Shadowing Practice: turn jealousy into inspiration - Learn English Speaking with Video

We just have to shift it and take our power back and come from a more abundant headspace.

That's really how we can turn jealousy into inspiration is if we're not coming from a scarcity mindset of like, oh, there's not enough for me and I can't have that and this person has that and I'm not good enough.

If we can shift it to, wow, that person is really inspiring me.

Wow, they're showing me that I can do that too.

I have the power and I have a desire.

That's so powerful and that person is showing me that

that desire can manifest in the real world and that's so exciting

hi everybody i cannot thank you enough for the love you

gave me on my last video you guys really proved my point of building confidence you proved to me

that building confidence in the ways that i was talking about works

and that it's worth it i just can't thank you enough i feel

so grateful for connecting with all of you and i am just so happy

because it's my dream to just make a difference in any of your lives just to say something

that maybe clicks somewhere or makes you see this differently

so just thank you thank you thank you thank you for allowing me to talk and for listening.

I am just very grateful.

So let's talk about jealousy.

Good morning.

I am again making another floral arrangement.

It is first thing in the morning.

I wanted to come and talk to you guys about jealousy

and turning that jealousy into inspiration because jealousy is such a powerful emotion

and I think that it can be used for good

if it is shifted to inspiration so how do you do

that what is jealousy got a little peppermint tea going

because my tummy is hurting a little bit this morning the

definition of jealous me holding these scissors the definition of jealousy is feeling

or showing envy of someone or their achievements or advantages

and the definition of envy is a feeling of discontented

or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possessions qualities

or luck as women

and especially as young girls we're all kind of taught to

just be super jealous of each other i have noticed

that at least like growing up

that was always sort of the root of drama in middle school

and everything was just like jealousy this person hanging out with this person

and i'm jealous of this and

that it was very ingrained in my brain to be jealous

women are to a certain degree we have to rely on like our external appearance to get us anywhere

or outward success for anybody to take us seriously.

It makes sense that we're always comparing ourselves to each other

because in order to get any sort of validity in this world, we have to come across as worthy or successful.

And if somebody else is doing that and you fear that maybe you don't have enough success in that way, then you're going to compare yourself.

You're going to feel jealous.

We're taught to do that.

It's almost like a survival thing within us i feel like

and so just as a young girl i always felt there was a need for me to be jealous

and as a young woman now like we're supposed to be comparing ourselves in one way

or another jealousy is such a vicious emotion

and it is always hungry for more

and there's just such a lack of satisfaction i know

that i feel the most jealous whenever i see somebody doing something

or achieving something very similarly to how I would want to achieve it, some sort of level of success that I wish to achieve or something that I aspire to do,

and I watch somebody already doing it, sometimes I can feel, ah, like, I wish that was me and I'm jealous

and I wish I could be in that spot and I envy them and their achievements.

If somebody has something that I wish that I had for the longest time, that feeling of, like, why not me?

I'm so jealous of this person.

The resentment comes and then you try to, like, paint a bad picture of

that person in your head like you just you kind of start to put them down you resent them

because you are jealous of something that they have

and i have definitely felt that before i think we all have

and it's okay it's okay

that we have it it's just what do we do about it

and how do we use that

if you want what someone has you won't get it through negatively charged emotions such as discontent

or resentment and if you do those feelings will only be perpetuated

and find other resources to grow and

that doesn't allow you to truly feel content

or successful within yourself no matter what material success you might gain think about it like

if you grow a crop in poisonous soil or a soil

that has like lead in it or something like

that right yeah the crop will probably grow it can maybe the soil is

so unhealthy that it can't grow like

if you're trying to do something out of jealousy maybe it's just You always going to sort of backfire

