't like a too big of a question.

The second question was, have anything exciting you're working on?

This is kind of a subtle replacement for what do you do, right?

If someone likes what they do, they're going to talk about it, but they're going to reframe it in something exciting.

And if someone isn't defined by what they do, they're going to share something better.

The third question, very, very simple, was do you have any fun plans coming up?

These questions, the first three, are literally searching for good.

You're inviting the other person to only think about good things and we're juicing excitement from other parts of their life.

Now the fourth question, this fourth question, people either loved it or they hated it.

They either gave it a five, that was like the most connective thing I felt all week,

or a zero, and a zero wasn't even an option on my scale.

It was the question, what's your story?

Extroverts tend to default to that question because they want to go a little bit deeper.

But actually, that is a level three question.

It is way too advanced.

For someone who's introverted or someone who has never framed their story that quickly, they're immediately put into cortisol.

They're immediately put into fight or flight.

They're like, what's my story?

How can I give that to you so quickly?

So you're by accident putting them into conversational fear.

This is when I realized there's a hierarchy.

Dr. Dan McAdams found that conversation is actually not as fluid as we would like to think

that actually when we're trying to connect with someone else, we are trying to move through three distinct levels.

Level one is called general traits.

This is why in those first few minutes, you're basically trying to Google fact check someone.

Like, where are you from?

What do you do?

Married.

Where do you live in LA?

Right?

Like you're trying to ask all those questions because there's a sort of social hierarchy.

Our brain processes social facts from least intimate to most intimate.

So we cannot get to know someone on their deepest dreams and worries if we don't know the basic facts about them.

So that is why we often fall into that trap of those fact -based questions.

The key here is that really good level one question is taking those facts but adding story, but adding emotion.

So the best way to do level one better is you're swapping out those bad questions, right?

How are you?

What do you do?

With looking for a story.

I truly believe a fact is a stop sign.

A story is a doorway.

Okay, so one of them, we actually can place it on here, is what's your personal passion project, okay?

Now, what's your personal passion project is actually a hunt for stories, right?

And would you open with that?

Is that what you're saying?

Or is it doesn't really matter?

It has to come.

It can come in the first few minutes.

Now, I probably wouldn't walk into a room and be like, what's your personal passion project, Stephen?

Right?

It's a little bit much.

We have to do our basic first impression, and we can talk about, you know, first 10 words in a little bit.

But as an opener question, it's better than how are you.

And I have to pause here and say, everything I'm going to share takes a little bit of conversational courage.

It's really safe to ask how are you.

It's really safe to ask what do you do.

But if you want to be memorable, if you want to actually spark connection, those won't serve you.

So it does take a little bit of courage to ask this, but the answers you're going to get are incredibly interesting.

You're going to get stories.

You're going to get a hint at values.

If you want to know if they're married or have kids, they probably will tell you by accident.

So it's like a hunt for stories.

Same with, I mentioned this one in the study, so working on anything exciting these days.

This is, again, one of my favorite swap questions because you're hunting for something good.

Now, when I think about conversation in level one, you're trying to gift someone a chemical cocktail.

a little bit.

And I think in level one, these two questions are doing a lot of heavy lifting.

They are now competing with your feed.

I went to a PTA meeting recently, and those are torture, if you've ever been to one for any parents watching.

What's a PTA meeting?

Oh, a parent -teacher meeting.

Okay.

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Right.

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So a bunch of other parents in the room.

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And I wanted to go meet other moms because I just moved across the country to try to meet more people.

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And I was excited.

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I was like, Okay, I'm going to meet more moms.

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Here we go.

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And I walk in the room and everyone's scrolling.

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Everyone's on their feed.

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And I realize, wow, conversation now is not just about a way for me to make friends.

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It actually has to compete with that feed.

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I have to make my questions and my answers so dopamine worthy that they're actually going to beat that feed.

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Otherwise, they're going to go right back to their phone.

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That is why these have to do more lifting because if I want to compete with the feed, I have to produce dopamine,

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a little bit of excitement, a little bit of motivation.

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I also have to create what I would call, forgive me for this word, but conversational confetti.

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This is like, we got to lift a little bit more in our conversations

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because otherwise someone's going to go right back to scrolling.

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Their brain is somewhere else.

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Either their brain is in their email list or their brain is on their feed.

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When I was studying amazing conversationalists, one of the one people I studied is Howard Stern.

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So however you feel about Howard Stern, he is a master conversationalist.

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I mean, he can carry on long, very interesting.

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He gets people to say things that I could never imagine.

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So I analyzed thousands of transcripts of his interviews, and I found one pattern.

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He does a very good job of creating information gaps.

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So he'll say, what's the weirdest thing you've ever done?

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Or he'll say, the most surprising thing that happened to me yesterday, you want to hear what it was?

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And your brain doesn't like not knowing.

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So when it hears the most surprising, the weirdest, the biggest, the worst, the most embarrassing, the brain creates this gap.

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Like it's this information gap where the brain is like, I have to know what is the weirdest thing.

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So also what happens with these kinds of questions is we're creating these little information gaps

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and actually saying and using in conversation these phrases is a way that we can create more intrigue and interest.

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And I know that sounds like, what?

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But think about this.

