Shadowing Practice: just let them. - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Don't control things you can't control.
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They don't want to support you because they're jealous.
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Sometimes we just have to not give a fuck.
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It doesn't matter what they're doing because we're all gonna end up in the fucking ground anyway.
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Right now is what matters.
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Who gives a fuck?
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I'm just a little piece of dot.
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To be cringe is to be free.
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Fuck haters, like they're insignificant.
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Hi guys, welcome back to my channel.
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Today we are gonna be talking about not controlling people's perceptions of us
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or in other words as the title of the video goes just let them okay
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and i i didn't really write down my thoughts we're just
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gonna revolve this whatever the fuck you want to say like how i used to do my journal entry
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so i just come on here
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and rant nowadays i kind of like write on my notebook what i want to talk about
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because sometimes i really just go off on a tangent
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and i'm like okay as 2026 come to an end
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and actually moving to new york i realized
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that something i'm not proud of is is
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that I feel like I tend to think too much about how others perceive me, okay?
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And I just recently finished this book called The Courage to be Disliked.
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I'm actually going to make another video on here reviewing that book because I marked it up.
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And it actually taught me a lot of things.
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Like, I didn't think that a book can teach me things about life.
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Usually, they just say all the same type of stuff.
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Like, it's just, you know,
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like, I already know that.
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So why didn't you tell me this, you know?
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But actually, surprisingly, it actually taught me a lot of things.
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And I was like, wow, this is very valuable.
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Like, I never thought of things this way.
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And so I want to make a video on that for you guys.
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And something I really reflected on was just the fact that,
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you know, like, yeah, we should have the courage to be disliked
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and also just live in freedom and not within expectations of others.
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And, you know, sometimes you say that, right?
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Actually doing that in practice is very hard.
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And I think for me,
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I started caring what people think,
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you know, and for a very long time,
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that wasn't like the case.
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And I think I was just comfortable,
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you know, even filming videos.
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Like I used to be very uncomfortable doing that.
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I was like, oh, like people are going to care now, you know.
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But the thing is that the more you do it,
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you get more confidence in it.
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And they say that like,
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you know, when you do something continuously,
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it's like you build a habit.
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And it takes at least like 30 days for you to build like an actual like a habit, you know.
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And so the more you do it,
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the more it becomes easier.
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And that's something that's very powerful.
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Because once you know that,
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you can almost do pretty much anything.
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Because you just need to accept that it's going to be uncomfortable at the beginning.
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You know, everyone starts somewhere, right?
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But then you compare, right?
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It's like, I always thought that I wouldn't fall into like the loop of comparing.
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And then when I compare,
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I'm like, oh my god.
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You know, like people do so much better than me.
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Like people are just smarter than me, prettier than me.
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It's just like, then you feel like shit.
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And then you're like, I don't want to try anything.
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Like it doesn't even matter.
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I don't want to do this because I don't want to be a beginner.
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Like I just don't want to do that.
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But then it's like, so what?
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You know, like so what?
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And sometimes that really calms me down because like I'm kind of like a control freak, you know?
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And I'm like, oh my God, what happens with this?
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What happens with that?
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Don't control things that you can't control.
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And let me say that one more time.
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Don't control things you can't control because that is just such a waste of energy.
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You cannot control it.
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So why are you wasting your time thinking about that?
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You know, the quicker you come to terms with that,
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the more peaceful you will be at.
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Just let them, you know,
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doing certain things that is our comfort zone and people are judging you for it.
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Okay.
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Just let them, let them judge you because who cares?
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You need to live your life in absolute freedom.
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That is very important because you can't live your life like,
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oh, what are they going to think of me?
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It's very exhausting living that way.
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And you don't live a fulfilling life that way.
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Okay.
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It prevents you from doing a lot of things that you want to do.
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And it makes you scared.
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You know, you need to live in the way where you have to do things,
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especially in this coming new year If you have some like,
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you know, new year's resolution at least for me It's like i'm just gonna do things.