but at the same time your actions could bring you towards success

and the crop could grow in the poisonous soil

but what's going to be in the crop now all the nutrients

that should have been in the soil are not there

and the crop is probably poisonous now

that it's grown in poison soil jealousy is it's like that

if you're building something and the foundation is full of jealousy

and resentment towards others then your success is going to be a product of

that it's like jealousy is a parasite it feeds off of comparison

and ego that is what jealousy does and any success

that you gain through that emotion will just give it more

and more validation and more food to just grow like fatter

and fatter your jealousy will just change forms

and change shapes say you're jealous of this person

because they achieved this accolade and then you're so jealous

that it inspires you to do the same and then maybe you get

that same accolade but your jealousy it still exists you know like it's still the root there

and it's going to look for something else now to resent somebody for

and to feel jealous of and then maybe it'll go find

that too and it just keeps getting bigger

and bigger we haven't solved the root problem what is success

if you can't enjoy it and feel like satisfied and happy

and content in your achievements like what is it

if you're just hungry and resentful and jealous wanting more

and more and more like it's one thing to be driven

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and want more success and to find ways to do that

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and to feel authentically satisfied and proud of yourself versus just using

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that jealousy as fuel but like i said earlier jealousy is a very powerful emotion

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and it can be used for good i think if we turn it into something else

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if somebody else has something that you want that is proof

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that there is enough to go around and

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that you can have it too we

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so often come from a scarcity headspace of oh there's not enough

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and if this person has

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that then it's already taken i need to be the one who does this

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and does that it's just like no if somebody else is doing something

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or has something or has achieved something

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that you also want it's almost i don't want to say better

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that somebody has paved the way or done it before you

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but it kind of gives you some inspiration it gives you a guideline of okay how did this person do

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that and how can i do that in my own way

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and can i use them as a guideline and as inspiration

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and the fact that they have accomplished this thing shows me

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that it is out there

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and it's possible for me to accomplish too in my own way jealousy is telling the people around you

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and yourself and if you are spiritually connected to god

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or the universe or whatever you believe in you're showing everyone

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and yourself and the universe god whatever

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that you don't think you're worthy of having that thing

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that whatever you're jealous of you're feeling jealousy

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because you are not worthy of it why else would you feel jealous

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if you thought oh yeah that person did it

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and i can do that too there wouldn't be any jealousy there would just be motivation

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but the fact that you're jealous shows that you don't think

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that you're worthy within yourself it might not seem super obvious like other people catch on to

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that but like last time we talked about insecurity right jealousy is they're very related emotions they're very connected

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and anytime that you express that jealousy or even

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if you feel it internally in your head it is bound to come out in your emotions

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and your voice and your expressions jealousy is showing yourself

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and others that you don't think you're worthy the thing

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that you want or the thing

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that you're jealous of somebody else for having is farther

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and farther away from you the more that you resent

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that person for having it and the more that you're envious

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and jealous of them it's kind of validating right

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because it's like okay if somebody has this thing

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that means i can have it too

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but then it's kind of scary to think oh no the

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more jealous i am the more farther away it is

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and the more i feel less worthy it's a little scary

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but i promise you initially being jealous of something is kind of a good sign

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because it shows you what you want and it shows you where you feel like you're lacking.

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I think it can actually reveal a lot of valuable things that can help us grow as people.

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Look how cute these are.

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I love the little shape of these.

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I think, what are these called?

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I can never say this.

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Renanculous.

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Renanculous.

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Okay.

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All right so i think an important distinction to make is

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that yes if somebody did something or has something

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that you're jealous of that you want like it's proof

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that you can have it too if somebody else did it right

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but we can never have the same story

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or the exact same success as somebody else has had we can never have the exact same success story

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or the exact same achievements we can follow it similarly

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but you can have the exact same make and model of a car that you're jealous of somebody for having, right?

