์‰๋„์ž‰ ์—ฐ์Šต: THIS IS WHY YOU BLANK OUT IN IMPORTANT MEETINGS! ๐Ÿคฏ - ์˜์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ธฐ

์—ฐ์Šต ๋ชจ๋“œ ์„ ํƒ

๊ฐ ๋ชจ๋“œ๋Š” ์ „์ฒด ํ™”๋ฉด ์—ฐ์Šต์‹ค๋กœ ์—ด๋ฆฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

46 ๋ฌธ์žฅ
๋ฌธ์žฅ์ด ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ์งง๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ๊ธธ๋ฉด Edit๋ฅผ ๋ˆŒ๋Ÿฌ ์กฐ์ •ํ•˜์„ธ์š”.
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If you are in a room and someone gives you a cue of social rejection.
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What does that look like?
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Okay, so social rejection, eye roll, a sigh.
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Looking away.
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Right, looking away, distancing behavior when we pull our head back and like, when I angle my head back, you know I've just disengaged from you.
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Crossing arms.
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Crossing arms.
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It's just sudden non-verbal rejection.
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Okay, so social rejection cues, and you know this, if you're in a business meeting and you suddenly feel like, am I disliked?
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He's not, he doesn't like this, she doesn't like this.
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When we see a cue of social rejection, our field of vision increases.
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We see wider.
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We literally see wider.
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Our pupils dilate so we see more.
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The reason why that study was like a light bulb for me was our cues are affecting others' physiology.
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Our physiology can change in a room in an instant.
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If we walk into a meeting and we feel not liked, if we feel rejected, if we feel like we're being judged, our own physiology responds.
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So if we're in a room and we're not feeling confident or in control and someone sends us a cue of rejection, One, you want to know what those are because it makes your field of vision bigger.
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So you can see who else is sending me a cue, what's my escape route.
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That's literally what your body's trying to do.
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Ups your adrenaline, ups your cortisol.
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And no one can think well.
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Adrenaline, cortisol.
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That's why in a meeting, it can go downhill so quickly.
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You're in a presentation, you prepare it all week.
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You're like, yeah.
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And then you're like, oh, he just rolled his eyes.
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Oh, she just turned away.
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Oh, I just saw a weird foot uh-huh, and then you lose your spot, you blank out and the rest of the presentation goes badly.
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The good news is, is what Matthew Lieberman found, he's from UCLA, once you label a cue, so if you say that was an eye roll, that was a scoff of exasperation,
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that was a contempt smirk, the moment you label it your amygdala calms down.
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They've proven that if they, when people are in fMRI machines and they show them a fearful face, so fearful faces when we widen the whites of our eyes and we raise our eyebrows up.
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If you're laying in an fMRI machine and you see fear, you will begin to feel afraid.
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Your amygdala begins to activate and your body goes, well, he's afraid.
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I better be afraid.
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But the moment you say in the fMRI, that's just fear, your amygdala stops responding.
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Interesting.
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So I think I've had a really hard time finding confidence.
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It's been a long lifetime journey.
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The way that I've sort of backdoored into confidence is control.
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If I can control the cues that are being sent to me, if I can control the cues I'm sending to others, it's a secret backdoor into confidence.
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How do you control someone else's cues?
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You label them and respond appropriately.
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So you can't control how they act towards you, but you can control how you react to it, how you interpret it, how you transition afterwards?
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Yes, like you can first by labeling it, you just controlled your own physiology.
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So if someone sends you a contempt, an eye roll, you just, you took control back of, nope, I see it, I spot it, I'm disengaging it.

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์ถ”์ฒœ ์˜์ƒ

์ด ๋ ˆ์Šจ์˜ ์–ดํœ˜์™€ ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ํฌ์ธํŠธ

