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In elementary school and high school where I was basically a complete loner.

I didn't have a lot of friends.

I wasn't popular.

But throughout this time, I was really trying to adapt and become more likable and I became really good at small talk.

But the downside to being good at small talk is that the conversation doesn't go any deeper.

And in fact, people only see you as a stranger, even though you may be talking to them for years on end.

But it seems like no one's ever more interested or more invested in what you have to say or who you are.

Because I was so focused on staying likable.

I was so focused on staying surface level.

people and to get people to open up

and to get people to fully trust you

and see you that's why in this video i'm going to be sharing with you how to have deeper connections

and be a better conversationalist through deeper conversation no matter how

different the person you're talking to these tips are going to

help you literally connect with anyone here are all the video chapters

and you can find the video chapters in the description below and if you are someone who is ready to do

I provide worksheets for every single one of my videos.

In these worksheets, you'll find in -depth journaling prompts as well as practical exercises to help you start removing your limiting beliefs

and to write down an action plan so you can start living out as your highest self today.

You can access these worksheets down in the description below.

Now let's dive right into the video.

The first thing is to show your initial appreciation.

So when you're meeting someone for the first time or if you vaguely know them or if you're very close with them.

Show your appreciation that you're excited to see them, that you're genuinely happy and lit up.

And how you can see this is the change in your facial expression.

So if you are saying, I'm so happy to see you.

No, you don't actually mean that.

But if you were to smile, not only with your mouth,

but with your eyes and showing that your face is lighting up the moment presence is making her happy.

My presence is important to her.

We all want to feel important around other people.

When you're meeting the person for the first time, I also highly recommend that you say something like, wow, I've heard such amazing things about you, or it's so nice to finally see you.

It's so nice to finally get to meet you.

I've been looking forward to this all week.

And find some way to show your appreciation for this person's time when we're complimenting

we tend to get very carried away around, "Oh, we can only compliment someone based on their looks or based on what they're wearing." Again,

this is back to the surface level aspect of getting to know people.

But appreciation is about appreciating people's presence.

their mind, their values, their intellect.

And when you compliment someone beyond what the eyes see, but where the heart feels, where the mind is stimulated,

these are real indications of someone's value that is beyond the surface level.

So find some ways to show that appreciation for that person and especially complimenting someone's mind.

I mean, who doesn't love that?

The second level conversation as an opportunity to go a level deeper.

Navigate the conversation to the question, what does that make you feel?

There's an emotional resonance that is in the deep part of themselves.

So you don't want to ask the question verbatim, like how does that make you feel?

But some examples could be what experience made you choose this decision?

Or what did you learn from this experience?

You want to see people like an onion and how you unravel an onion is that you go layer by layer.

You peel the onion and slowly it reveals its core to you.

But if you want to go straight to the core and you cut it with a knife, that's incredibly invasive and I don't think that onion is going to be very happy.

When you are meeting someone for the first time, obviously you don't want a trauma dump and ask them very revealing questions off the bat.

It's supposed to come very naturally.

You're not supposed to go from level one to level 16 right from one question.

But it's because people take time to gain the sense of safety around you.

If you're in a conversation with somebody and you're asking, oh, what do you do?

And he says, oh, I'm a lawyer.

And then this can be an opportunity for you to go a level deeper.

So what you can ask is, was there a specific experience that you went through

that made you choose to become a lawyer? and simply from asking

that question helps you unlock a deeper layer of that person.

It forces that person to really sit in presence

and think about their answer and it really is about approaching the depth within themselves.

The reason why people are afraid of asking deeper questions

or getting into deeper conversations is not because they're afraid of making the other person

they themselves are not comfortable with that depth.

The deeper you can get with yourself, you are able to connect with people on that same depth and frequency.

You notice how I gained your trust immediately by opening up about my past in the beginning of this video.

And it's because being vulnerable is what instills trust and it's also what instills trust safety.

And that's not to say that people don't get uncomfortable, right?

Sometimes I get into conversations and sometimes I do get a little deep

and people get a little afraid and they're like, oh.

Even though it makes people uncomfortable, at least you were brave enough to put yourself out there and put yourself in this place of vulnerability.

But sometimes that initiation comes and starts with you, which I know is a little scary because like I said,

if people don't can you imagine

if you never tried going there ever you stay with surface

level topics like how's your day how's the weather you'll find

that the relationships

that you build through these surface level conversations people are going to treat you like a stranger even

if you've known them for several years and it's just

because you lacked the bravery to seek out deeper layers in your went so deep within myself.

That was the year where I became more spiritual.

That was the year where I became more reflective.

I journaled a lot more.

I read more self -development books, spiritual texts.

I became so much more interested in my own internal reality.

And I started to have more of these conversations with my everyday friends.

I've also experienced a development in my existing friendships where the more that I opened up about this stuff,

one, it also encouraged reality and start to seek more answers through spirituality, self -development.

