Практика Shadowing: you never lose, because it was never yours - Изучайте разговорный английский по видео
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For a very long time, I could not cope with the word loss.
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I hated to lose something.
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I hated to be a loser, whether that be literally something as small as I lost my favorite lip product or I lost a good friend.
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So as I've gotten older, I've had to come to the realization that loss or being a loser is sometimes a part of life.
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But then one day, I was like, wait a minute, I can't even control my breath I can't control my body
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in regards of its health something could go wrong tomorrow
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and all I can do is try my best to prevent
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that from happening but ultimately I cannot control it so
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if I don't own my own breath can I ever lose something
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that was never mine to begin with because
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if you think about it in order to lose something means it was in your possession
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that you had full control over said object noun whatever it may be person place your thing
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and that's not the case because if it was truly mine
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and i was the owner i could never lose it meaning i never lose
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because it was never mine and i love that because
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that makes me never a loser but i will go ahead
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and explain why the philosophy psychology and even my own religion islam
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and a lot of theological religions point to this exact fact where you are not a loser
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or more eloquently you can't lose because it was never yours
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if you're new to my channel my name is sahar
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or sahar and i am a professional yapper self -proclaimed philosopher
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and i really just i am the thought daughter nothing is
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ever not not deep everything is deep even the mere concept
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of losing things anyway i digress let's get into this video starting off with the philosophy
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and like most things every time i have a thought
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and i look to philosophy i discover that it's been experienced
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and evaluated way before my time and within
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that i realize i will never be the creator of something new
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but i will always have evidence to my creation it's all
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about reframe anyway epictetus in his book in credian has a line
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that was very radical at the time
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that he dropped it essentially he says never say of anything i have lost it
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but i have restored it has your child died it is
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restored has your wife died she is restored has your estate been taken away is not this also restored and
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if you notice this phrasing he doesn't say don't care he
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says restore to epictetus the universe is a landlord like everything
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you enjoy your partner your wealth your job even your health
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is a temporary property handed to you basically as a loan
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even buddhism actually has this exact same concept um called upadana
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which is clinging or grasping um suffering doesn't happen
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because things change suffering happens because things are constantly moving
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and we are standing there screaming at the river to freeze
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into solid ground impermanence isn't the interruption of life it is life
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so if this idea is a thousand years old why does it hurt
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so badly still i think humans evolve
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but we never evolve in this aspect of things you know i mean
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if something was discovered thousands of years ago we are able to build upon
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that within science but for some reason within philosophy
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it's never built upon within our own self -understanding
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because we still go through the same struggles
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and it's about going back to
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that to understand them there's this thing called person illusion
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and essentially within person illusion you fall in love
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or you build a deep friendship so you think you have them
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but people are not real estate they are not autonomous agents within your life
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and there are trajectories that happen to intersect with yours
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and for their life
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and that's the reason why you guys are even in each other's worlds loving someone deeply
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while recognizing you have no place in their future life is actually the purest form of affection
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because regardless of if they exist within your world or
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if they choose you back you still love them
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and isn't the purest version of love what we all aim to be able to extend to another person
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so why is it that whenever it's not that easily attainable
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and love isn't easy we start to think that
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that means we lost the person there's also this thing called opportunity illusion
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so think about you spending six months pitching a project you
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build the decks you rehearse the lines even imagine this great launch
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and within this entire process you didn't just want the outcome
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you colonize the entire concept of what it's going to feel
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like what it's going to be like the person you are going to be in
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that moment and the thing is whenever that opportunity or outcome goes to someone else, you actually just feel robbed now.
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But you weren't robbed of a future, you're robbed of an assumption.
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Meaning you did not lose a future opportunity, you lost an assumption that you made in your mind of what it would be like, what it's going to happen, how you're going to feel,
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assuming the outcome is going to be in your favor.