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I like i'm just gonna be not like in my little bubble Like
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because that makes it sound like very self-centered
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But I guess we're all self-centered in a way like you just need to be like are you happy with this?
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Like do things that make sense to you Like if you really want to do something,
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just do it.
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You don't need to be like,
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oh, XYZ is doing something.
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Who gives a fuck?
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You are living life for yourself.
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You know what I mean?
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Like you are in this body and you only get to go through life yourself.
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You know, like it doesn't matter what they're doing because we're all going to end up in the fucking ground anyway.
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Like you have to make sure that what you're doing means something to you, you know?
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And it's fine if you're cringe and then you're like,
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oh my God,
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this is not good the first time i'm doing this it
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looks like i don't know like let's say you want to be a chef
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and you're cooking and it looks like utter shit
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and it tastes utter shit like yeah it's gonna suck
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but it's like you just have to keep going okay everyone starts somewhere
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and the people who are envious of you who are judging you are probably the ones aren't that are extremely insecure
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insecure people usually come for those who are adjacent to them you know i mean
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if you're insecure like you don't feel any sort of way
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if people are like you know a big all-time celebrity is
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like posting a lot you don't feel any sort of insecurity towards them
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but you feel insecurity towards people who you consider as the same level as you know like
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if you're like talking to someone
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and they're judging you they probably view you as a competition
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and fuck them literally fuck them they don't want to support you
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because they're jealous okay but at the same time it's also very important
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which something that i realized i learned in the book
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that i read is that to not view
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and everyone as your enemy okay because that makes life very difficult
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because especially among friends like something
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that i learned you know just view everyone as your they
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say comrade was what they said in the book like don't view everyone as an enemy
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but also don't do things where it's like xyz is gonna think it's uncool
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because there are going to be insecure people
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and there are going to be people who have not checked themselves okay
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because people have flawed i'm not saying that you should cut them out
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but i'm just saying
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that there are people who are going to project certain things on you you know like saying
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that oh yeah like personally i wouldn't do what you're doing
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but you're super brave for that and that's gonna make you feel like shit okay
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but the things that you just have to be
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so secure with yourself
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and just be like okay what they say doesn't determine my
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worth i'm just gonna do what i say i'm gonna take
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everyone's word from with a grain of salt something that's really important for you to realize is
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that what people say to you speaks more for themselves than
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about you okay that's very important you come to terms with
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that because you know life sucks people who say hurtful things to you
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and you have to not take it to heart if it hurts
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if it bothers you you need to think it through you can't just bury it down
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because trust me i've tried
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that shit doesn't work you have to actually like you know process it and be like okay Why did that bother me?
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Oh, it's because you know,
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they're projecting onto me and it makes me feel like shit,
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you know It really lessens a load like trust me I'm still like working through this
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but truly trust me Like when I say this like it truly lessens a load
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when you realize like you just live life for yourself Okay,
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this is your life like stop worrying about what are they gonna think?
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Oh my god, everyone's gonna make fun of me
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if I like do something different like everyone's gonna say something if I start wearing all pink,
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you know or if I just discern things like,
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you know, if I take on this job or or if I start doing this with my hair,
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if I start doing this with my makeup,
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if I start acting different,
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if I start acting more confident,
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everyone's gonna think this way.
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Yes, they are, but who gives a s*?
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Like, this is your life, you know?
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And they take it or they can leave it.
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They can either accept you for that or they can leave it.
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If they don't have your contact info, who gives a f*?
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And if they do, and they don't support you in what direction you're going,
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that's not really a friend.
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That's just not someone you need in your life.
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So you're basically filtering out those people who don't belong in your life.
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Sometimes we just have to not give up off.
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This is me.
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I am not going to cater to your palette.
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I can change whatever I want.
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And I think life gets scary when we're too much in our head.
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Okay.
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When we're too much in our head and when we cage ourselves, we box ourselves.
