Shadowing Practice: Why you want everything and do nothing - Learn English Speaking with Video

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I want to do everything, so I do nothing.

It's a simple line that describes a feeling almost every single one of us has been through.

Desire, not the lack of it, but the crushing weight of too much.

When we were kids, the number one question that we were asked was, What do you want to be when you grow up?

I remember when I was younger, I wasn't sure how to answer this question.

On one hand, I wanted to be an astronaut, go to the moon.

Some days I wanted to be a detective, some days a writer, maybe an engineer or a movie director.

Now as I'm sitting here writing this, I've just graduated university and I'm faced with a similar question.

What is my purpose in life?

And if you're anything like me, you fear answering this, because choosing one path means letting every other version of your life die.

So maybe that's why so many of us struggle with purpose.

We think it's something that finds us, but that's a lie. And to understand why,

we must first go back to a fig tree in a

1963 novel by one of the most famous writers of all time.

Sylvia Plath.

And of course, I'm talking about her novel

The Bell Jar.

It's about a young college student named Esther Greenwood who wins a guest editor position at a magazine in New York City.

The novel partly mirrors Sylvia's own life, acting as sort of an autobiography.

There's a specific part in the book that perfectly represents what so many of us are feeling today.

In the book, the protagonist is sitting at a fig tree, starving.

Each fig on the tree represents a different life she could live.

One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another a brilliant professor,

or maybe the editor.

But she never chooses, so instead she watches as all of them begin to rot and fall.

I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree,

starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose.

We live in a time where possibilities are endless, in a world that tells us we can be anything.

Don't ever let somebody tell you, you can't do something.

That you should strive to be as ambitious as possible.

Cause I want to be great.

But what people don't talk about is how that same ambition often paralyzes you.

For me, I'm at a strange point in my life where I'm still trying to figure things out.

I've been told I should be looking for a stable job, maybe focus on my career.

But on the other hand, I've always wanted to work for myself.

I love making these videos, so maybe I should go all in on that.

But still, I'd love to travel the world, maybe move to a different city, and start fresh.

There are endless possibilities constantly on my mind, and I don't know what to choose.

And there's actually a psychological explanation for this psychologist

Barry Schwartz found that more options don't produce more freedom, they produce more anxiety.

Because every path you don't take registers in the brain as a loss, not a trade -off.

So the more figs you can see, the more you feel like you're already losing.

So how do you actually make that choice when choosing feels like losing everything.

But before you can choose a fig, you must understand exactly what the fig tree is actually about.

Because most people read this story and assume it's just about indecision.

But the fig tree is about grief.

Mourning the lives that we'll never get to live.

And that feeling never goes away.

That's the scary part.

We think that once we choose one fig, the others begin to fall, but they'll always be there.

You'll always think about them, about the different lives you could have lived, and you'll live with that grief forever.

But not choosing at all.

That's a cost worse than grief.

Because what happened to Esther wasn't that she made the wrong choice.

She lost all the figs because she made no choice at all.

Choosing nothing It's still a choice, and it's the only one that guarantees every other fig rots.

And these figs have an expiration date.

So does the window of time where certain versions of your life are still possible.

So every time you scroll, every time you delay, every time you overthink, the figs begin to shrivel.

In an attempt to balance all your options, you'll lose all of them.

The only way through is to choose.

And sometimes that can feel like the hardest decision you'll ever make.

One of the hardest lessons to swallow is this.

You can't be everything.

But that doesn't mean you won't be as fulfilled, or that your life will be less rich.

So stop worrying about picking the right fig, because there isn't one.

There's just the one you pick, and the one you stick with.

You can build meaning into whatever life you choose.

You aren't going to make perfect choices,

but you can be present in the life you did choose. And that's what matters.

Unlike it may seem, picking one fig doesn't mean the others rot.

Sometimes they find you again.

Choosing one path doesn't automatically cut you off from the others.

The only thing that does is if you don't choose at all.

Doctors can become writers.

A traveler can start a family.

A painter can become a scientist.

Lives are rarely as sealed off as the tree makes it seem, but that's only possible if you make the first step.

And if you're struggling with that, choose what feels most alive to you right now.

And understand, it won't be perfect, but it will work out.

I often hear a lot of you asking me, how do I find purpose?

And honestly, I never really knew what the answer to that was.