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But you can't have the exact same success story as somebody else we have to build our own

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and inspiration is the greatest tool for that that is what we need

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that is literally inspiration is our toolbox to create our own success story

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and we can get

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that inspiration from the jealousy the jealousy can teach us how to be inspired

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and the first thing to ask yourself what is it triggering

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the envy in you whenever you ask yourself what is triggering this envy

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and jealousy it's an ugly journey to figure it out you

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know what i mean it's not a fun thing to look at that's why

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so many of us like cover up our jealousy by like oh well you know i could do

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that i could actually do that better

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so these questions can like reveal a lot of painful conclusions

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so just be be ready for

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that what is triggering my envy where do i feel like i'm lacking

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so hard that i can't imagine myself being in

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that situation why is this something

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that i feel like i can't have what is triggering your jealousy you don't feel adequate with

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because you feel like you're lacking that why does that person have

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that why don't i have that where where do you feel the lack

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and once i think you figure

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that out why am i getting triggered where do i feel

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the lack why do i feel like this person can have this

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and i can't whatever the can't the lack the insecurity is

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that is golden so find

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that why is this thing triggering me where do i feel the lack

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and that insecurity is your answer so whatever it is

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and it's it's so uncomfortable to admit that insecurity

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but i promise you it is the first and most important step

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if you can do that you are ahead of the game

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because i think most people live their lives in jealousy

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and in insecurity and in comparison of other people

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and they don't want to admit the thing that they feel they're lacking

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or the reason that they feel inadequate so they continue to resent

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and they continue to try to make themselves feel better with

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some sort of negative reinforcement reinforcement of i'm better than this person

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or i could be doing that or just

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so much comparison i don't think a lot of people get past

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that point so

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if you can be real enough with yourself you don't have

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to tell anybody don't tell anybody what the insecurity is i don't really express my jealousy

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or like talk about it that much because it makes me like cringe

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because i know that it's just me feeling a lack of something right

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so if you can admit where you feel the lack you are a million steps ahead

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and what i was saying earlier is jealousy is such a potent strong emotion

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and we don't want to lose that potency we want to use

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that for something good we just have to shift it

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and take our power back

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and come from a more abundant headspace that's really how we can turn jealousy into inspiration is

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if we're not coming from a scarcity mindset of like oh there's not enough for me

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and i can't have that and this person has that

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and i'm not good enough if we can shift it to wow

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that person is really inspiring me wow they're showing me

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that i can do that too i have the power

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and i have a desire that's so powerful and

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that person is showing me that that desire can manifest in the real world

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and that's so exciting you know coming from

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that it's it's a tricky thing to train your brain i'll do another video on

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that one of these days like training your brain to think a certain way

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because of course like i said since we're little girls we're all taught to be

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so jealous and compare ourselves to each other having to retrain

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that to oh i'm actually so inspired like that's not easy

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that is actually like kind of really difficult to shift from

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so much worry and fear i know

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that you guys know what i'm talking about like the jealousy thing feels like a survival thing

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when you see something you're jealous of or you feel

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that pang of jealousy it's anxiety it's like oh no oh no how do i get

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that to oh no this person has

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that like it's such a it's a scary feeling so switching

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that scary lack to oh my goodness thank god somebody is showing me

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that i can do that too thank goodness that that exists

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because that's a guideline for me oh my gosh this is

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so exciting that that is happening for that person because i know

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that i can be excited for them and happy for them

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and i can create that for myself in a version

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that suits me even better because it's my own

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and it's authentic to me

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so yeah we don't want to lose the potency of jealousy it's such a it's such a strong thing

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and i think that our inspiration can be even stronger than

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that jealousy because negative emotions only have

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so much strength right like they can be really all mind consuming

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but at the same time we talked about earlier it's just

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poison like we're just gonna end up with poisonous success

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and poisonous results if we're coming from jealousy

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and it really can't take us that far where

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if we're able to make that shift into inspiration

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that can take us anywhere we want to go and it's beautiful

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so know that if you can feel abundance

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and certainty in place of your lack and resentment and envy

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and jealousy you can create for yourself the thing that you desire

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when you create from a place of inspiration