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Okay.
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We set these limitations on ourselves.
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Like we can only do this.
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We can only do that.
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We can't go beyond that, you know?
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And it sucks because I'm always talking about like,
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we should go beyond and beyond,
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you know, you should not put yourself in a box i always mention
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that i think there also comes like a point where i'm
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like i'm not gonna place myself in a box you know
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but sometimes because of that i think that i get scared of doing things
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that are in the box you know i mean like i
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think i just steer away like just being my own i think
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because you try not to be in a box sometimes it makes you in a box
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if you get what i mean you know i don't know about you guys
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but sometimes i realize that that happens for me
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and i think you just need to live every day what
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we have every day our past doesn't matter the future also
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doesn't matter what we have is just right now you know i mean right now is the only thing
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that matters right now is what matters you don't need to
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worry about tomorrow you just need to worry about today today is what matters it's given moment
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because it's all you have and i think that's lessens
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so much stress you know and it's just
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that important like life is just a series of events okay just things
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that happens right and there's no finishing line dude It doesn't have to be like a line like this.
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It's just constantly moving, you know, life.
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I think like some of us,
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like we see life as,
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oh, it has to be to a certain goal.
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And I think that makes life very,
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not boring, but it makes life very, not that exciting.
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And it can also put a lot of pressure on you when life isn't going that way.
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Because I don't think life is a destination.
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I personally believe that as I've gotten older is just time passing, you know.
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And it's still hard for me to accept that because sometimes I'm like living in an environment that's so fast.
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It makes me feel like I need to be moving fast,
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you know, but life is just passing You can have your own beliefs on what life means.
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Like i'm not here to tell you what life means,
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you know But person for me,
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I just think life is meaningless in a way You don't have a meaning on this fucking planet
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And I think that's good because I think that you get to do what you want to do You know,
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you don't have to have like a meaning you just have to do something
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that makes you happy You going out to grab a coffee.
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There's no meaning in that.
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There's nothing you're insignificant.
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You're literally insignificant
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yeah that sounds a little sad sometimes but sometimes to me
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when i say it like when there's
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so much thoughts in my head like i'm like oh my god what what is xyz gonna think about me
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when i do this you know it makes me feel insignificant
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and i'm like i'm just a little piece of dot like
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literally just very insignificant in this floating piece of rock in this universe
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and i'm like okay then me dressing up putting on a crazy fucking outfit to go outside
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and take some photos okay why do i give a fuck
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like why do i care like it doesn't matter anymore like i'm just like okay
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i'm just here i'm just here existing i think it's very
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important for us to just be in like being you that's very important
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and i think that sometimes we forget
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and i think i truly feel the happiest
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when i feel like i am enough i know might not make sense to some of you guys
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but i've mentioned this so many times
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that i need to work on this it's just something
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that has taken me a lot of time to work on like you're enough you know
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and i think that sometimes i put things where it's like oh i'm only enough
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if i accomplish certain things i'm only enough
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if i end up at xyz goal it happens ever since
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i was a kid ever since i was like fucking the
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middle of school you know it's a really weird mentality like
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truly i feel like the happiest people are the people who just realize
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that they are enough you don't need to do xyz you are enough you know
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and i think
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that in a culture where it's like you constantly want to
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improve you constantly want to do better i think that's good to want you to improve yourself
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but at the same time you're also constantly looking for flaws
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you're constantly always like i'm not enough i'm not enough it's
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a weird sort of thing you know it's like it's good to want to improve yourself
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but at the same time it's also always picking yourself apart at least for me is
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that i am enough right now i am good
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but there's still something i want to improve
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but i am enough like i know i can get there
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i'm still enough right now like i need to constantly clock myself you know you need to realize
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that you're not inferior to others okay that's very important
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because i feel like
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when you put yourself as inferior to like we're all equal we're all human beings i think that's very important
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because once you put someone on a pedestal then it gets wonky then it gets weird
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because then it's like if you put someone on a pedestal it's gonna be weird now
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so you're gonna be like oh some people are are below
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me some people are above me like yes sometimes i'm like
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oh like haters are below me that's something i need to
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change my thinking of like yes like haters like they're insignificant
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i don't want to think about them i think maybe like
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reframing your thought like i'm just not gonna care about the
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haters you know at the end all of us were equal okay i think
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that that can help with your inferior inferiority complex i don't know what i'm saying right
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because usually when people feel inferior they have a sort of superiority complex to make themselves feel better okay
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and for me that happened with me
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because i feel like i don't have enough self-worth i feel like i need to be doing something more
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and doing something more to cover that but the thing is
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that trust me when i tell you from experience nothing can fix
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that if you don't look within no amount of achievement no amount of things
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that you do no amount of money can make you make
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that go away
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if you don't feel like you're enough none of that's gonna fix it maybe for some people maybe
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but coming from my experience doesn't work it doesn't work unless I do the work myself internally, okay?