But two, I realized that some of my friendships were already invested in this line of study

and it made those relationships so much stronger for me

and I became so much closer with them because I was also able to resonate and connect with their depth too.

And vulnerability starts with you.

It really does

word of vulnerability is far greater than staying at the surface

level realm of talking about the weather the next tip is to repeat back the words

that really stood out to you so have you ever read a piece of text

or a textbook and you see this long paragraph

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but there may be a statement or a word that is bolded

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so in conversation if you want to have more meaningful conversations and you want

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have to do is repeat back the same words.

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Because repeating those words actually add rhythm to the conversation.

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So for example, if someone was opening up about their childhood and said, you know, I was very isolated and alone growing up.

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And then what you can say is isolated and alone.

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And then they're going to say, yeah, yeah, I felt that no one really understood me.

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And I felt like I was just constantly fending for myself and trying to survive.

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And just by simply repeating the words that stood out to you, right, enables them to kind of keep going with their train of thought.

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This is also a tip that a lot of therapists use as well.

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Just by simply repeating the same way

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that their clients talk about their problems actually helps the client connect more with their therapist.

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It also makes people feel seen if you are repeating something that the person has said verbatim, maybe just a couple words,

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maybe a few sentences, but it helps people feel completely understood

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and seen and how often do we get that feeling from a stranger

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or how often do we get that feeling from anyone in general

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and it's because the truth is we don't come across

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that many people that make us feel seen

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and understood that's why this tool which is so simple is

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so effective so I highly recommend that you try this as soon as you can

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because you'll be very surprised to see where this will take you The next thing is to advocate for people's past.

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If your friend is going through a breakup, the last thing she wants to hear is, I never liked him anyways, he was such a loser.

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Because you're also saying that she has judgment issues

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and she's not able to make good decisions and you're essentially just calling her stupid.

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So it invalidates her past decisions.

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Maybe you are right.

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Maybe he wasn't the greatest guy.

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Maybe he did terrible things.

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truly be a good conversationalist as well as someone who really is a safe person to be around is

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that you can advocate for why she did the best

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that she could given the circumstances or the knowledge or the wisdom

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that she had and you can say things like I totally understand why you stayed in

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that relationship longer than you should have and it's not your fault because you had such a

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just wanted some sort of safety.

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Your inner child was just looking for a place to call home

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but I'm so glad that you realize that you're worth more than how you were being treated in that relationship.

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Empathize with them around why they did that and how you can help them see past the anger,

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the shame, and start showing them how they can empathize with their inner child

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and how to show more support and that starts with you showing that empathy for that person.

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I being emotional and that there is strength in being empathetic

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because people who are empathetic are usually those that tend to be great conversationalists.

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and they tend to be people that connect with people quite easily, and they're able to be that person that everyone wants to be around.

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I know that some people tend to be like, "I'm way too empathetic, I shouldn't be like this,

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I'm too nice," but being emotional and being empathetic is actually an incredible superpower.

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The very last tip is to simply pause.

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Sometimes you may not necessarily always need to talk.

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And when you're in a meaningful conversation, the pace is slow.

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On social media, if you are someone who naturally likes to swipe on TikTok and Instagram, you often see that a lot of videos are very quick, you know, quick cuts.

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Any pause, any sort of breath just gets taken out.

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And the more that you watch these videos,

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the more you have this inclination of assuming is fast, right?

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You want to get your message across quick.

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You want to be able to captivate people.

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But having meaningful, deep conversations is the complete opposite because it's all about presence and slowness even,

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but it's really about being there with the person.

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And if that person is sharing a story, as we've talked about before, but also really gathering their emotions, you're

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better immediately but just pause give them space to experience what it is

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that they need to experience and stop trying to fix the sadness Stop trying to convince them, "Oh no no no no, don't cry, don't cry, don't cry." Just be there.

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Just...

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Stay there because you being present with them is already a hug.

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You being there for them is already enough.

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Silence is natural in a conversation, especially when you wanna build a deeper relationship with a person.

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Silence is actually necessary.

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It gives people an opportunity to breathe.

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It gives people an opportunity to think about what you just said.

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And it also gives people the opportunity to ask questions back to you.

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People are not going to necessarily remember

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in a conversation but people will always remember how you made them feel pausing is

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so important don't be afraid of it because there's no need to be afraid of silence

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It is a very beautiful way for people to just dissect

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and really allow your ideas and thoughts to seep into their body.

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And that is what makes you memorable.

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Now, we've reached the end of this video.

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This video is a little calmer than usual because it is currently 11 p .m right now,

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but I'm still rallying because I just felt really connected to share this topic.

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I find that a lot of people nowadays are becoming more and more distant.

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and social anxiety is such a common thing now.