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Now I'm going to stop being preachy and tap into a little bit of reality, what the pessimist wants to hear,
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or even self -proclaimed realist one really ear -leading pessimist um sometimes this can become a toxic habit
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so within philosophy there's this thing called spiritual bypassing
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and you can consider this the dark side of philosophy um it's a term coined by psychologist john wellwood
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and it's when you use philosophical ideas to duck under the hard work of actual human emotion
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so if you yell it was never mind the second something doesn't work your way
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or breaks your heart you aren't being epictetus in that moment you are actually being just terrified.
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It's essentially a self -protection mechanism where if nothing is yours then nothing can hurt you so you aren't trying anymore.
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You don't pitch the ambitious project, you don't open up to your partner, you essentially keep one foot in and one foot out of everything
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that could potentially have the power to hurt you just
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so in the end you can sit back
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and say you see it was never mine and that's not the right way to go about it okay.
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That's ultimately not wisdom, that's emotional cowardice.
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You see grief is the tax we pay for being brave enough to attach to things in a temporal universe.
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If you don't feel the sting of the loss you never really honor the value of what you had.
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Now for the psychology aspect of things there's a concept called psychological ownership theory.
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Research has found that your brain doesn't differentiate very well between your physical arm and your intangible assets meaning your job title, your relationship status, subscriber count,
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five -year plan, etc. So when you control something or you know it intimately or invest any effort into it,
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your brain fuses it into your natural self -map and it becomes mine.
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Meaning that when a person leaves or a contract falls through, your brain doesn't register it as an event.
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It's literally seen as literal dismemberment, losing a body part.
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So you aren't just missing an opportunity, you are now missing a part of your identity, a part of what makes you you
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and again the phrase it was never mine isn't supposed to
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make you care less it's designed to fix your accounting it's a tool to remind your brain
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that you are mistaking a lease for a deed of ownership so
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if the person wasn't yours the job wasn't yours the home
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wasn't yours what is even ours well what do i own in this world that's the real question
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because i'm tired of losing i don't want to lose what do i own
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and the answer to
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that is what's left is what's built inside of you the capacity to love
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that you expanded while you were with them that is yours the discipline
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and skill you developed while grinding for that failed venture
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that is yours the integrity in which you handle that collapse
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that is yours you can never lose that
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so you don't lose you release what was borrowed
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and you retain what was forged the external world can repossess the house it cannot repossess the character
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that you built throughout the journey Even within Islam, I think the reason why this concept even really started going in my mind is
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because we are very aware we don't even control our next breath.
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I'm not in control of anything that I do in my life.
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It's quite literally qadr.
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It's up to Allah's will.
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So then what can I control?
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And I think
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that is the ultimate question people ask whenever they try to
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figure out what the point of us being on earth is
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because if everything's written
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and we are already destined for certain things why am I
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here what is the point of me going through things
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if I have very little control
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and that's kind of what got me spiraling into like figuring out okay
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so what what is the purpose what is the point what am I supposed to do here and that's
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when I realized oh there are things in my control there
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are things of how I can perceive loss there's ways
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that I can show up whenever I'm sad
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when I don't get the way I want there's ways I
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can build discipline in order to make do ah to get the ways
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that I want there's actually a lot in our control but
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when we focus too much on the things
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that are out of our control is where we feel lost
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but remember you can never lose because it was never yours
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but you can always win
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if you focus on what is i need to find a way to make
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that line cute on the other end
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if you'd like to read more about this i wrote about my sub stack
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but this is really just a short video to explain my life motto obviously borrowed from epictetus
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but i didn't know it when i created it
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so maybe he maybe he knew I was gonna exist and wanted to borrow from me all right bye
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Лексика и советы по произношению к этому уроку
В этом видео 141 предложений и 1782 слов для шедоуинга. Речь длится 9:08. Говорящий говорит быстро, около 195 слов в минуту, поэтому звуки часто сливаются и сокращаются. 84% слов входят в 3000 самых частых слов английского языка; остальные стоит разобрать перед занятием.