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Nothing external can fix that.
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Maybe it might help.
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Maybe it might like distract you, maybe.
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But to truly fix that,
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you have to just really sit with it and tell yourself, I'm enough.
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It takes a long time and it's not easy work.
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I think going into this year,
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I think that I need to stop caring about what people think because sometimes I'm like,
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oh, people might think explosively, you know?
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And one of the biggest things for me is that I feel like at least this year,
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I feel like I'm a very efficient person.
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Like I've said this before,
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But I also feel like i'm a little too efficient
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when very practical with things like if I don't need to do I don't need to do,
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you know, I don't know
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if you guys realize I don't take pictures I really don't take pictures
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and that's such a weird thing when you think about it
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because i'm just I don't need to do that But it's like the little tiny things,
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you know, and sometimes I don't give a fuck about the little tiny things I'm,
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like if it's if I don't need to do it i'm not doing it And i'm like,
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why don't you do that though?
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You know and you you guys see me when I dress up like I dress very like comfortable,
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which is not a bad thing You know,
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I think as i've gotten older,
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I feel like I just dress very comfortably
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and I don't think there's anything wrong with that
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But a part of it that's not good that I don't really mention is that I think I'm getting scared.
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I get scared of being perceived when I dress up.
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Who cares?
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This is my life.
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I get to wear whatever I want.
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And I'm like, I don't want to do too much.
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But it's like, who cares if you do too much, you know?
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Like, I live this life for myself.
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And it's like, if people think that way,
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then they can think that way, you know?
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If I want to dress up,
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I want to dress up, you know?
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And I'm scared of sometimes doing things differently.
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I think I'm an adaptable person.
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I just don't think I like adapting.
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I do not prefer it.
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I don't like it.
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Like it doesn't do well for me emotionally,
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but I can adapt if I have to.
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I'm not the best with change.
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I don't prefer change.
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I feel like this year I want to go about life
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where I try not to think too much about what other people are thinking.
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Like I always say, to be cringe is to be free.
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I just want to do things my way, you know?
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Some people might judge you for it.
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Some people might be, oh, she's being cringe.
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Like, why is she doing that?
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So be it, you know?
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That's just what it is.
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It's just how people view you and it's just none of our business, you know?
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So as long as you're happy and you challenge yourself,
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not every day, but sometimes you can just push yourself a little It's a good thing,
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you know, because that's how you become another version of yourself, okay?
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Anyways, that's just a video that I really wanted to talk about today
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and how we just shouldn't try to control things Just let things take its course and just control what you can't control,
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which is yourself and what you do, right?
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What people think about you really doesn't matter
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if they do think about you too much It's just because they have too much time on their hands, okay?
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So anyways, I hope this video helped you guys out and I really hope that you take this advice into 2026.
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I think it's very beneficial for everyone, okay?
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Anyways, I will see you guys all very, very soon.
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And until then, make sure to dress warm.
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I don't know when this will be posted.