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and a place of being happy for others

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and excited for others there's just so much on your side there's

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so much abundance on your side you're gonna attract

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that same excitement from other people you're gonna attract people who

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truly want you to succeed there's gonna be no mal intent

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there's not gonna be this competitive egotistical charge underneath you

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when you're creating the life that you desire it's gonna be good

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and authentic and real

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and it's gonna give you the foundation to really create from a place of authenticity

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and happiness that's just the best place to be so

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when you create or want something from a place of abundance

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and inspiration you will attract it i promise it's hard to

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shift from like the seething jealousy for another person onto your insecurity

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because it's like i said earlier we don't really want to look at the insecurity of ours

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but it's the tool to actually get us what we want

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and to get you in a place of having the thing

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that you're jealous of i know

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that it's a lot easier to just like be jealous of somebody instead of looking at yourself

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and what you're actually insecure about but i promise you

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if you truly want that thing

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that somebody has that's the first step we got to see what you think you're lacking in

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because if you can build that up then you are good to go

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and you're coming from a place of abundance and certainty within yourself

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but kind of shining the light on your insecurity in

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that way it's going to show you where the gap is between you

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and whoever you're jealous of it's going to show you where you need to bridge

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that and what you need to do

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and where you need to go it like that insecurity and

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that gap and the reason you feel like you're here

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and this person is here or you feel a lack of something

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that is going to give you the guideline as to what do you need to build up

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and what do need to work on within yourself in order to feel adequate enough

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and that's gonna allow you to handle success too in whatever form you're searching for it

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if you can feel certainty and stability within yourself you can handle it too

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and you can have the thing that somebody else has too why i said

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that you'll be like 10 million steps ahead

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if you're able to sort of point out why you feel jealousy

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and why you feel a lack of something is

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because most of the people that we're jealous of or

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that we think are so above us

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or succeeding in some way are still extremely discontent they don't feel satisfied

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and like we look at them and their success

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or whatever they have money power fame the job we want

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or whatever we look at whatever they have

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and we think to ourselves i would feel so content

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if i had that or i would my life would just be made

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if i had that but it wouldn't

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if you're coming from a place of jealousy and comparison

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and i think a lot of people don't really do this work

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so when they do happen to fall into the success

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or whatever they have they don't really get to enjoy the fruits of their labor

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or really reap all the benefits and satisfaction of whatever great thing they have

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because they still have comparison

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and jealousy within themselves they're just looking to do the next big

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and better thing that's what we were saying earlier is like

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if you're doing it with the wrong intention or with comparison

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or ego in the front seat then it's always going to exist there it's something

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that we really overlook we were talking about it's a lot

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easier to just be jealous of somebody instead of actually figuring out why you feel jealous

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and so i think that a lot of this like work

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that we're talking about is really undermined

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and it's just all about success success go get what you want

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and go do that and if this person can do it you can do it too

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and it's like yeah of course like okay that's great

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and that's true

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but what intention do we have are we coming from an authentic place of non -comparison are we making sure

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that we're not looking down on others as we're doing it

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or having malicious feelings in our heart for others who are doing it faster than us

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or in different circumstances than us it's so foundational

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and important i think

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that it would save people down the line whenever they do reach a level of whatever it is

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that they're wanting i think that people could actually really enjoy it

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and do more and go to the next level with more of their own power

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if they felt content within themselves people we are jealous of oh oh my god people people

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that we're jealous of most of the time feel the same thing on on a different scale

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so that's i'm not really saying that to be like

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so don't worry you can be jealous too i'm saying

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that as in you are going to be really building yourself an amazing foundation

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if you're able to move towards your desires and the things

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that you want when you realize why you're not happy

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that others have that

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if you're able to pinpoint your insecurities as to why you

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feel jealous you're going to be ahead of the game

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and be able to welcome your newfound forms of success and confidence with authentic satisfaction.