์ด B2 ์ˆ˜์ค€ ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ ˆ์Šจ์€ ์˜์ƒ โ€œTHIS IS WHY YOU BLANK OUT IN IMPORTANT MEETINGS! ๐Ÿคฏโ€์„(๋ฅผ) ๋ฐ”ํƒ•์œผ๋กœ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์ž์ฃผ ๋ฐ˜๋ณต๋˜๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋Š” ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค: cue, rejection, eye, physiology, amygdala. ์ด ์˜์ƒ์—๋Š” ์„€๋„์ž‰ํ•  ๋ฌธ์žฅ 46๊ฐœ์™€ ๋‹จ์–ด 586๊ฐœ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ตฌ๊ฐ„์˜ ๊ธธ์ด๋Š” 2:38์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ™”์ž๋Š” ๋ถ„๋‹น ์•ฝ 223๋‹จ์–ด๋กœ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋งํ•˜๋ฏ€๋กœ ์—ฐ์Œ๊ณผ ์•ฝํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋ฐœ์Œ๋˜๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งŽ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜์–ด์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์ด ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” 3,000๋‹จ์–ด์— ์†ํ•˜๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๊ฐ€ 77%๋ฟ์ด๋ผ ์–ดํœ˜๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ํŽธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ด ์˜์ƒ์˜ ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์–ดํœ˜

์˜์ƒ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ์–ด๋ ค์šด ๋‹จ์–ด 12๊ฐœ๋ฅผ ๋ฐœ์Œ, ๋œป๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ •๋ฆฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋‹จ์–ด๋ฐœ์Œ๋œป
rejection ๋ช…์‚ฌ/ษนษชหˆdอกส’ษ›kสƒษ™n/๊ฑฐ์ ˆ
physiology ๋ช…์‚ฌ/หŒfษชziหˆษ‘.lษ™.dอกส’i/์ƒ๋ฆฌํ•™
adrenaline ๋ช…์‚ฌ/ษ™หˆdษนษ›nษ™lษชn/์•„๋“œ๋ ˆ๋‚ ๋ฆฐ, ์—ํ”ผ๋„คํ”„๋ฆฐ
fearful ํ˜•์šฉ์‚ฌ/หˆfษชษ™fษ™l/๋ฌด์„ญ๋‹ค, ๋‘๋ ต๋‹ค
contempt ๋ช…์‚ฌ/kษ™nหˆtษ›mpt/๊ฒฝ๋ฉธ
eyebrow ๋ช…์‚ฌ/หˆaษชหŒbษนaสŠ/๋ˆˆ์น, ๋ˆˆ์„ญ
bulb ๋ช…์‚ฌ/หˆbสŒlb/์•Œ๋ฟŒ๋ฆฌ
pupil ๋ช…์‚ฌ/หˆpjuหpษ™l/ํ•™์ƒ, ์ƒ๋„
interpret ๋™์‚ฌ/ษชnหˆtษœห.pษนษชt/ํ•ด์„ํ•˜๋‹ค
dislike ๋™์‚ฌ/dษชsหˆlaษชk/์‹ซ์–ดํ•˜๋‹ค, ๋ฏธ์›Œํ•˜๋‹ค
sigh ๋™์‚ฌ/saษช/ํ•œ์ˆจ์ง“๋‹ค, ํ•œ์ˆจ์„ ์‰ฌ๋‹ค
react ๋™์‚ฌ/ษนiหหˆรฆkt/๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๋‹ค

๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•ด ๋ณผ ๋งŒํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ

์˜์ƒ์— ๋‚˜์˜ค๋Š” ์งง๊ณ  ์™„๊ฒฐ๋œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์œผ๋กœ, ์ผ์ƒ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ๊ทธ๋Œ€๋กœ ์“ธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:

  • That's literally what your body's trying to do.
  • You're in a presentation, you prepare it all week.
  • How do you control someone else's cues?

์ด ์˜์ƒ์˜ ๋ฌธ๋ฒ•

ํ™”์ž๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์ด ์“ฐ๋Š” ๋ฌธํ˜•์„ ์˜์ƒ ์† ์‹ค์ œ ํ‘œํ˜„๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์ •๋ฆฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฌธํ˜•์˜์ƒ ์† ํ‘œํ˜„
ํ˜„์žฌ์™„๋ฃŒ have/has + ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋ถ„์‚ฌ โ€” ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์˜ ์ผ์ด ์ง€๊ธˆ๋„ ๊ด€๋ จ์ด ์žˆ์„ ๋•ŒI've just disengaged ยท They've proven ยท I've had
์ˆ˜๋™ํƒœ be + ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋ถ„์‚ฌ โ€” ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€๋ณด๋‹ค ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๋Š”์ง€์— ์ดˆ์ being judged ยท being sent

์ฃผ์˜ํ•  ๋ฐœ์Œ

ํ™”์ž๋Š” you're, I've, we're ๊ฐ™์€ ์ถ•์•ฝํ˜•๊ณผ ์•ฝํ™”๋œ ํ˜•ํƒœ๋ฅผ 17๋ฒˆ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋“ค๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋Œ€๋กœ ์งง๊ฒŒ ๋ฐœ์Œํ•˜์„ธ์š”.