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I don't know if the next video is going to be into New Year's,
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but I hope you guys have an amazing New Year's,
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dress warm, and also Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays, okay?
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Anyways, I'll see you guys super, super soon.
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Bye, guys!
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About This Lesson
In this lesson, learners will delve into the importance of self-acceptance and letting go of the need for external validation, as discussed in the video titled "Just Let Them." Through this lesson, you will practice critical listening and speaking skills by engaging with content that emphasizes freedom from societal expectations. By focusing on the speaker's candid reflections, you will not only understand the context but also enhance your English speaking abilities. This practice will allow you to express your thoughts more freely and confidently, improving both your fluency and pronunciation.
Key Vocabulary & Phrases
- Control - To have power or influence over something or someone.
- Perceptions - The way in which something is regarded, understood, or interpreted.
- Courage - The ability to confront fear or uncertainty.
- Disliked - Not liked; to experience a lack of affection or approval.
- Confidence - Belief in oneself and one's abilities.
- Freedom - The state of not being imprisoned or enslaved; the power to act, speak, or think without hindrance.
- Expectations - Strong beliefs that something will happen or be the case in the future.
Practice Tips
To leverage the lessons from this video, consider using the shadowing technique to enhance your language skills. This technique involves listening to the speaker and simultaneously repeating what they say, thus reinforcing your learning. Here are some tips to effectively implement shadow speech with this specific video:
- Listen Carefully: Pay attention to the speaker's tone and pacing. The informal style may require you to adapt your own speech rhythm.
- Repeat Immediately: After hearing a sentence or a phrase, pause the video and repeat it aloud. This will help improve your English pronunciation.
- Utilize a Shadowing App: If available, use a shadowing app that allows you to record your voice and compare it with the original audio. This will give you insights into your pronunciation and fluency.
- Focus on Intonation: Notice the rising and falling patterns in the speech. Emulating this will help you achieve a more natural-sounding English.
- Practice Regularly: The key to mastering shadow speak is consistency. Make it a daily practice to engage with similar content to continually build your confidence and fluency.
By applying these strategies, you’ll not only connect with the content on a deeper level but also make significant strides in your English speaking capabilities.
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המבנים שהדובר משתמש בהם הכי הרבה, עם המילים המדויקות מהסרטון:
| מבנה | בסרטון |
|---|---|
| “Used to” used to + verb — הרגל או מצב שהיה נכון בעבר וכבר לא קיים | used to do · used to be |
| הווה מושלם (Present perfect) have/has + past participle — פעולה שקרתה בעבר ועדיין יש לה חשיבות או השפעה עכשיו | have not checked · have flawed · i've tried |
| משפטי זיקה (Relative clauses) who / which + clause — מידע נוסף על אדם או דבר | people who are · those who are · people who you |
| סביל (Passive voice) be + past participle — הדגש הוא על מה שקורה, לא על מי שעושה את הפעולה | be disliked · being perceived · will be posted |
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שאדואינג היא טכניקת למידת שפה מבוססת מדע שפותחה במקור להכשרת מתורגמנים מקצועיים ופופולרית על ידי הפוליגלוט ד"ר אלכסנדר ארגואלס. השיטה פשוטה אך עוצמתית: אתה מקשיב לאודיו באנגלית ילידית וחוזר עליו בקול רם מיד — כמו צל העוקב אחרי הדובר עם עיכוב של 1–2 שניות בלבד. בניגוד להאזנה פסיבית או תרגילי דקדוק, שאדואינג מכריח את המוח והשרירים בפה לעבד ולשחזר דפוסי דיבור אמיתיים בו זמנית. מחקרים מראים שזה משפר משמעותית את דיוק ההגייה, האינטונציה, הקצב, הדיבור המחובר, הבנת השמיעה ושטף הדיבור — מה שהופך אותו לאחת השיטות היעילות ביותר להכנה לIELTS Speaking ולתקשורת באנגלית בעולם האמיתי.