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If something crazy happened to you yesterday and you walk into dinner

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and you're like guys the craziest thing happened to me yesterday everyone's like phones down right

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now I couldn't say something boring

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I couldn't be like I was stuck in traffic yeah unless you want to be funny

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but I think that looking for opportunities to create

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that little bit of conversational confetti they come up with questions like this this is the last one

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so have any fun plans coming up

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now the reason why this one is important I agonized over this over this third question

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because there's three questions for each level is have any fun

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plans coming up is a subtle way to bring up potential shared future psychologically speaking we bond with someone

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when we feel like we could do something fun with them

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or they're doing something fun that i would also like to do i think

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that part of these questions is being known for asking better questions like being known for searching for hunting

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or hunting for excitement because what happen is with people who know you at work

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or your work friends or outside of work friends is they'll bring these things to you.

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They know that you're going to ask out personal passions.

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So next time you get to say, hey, last time we were talking, you mentioned XYZ.

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How's that going?

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So they also become your callbacks.

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They make conversation easier later.

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שיעור הדיבור הזה מבוסס על הסרטון “Good communicator secrets nobody tells you”. בסרטון הזה יש 153 משפטים ו-1728 מילים לתרגול Shadowing. הדיבור נמשך 8:37. הדובר מדבר מהר, כ-201 מילים בדקה, אז צפו לצלילים מחוברים ומקוצרים. 87% מהמילים נמצאות בין 3,000 המילים הנפוצות ביותר באנגלית, כך שקל לעקוב אחרי אוצר המילים. 36 מתוך 153 המשפטים שלו הם שאלות, כך שזה תרגול טוב לאינטונציה של שאלות ולתשובות קצרות.

אוצר מילים מרכזי בסרטון הזה

15 מילים מהסרטון שכדאי ללמוד, עם ההגייה והמשמעות שלהן:

מילה	הגייה	משמעות
passion שם עצם	/ˈpæʃən/	תְשׁוּקָה
excitement שם עצם	/ɪkˈsaɪtmənt/	הִתְרַגְּשׁוּת, הִתְפַּעֲלוּת
compete פועל	/kəmˈpiːt/	התחרה
trap שם עצם	/tɹæp/	מלכודת, מַלְכֹּדֶת
courage שם עצם	/ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/	אֹמֶץ
invite פועל	/ɪnˈvaɪt/	הִזְמִין
scroll שם עצם	/skɹoʊl/	מגילה, מְגִלָּה
hierarchy שם עצם	/ˈhaɪ.ə.ɹɑː(ɹ).ki/	הִיֵרַרכִיָה \ הייררכיה
connect פועל	/kəˈnɛkt/	חיבר
juice שם עצם	/d͡ʒuːs/	מִיץ
impression שם עצם	/ɪmˈpɹɛʃn̩/	רושם, רֹשֶׁם
define פועל	/dɪˈfaɪn/	הגדיר
phrase שם עצם	/ˈfɹeɪ̯z/	צֵרוּף לָשׁוֹן, מִשְׁפָּט
default שם עצם	/dɪˈfɔlt/	ברירת מחדל
distinct שם תואר	/dɪˈstɪŋkt/	מֻבְחָן, נִבְדָּל

משפטים שכדאי לחזור עליהם

משפטים קצרים ושלמים מהסרטון שאפשר להשתמש בהם בשיחה יומיומית:

It was, what was the highlight of your day?
They're like, what is your greatest goal in life?
It was the question, what's your story?
They're like, what's my story?
Is that what you're saying?

דקדוק בסרטון הזה

המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:

מבנה	בסרטון
סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה	are trapped · isn't defined · is called
הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו	has never framed · you've ever been · you've ever done
משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר	conversation, which is · someone who has · people who know

הגייה ששווה לשים לב אליה

הדובר משתמש ב-54 קיצורים וצורות מקוצרות, כמו you're, they're, we're. אמרו אותם בצורה הקצרה, כפי שאתם שומעים אותם.

הצלילים של “sh” ו-“zh”: passion /ˈpæʃən/, impression /ɪmˈpɹɛʃn̩/, casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/
מילים ארוכות — שימו לב להטעמה: hierarchy /ˈhaɪ.ə.ɹɑː(ɹ).ki/, incredibly /ɪŋˈkɹɛdɪbli/, motivation /ˈmoʊ.tə.veɪ.ʃən/, optimism /ˈɑptɪmɪzəm/, conversational /ˌkɒnvə(ɹ)ˈseɪʃənəl/

צלילים שדוברי עברית מתקשים בהם:

/w/ — שפתיים מעוגלות, לא /v/: swap /ˈswɑp/, worthy /ˈwɝ.ði/, doorway /ˈdɔɹweɪ/
/æ/ — פתוח יותר מה-“אֶ” העברית, לא כמו “a” ב-“cup”: passion /ˈpæʃən/, trap /tɹæp/, gap /ɡæp/, casual /ˈkæʒ(u)əl/, analyze /ˈæn.əˌlaɪz/
/r/ — הלשון לא נוגעת בשום מקום, לא ה-“ר” הגרונית: trap /tɹæp/, replacement /ɹɪˈpleɪsmənt/, script /skɹɪpt/, courage /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/, scroll /skɹoʊl/

איך לתרגל עם הסרטון הזה

הקשיבו לכל הסרטון פעם אחת בלי לדבר, ורשמו את המילים שאתם לא מכירים.
התחילו במהירות 0.75×, תרגלו Shadowing משפט אחר משפט, וחזרו למהירות רגילה כשזה מרגיש קל.
הקליטו את עצמכם והשוו למקור, תוך תשומת לב למילים כמו passion, excitement, compete.

מהי טכניקת השאדואינג?

שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.

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