  • ๊ธด ๋‹จ์–ด โ€” ๊ฐ•์„ธ ์œ„์น˜์— ์ฃผ์˜: physiology /หŒfษชziหˆษ‘.lษ™.dอกส’i/, amygdala /ษ™หˆmษชษก.dษ™.lษ™/, adrenaline /ษ™หˆdษนษ›nษ™lษชn/

ํ•œ๊ตญ์–ด ํ™”์ž๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ค์›Œํ•˜๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ:

  • /f/ โ€” ใ…(/p/)์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ”๊พธ์ง€ ๋ง๊ณ  ์œ—๋‹ˆ๋ฅผ ์•„๋žซ์ž…์ˆ ์— ๋Œ€๊ธฐ: physiology /หŒfษชziหˆษ‘.lษ™.dอกส’i/, fearful /หˆfษชษ™fษ™l/
  • /v/ โ€” ใ…‚(/b/)๊ณผ ๊ตฌ๋ณ„ํ•˜๊ธฐ: activate /หˆรฆktษชหŒveษชt/, verbal /หˆvษœห.bษ™l/
  • /r/๊ณผ /l/ ๊ตฌ๋ณ„ํ•˜๊ธฐ: cortisol /หˆkoษน.tษชหŒsษ”l/, adrenaline /ษ™หˆdษนษ›nษ™lษชn/

์ด ์˜์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

  1. ๋จผ์ € ๋งํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ณ  ์˜์ƒ์„ ๋๊นŒ์ง€ ๋“ฃ๊ณ  ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด๋ฅผ ์ ์–ด ๋‘ก๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  2. 0.75๋ฐฐ์†์œผ๋กœ ํ•œ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์”ฉ ์„€๋„์ž‰์„ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜๊ณ , ์ต์ˆ™ํ•ด์ง€๋ฉด ๋ณดํ†ต ์†๋„๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  3. ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋…น์Œํ•ด ์›๋ณธ๊ณผ ๋น„๊ตํ•˜๊ณ , rejection, physiology, adrenaline ๊ฐ™์€ ๋‹จ์–ด์— ํŠนํžˆ ์ฃผ์˜ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์‰๋„์ž‰์ด๋ž€? ์˜์–ด ์‹ค๋ ฅ์„ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๊ณผํ•™์  ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์‰๋„์ž‰(Shadowing)์€ ์›๋ž˜ ์ „๋ฌธ ํ†ต์—ญ์‚ฌ ํ›ˆ๋ จ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฐœ๋ฐœ๋œ ์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์Šต ๊ธฐ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ, ๋‹ค์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์ž์ธ Dr. Alexander Arguelles์— ์˜ํ•ด ๋Œ€์ค‘ํ™”๋œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์›๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ•๋ ฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค: ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์˜ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ๋“ค์œผ๋ฉด์„œ 1~2์ดˆ์˜ ์งง์€ ์ง€์—ฐ์œผ๋กœ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ๋‚ด์–ด ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒโ€”โ€”๋งˆ์น˜ '๊ทธ๋ฆผ์ž(shadow)'์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ํ™”์ž๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ๊ณต๋ถ€๋‚˜ ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ธ ์ฒญ์ทจ์™€ ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ, ์‰๋„์ž‰์€ ๋‡Œ์™€ ์ž… ๊ทผ์œก์ด ๋™์‹œ์— ์‹ค์‹œ๊ฐ„์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žฌํ˜„ํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ›ˆ๋ จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ๋ฐœ์Œ ์ •ํ™•๋„, ์–ต์–‘, ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ, ์—ฐ์Œ, ์ฒญ์ทจ๋ ฅ, ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ ์ฐฝ์„ฑ์„ ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ–ฅ์ƒ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น ์ค€๋น„์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์˜์–ด ์†Œํ†ต์„ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํŠนํžˆ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์„€๋„์ž‰ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•: ๋‹จ๊ณ„๋ณ„ ์ „์ฒด ๊ฐ€์ด๋“œ ์ฝ๊ธฐ โ†’