Ключевая лексика этого видео
15 слов из видео, которые стоит выучить, с произношением и значением:
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| restore глагол | /ɹɪˈstoɹ/ | восстана́вливать, восстанови́ть |
| essentially наречие | /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/ | по существу́, суще́ственно |
| loser существительное | /luzɚ/ | проигра́вший, потеря́вший |
| outcome существительное | /ˈaʊtkʌm/ | исход |
| rob глагол | /ɹɑb/ | гра́бить, огра́бить |
| breathe глагол | /bɹiːð/ | дыша́ть |
| borrow глагол | /ˈbɑɹ.oʊ/ | занима́ть, заня́ть |
| illusion существительное | /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/ | иллю́зия |
| suffer глагол | /ˈsʌfɚ/ | страда́ть, му́чаться |
| pitch существительное | /pɪt͡ʃ/ | бросо́к |
| aspect существительное | /ˈæspɛkt/ | аспе́кт, вид |
| ownership существительное | /ˈoʊnɚʃɪp/ | владе́ние, со́бственность |
| psychology существительное | /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ | психоло́гия, пси́хика |
| phrase существительное | /ˈfɹeɪ̯z/ | фра́за, выраже́ние |
| discipline существительное | /ˈdɪsəplɪn/ | дисципли́на, дисциплини́рованность |
Фразовые глаголы, которые вы услышите
| Слово | Произношение | Значение |
|---|---|---|
| figure out глагол | разбира́ться, разобра́ться | |
| go ahead глагол | /ˌɡoʊ əˈhɛd/ | дава́й, приступа́йте |
| show up глагол | объявля́ться, объяви́ться | |
| sit back глагол | откинуться |
Грамматика в этом видео
Конструкции, которые говорящий использует чаще всего, с точными словами из видео:
| Конструкция | В видео |
|---|---|
| Пассивный залог be + причастие прошедшего времени — важно, что происходит, а не кто это делает | been experienced · is restored · was discovered |
| Present Perfect have/has + причастие прошедшего времени — прошлое действие, важное сейчас | I've gotten · have lost · have restored |
Произношение, на которое стоит обратить внимание
Говорящий использует 41 сокращённых и редуцированных форм, например don't, doesn't, I'm. Произносите их коротко, так, как слышите.
- Звуки «th»: breathe /bɹiːð/, theological /θi.əˈlɑd͡ʒɪkl/
- Звуки «sh» и «zh»: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, illusion /ɪˈl(j)uːʒ(ə)n/, ownership /ˈoʊnɚʃɪp/, assumption /əˈsʌm(p).ʃ(ə)n/, friendship /ˈfɹɛn(d)ʃɪp/
- Длинные слова — следите за ударением: essentially /ɪˈsɛnʃəli/, psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/, temporary /ˈtɛmp(əˌɹ)ɛɹi/, potentially /pəˈtɛnʃ(ə)li/, mechanism /ˈmɛk.ə.nɪ.zəm/
Как заниматься с этим видео
- Прослушайте всё видео один раз молча и выпишите незнакомые слова.
- Начните со скорости 0,75×, повторяйте предложение за предложением и вернитесь к обычной скорости, когда станет легко.
- Запишите себя и сравните с оригиналом, обращая внимание на такие слова, как restore, essentially, loser.
Что такое техника Shadowing?
Shadowing — это научно обоснованная техника изучения языка, изначально разработанная для подготовки профессиональных переводчиков и популяризированная полиглотом доктором Александром Аргуэльесом. Метод прост, но эффективен: вы слушаете аудио на английском от носителей языка и немедленно повторяете вслух — как тень, следующая за говорящим с задержкой в 1–2 секунды. В отличие от пассивного прослушивания или грамматических упражнений, Shadowing заставляет мозг и мышцы рта одновременно обрабатывать и воспроизводить реальные речевые паттерны. Исследования показывают, что это значительно улучшает точность произношения, интонацию, ритм, связную речь, понимание на слух и беглость речи — что делает его одним из самых эффективных методов для подготовки к IELTS Speaking и реального общения на английском.