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is what I'm trying to say.

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And that will inspire you to keep going instead of festering jealousy, which will always want you to feed it.

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It will always want food.

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It's like a parasite, like we said.

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Like, it'll always want something from you.

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If you succeed or whatever, you reach a certain point, that jealousy is not gonna be happy for you.

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Maybe for one second, your ego's gonna be like, hmm, okay, cool, you did it.

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What's next?

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Look what that person's doing.

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Like, the jealousy is always gonna require food

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and your inspiration will not you will feel content you will feel happy for those around you

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and yourself and if you can feel happy for the people who are achieving the thing

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that you want to achieve you are telling yourself

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and everyone around you and the people that are doing the thing

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that you want or have the thing that you want

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that you are worthy of it too

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because you're excited you're curious you're inspired i think that

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if you if you can walk with if you can

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if you are showing other people and the world around you

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that you're excited and that you know that because this exists

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and because this person has done this that you can do it too

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and you're excited and you're ready and you're happy for those people then hi me

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if you're excited for those people and you can move through your life

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and your experiences with that excitement you're showing others that you deserve

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that thing too and you will get that thing

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if you are actually walking the earth

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and living your everyday experience as an inspired person versus a jealous person you will line up with everything

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that you want if you're showing people

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that you're worthy of this thing you will attract opportunities

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that will allow you to prove

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that even more like i think the first step is being inspired

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and being excited by a desire or something

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that you want i can't even express how powerful it is to instead of looking at somebody

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and resenting them and their achievements and being like oh i could do better

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that person doesn't deserve that or whatever like instead of wasting all of

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that like i said very potent emotion instead of wasting all

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that energy on that imagine inquiring to

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that person how did you do this like i'm really happy for you i really admire what you're doing

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and i would like to know more using that energy to do

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that instead oh my god that is going to get you

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so far and i promise you it's gonna relieve you of

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that anxiety that jealousy creates remember we were talking about

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that earlier like whenever you feel jealousy and you're like ah

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and you feel this like scarcity and like need to compensate for something

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that feeling of inquiring and curiosity and genuine excitement

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and happiness for those who have what you want it's going to give you

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so much relief it's going to feel like the opposite of

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that it's going to feel like you are abundant in resources

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and time and you can do it too

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and it's it's a relief to your system and it'll calm you down

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and it'll inspire it'll it's inspiration and

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that inspiration is what will take you far something we say in islamic culture is mashallah

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and mashallah means when you feel genuine admiration for somebody's beauty

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or something like whenever you compliment somebody you have such beautiful

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eyes mashallah you're saying like you have such beautiful eyes

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and i'm saying that with pure god's intent i'm not saying it with any malice

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or any sort of jealous intent i'm saying it as a genuine authentic compliment like me

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and my friend max if you watch my channel you've seen her many times

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when we compliment each other sometimes we'll say mashallah

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so we really know i'm saying this out of just pure happiness for you mashallah

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that is such an amazing accomplishment

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that you've made it's like the opposite of evil eye like you know getting into all

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that i know multiple cultures including islamic culture as well the evil eye is whenever you are putting

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that jealous malice intent on somebody because that envy is just it's

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so hungry for comparison and evil and you want

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that person to fail so that you can feel content in some way

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and it's just like no we don't want anybody to fail

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because if that person fails it's not gonna make you more successful

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that person if they have some beauty in some way

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that you feel like you don't have or they have success like taking

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that away from them or making them feel bad about

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that it's just putting bad stuff on you man like it's just digging you deeper

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and deeper into the pit of what jealousy really is

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which is just a never -ending cycle of misery jealousy lies to you

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and tells you it will feel good and great once you reach this point

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or once you have that thing or if you had

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that thing but it's not true it never ever leaves

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and i promise you because it's so powerful we can use it for good and we can use it for inspiration Yeah.

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What other thoughts do I have on jealousy?

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Okay.