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But if you implement these tools and just be brave enough to put yourself out there to have these vulnerable conversations, you'll be able to experience less loneliness

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and just feel more empowered to make brand new friendships that match your level of depth.

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And if you don't think you have depth, think again.

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The fact that you even clicked into this video

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because you wanted to have more meaningful conversations shows that you already have that depth within you.

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So don't be intimidated by it, but instead lean into it because there are so many people

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that are so ready and so excited to have deeper conversations with you.

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If you want to implement everything I've taught in this video, then check out my worksheets down below.

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And if you are on the journey of becoming the woman of your dreams and building a life that you love, check out my channel because I make a ton of videos about self -worth,

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relationships, love, money, career, literally all things high value women energy.

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check out this video over here.

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This video is all about how to become more articulate.

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Whether you're in a job interview, on a date, at a networking event, being articulate will take you so far in life.

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I love and appreciate you so much.

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Thank you so much for tuning in all the way to the end.

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It's good night for me, but I hope to see you in the next video.

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Bye!

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Этот урок разговорной практики уровня B2 построен на видео «5 conversation habits that make strangers trust you fast». В этом видео 193 предложений и 2560 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 15:38. Говорящий говорит в естественном темпе, около 164 слов в минуту, близком к повседневной речи. 87% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка, поэтому лексика простая.

Ключевая лексика этого видео

Самые сложные слова из видео (15), с произношением и значением:

Слово	Произношение	Значение
appreciation существительное	/əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/	благода́рность, призна́тельность
worksheet существительное		рабочий лист
onion существительное	/ˈʌn.jən/	лук
compliment существительное	/ˈkɑmpləmənt/	комплиме́нт, похвала́
pause существительное	/pɔːz/	па́уза, остано́вка
meaningful прилагательное	/ˈmiː.nɪŋ.fl̩/	зна́чимый
vulnerability существительное	/ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/	уязви́мость, рани́мость
empathize глагол	/ˈɛmpəˌθaɪz/	сопережива́ть, сочу́вствовать
instill глагол	/ɪnˈstɪl/	внуша́ть, внуши́ть
likable прилагательное	/ˈlaɪkəbl̩/	ми́лый, прия́тный
verbatim наречие	/vəɹˈbeɪ.tɪm/	досло́вно, сло́во в сло́во
isolate глагол	/ˈaɪ.sə.leɪt/	изоли́ровать, обособля́ть
therapist существительное	/ˈθɛɹəpɪst/	терапе́вт, врач
uncomfortable прилагательное	/ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/	неудо́бный, некомфорта́бельный
implement глагол	/ˈɪmpləmənt/	выполня́ть, осуществля́ть

Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите

Слово	Значение
check out глагол	проверя́ть, прове́рить
grow up глагол	расти́, выраста́ть
light up глагол	свети́ть, освети́ть
look forward to глагол	ждать с нетерпе́нием, не мочь дожда́ться
take out глагол	вынима́ть, вы́нуть
write down глагол	запи́сывать, записа́ть

Фразы, которые стоит повторять

Короткие законченные фразы из видео, которые пригодятся в повседневном разговоре:

I didn't have a lot of friends.
No, you don't actually mean that.
It's so nice to finally get to meet you.
I've been looking forward to this all week.
I mean, who doesn't love that?

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Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:

Конструкция	В видео
Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас	I've heard · you've known · I've also experienced
Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает	is stimulated · were already invested · is bolded
Придаточные определительные who / which + предложение — уточнение о человеке или предмете	someone who is · tool which is · someone who really

Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание

Говорящий использует 59 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например you're, don't, I'm. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.

Звуки «th»: empathetic /ˌɛmpəˈθɛtɪk/, empathize /ˈɛmpəˌθaɪz/, therapist /ˈθɛɹəpɪst/, empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, rhythm /ˈɹɪð.əm/
Звуки «sh» и «zh»: appreciation /əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/, conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, inclination /ˌɪn.klɪˈneɪ.ʃən/, initiation /ɪˌnɪʃ.iˈeɪ.ʃən/, indication /ɪndɪˈkeɪʃən/
Длинные слова — следите за ударением: appreciation /əˌpɹiː.ʃiˈeɪ.ʃən/, empathetic /ˌɛmpəˈθɛtɪk/, conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, articulate /ɑːɹˈtɪk.jə.leɪt/

Звуки, трудные для русскоязычных:

/w/ — губы округлены, это не /v/: swipe /swaɪp/, anyways /ˈɛn.iˌweɪz/
Звонкие согласные в конце слова — не оглушайте их: pause /pɔːz/, empathize /ˈɛmpəˌθaɪz/, downside /ˈdaʊnˌsaɪd/, reflective /ɹɪˈflɛktɪv/, invasive /ɪnˈveɪsɪv/

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Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как appreciation, worksheet, onion.

Что такое техника Shadowing?

Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.

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