But I eventually realized it was because that question was flawed in the first place.

Purpose isn't something you find.

It's something you live.

When I was in university, I thought about purpose a lot.

What type of impact do I want to have on this world.

I never knew.

And then I went on an exchange semester in France and my perspective genuinely changed.

I stopped obsessing over purpose and just started actively living my life presently.

And that's what led me to these videos, to this brand, to everything that's to come.

My life was never bound to a single fig.

There are infinite figs growing, waiting, but you have to make the first step.

You have to grab the first one before it becomes too late.

I think about Plath often.

If I could tell her one thing as she was sitting there under that fig tree, it would be this.

The world is full of people suffering from the effects of their own unlived life.

They become bitter or envious because they have betrayed their own inner possibilities the worst type of life is the unlived one.

So if you've been waiting for a sign, this is it.

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Don't choose the perfect fig.

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Choose one.

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Embrace it.

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And let it open you up to an infinite amount of possibilities.

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To a life truly lived.

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Vocabulary and speaking notes for this lesson

This speaking lesson is built on the video “Why you want everything and do nothing”. The speaker keeps coming back to these words: fig, choose, tree, purpose, choosing. This video has 104 sentences and 1247 words to shadow. The speech runs for 8:08. The speaker talks at a natural 153 words per minute, close to everyday conversation. 84% of the words are among the 3,000 most common in English; the rest is worth studying before you start.

Key vocabulary in this video

15 words from the video worth learning, with pronunciation and meaning:

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
fig noun	/fɪɡ/	The fruit of the fig tree, pear-shaped and containing many small seeds.
grief noun	/ɡɹiːf/	Suffering, hardship.
endless adjective	/ˈɛndlɪs/	Having no end.
infinite adjective	/ˈɪnfɪnɪt/	Indefinably large, countlessly great; immense.
starve verb	/stɑɹv/	To die because of lack of food or of not eating.
stable noun	/ˈsteɪ.bəl/	A building, wing or dependency set apart and adapted for lodging and feeding (and training) ungulates, especially horses.
lesson noun	/ˈlɛs.ən/	A section of learning or teaching into which a wider learning content is divided.
mirror noun	/ˈmiɹɚ/	A smooth surface, usually made of glass with reflective material painted on the underside, that reflects light so as to give an image of what is in front of it.
anxiety noun	/æŋˈzaɪ.əti/	An unpleasant state of mental uneasiness, nervousness, apprehension and obsession or concern about some uncertain event.
suffer verb	/ˈsʌfɚ/	To undergo hardship.
explanation noun	/ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/	The act or process of explaining.
guarantee noun	/ˌɡæɹ.ənˈtiː/	Anything that assures a certain outcome.
rarely adverb	/ˈɹɛəɹli/	Not occurring at a regular interval; seldom; not often.
delay noun	/dɪˈleɪ̯/	A period of time before an event occurs; the act of delaying; procrastination; lingering inactivity.
scary adjective	/ˈskɛə.ɹi/	Causing fear or anxiety

Phrasal verbs you will hear

Word	Pronunciation	Meaning
go away verb		To depart or leave a place.
go back to verb		To stem from; to originate in.
grow up verb		To mature and become an adult.
make up verb	/ˌmeɪk ˈʌp/	To constitute, to compose.
work out verb	/ˌwɝk ˈaʊt/	To calculate.

Sentences worth repeating

Short, complete lines from the video that you can reuse in everyday conversation:

What is my purpose in life?
Mourning the lives that we'll never get to live.
Purpose isn't something you find.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	has been · I've just graduated · I've been told
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	were asked · I've been told · was flawed

Pronunciation to watch

The speaker uses 39 contractions and reduced forms, such as don't, I'm, you'll. Say them the short way, as you hear them.

The “sh” and “zh” sounds: explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, crush /kɹʌʃ/, ambitious /æmˈbɪʃ.əs/, ambition /æmˈbɪʃ.ən/, expiration /ˌɛk.spɚˈeɪ̯.ʃən/
Long words — get the stress right: anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, explanation /ˌɛkspləˈneɪʃən/, psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/

How to practise with this video

Listen to the whole video once without speaking and note the words you do not know.
Start at 0.75× speed, shadow it sentence by sentence, then go back to normal speed once it feels easy.
Record yourself and compare with the original, paying attention to words like fig, grief, endless.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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