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So we're kind of dealing with these being too floppy.

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I don't really know how to fix that.

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I think I was actually kind of wanting more height with these, but that's not really what we're getting.

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So I'm going to have to play around with

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that you know what these actually might be like the lower parts here jealousy is a very powerful tool

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and it can really show us everything that we want

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and everywhere that we secretly don't feel good enough because insecurity is

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so uncomfortable to admit we don't really tend to think about where do i feel like i'm lacking

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when you really deconstruct your feelings of jealousy it can show

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you how to be inspired it's just it's such a relieving thing to feel excitement over envy

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when you start allowing yourself to do that you will grow

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so much as a person and you will continue to become closer

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and closer and closer to the things that you want

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and i think like it can be really intimidating like for example i'm a writer

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and being around other people who maybe have accolades that i don't

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or have a level of achievement or an educational background

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that i lack i feel like i want to compare myself immediately

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that voice in my head is putting me down and telling me

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that there's something that i don't have and

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that you know i want this thing and i'm not good enough it's

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so much easier to just be in your head about it

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and to feel jealous and unsatisfied and it's

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so intimidating to like look to those people for inspiration

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or to ask them questions or to surround yourself by people

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that you might usually be really jealous of or

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that you think are better than you or have something that you don't have, if you can start to feel excited about the things that you were once jealous of,

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it's going to make you your own version of that success that you see in other people.

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The more inspiration that you start to create within yourself, maybe if you have like a vision board or you have something

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that triggers the inspiration in you or you put that representation of

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that career or that thing or that accolade or whatever it is

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that you want

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and you continue to trigger the inspiration over the jealousy every time you feel jealousy the more

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that you reinforce it to inspiration the more naturally it will start to just become inspiration

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and if your life is full of inspiration you will continue to surround yourself with people who inspire you

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and you'll continue to put yourself in situations that inspire you

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because you're not scared of the jealousy you're not scared of feeling resentment

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and feeling smaller than people or like you don't have enough

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because you realized okay this is where i feel like i'm

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lacking how can i learn from the people around me

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and like say

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that you do put yourself in a situation where you are around people who are a higher status than you

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or they have an accolade you want like for example with

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me like how i said with the writers maybe i'm around a bunch of writers who are very prestigious right

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and if they try to give me an attitude for being curious

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and wanting to learn then that is their own comparative nature

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and their own ego and their own jealousy their own insecurities

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that they haven't healed if you see somebody who's genuinely happy for you

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and excited about your success and wants to learn more from you

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if you are content with yourself you should feel more than happy to share some wisdom with them

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if anybody tries to give you a hard time for feeling excited

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and tries to make you feel like you are less than them

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that is not it's not your problem you're not going to

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end up like them you're going to have success in the ways

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that you want and you're going to feel good and satisfied

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and happy and you're going to want to inspire others

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because you used your inspiration to get you so far

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so it's it's contagious the more

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that we continue to train our brains to feel excited instead of jealous

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and redirect it to inspiration then we're just inspired

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and being inspired is what drives our action and our motivation

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and eventually what we achieve we are very inclined to feel jealous

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but find where the jealousy is

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because it's powerful find out where you're jealous who are you jealous of

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and use them as inspiration and as like a guideline

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and a roadmap of how did they get this thing

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and how can i do it in my own way

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that is authentic and exciting to me the building blocks are what is your insecurity

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and what is your desire and turning that into inspiration

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that will fuel you and take you so far also guys i don't know

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if i'm loving what i'm making here

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so far um okay no no okay i'm getting i'm getting more of a vision now, a little bit.

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Okay.

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Yeah, no, no, no. We're getting somewhere.

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We're getting somewhere with this.

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Thank you.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This B2 speaking lesson is built on the video “turn jealousy into inspiration”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: jealousy, jealous, inspiration, somebody, success. This video has 491 sentences and 5619 words to shadow. The speech runs for 30:15. The speaker talks fast, about 186 words per minute, so expect linked and reduced sounds. 87% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English, so the vocabulary is easy to follow.

Key vocabulary in this video

The 15 most advanced words in the video, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
jealousy noun	/ˈd͡ʒɛl.ə.si/	A state of being jealous; a jealous attitude.
inspire verb	/ɪnˈspaɪə(ɹ)/	To infuse into the mind; to communicate to the spirit; to convey, as by a divine or supernatural influence; to disclose preternaturally; to produce in, as by…
insecurity noun		A lack of security; uncertainty.
emotion noun	/ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/	A person's internal state of being and involuntary physiological response to an object or a situation, based on or tied to physical state and sensory data.
envy noun	/ˈɛnvi/	Resentful desire of something possessed by another or others (but not limited to material possessions).
authentic adjective	/ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/	Of the same origin as claimed; genuine.
accolade noun	/ˈæk.əˌleɪd/	An expression of approval; praise.
guideline noun	/ˈɡaɪdˌlaɪn/	A non-specific rule or principle that provides direction to action or behaviour.
mashallah	/mɑˈʃælə/	Expressing the speaker's gratitude for a blessing or their recognition of divine intervention in its occurrence. God willed it.
resent verb	/ɹiˈzɛnt/	To feel resentment over; to consider as an affront.
poisonous adjective	/ˈpɔɪzənəs/	Containing sufficient poison to be dangerous to touch or ingest.
resentment noun	/ɹɪˈzɛnt.mənt/	Anger or displeasure stemming from belief that one or one's group has been wronged or betrayed by others; indignation.
crop noun	/kɹɑp/	A plant, grown for it, or its fruits or seeds, to be harvested as food, livestock fodder, or fuel or for any other economic purpose.
scarcity noun	/ˈskɛɹsɪti/	The condition of something being scarce or deficient.
abundance noun	/əˈbʌn.dn̩s/	A large quantity; many.

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Meaning
build up verb	To erect; to construct.
come across verb	To change sides; to cross over to work for the opposition.
come out in verb	to be afflicted by (a visible disruption of the body)
cover up verb	To conceal or disguise.
end up verb	To bring to a conclusion.
figure out verb	To come to understand; to discover or find a solution; to deduce.
find out verb	To discover, as by asking or investigating.
get past verb	To continue around a blockage; to get around (something); to surpass something that is in the way.

Sentences worth repeating

Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:

You're going to feel jealous.
We're taught to do that.
I'm so jealous of this person.
I think, what are these called?
What other thoughts do I have on jealousy?

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Conditional sentences if + clause, will/would + verb — a condition and its result	if you do those feelings will only · if i had that or i would my · if i had that but it wouldn't
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	have noticed · have definitely felt · haven't solved
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	is shifted · be perpetuated · be driven
Relative clauses who / which + clause — extra information about a person or thing	one who does · jealousy, which will · people who are

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 186 contractions and reduced forms, such as you're, don't, I'm. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “th” sounds: authentic /ɔˈθɛn.tɪk/, seethe /sið/, authenticity /ɑθɛnˈtɪsɪti/, unhealthy /ʌnˈhɛl.θi/, underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/
The “sh” and “zh” sounds: emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, mashallah /mɑˈʃælə/, satisfaction /sætɪsˈfækʃən/, accomplish /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ/, foundational /faʊnˈdeɪ.ʃə.nəl/
Long words — get the stress right: satisfaction /sætɪsˈfækʃən/, intimidate /ɪnˈtɪmɪdeɪt/, reinforcement /ˌɹiːɪnˈfɔːsmənt/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, egotistical /ˌi.ɡoʊˈtɪs.tɪk.(ə)l/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like jealousy, inspire, insecurity.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

Key vocabulary in this video

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Sentences worth repeating

Grammar in this video

Pronunciation to watch

How to practise with this video

What is the Shadowing Technique?